QUOTE(groomit @ Mar 29 2006, 08:10 AM)
QUOTE(AussieAmerican @ Mar 29 2006, 02:52 AM)
Immigration with kids can be even harder as you have come to realise. But don't lose hope! How does your daughter feel? I.E have you asked her what living arrangements she would like? Just make sure she knows that it's because so many people love her and want her in their lives
Try to reach a formal agreement with your ex, if not take it to court. Court is ugly and expensive, so if you can come to a compromise beforehand - definitely go that route. I'm stuck at the mercy of the Court right now and its horrid. Although I am confident I will win at trial, it's the mere fact that he is keeping my husband and I apart..and my ex is enjoying it. Although we've never had shared parenting and he has never supported our daughter in any means, he still has the right to drag me through the courts. Oh, and being self-represented makes it oh so much better NOT!!
Good luck mate!
Yeah, i already talked to my daughter about the fact that i may move later this year to US and what arrangement she would like.
She until now answers she doesn't want to follow me over there because of reasons i can well understand (new country, new language, none friend...etc). Beside her own reasons, i'm also not sure about how my life over there will be (job for ex) and I will be dependant for months at least in the best case.
Concerning my ex, she also said she would not allow me to get our daughter over there...By the way, she hasn't paid any contribution since last november 2005 and she's asking court to surppress her financial support.
I haven't complained yet...
In that case, could it be possible to cancel sponsoring my daughter while I-130 is processing ? I'm kinda sure that this situation will delay any approval...
Groomit
Hmmm.. Does France have a Visa Waiver Program with the US? My thoughts would be to DCF just yourself while you get yourself a job and settled in the US. Then have your daughter come in the school holidays for short stays until she gets a little older, and makes a more permanent choice. That way she isn't missing out on both her parents. Your daughter is lucky she has two loving parents who are able and wanting to care for her. My ex does not want custody nor can he provide it, he just wants to stop me from taking my daughter to live in the US for 2.5 years. He also has not ever paid support for her ever, yet he can afford a lawyer?!?!
You have to laugh at how crazy laws are sometimes
Anyways, as for the I-130, have you yet filed that for your daughter or not? I'm not sure of the time limit for completing the process once you file, if any? We just filed and paid for all 3 of ours and had our interview a couple of weeks ago, now pending a court order, or a consent order or a death certificate of my ex. I think the court order is our only chance there! If you haven't yet filed it, I'd hold off for a while. We only lodged ours because we know we will win in the end, as it's in the best interests of the children and what they want too.
Best of luck with your situation, just keep reminding your daughter of other ways you can stay in touch thanks to technology
She just needs to know that you are there for her.
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