Given the shocking behavior in my thread yesterday I feel this is no longer an appropriate or friendly place for me to be, especially since this site is all about family immigration and my cowardly fcuk of a soon to be ex husband lied his way through our marriage and we're now divorcing.

So I'm not really interested in hanging out with a bunch of happy families, especially when they're rubbing salt in my open wounds.

To the people who were supportive, thank you.

I may visit occasionally but this will be my last post for a while.

I'm not a UKer, but I wanted to say good luck to you, HA. I hope the physical distance from your crushing situation will help you. I'm sorry things went as they did here and I hope that you won't be afraid to visit VJ to pass idle hours or even for support in the future.

Good luck for the future and I hope you find happiness back in the US. I am sorry that things worked out so badly for you.

I will miss you, HA. You have been the only one who has understood my desire to quit the UK, and your advice to me and others has been sound.

Yes, I will miss you.

I want to wish you the very best of luck and a safe journey home. I am new to this site, and there are some who are obviously nothing but helpful and supportive, however, it does not always feel the most welcoming of sites to newcomers and I am sure there are many who lurk without posting for this reason.

Your posts will be missed.

HA, I hope you do stop in once in a while and let us all know you got home safely. I for one will be thinking of you as you fly home on Sunday.

Take care of yourself, and the very best of luck for the future.

HA, This is nothing to do with England (I always feel I must say that as a buffer, becasue I mean no disrespect to the country...I love it!) but more to do with how you have been feeling while there...

Just wanted to say I am SO glad that if this had to happen, it at least happened at a time you were heading back to a place you feel comfortable and to people who do love you, unconditionally. I guess I'm assuming that last bit, but most of us have at least a few people like that in our lives...generally family and a few close friends. I remain so sorry for what you are going through right now, and after my petty bickering with you the other day, it just reminds me again how silly that sort of thing is...I'm not saying it won't ever happen again...human nature rears its ugly head sometimes!...but there are a lot of things to be more concerned about than he said/she said on a message board.

I wish you all the best and hope you can get past this and on with your life with someone who deserves you and will build a genuine life with you. Take care of yourself. M.

PS ...I'm tired and didn't proofread, so hope the rambles make sense!

So sorry again, HA. Try and take care of yourself. Hope you have a safe and uneventful flight on Sunday.

i'm gonna miss you who else can i bicker with about pickup trucks?
do stay in touch, some of us appreciate your presence.

H A,
Where's the LADY who is brave and courageous in the face of adversity? I will miss your posts, and I will miss the way you never would be beaten down once you take a stand on what you deem as right.
It is sad that a few had to be so insensitive in your time of pain. Forgive them as they don't know any better. It is the only way to overcome.
You are down, but by no means out.You will be a strong LADY again and come out shining like the star that you are.
I wish you peace. I wish you healing, dear LADY.

I'm sorry for what you're going through...it's disheartening to see this happen to anyone here. Best wishes.

H_A,

I wish you all the best in whatever you do. Have a safe trip on Sunday and I wish you happiness in your new life in the States. And it WILL be a new life for you; a fresh start and hopefully the beginning of some wonderful things happening.

As I've always said "we have to smell sh!t to know when we are smelling roses". It's true.

Please do pop in here now and again and let us know how you're getting along.

Good Luck and have a great trip home!

Best of luck to you H-A. Have a safe trip home this weekend.

Goodbye and good luck, I hope there is much happiness ahead of you and strength to get through everything life throws at you..

Take care of yourself, I wish you all the best with your life and all the you do




AJ1

I know we didn't talk much, HA, but I'll miss seeing you around the place and reading your posts - I hope you'll pop back in occasionally and let us know how you're doing, and maybe stick around for a bit while you're at it!

But for now... good luck (with everything), I'm so sorry for what's happening to you right now, you must still be in total shock. I hope the move home goes smoothly and that you're ok with the flights (I'll still track them, if I can, and the cats' flights too!) - and that this fresh start will bring a ton of good things your way.

Good luck with everything and have a safe trip home.
Zee

sorry to see you go HA. thanks for the advice.

please tell me people weren't mocking her yesterday. if you agree w/ someone or not, or even if its personality issue. poking at someone w/ a broken heart is beyond cowardly.

I think this thread should stay on topic.

Have a safe trip home and good luck for your life back in the States

Good Luck, If you're ever in the Corpus Christi area*, look me up!

We can meet up over a drink, even if it's Texas sweet iced tea at a Jalisco's

*Its now my turn to be the displaced Texan in Yorkshire, I will be gone for about 3 years but will be back to visit home occasionally! If you have any advice on how to feel more at home while I'm there, please keep in touch!!!!! I may need another Texan to send me HEB brand items

Take care!!!! I will miss your posts!

There is a lot of shocking behavior flying about. Has been for a while now.

Best of luck to you - I hope everything works out ok for you.

Sorry to hear that you are leaving, although it is more than understandable under the tragic circumstances. I wish you all the best in your new life (or return to old life?) back in the US. Please let me know if you plan on visiting Colorado anytime (my wife's home state, and soon to be mine), and we will do our best to help out.

Best of luck on your journey home!

Bye H_A. It's terrible that you are leaving under these circumstances. All of the circumstances.

Know that many of us here will be thinking good thoughts your way. Travel safe and be well.

H_A,

I wish you all the best for your future happiness! Take care of yourself. I hope your flight over to the US isn't too bad for you.

Hey HA, just wanted to wish you good luck on your return home. I like many others are sorry that the circumstances have turned so sour for you. Don't let what has happened mar your happiness at finally being home where you belong.

Given time you will move on to bigger and better things.

I too will track the flight and that of your cats (although I do not even know now if they are going)? At least you will have the knowledge that there are still people from VJ tracking you as you travel.

I know you are very hurt and I understand you not wanting to post anymore here, but please if you have to make a last post, make it the one that tells us you are home....where you belong and with people that love you and what you have waited for, for the past 6 years.

Good Luck, dont be a stranger!!!

I guess.. I suppose we all could bail out of VJ when our relationship goes south.
I thought about disabling my account since our denial and since my husband has asked for a divorce.
but, I am here maybe not for the " pour some salt on me treatment" but, maybe for a little healing.

he did?

If you wish to disable your account, you can simply PM either Ewok or Wookie -- they'll handle it from there.

Shon, I am sorry.

You have so much information to share with others, it would be a loss to see you go.

sorry

Oh honey, I'm so sorry
I'm glad I didn't disable my account after my marriage to the Romanian fell apart and ended in divorce, hanging around here and helping out when I could was great therapy for me, I made friends here and I missed them all. I don't even read any of the forums except the General Discussion Area. All I can advise is, keep busy and don't forget your friends. When you're mind's occupied you're not sitting thinking about what went wrong. Let me know if you would like to talk about it.

wow shonnie after all you have been through to get this approved!!!??? I wish you the best in the future, whether you continue here or not. You have been a great resource for many.

Shon, shon....girl had you posted this before? I'm sorry if I hadn't read this previously and missed a chance to put out a virtual hug to you and lend you an ear if you need it.

People, I think this situation with Shon is a really good example of how complex our VJ relationships can be. Shonnie is a good lady and we all know that. And I think a lot of us here could say we've seen her cranky and wound up - where she was misunderstood - and where she misunderstood us.

But we love her still. And she loves us back.

I'm pretty sure I speak for all of us when I say I'm grateful for all our VJ friends - this virtual yet very real community.

babybunny.... I am so sorry to hear that things did not work out for you..... Good to see you are still around and keeping strong....

Kez

for both of our members hurting right now.

Hey guys just popped in. I read the invisible post:



I have to say this to everyone. If you were in Homesick's situation you would be very upset and only looking for support. This is a VERY hard position to be in and while they do want to post and get support they do not want people to put them down or make them feel worse. Is it fair that they only get good posts and not complaints? It is a public board yes? Well yes and yes I guess. I think that sometimes our compassion as people should prevail and if someone is sad we should bite our tongue and just let them grieve. If we have something supportive to say then great -- if not we should bite our tongues. This site is founded on supporting each other and I would think that above all we should remember that. Thank you for understanding .

I'm sorry..
I hope you heal quickly..

good bye.

Well said, as always.

capt ewok, being supportive is one thing...reinforcing comments about 9mil. guns is another....it is a tov...

HA I wish you the best in your new beginning and am sorry for what you are dealing with now.

babybunny, I am so sorry that after your long wait it has come to this. It really saddens me. I am glad you are sticking
around the VJ family.

Wishing you the very best

I did not see all the comments made (I admit that I am just getting up to speed). If anything was said that was way over the line PM me a link to the topic and the post #. I guess my post above is just "in general" and wanting people to remember the spirit of the site.

In general, I think that supporting each other in the good and bad times is a key value of the site .

I tend to lurk here unless I've got anything useful to say.

I think the nature of the VJ community is that we're a lot of people under a LOT of pressure.

I said in previous posts that frustration with long distance relationships, and the fact that our futures seeming so fragile in the hands of US immigration, mean that anger sometimes boils over.

I don't think that there's any excuse for going out of your way to make someone else feel bad. Yeah HA can be a little outspoken. But as we're the only bunch of people who actually have any idea of the pressures involved in this process (hardly a day goes past at work without me wanting to tell someone that they in no way understand the situation I'm in and to shut their cake hole) we should instead go out of our way to be supportive to each other.

That is why this place exists.

On a slightly lighter note, if you've got anger... go here: http://www.khaaan.com

Edit: I'm not trying to say that I understand what HA is feeling in her situation. I'm talking about visa situations. Sorry for any confusion.

H_A, I wish you the best as you come home to start a new life.

Shon, I'm really sorry to hear about your husband asking for a divorce after all the difficulties that you've had to go through just to have a life together. Thank you for staying in VJ and lending others your support and sharing your experiences.

I wish you all the best

Wishing you a safe journey back to America. So sorry for all you have to go through. I wish you the best.

I didn't get the chance to say this in the original thread, but I am so sorry to read what happened to you I hope you have a safe trip to Texas and find the happiness you deserve there

Good luck H_A

Good luck to you HA, safe travels