Yesterday was my eight month anniversary. I spent it alone. I can't imagine how the ones that have waited so much longer than me must feel being seperated from their husbands for what has to feel like forever. The only hope that any of us can hold onto is that maybe someday soon we will be reunited, but sometimes even that feels like false hope. The best that any of us can do is be patient and wait, but for how long? Sometimes, when we can get the cams to work, I just sit and look at him, not chatting, until my heart is full at the sight of him. He asks me why I am not typing and I say that I just want to look at him for a minute, he says he knows that I miss him. He laughs at me, but he knows how I feel, because sometimes, I catch him doing it too.
Anyway, sorry for being so sad today.
Hope everyone has a good Thursday,
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The husband and I promised each other 80 years together (at which time he'll be 104 and I'll be 100 inshaAllah, who knows how we came to that number ha), so when we were waiting, we looked at it in terms of the big picture - what's 3 or 4 years now when we have another 76 or 77 yeras to spend together inshaAllah? inshaAllah you'll have a lot of anniversaries together 
In other news, I'm hyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyped up on caffine, practically bouncing out of my office chair. I need to go for a 5 mile run or something to get all the energy out.
In other news, I'm hyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyped up on caffine, practically bouncing out of my office chair. I need to go for a 5 mile run or something to get all the energy out.
Awww Tammy I know those days when it's hard. Do something good for yourself and take it easy.
I'm really getting sick and tired of this pneumonia crap. Seriously. It's cramping my lifestyle. I can only work half days and then I go home and sleep. Enough is enough!!!
Luckily my boss is super cool about the whole thing. She is the one who suggested I take it easy 'cause apparently I look like holy heck. 
If I could track down that guy from the airplane that gave this to me I'd give him a piece of my mind!!!! 
I'm really getting sick and tired of this pneumonia crap. Seriously. It's cramping my lifestyle. I can only work half days and then I go home and sleep. Enough is enough!!!
Luckily my boss is super cool about the whole thing. She is the one who suggested I take it easy 'cause apparently I look like holy heck. If I could track down that guy from the airplane that gave this to me I'd give him a piece of my mind!!!!
Happy Thursday and omg I can't wait til tommorrow! (payday w/commission 
) Today is just a lazy day, work from 3-9pm.
I did the oddest thing yesterday. I applied for a FOID card, should come within 30 days. On the application it said 'Are you mentally retarded?'.....uh no. A better question would have been 'Are you emotionally unstable?'
Jackie
hey rahma, I jokingly asked for 5 years,,,and I'l be damned I got just that....12 days past 5 years.
) Today is just a lazy day, work from 3-9pm.I did the oddest thing yesterday. I applied for a FOID card, should come within 30 days. On the application it said 'Are you mentally retarded?'.....uh no. A better question would have been 'Are you emotionally unstable?'
Jackie
hey rahma, I jokingly asked for 5 years,,,and I'l be damned I got just that....12 days past 5 years.
OH, Doodle, I hope you are feeling better soon. I had my first ever bout of pneumonia in May. I couldn't believe how bad I felt, couldn't even get out of the bed for anything but to use the restroom and good thing it was close, or I may not have made it. To bad you can't find the person who gave this illness to you, and give it back to him.
QUOTE(tammy sue kay @ Aug 9 2007, 09:23 AM) 
Yesterday was my eight month anniversary. I spent it alone. I can't imagine how the ones that have waited so much longer than me must feel being seperated from their husbands for what has to feel like forever. The only hope that any of us can hold onto is that maybe someday soon we will be reunited, but sometimes even that feels like false hope. The best that any of us can do is be patient and wait, but for how long? Sometimes, when we can get the cams to work, I just sit and look at him, not chatting, until my heart is full at the sight of him. He asks me why I am not typing and I say that I just want to look at him for a minute, he says he knows that I miss him. He laughs at me, but he knows how I feel, because sometimes, I catch him doing it too.
Anyway, sorry for being so sad today.
Hope everyone has a good Thursday,
Anyway, sorry for being so sad today.
Hope everyone has a good Thursday,
I know what you mean, Tammy. I can't even drive by the house that Hicham and I used to live in. It's just too painful to see.
Sometimes it's hard to believe he's been stuck over there for 3 1/2 years. But I have to say we've both been getting real silly lately thinking we are soon going to be together.
QUOTE(tammy sue kay @ Aug 9 2007, 08:23 AM)
Yesterday was my eight month anniversary. I spent it alone. I can't imagine how the ones that have waited so much longer than me must feel being seperated from their husbands for what has to feel like forever. The only hope that any of us can hold onto is that maybe someday soon we will be reunited, but sometimes even that feels like false hope. The best that any of us can do is be patient and wait, but for how long? Sometimes, when we can get the cams to work, I just sit and look at him, not chatting, until my heart is full at the sight of him. He asks me why I am not typing and I say that I just want to look at him for a minute, he says he knows that I miss him. He laughs at me, but he knows how I feel, because sometimes, I catch him doing it too.
Anyway, sorry for being so sad today.
Hope everyone has a good Thursday,
Anyway, sorry for being so sad today.
Hope everyone has a good Thursday,
Tammy - I think when you are in the stage of the process that you are, these small moments such as an 8th month anniversary, can carry an extra amount of sentimentalness and meaning....things are just a little more raw, if that make sense. Hang in there...you and your husband will be over this hump soon God willing!
QUOTE(doodlebug @ Aug 9 2007, 09:32 AM)
Awww Tammy I know those days when it's hard. Do something good for yourself and take it easy.
I'm really getting sick and tired of this pneumonia crap. Seriously. It's cramping my lifestyle. I can only work half days and then I go home and sleep. Enough is enough!!! Luckily my boss is super cool about the whole thing. She is the one who suggested I take it easy 'cause apparently I look like holy heck. If I could track down that guy from the airplane that gave this to me I'd give him a piece of my mind!!!!
I'm really getting sick and tired of this pneumonia crap. Seriously. It's cramping my lifestyle. I can only work half days and then I go home and sleep. Enough is enough!!!
Luckily my boss is super cool about the whole thing. She is the one who suggested I take it easy 'cause apparently I look like holy heck. If I could track down that guy from the airplane that gave this to me I'd give him a piece of my mind!!!! Doodle, sorry that you are still sick! Guess I need to send you some more chicken soup!
It's normal to feel sad and lonely for your husband. Everyone here has been through it. Some are dealing with excruciatingly long separations -- years upon years. 8 months is certainly a long time, but it's not beyond the ordinary when you consider the overall picture of immigration cases. Were you expecting it to be much faster ? I thought our case would proceed faster than it did -- but in retrospect, I was just setting myself (and my husband) up for disappointment when it took longer.
I know it's hard not to just drown in one's own misery, and this makes us not want to think about someone else having a tougher time. But really, counting your blessings will help you. Please try to *not* dwell on the sadness -- it will only make the separation even more painful and seem even longer. Continue to keep yourself busy, give yourself projects to complete each day or each week and cross them off as you finish them -- it will make the time pass more quickly. And most of all, DO keep trying to put it in perspective -- remember the people who didn't see their SOs for so much longer than 8 months, and are still waiting for NOA #2 -- God with them. You are actually one of the lucky ones -- you are almost done insha'allah after "just" 8 months. Stay positive ! I expect you will get an answer from Amman before much longer.
Hope you feel much better
-MK
Everyone here has been through it. Some are dealing with excruciatingly long separations -- years upon years. 8 months is certainly a long time, but it's not beyond the ordinary when you consider the overall picture of immigration cases. Were you expecting it to be much faster ? I thought our case would proceed faster than it did -- but in retrospect, I was just setting myself (and my husband) up for disappointment when it took longer.I know it's hard not to just drown in one's own misery, and this makes us not want to think about someone else having a tougher time. But really, counting your blessings will help you. Please try to *not* dwell on the sadness -- it will only make the separation even more painful and seem even longer. Continue to keep yourself busy, give yourself projects to complete each day or each week and cross them off as you finish them -- it will make the time pass more quickly. And most of all, DO keep trying to put it in perspective -- remember the people who didn't see their SOs for so much longer than 8 months, and are still waiting for NOA #2 -- God with them. You are actually one of the lucky ones -- you are almost done insha'allah after "just" 8 months. Stay positive ! I expect you will get an answer from Amman before much longer.
Hope you feel much better
-MK
QUOTE(allousa @ Aug 9 2007, 09:19 AM)
QUOTE(doodlebug @ Aug 9 2007, 09:32 AM)
Awww Tammy I know those days when it's hard. Do something good for yourself and take it easy.
I'm really getting sick and tired of this pneumonia crap. Seriously. It's cramping my lifestyle. I can only work half days and then I go home and sleep. Enough is enough!!! Luckily my boss is super cool about the whole thing. She is the one who suggested I take it easy 'cause apparently I look like holy heck. If I could track down that guy from the airplane that gave this to me I'd give him a piece of my mind!!!!
I'm really getting sick and tired of this pneumonia crap. Seriously. It's cramping my lifestyle. I can only work half days and then I go home and sleep. Enough is enough!!!
Luckily my boss is super cool about the whole thing. She is the one who suggested I take it easy 'cause apparently I look like holy heck. If I could track down that guy from the airplane that gave this to me I'd give him a piece of my mind!!!! Doodle, sorry that you are still sick! Guess I need to send you some more chicken soup!
Instead of soup, send her a few canoli. It may not help her feel better but at least she won't care if she is sick
This week has gone by quickly for me and tomorrow is payday Friday 
Well Happy 8th Month Anniversay Tammy!- it probably doesnt make you feel better but hopefully soon the two of you will be reunited very soon! Have you heard anything else from the embassy?
QUOTE(tammy sue kay @ Aug 9 2007, 09:23 AM)
Yesterday was my eight month anniversary. I spent it alone. I can't imagine how the ones that have waited so much longer than me must feel being seperated from their husbands for what has to feel like forever. The only hope that any of us can hold onto is that maybe someday soon we will be reunited, but sometimes even that feels like false hope. The best that any of us can do is be patient and wait, but for how long? Sometimes, when we can get the cams to work, I just sit and look at him, not chatting, until my heart is full at the sight of him. He asks me why I am not typing and I say that I just want to look at him for a minute, he says he knows that I miss him. He laughs at me, but he knows how I feel, because sometimes, I catch him doing it too.
Anyway, sorry for being so sad today.
Hope everyone has a good Thursday,
Anyway, sorry for being so sad today.
Hope everyone has a good Thursday,
QUOTE(wife_of_mahmoud @ Aug 9 2007, 09:27 AM)
It's normal to feel sad and lonely for your husband. Everyone here has been through it. Some are dealing with excruciatingly long separations -- years upon years. 8 months is certainly a long time, but it's not beyond the ordinary when you consider the overall picture of immigration cases. Were you expecting it to be much faster ? I thought our case would proceed faster than it did -- but in retrospect, I was just setting myself (and my husband) up for disappointment when it took longer.
I know it's hard not to just drown in one's own misery, and this makes us not want to think about someone else having a tougher time. But really, counting your blessings will help you. Please try to *not* dwell on the sadness -- it will only make the separation even more painful and seem even longer. Continue to keep yourself busy, give yourself projects to complete each day or each week and cross them off as you finish them -- it will make the time pass more quickly. And most of all, DO keep trying to put it in perspective -- remember the people who didn't see their SOs for so much longer than 8 months, and are still waiting for NOA #2 -- God with them. You are actually one of the lucky ones -- you are almost done insha'allah after "just" 8 months. Stay positive ! I expect you will get an answer from Amman before much longer.
Hope you feel much better
-MK
Everyone here has been through it. Some are dealing with excruciatingly long separations -- years upon years. 8 months is certainly a long time, but it's not beyond the ordinary when you consider the overall picture of immigration cases. Were you expecting it to be much faster ? I thought our case would proceed faster than it did -- but in retrospect, I was just setting myself (and my husband) up for disappointment when it took longer.I know it's hard not to just drown in one's own misery, and this makes us not want to think about someone else having a tougher time. But really, counting your blessings will help you. Please try to *not* dwell on the sadness -- it will only make the separation even more painful and seem even longer. Continue to keep yourself busy, give yourself projects to complete each day or each week and cross them off as you finish them -- it will make the time pass more quickly. And most of all, DO keep trying to put it in perspective -- remember the people who didn't see their SOs for so much longer than 8 months, and are still waiting for NOA #2 -- God with them. You are actually one of the lucky ones -- you are almost done insha'allah after "just" 8 months. Stay positive ! I expect you will get an answer from Amman before much longer.
Hope you feel much better
-MK
I always tried to think about military wives (and husbands) and how they probably feel. I thought I had it easier than them because i could concievably talk to my husband almost every day as well as generally be assured he wasn't being shot at or something of the sort.. so... I know! Little consolation but I think the trick is to find what works for you and get yourself to a point where you're like OK! I can do this!
QUOTE(jmagayreh @ Aug 9 2007, 08:39 AM)
Happy Thursday and omg I can't wait til tommorrow! (payday w/commission ) Today is just a lazy day, work from 3-9pm.
I did the oddest thing yesterday. I applied for a FOID card, should come within 30 days. On the application it said 'Are you mentally retarded?'.....uh no. A better question would have been 'Are you emotionally unstable?'
Jackie
hey rahma, I jokingly asked for 5 years,,,and I'l be damned I got just that....12 days past 5 years.
) Today is just a lazy day, work from 3-9pm.I did the oddest thing yesterday. I applied for a FOID card, should come within 30 days. On the application it said 'Are you mentally retarded?'.....uh no. A better question would have been 'Are you emotionally unstable?'
Jackie
hey rahma, I jokingly asked for 5 years,,,and I'l be damned I got just that....12 days past 5 years.
That is pretty odd. Unless you are becoming a cop. Are you becoming a cop?
Me? a cop? uh...no.
Jackie
Jackie
The husbandly-one is out and about with the car today..... on his own. Stay off the sidewalks!!! 
Im quelling the rising panic with Harry Potter audiobooks. Has anyone finished book 7 yet? No one else I know has finished it and they refuse to speak of it for fear of ruining it.
Im quelling the rising panic with Harry Potter audiobooks. Has anyone finished book 7 yet? No one else I know has finished it and they refuse to speak of it for fear of ruining it.
QUOTE(rahma @ Aug 9 2007, 08:27 AM)
The husband and I promised each other 80 years together (at which time he'll be 104 and I'll be 100 inshaAllah, who knows how we came to that number ha), so when we were waiting, we looked at it in terms of the big picture - what's 3 or 4 years now when we have another 76 or 77 yeras to spend together inshaAllah? inshaAllah you'll have a lot of anniversaries together
In other news, I'm hyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyped up on caffine, practically bouncing out of my office chair. I need to go for a 5 mile run or something to get all the energy out.
In other news, I'm hyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyped up on caffine, practically bouncing out of my office chair. I need to go for a 5 mile run or something to get all the energy out.
Awwww, that's sweet Rahma. My husband and I do the same, but we say 100 years.
depression + new gun ownership = not a very good combination
Probably not. I better stick with a new computer and a kitten.
Jackie
Jackie
Thursday. Yep. I'm resting due to being sick. head stuff, bladder infections...yuck. What is a FOID card?? Enquiring minds wanna know.
QUOTE(jmagayreh @ Aug 9 2007, 01:00 PM)
Me? a cop? uh...no.
Jackie
Jackie
It's a license to carry firearms.
My husband asked me how many guns are in my house. I just *looked* at him. He thinks everyone here owns a gun.
QUOTE(doodlebug @ Aug 9 2007, 04:03 PM)
QUOTE(jmagayreh @ Aug 9 2007, 01:00 PM)
Me? a cop? uh...no.
Jackie
Jackie
It's a license to carry firearms.
My husband asked me how many guns are in my house. I just *looked* at him. He thinks everyone here owns a gun.
My husband saw his first gun safe at Academy not too long ago. When I explained what it was he was amazed that one person would own so many guns that they need a safe. I asked him what he thought it was for "Big money", he answered.
QUOTE(julianna @ Aug 9 2007, 11:12 AM)
I always tried to think about military wives (and husbands) and how they probably feel. I thought I had it easier than them because i could concievably talk to my husband almost every day as well as generally be assured he wasn't being shot at or something of the sort.. so... I know! Little consolation but I think the trick is to find what works for you and get yourself to a point where you're like OK! I can do this!
This was an excellent point ! Having an SO in a war zone is the hardest burden of all -- being separated from your loved one is hard, but knowing he's in a safe place is a huge blessing. Nothing can compare to the worry and anguish the families of the military and the families of people living in the midst of a war have to face.
-MK
QUOTE(tammy sue kay @ Aug 9 2007, 08:23 AM)
Yesterday was my eight month anniversary. I spent it alone. I can't imagine how the ones that have waited so much longer than me must feel being seperated from their husbands for what has to feel like forever. The only hope that any of us can hold onto is that maybe someday soon we will be reunited, but sometimes even that feels like false hope. The best that any of us can do is be patient and wait, but for how long? Sometimes, when we can get the cams to work, I just sit and look at him, not chatting, until my heart is full at the sight of him. He asks me why I am not typing and I say that I just want to look at him for a minute, he says he knows that I miss him. He laughs at me, but he knows how I feel, because sometimes, I catch him doing it too.
Anyway, sorry for being so sad today.
Hope everyone has a good Thursday,
Anyway, sorry for being so sad today.
Hope everyone has a good Thursday,
Be grateful your husband had his interview.
I’m sure you will be with him shortly.
Good luck.
good but bad day... got a job at the top restaurant in my area.... but disappointed to find out that abdou didn't get the job to work WITH me. the person who was quitting decided not to quit after all!
but also good because we signed him up for english classes.
one
step
at
a
time...!!! *deep breath
but also good because we signed him up for english classes.
one
step
at
a
time...!!! *deep breath
QUOTE(wife_of_mahmoud @ Aug 9 2007, 05:26 PM)
QUOTE(julianna @ Aug 9 2007, 11:12 AM)
I always tried to think about military wives (and husbands) and how they probably feel. I thought I had it easier than them because i could concievably talk to my husband almost every day as well as generally be assured he wasn't being shot at or something of the sort.. so... I know! Little consolation but I think the trick is to find what works for you and get yourself to a point where you're like OK! I can do this!
This was an excellent point ! Having an SO in a war zone is the hardest burden of all -- being separated from your loved one is hard, but knowing he's in a safe place is a huge blessing. Nothing can compare to the worry and anguish the families of the military and the families of people living in the midst of a war have to face.
-MK
I never used to worry about Hicham until the bombing happened in Casa this past April. He was actually on the train headed to Casa. After reading about the bombing online, they group was planning on targeting the area near the train station. I haven't really been the same since. I worry ALOT about my SIL and her family though as they are stuck in Gaza. Their house was very near to where some of the bulldozing has occured. Everytime I hear of something happening over there, my heart just sinks.
QUOTE(sereia @ Aug 9 2007, 04:56 PM)
good but bad day... got a job at the top restaurant in my area.... but disappointed to find out that abdou didn't get the job to work WITH me. the person who was quitting decided not to quit after all!
but also good because we signed him up for english classes.
one
step
at
a
time...!!! *deep breath
but also good because we signed him up for english classes.
one
step
at
a
time...!!! *deep breath
Jen that actually might be a good thing. Its not easy to work with a loved one.
I didn't realize that people celebrated an 8 month anniversary. Interesting.
No? Gee, I guess that is a shame then. I have celebrated every 8th day of the month since the day I married my husband. Every month brings me one month closer to him, so why not celebrate? WE all have our little ways of counting down the days, the weeks, the months. This is how I chose to do it.
I remember when he was still in Jordan, I used to come up with all these little anniversaries to celebrate. Now I can't seem to remember squat.
Hi Tammy,
I know exactly how you feel: I've been there; done that. I spent my first wedding anniversary alone (Feb. 13, 2007) and it seemed that we would never be reunited. Alhumdillilah! On May 17, 2007, he finally arrived here and we are so happy together. Be encouraged and assured that this time of separation will pass, and you will be filled with JOY AND HAPPINESS soon inshallah.
Irene
I know exactly how you feel: I've been there; done that. I spent my first wedding anniversary alone (Feb. 13, 2007) and it seemed that we would never be reunited. Alhumdillilah! On May 17, 2007, he finally arrived here and we are so happy together. Be encouraged and assured that this time of separation will pass, and you will be filled with JOY AND HAPPINESS soon inshallah.
Irene
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