QUOTE(TBoneTX @ Jan 28 2008, 07:23 PM) 
Here's a different wrinkle: There seems to be no vehicle for reporting valid timelines when relationships have been abandoned. Read this from the fiancee:
>HELLO:
>
>Tonight I will be traveling to Cuenca, what about if we talk on tuesday night..... We need to talk about our relashionship.......ok.
>
>Take care
>Cristina
It is not known what this "talk" will entail, but I suspect that she will be dumping me in favor of her new business or for other reasons. I don't plan to push her too hard unless there's an opening for things to get better, but the question for me is, if she says "I need more time" (to decide, to build her business, whatever), to decide for myself whether things can be salvaged and/or how long I intend to continue to let my feelings be disrespected and disregarded. (She did NOT react to the news of our papers heading to the consulate as a loving other-half would/should.)
The above is a circular way of asking this: Because there is precious little information on Ecuador timelines, and because the papers have made much (most?) of their route through the immigration system, is there a mechanism via which "partial" processing information/timelines from abandoned relationships can remain on VJ for the help of others, and to build on existing information that may be sparse? Or is this a Cap'n Ewok question?
Any and all responses to the direct question and to the situation will be appreciated.
>HELLO:
>
>Tonight I will be traveling to Cuenca, what about if we talk on tuesday night..... We need to talk about our relashionship.......ok.
>
>Take care
>Cristina
It is not known what this "talk" will entail, but I suspect that she will be dumping me in favor of her new business or for other reasons. I don't plan to push her too hard unless there's an opening for things to get better, but the question for me is, if she says "I need more time" (to decide, to build her business, whatever), to decide for myself whether things can be salvaged and/or how long I intend to continue to let my feelings be disrespected and disregarded. (She did NOT react to the news of our papers heading to the consulate as a loving other-half would/should.)
The above is a circular way of asking this: Because there is precious little information on Ecuador timelines, and because the papers have made much (most?) of their route through the immigration system, is there a mechanism via which "partial" processing information/timelines from abandoned relationships can remain on VJ for the help of others, and to build on existing information that may be sparse? Or is this a Cap'n Ewok question?
Any and all responses to the direct question and to the situation will be appreciated.
Hey Tbone. I'm sure it must be a very worrying time for you right now. It's probably not helpful to jump the gun and assume that she is about to end the relationship but what might be helpful is to consider your responses before tomorrow night.
If she needs more time - you can give it. She does know I assume that there is a six month period following the issue of a visa in which she can find the time to tidy up all the loose ends. There is a possibility that she is just not ready *right now* and an impending interview will only serve to complicate things for her. These things can be worked out but you do need an open and honest conversation about that. That way you could avoid the feelings of being disregarded.
I really don't know what to advise if things are coming to an end - but I do feel that is something we shouldn't be assuming at this stage.
I think Cap'n Ewok could answer your final question. Good of you to be thinking of others going through this process.
Good luck
