I am going to see my husband in 3 days.. I have seen him in December May and now August and wont see him till December. Hopefull I will have some kind of approval by then.. This wait is HELL. THIS WaIT IS PAINFUL. And I am sad but consumed with joy that I will see him North Africa in 3 days. This wait is HELL. No other words for it. Immigration is the hardest thing that I have ever dealt with besides childbirth. I miss my husband horribly and I love him immensely and I am glad there are people on the boards waiting along with me

It is hard at times but best to keep yourself busy in between visits. Think of all the things you want to get done before he gets here.

Oh I know the waiting is so hard and for me sometimes I don't know if i will make it through the next day but I do cause of the love and hope that my husband and I carry for each other. But just hang in there. I hope and pray we all will get through this long waiting period and all of our S/O get their visas soon. Stay strong.

I hear that, I was spending $300 a month in phone calls just to hear Claudeth's voice.

My fiance and I talk about three times a day via Skype. If you both have computers, it doesn't cost a thing! We love it!

I know how hard the wait can be. I agree with others. Keeping yourself busy really helps out a lot. You're also very lucky to be able to visit him often. Wishing you the best

I hear you , the wait is tough. Happy that you can visit your SO though I am sure that helps some..I try to keep myself busy, planning things I want to have done...we talk on the phone and online everyday (when there is a connection) and I have to remain positive and tell myself that one day we will all be tog w/our SOs...although there are still days when I am quite down and blue...just stay strong...and it is good to be united w/others who can understand this process...as nobody else can....that is for sure...hang in there..........-melinda

I am in alot of credit card debt from plane tickets but I love him and i am so grateful that he is in my life

Enjoy your time together .

I am happy that you are going to visit your husband, but take me with youuuuuu!!! I last saw my husband in 2/2007 and it feels like forever ago!! Waiting is hell for anyone who has to go through AP or extensive wait through any stage of this immigration process. Definitely this is one of the hardest things I have done in my life and has made me grow as a person. I hope that we are all reunited with our loved ones very very soon.

Everyone has had different lengths of waiting periods for whatever unknown reasons , but we all suffer no matter what the length of the wait is and no matter how long I am waiting, I am still happy for those that get their approvals. It is also a sad time too cause you wish that the approval for your SO would come too. This board is about support of anyone going through this process and I am glad that I have found it. It has been a great source of information, inspiration and support for me.

You guys who get to visit your SOs are so lucky! I last saw the love of my life in February when I left South Africa. We won't see each other again until he gets his visa. If it weren't so expensive to get there, I'd be there now. It costs $2000 to fly there!

Becky -- I was with my SO for his interview in April. After which his name is going through security clearance - ugh! I want to go visit him. But overall I'm sad (because after 18 mths of waiting for an interview, we are in name check HELL) and I don't want to be sad while I'm with him (does that make sense?).


I was really motivated to clean up our home for him, make space, etc before, but now I'm lazy and just get to work everyday. And I lurk in MENA because our sections of people moving quickly bugs me...


Take Care!!

I feel you. Waiting ... then waiting some more... for something you have no idea when will come is terrible. One (major) reason I decided to forego seperation ... after we got married. I just about had enough of waiting, planning, meeting, then leaving, then pathetically sad enough to "break up" only to get back together after 5m of crying... thought it would be just suffer along with him in his country. LOL

Amusingly enough Wiki has made us a how-to LOL. But I personally love the countdown ritual: where you both do something to make the days pass with much more amusement counting down the days until you see each other again. I know we sure did this so years

Waiting is the WORST! i can feel your pain. Hopefully, the time will go by and you will be reunited with your SO very soon.

Have a safe trip and enjoy your time together!!!

I'm waiting too.........27 more days until I leave to see my hubby. Inchaallah we will be out of AP and he will have his visa soon. Have a great time on your trip!

Am I the only one who went long periods of time without seeing my SO and didn't really suffer much? Our longest period apart was a year and a half - after that we decided it would probably be a good idea to get together again to see if we still liked each other before he came over.

I know you are being serious Rahma, but your post totally cracked me up

Angel

P.S. actually I don't remember suffering much either probably because I was too busy working. longest period I didn't see my husband 9 months

Longest I went without seeing my husband was 9.5 months and it sucked. Looking back on all of it I wish I woulda filed CR1 and waited the extra couple months. Man what I wouldn't do for a couple hours privacy now. I love my husband to death and appreciate that he's here but sheesh I'm NEVER alone. I like my alone time.

Enjoy this alone time ladies.

So true...Alone time is very important - especially if you live in a studio apt. - I hate it but that's all that I have right now. I wish we could move my husband has no idea what he wants in life and who know what will happen in few months...

I was a LOT sadder coming back from Egypt the first time than I am this time. I think it is due to the intense heat over there. I love the guy BUT...............

Anyway maybe it's because this time around the interview is done and we're just waiting, like we're supposed to. There's no anticipation of will we even have a chance at getting to the interview stage. Plus my life is pretty full. I think if I didn't have kids it would be more painful but they take up a lot of my time.

We hadn't seen each other in 19 months when we were reunited. It was hard, very hard.

Isn't it funny that we are in immigration hell for well over a year, dying to be together, and when they get here we want our alone time? lol Like my husband keeps reminding me...women are crazy! I do resemble that remark.

It is true keeping busy, does ease up on the hardship of the wait. But the wat does effect different people in different ways. I know for myself the wait was easy in the beginning, since we both had issues that stopped us from being together. But once that commitment was made to marry ... we just became insane with the wait. LOL

Shaun & I talk everyday...as in EVERYDAY. Sometimes we talk for only 10 minutes before I go to work or before he goes to work.Sometimes we talk for hours and hours (starting a sedentary lifestyle?) We were able to find ways to bridge the 13 hour gap between our countries. Fortunately I have an internet connection at home. If internet wont work...we send each other sms (i bought him an international roaming sim). Sometimes we ran out of topic because we talk to each other daily for the past nine (9) months. Funny when we met that we (computer talked). I was mad at him about something and i said..i will send u an email...i'll tell u why i was mad..hehehe. We did not talk online for 2 weeks - that was when he came to visit me and now that he is back in his country we continue our daily talks - online. Yes..waiting is terrible but we can make a lot of things while waiting. Besides the adventure does not only happen when u reach the destination...It happens in the Journey! Good luck to all of us!

Im having a really hard time waiting... I want my man

i can relate. waiting is the worst. try to chat online and phone often until we see eachother

Chatting, messaging and voice can and does get boring after a while.

there's always webcams

I just want to hold hands and not have to say/write/read anything to communicate.

- u have quite the sense of humor...cracks me up and ty i can use the laughs:)

The worst part is that when waiting for something like this , time goes by soooooo slow!!! Unlike in the morning when the alarm clock goes off when time seems to fly by sooooooooo fast and i just want 5 more minutes in bed!!! LOL...

Medo and i chat every day (skype, yahoo ) Any one want my cell phone bill? Sprint has to love me. We dont web cam much cus it makes me cry. To see my husband and not being able to touch him. It has been over 19 mo. sence i have seen him And every day is a struggel to hang on. And i live in a huge home and all alone and I HATE TO BE ALONE. Dont care if i ever get alone time again!!!! I will be going back in Nov thru Dec to spend our 2nd anniversary togeather. That is only if he has not received his visa by then. I ran out of things to keep busy. I emptyed the closet for him and painted it. All his new cloths are just hanging there. Remodled our room, Bought new furniture for it. Installed a seround sound. Redone the kitchen paint wallpaper and layed the tile. All I need is my hubby to be home with me. I even made the wellcome home banner.

Wow that is beautiful!!! I havent even gotten to the stage of fixing rooms or anything...im hoping that she could be here soon so we could do it together....this really is very hard for all of us!!!! All we could do is pray and have faith!!!!!!