I took my fiance to the airport last night . That will be the last time I see him in person until this K-1 stuff is all sorted out. With school and work neither of us have time for a vacation. He made it home safely, but I'm missing him already.

I was wondering which other VJ members are seperated from their loved one(s) throughout their visa processing?

Most of us are separated from our loved ones, unfortunately. It's not easy but you gotta make it happen.

I feel your pain! I will be visiting Germany in July... returning July 15. After this visit we have no future travel plans to see each other. Normally, we know (have a tickect in hand) for the next trip but not this time. We too are waiting for the K1 stuff to get sorted out. I dread our "good-bye" at the airport

I notice we have similar timelines and we can support each other... i'm there for you pal!

Just try to remember that every day that passes, is one day closer to your new lives together.

It does seem to take forever, but it will happen for you!!! Best wishes and good luck for a speedy approval.

I havent seen my fiance in 13 months!!!!!

After i left the last time we applied for the k1 in december and then i got approved at the interview 11th of june!

I am leaving denmark on sunday to go be with her forever, we have a wedding planned on the 27th of july, life is good!!

But 13 months is a looooooong time, none the less, its still hard to belive that i actually get to be with her forever in 6 days!

Never apart again!

Anyway good luck with the k1

I am really sorry to hear about your situation. Good luck with the K-1!

I completely understand how you feel! I still have my fiance here for a few more weeks - lucky me!! But when he goes back to the UK, we also will not see each other again until the K1 is issued. And we haven't even applied yet for the I129F as we're waiting for what seems like an eternity for his Decree Absolute to be issued.

This long distance thing is really tough. I'm confident that it will be well worth the wait and all the sadness and loneliness leading up to together forever!

Hang in there!!

Julie

I think that most of us are in the same situation. I have been lucky enough to be able to go visit Mintra in Thailand 5 times in the last 8 months. I travel alot for work and had a bunch of SkyMiles on Delta and hotel points with Marriott so it was feasible to do so. The more I go see her the harder it is to leave and come home. We talked about this in April, the last time I was in Thailand, and she said," Someday we will be old and in our rocking chairs on a porch thinking back about this process and realize that it is proof that we really loved each other". "And then we will smile"! What's the old saying, "If it was easy, everyone would do it". I think that those of us involved in this process will also work harder at STAYING married when problems arise since the commitment was there from the beginning. Besides, this whole process has given me a reason to go to SE Asia way more times then I should have. Hang in there, your amongst friends.

Today is 4 months for us and damn it hurts.
Good luck to you.

Hi ya.
Yep, I suppose most of us are in the same boat with regards to being separated from our fiances. Mine went back to Northern Ireland on the 15th of May and I won't see him until everything is finalized... we're hoping October. We have a similar timeline as well, although since you are being processed in Vermont, yours should go a lot more quickly. So at least you have that!

I miss him terribly but try to focus on the fact there are many things I want to get accomplished before he gets back, so it keeps me busy. Plus we speak to each other loads every single day. Hang in there.... next time you see each other you won't have to say goodbye again. THAT'S the good news! Hang in there and come here when you need some support.

Hey … I think I’m in the same situation as … even the same SC … I hade my first NOA on 25th of May … heard nothing until now …. My Fiancée came to visit me about 15 days ago he went back to the sate on the 21st toke him to the airport and I was in very bad statues … I’m still crying until … it hurt so much ……
That was his only chance to visit me ….his in the Navy and it’s so hard to take even one day off ….. I’m praying for all of us to get throw this ….

But I must that this … what’s happing to all of us now its making our love grow even stronger … don’t you think so!!

It has been 316 days apart for us; we're looking at maybe as much as another 123 days apart. We were intending to meet over the July 1st to 7th week, but the manager said she couldn't have the time off because he was taking his holidays at that time.
Even though the pain of seperation will leave the emptiness will remain until you have a chance to be together again

I hear ya and my heart goes out to you!
Jim and I havent seen each other since October 12th,2006 and due to his divorce there's no telling WHEN we'll see each other,much less when we can finally put the I 129 in.........
It's so hard at times,and James and me have been through hell and back this year already..........him having had a very busy stressful job at a Company that just didn't know what they did,the divorce dragging on,the pain of being seperated and on top of all that his "friends" trying to break us up telling him I was only after a Green Card..........
Trust me I know how you feel.
Try to focus on the future you guys will have together and stay strong!!!!! It's so well worth it.Love can move mountains!
Nat

Yep its hard to be apart, I have been lucky and nancy has come to see me a few times in Houston, and we were lucky as heel that my company sent me to Sillypore for about a week at the beginning of june so she came to come visit. And now we are just counting down the days, July 3rd she leaves Hong Kong and arrive in Chicago to go to Toronto if she can get thru with out activiating her K-1 and I will be on my way home from Brazil that morning and waiting to see if I'm driving to Canada or not.

Its hard but most of us have made it so far, just know that you are not alone, we are all here to help and support along the way.

Humbly,
Ramos

I(we) cried like a little baby at the airport last time I left my girl. After that experience I vowed to never let it happen again. I quit my job (paid all my bills many months in advance) and will stay with her until we leave together. Dont let societal norms(i.e. money, job) dictate your life and/or love if you can afford it. Jobs are dime a dozen, meeting your soulmate is a once in a lifetime experience. I have felt your pain. Hang in there!!! I worked 6 days a week , sometimes 7, 57 hours to 70 hours a week just to make the time go faster, it helped immensely, both emotionally and obviously, financially.

We haven't even been apart for 24 hours and I'm already going crazy. I guess being seperated makes meeting again even better, but it still stinks. We still talk online and on the telephone, but nothing beats being together in person. I wish I could just drop everything and be with him, but I know I need to stay here for school and work.

It's nice to know I'm not the only one going through this. I hope things speed up for all of us.

Just hang in there.

It will be all worth it once you get the visa.

Good luck

yes seperation is stressing me out as well. Chris will be here to visit me in 9 days, we havent seen each other in 3 1/2 months and it has been hell. i dont bother to visit him because afraid of POE problems.

I may try to visit him next month because he has no holidays left. I was hoping to have interview by July but not looking that way.................................frig immigration says abot being fianacially stable..........................the prices of tickets for chris to visit are ridiculous.......................COPS PAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OH GOD, I NEED A DRINK!!!!!!!!!!!

P.S.......................HERE'S A QUESTION TO ASK IMMIGRATION, "WHERE THE HELL IS BETTY FORD CLINIC, BECAUSE YOU GUYS DROVE ME TO DRINK"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lmao




LATER............MARY LOU

Don't tell me about it ...

Yep haven't see christopher since the beginning of April!!!!
It is terrible. And the NOA2 is draggginnng.

I know that feeling, i remember it even tho my husband has been here with me a year next month. We were seperated by all this for a year and a half, and he even missed his sons birth. Its a crappy feeling to be without your fiance/husband/wife, but you have to remember, it will end soon and you will be together. This is just a temporary break in the road. Good Luck

How I can undesratand you I have not seen my Fiance 4 months already, and will not see him till November, when all my life here in Kazakhstan will be sorted out and I will have a Fiancee visa in hand

We met each other here in Kazakhstan 3 years ago and were together 1 year, and after that he went back to US... 2 years already we see each other 1 time in 4 months... sometimes I went to US and sometimes he came here.... but don't worry about that as all that will be over soon and you will remember all this as a nighmare you will never have again

Good luck!

I'm working between 65-75 hours a week, (all 7 days)....so I can do exactly what you did and (hopefully) join my fiance by the holidays...or at least see him again!!!! I don't think I could stand leaving again though, so if I go, I'm staying till he comes back with me.

Whenever I read stories like this I realize I need to stop complaining! You all are separated from your loved ones for such a long time. I admire the strength that it takes to keep your relationships going through that. That being said, in reading your stories I realize how darn lucky I really am. I get to see my sweetheart once every three weeks. I feel like I would go crazy if I couldn't. I guess the one downside to it is that the leaving everytime really hurts. It just gets worse the more that we do it, although I sure am glad that we get to spend time together.

Just hang in there, we can do it! It won't be long now...or at least that's how I try to think. It keeps me a little more sane!

I didnt think i was truly alone without my g/f until i had to goto my brothers wedding in poland (great fun lots of drink) it just wasnt the same without her.
i remember 1 morning waking up and having this dream about her so i rolled over to tell her and she wasnt there. sooo sad for the rest of the day.

if i didnt wear her engagement ring around my neck (on a neclace ) i think i would of probably thrown myself onto the krakow ground.

ah well i heard about the h1b visa stuff coming to an end so that made me happy knowing i can see my "very soon-to-be" wife again.

I am in a similiar situation, I left my fiance on May 9 and I won't see him again until the K1 is finalized. We tell each other many of the statments left by others. When I get sad I tell myself that one day my fiance and I wil have each other without and further goodbyes or time apart. And I know that this journey will be well worth it and one day we will look back on things and laugh...and at the same time separation is hard...we chat every day and talk on the phone and that helps...but its not enough..I try to keep busy and make plans for his arrival..this seems to help me...and I remember that in the end this time will be but a short time in comparision to our long life together..Hang in there....ur not alone here for sure..

Yeah, it's really hard. In the 2.5 years Neal and I have been seeing each other, we've been lucky enough to never go more than 2 months apart. Since we've filed our K1, we haven't seen each other at all. Last time I saw Neal was March 5 and I've really suffered since then...depression, anxiety, the whole works. Plus it doesn't help that I am trying to plan our wedding at the same time, bit by bit. Just hang in there. I know it's easier said than done, but just try to communicate as much as possible (Neal and I talk on the phone every single day...it's the highlight of my day!) and keep yourself occupied.