Will I called the job today and he's not there. he works at the front desk at from 6pm to 8:30am. Its about 2am in the morning in jordan. I call and someone else answered the phone. So They only closeure i get from this is that he is dead, or maybe he just decided at the last minute that he did want to marry me instead. I really dont know, but as much as it's hurts i can't let this consume me I a mother of a five year girl and she is my first priority and I guess i have to just move on. Ahmed was the only guy i've talked to since my divorce two years ago i refuse to put myself though this Ahmed will be in my prayers daily, and what ever the outcome All i couls say is that maybe it just wasn't my time lifes a ######.
WOULD LIKE TO JUST THINK YOU ALL FOR YOUR KIND WORDS AND YOUR SUPPORT> I WISH EVERYONE THE BEST AND KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYERS ALWAYS.
Thank you

Gee, bless your heart that this happened to you. I feel so bad for you. This is indeed a bizarre story. You are right, either he is dead or he bailed on you and went off to his family to start over. I think if he was dead, they would have told you that on the phone---hopefully, somebody would.

But, either way, if he is going to be this irresponsible, you will be better off in the long run without him. With a young child, you need a stable man who will treat you well. It's true that time will heal you, even though now that sounds like a BS saying....

The sad truth is that this world is full of crazy ### people who just can't handle committment. But you sound like a wonderful person who deserves a special guy.

You are in my prayers that you get over this heartache!!! Debbie

When a door closes, a window opens. I wish you the best.

Honey I know it hurts. My first relationship after my divorce cut like a freakin' knife. It's like all the feelings from the divorce came back full force. Just count your blessings that things ended now before your daughter became involved too personally since as much as it hurts us it hurts the kids ten times as bad.

Focus on yourself, pamper yourself...you deserve it just because you're you! You have a lot on your plate raising a 5 yr old. I know because I was a single mom of two kids less than a year apart. Heck I still am since he's not here yet. It's hard doing this on your own. Focus on this time with your little girl. Those years are precious when they're that age and they grow up waaaaay too fast.

When you have healed you deserve a man who will treat you both like princesses...in real life! Trust me if I had it to do over again I'd shut the damned computer off and never look back. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband but it's too hard to go through this with someone living halfway around the world especially when you have kids to take care of.

-hugs-

Doodlebug--I know his is off-topic, but did your guy get his interview? What happened? Debbie

the guy never showed up at the original appt so he had it rescheduled for the 29th. now we're in ap.

I can only imagine the pain and confusement you are going thru right now. It is sad that he just disappeared without any explanation, and certainly not fair to you in any way. You know, it was 10 years after I broke up with my childrens father that I met my now husband. I was at a point in my life that I had started to doubt my own ability to love a man in that way again. It's sad that the first man you talked to seriously would treat you this way, but at least you know that part of your heart is not permantly frozen. I know it is early to say, but, you will love again. Take care and keep your thoughts positive and enjoy that little girl of yours,

THANKS for the kind words, but yhis really hurts like just think about getting to know someone over again makes me sick, maybe i'll just chiil for a while and just put things in gods hands.

Please don't take this the wrong way, but it kind of sounds as though you saw this coming. If I had not been able to contact Wadi for several weeks (even a few days actually), and for some reason I could not get in touch with his family, I'd be getting an Arabic translator immediately and contacting everyone I knew that was his acquaintance, as well as the local authorities.

If this was someone in whom you were invested enough to marry, don't you want to make sure that he is ok?

You poor dear. Take some time off from men and pamper yourself.

someone get a mop, this thread is dripping with sarcasm.

I wasn't being sarcastic, charles.

I haven't posted, but I read your last thread and what happened with Ahmed and I am truly sorry to hear this, but he may have a good explaination who knows. Either way I know that your hurting and this is a hard thing to go through and these people are right.. you should take some time to be with your daughter and let time take your ache away. Men can come and go, but as long as you remember who you are and how strong you are, then you will beat this hurt ere the end.

Oh and stay clear of men who have too many assumptions and think they know it all too... for some reason most of them go by the name of "Charles" in my experience... just an opinion though...

I just think its a little wierd that he's not at his job either. you think he would quit his job as part of his dumping you? maybe there really IS something wrong, I dont think I would jump to the conclusion that I was being dumped, unless like Jenn said you already had some pretty strong suspicions.. Otherwise I would be worried as hell...

You know the sad part is you have no control contacting him... Did you ever call his parents or friends and find out what happen to him? I'm a sooo sorry... Guys like that don't deserve you. You are too good for him. It's his lost.

Good Luck! I wish you all the best..

i think you two need to get a room

honestly.. take this as a blessing.. and learn from this..

You have your daughter to think about and care for...

this situation comletely sucks

It seems to me the Op is seeking confrmation of what she already knows is the truth.

I agree 100%. This is a blessing. You won't have to deal with immigration or any of that crap.

Sorry this happened to you Chalk it up as a learning experience and move on. Just a tip....move on locally.

As simple as it sounds from the outside, you don't always think of the obvious when you are in the middle of it. I sure didn't think of translators and congressman until they were mentioned to me by someone else. Hopefully others will have suggestions as well that can help Kishy find the answer. Not knowing is the worst, even if the answer turns out to be bad.

How could you say that. that was why i posted my message to try to get help. You have no idea what I've been though these last coulple of weeks, i cant sleep or eat, but like i said i have a little to care for so i do what i can. so i did take your commit the wrong way people deal with things the best way they no how. PLEASE things are bad enough AND NO I DID NOT SEE THIS COMING!!!!!!!
I think it's very rude of you to judge me this way.
People always say what they would do if it happen to them, but you just don't know what you would do until it really happens to you, but thanks for sharing.






How could you say that. that was why i posted my message to try to get help. You have no idea what I've been though these last coulple of weeks, i cant sleep or eat, but like i said i have a little to care for so i do what i can. so i did take your commit the wrong way people deal with things the best way they no how. PLEASE things are bad enough AND NO I DID NOT SEE THIS COMING!!!!!!!
I think it's very rude of you to judge me this way.
People always say what they would do if it happen to them, but you just don't know what you would do until it really happens to you, but thanks for sharing.

No need for sarcasm. I wasn't trying to judge you. I just find your seemingly nonchalant attitude rather shocking. Remember all that anyone has to go by here is what you post, since you're absolutely right, we don't know what you've been through these last couple weeks unless you tell us.

ETA: If your assumption that he has split is correct, then I really am truly sorry and hope that you can move on. All I'm trying to say is that from my perspective, it doesn't seem like you've exhausted all avenues in attempt to find the closure you're seeking.

Observation: Any post that begins with "please dont take this the wrong way" is usually taken the wrong way.

Jenn, I see your point and I would have to agree.

For the OP, I am very sorry you are going through this. Regardless of how someone gets into this situation, it doesn't change how much it hurts.

Conformation of what why would i think something since nov 3th of 2006 we have talked on the phone and on E-mail evreyday. The ways things were going i would never think something like this would happen seen he and I bought my ticket for me and my daughter months before for dec. DONT JUDGE ME MY ONLY REASON FOR POSTING WAS TO FIND SOMEONE WHO SPEAKS ARABIC so i could get some answers. THINGS ARE BAD ENOUGH DONT BE SO this could happen to anyone you never know. thanks for sharing.

Listen, there's no reason to attack ppl. Everyone here has been nice to you. You need to just calm down and face facts. The dude disappeared on you. You're not the first or last woman this has happened to. Internet romances don't always pan out. Next time be more careful about who you give your heart to.

you have to understand that people are only going by what you have posted here. After 22 days to now look for help it just seemed to me that you may have already had a feeling that something was up, you know? I"d be freaking after less than a week. Heck I've freaked over two days of no communication but thankfully I have a good relationship with my husband's sisters so whenever I get worried I can call them and they'll tell me what is going on.

I do hope you get closure because, for me, it's sooo hard to move on without it. Also I hope nothing bad has happened to him. It does seem strange that suddenly he has not shown up for work.

I'm doing what i can with what I have. I hear all your commits, and I'm not gaving you any sarcasm how could you feel I'm being nonchalant I'm just trying to hold myself together. and your right you don't have no idea what I'm going though. Like I said before I posted because I was trying to find someone that spoke arabic so adleast see if he even got to egypt at all. I dont know anyone that speaks the language. At this point it really doesn't matter Thank you for you in put you really made feel so much better.

I agree with everything you said except the first sentence. At least one person was pretty nasty to her.

If it was happening to us, I would be on an airplane to his family's home by this point.

I'm sorry if you feel judged. My observation is that this is a very strange situation don't you think? Why wouldn't someone- a friend or family member think to call you to let you know what was happening if something had happened? IMO I think he wanted to disappear on you because it was easier than telling you the truth. I think you must suspect this or you wouldn;t have posted that all you wanted was "closure"

Getting what you deserve? Alrighty then......

I think everyone here has sympathy for you and has tried to help you. Some people have said things that are true but not so easy to hear but that is what friends do. They tell you stuff that you don't want to hear. I think its pretty clear by now that no one is willing to get involved and call him for you.

You got a few good suggestions on how to get some closure, you could hire a translator and have them call. What if he didn't dissapear? what if something happened? I think you have enough invested by now to at least find out what happened and make sure he is ok.

I think that is what people think is strange. You don't seem to want to find a way on your own to make sure he is ok or to find out what happened.

My heart goes out to you. This is a situation that no one should go through no matter what the outcome.

huh?

When you reply to someones post with a "quote" make sure you type before this "quote name=" and/or after this "/quote".

thank you

I can only say that everything happens for a reason sometimes we don't find out until later in our lives but one way or the other it will be revealed to you. Try and keep your head up for your babies they need you. I will keep you in my prayers. I hope you feel better about this situation soon and just know god will never give you more than you can handle. In the end everything will work out.





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