I wonder if anyone can relate to how I feel...I think about the Visa constantly! When I wake up in the morning, the first thought in my head is about visa stuff....(do I have anything I need to do today? Should I be getting ready for the interview? What if I'm forgetting something?) It's like the only thing I can focus on and it's really starting to wear me down. Anyone else go through this?

I do get encouragement from looking at all of your timelines and seeing that the visas do get approved and people to get through the whole process. I just wish I could take my mind off of it and enjoy the present instead of being so nervous constantly about the future.

Okay, well that's my little venting session done for the day! hehe Cheers guys!

You only start thinking about it when you wake up??? The whole visa thing has invaded every waking and sleeping thought. I worry about things I didn't think were possible to worry about and then worry that I have forgotten something to worry about.

You are not alone, and visas do get approved. Like MINE!!!!

Good Luck!

Many thanks for the encouragement! Much appreciated! I've only just sent back my DS-230 last Saturday and my prayer is to have the interview and move by end of September. Do you think I'm being unrealistic timewise? I know any number of things can come up and I'm trying to stay a step ahead of the game (ha! I don't even understand the game!).

Anyways, thanks again for the encouragement, and I'm just praying we are as successful as yourself in getting our visa approved. YAY! hehe

Everyone is different as you'll see from timelines. Have a look at mine. From memory, I returned packet 3 on June 29, they acknowledged packet 3 and said they had finished processing paperwork on July 16. We told the Embassy that we had sold our house and were to become homeless as of the end of August. I received packet 4 on July 31 for an interview just over a week later on August 7.

Have you told them your dates? I thing the Embassy really does try to work with people if they have important dates like weddings or moving etc. They have only just started giving out September dates, so I am pretty sure the timing will work for you guys.

Yep, the visa, the move, the marriage - all I can think about at the moment. I just handed in my notice at work too and now i can't concentrate on work at all. I just keep thinking 'one month to go, woo hoo'.

I get periods of excitment and periods of nervous tension now too, and periods of the two mixed together - something I like to call nervousment (feel free to start using this word - getting a new word into the dictionary is one of my goals in life!)

perhaps the embassy should provide a free counselling service to help get us through the stress!

I understand that completely. I've decided that it comes and goes.

When Josh & I first started this process it was all I could think about because it was finally putting a light at the end of the tunnel when we would be together permanently. At this stage (over 3 months in) I'm calmer because there is no movement on the cases... but I know as soon as there is a touch my thoughts will be focused almost completely on the process again.

It also doesn't help that I told my workplace that we are applying for a visa and so I will eventually be leaving my job. I verbally told them so that they can prepare and made sure they understood that there was no definitive date when this will happen. So I'm lucky that I'm not being kept to any "leaving" dates. However, it is so much more difficult to motivate myself through the working day How am I going to be when I'm 2-4 months further down the line?

It was the waiting between each part. I almost pounced on the postman each morning before he even got to the front door in case he had an envelope from the Embassy. If he didn't I spent the rest of the day thin k about if it would come tomorrow.

As has been said elsewhere, when you return packet 3 it is important to fill the question about your travel date. You shouldn't have anything fixed but fill that in anyway with the date you hope to travel. The Embassy doers take notice of that information and will try and schedule your interview to accommodate it.

Annie and I did the same. Morning noon ans night.

btw: its the same when you go through Adjustment of Status after you get married.

Phew! We're not alone in this nightmare! hehe

Thanks for all the suggestions! I will make sure to advise them of our hopeful travel dates and also maybe send a wee note advising that I'm supposed to be starting my new job soon as well. Just called the NVC last night and auto message says they are missing info in our packet and have sent out a checklist to us for correction. I'm hoping this is just the DS-230 which was sent on the 04/08 and that they just haven't processed it yet. They said the checklist was sent on the 03/08 but it's not been received yet.....ahhhhh



I'm gonna have to sit down with hubby and explain to him the whole process we are doing as well before the interview. See I had kinda taken control of the visa stuff and hadn't really explained it all to him. I can just imagine the guy at the interview asking him what kinda visa we are applying for and Will saying, "i don't know."! hehe




I love the new word! hehe Cheers and I probably will use it, but will give you copyright credit for inventing it! hehe

Yep. I'm losing sleep over it and we haven't even applied for the new one yet. I'm working out the logistics of a move I'm not even sure we're going to be able to do!

...and I'm driving my husband crazy while doing it.

*waves to Gwen*

You are only thinking about it first thing when you wake up?

I used to have dreams about the damn thing.

When my husband's AOS was taking so long, I had a couple of bad dreams that he was handcuffed and taken away.

I guess it's all normal. Anything we humans can't control usually gets the best of us.

Well, we've had another setback and it's so disappointing. NVC is not happy with the way I filled some of the forms in and says I've forgotten to include some evidence items. I spent so much time pouring over those forms I just can't believe it. On the I-864 I wasn't sure if they would want me to put my current income (here in the UK which will end by 31/08) or the income I will be making in the states (I have employer notes stating my new job and how much I'll be making). So, I included two I-864's and put one form with each income. I wrote a letter and explained why I had done this, but NVC sent one of them back and says I must fix it.

I'm thinking this would set us back at least a couple weeks. Such a disappointment and I tried so hard to get everything right.

Thanks for letting me vent guys!

When dealing with bureaucracy you should avoid the tendency to read more into a question then it asks. Being helpful and providing answers to questions not asked causes confusion and delay.

Hope everything sorts itself out quickly.

That's exactly what I'm starting to learn. I don't think the notes were even read. I should have stuck to basics, but I just wanted everything to be perfectly laid out. Hopefully they'll be happy with what I'm sending back this time.