Ok well I guess I an the early bird well really I am the late bird cos I haven't been to sleep yet. Hope everyone has a wonderful day.

Life is too short to hold on to things that may keep us somewhere we don't wnat do be it is easier to let go of the past, stop living in the furture and live for today! Make it the greatest day of your life cos tomorrow it is gone!

hiya!
there is no early bird here, i'd have seen it!

Good Morning to everybody! Today is the last day of school for my kids!

good morning everyone! only have a few minutes to say hi. just sitting here at the local coffee shop waiting for time to pass by. now i have to get going or I am going to be late for work. Have a good day eveyone!

hiya long time no see.

i'm here.


News from people going through Egypt is really getting my hopes up. Looks like someone got an interview date that landed only 2 weeks after the pkt 3 was sent in and Dee said that DOS had the security checks done only 1 week after the interview so I'm really makin' big dua that Cairo is as quick as the other MENA countries now!!!!!!!!!!

That's great news about Cairo stepping things up. Sounds like they've done away with the movement cert. thing which was retarded and unnecessary in the first place. I hope those who have just had an interview or are waiting for one don't have to suffer like some of us did. That would be awesome.

I got a Iced caramel Latte this morning!!!!!!!

I'm by myself in the Office!!!!!!!!!!!

The weekend is almost HERE!!!!!!!!!

The weather is beautiful outside!!!!!!!!!


and just for kicks I am gonna email the Cairo Embassy to see what they say

Whoa, Nelly! Simma down, you crayzie gurl!!!!

hubby comes home today!! had to go to Niagara for a conference and I didnt get to go! we have an appraisal today so I get to find out what my lil house is actually worth! should be here in a 1/2 hour. Im pretty darn excited.

One hundred billion dollars!!!

good morning everyone, hope its a good day for all

sorry.. lol.. I think it's the triple espresso in my Latte

hey everyone!! im here......not doin much today, just laundry and dishes......and i swept the kitchen floor. i am gonna start getting my notebook of recipes going to waste some time. im really bored and i neeeeeeed to smoke, im goin nuts, its been weeks and im used to smoking everyday with Geo. i still want to smack him everytime he tells me he is when i call him. lol. yea so im a littttttle tinnnnnneyyyybit addicted, but i cant help it. ahhh well......life goes on.

goodluck to everyone with upcoming interviews...and to those waiting to get the passports back.

guess my paperwork is still being looked at in Saudi...no word on it so far...soo most likely we wont hear anything until Sat or Sunday at the earliest cause no one works much on Thur and Friday............i have to admit over and over im sick of waiting, ive become numb actually. this is our longest seperation to date and with our anni coming up and there is no way we will be together, i just am losing feeling in my body................i know i sit here and whine when you all, or most of you have endured way harder seperations, so i shouldnt be all down like this............sorry..............hugs to all no one should have to endure any type of seperation from their loved ones. its not fair

Whippee Tomorrow is my flex day so am looking forward to a nice, 3-day weekend

well think of it this way...at least you know there's an end in sight right? i mean is there a possibility that saudi would not let you in?

nope i dont have a criminal record.....but they are trying to get me an iqma and we arent sure my husband's profession is high enuf to get me residency.....so if it isnt we have to start the process again and he has to apply to get me a family visit visa........so yea i have to be patient.....i know.

today is good! had my last day at my job yesterday...busy trying to sell my furniture and get all loose ends tied up! so sad to leave NYC but i guess its time to move on!

awwww...hopefully this will be for the best and will end up working out better than if you had stayed.

well my latte ran out.. I'm not in the mood to be at my job anymore... and I keep on eatting Shrek Cheez-it's like their about to go outta style!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

get another one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If the latte werent $4.20 a pop.. I'd have 3 a day !

When I get out of bed at 8 am because I don't have to be to work until 9, I'm absolutely loving my new flex time. But when 5 pm rolls around and I've still got another hour left in the office, I hate it!!!!

doodle, what did u mean about cairo being fast? Can u please explain

Kristy

Well I just saw Jean's thread. How sad for her. He must have done something bad to not be able to see eachother for 3 years. I hope she comes to her senses... although seeing as the first thing she said is "any advice to leave Mohammed will not be taken", it doesn't look good for her. I think it's so sad that she still wants to be with him. She needs to learn that she doesn't NEED a man in her life to be complete, especially since she has children.

Oh well.

Happy Thursday

i just need to clarify since that topic was closed that i am NOT leaving my child FULL TIME once i get my visa. i am traveling to Saudi Arabia, i cant even TRAVEL there until i get my visa. i am fortunate enuf that my husband can afford to let me come back and forth often. I am living in both places, and my child is WELL taken care of, and understands EVERYTHING going on. So NO im not causing undue TRAUMA to my child, NOR did i ABORT him later in life

you wont chase me away. i will come back just because usually i find this place helpful and a place to escape, but i will be more choosey about my words.

Thanks to all of you that know me better and know that im not a dead beat mom.

What did I miss??? Was a thread deleted?

let's hope this does not resurface.

QUOTE(melly @ Jun 7 2007, 06:39 PM)

QUOTE(sarah and hicham @ Jun 7 2007, 06:09 PM)

Well I just saw Jean's thread. How sad for her. He must have done something bad to not be able to see eachother for 3 years. I hope she comes to her senses... although seeing as the first thing she said is "any advice to leave Mohammed will not be taken", it doesn't look good for her. I think it's so sad that she still wants to be with him. She needs to learn that she doesn't NEED a man in her life to be complete, especially since she has children.

Oh well.

Happy Thursday

What did I miss??? Was a thread deleted?

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=71977

QUOTE(jessNgeorges @ Jun 7 2007, 06:34 PM)

i just need to clarify since that topic was closed that i am NOT leaving my child FULL TIME once i get my visa. i am traveling to Saudi Arabia, i cant even TRAVEL there until i get my visa. i am fortunate enuf that my husband can afford to let me come back and forth often. I am living in both places, and my child is WELL taken care of, and understands EVERYTHING going on. So NO im not causing undue TRAUMA to my child, NOR did i ABORT him later in life

you wont chase me away. i will come back just because usually i find this place helpful and a place to escape, but i will be more choosey about my words.

Thanks to all of you that know me better and know that im not a dead beat mom.

Jess- I'm sorry but no matter how you try to put it I think a lot of people don't think it's that great to leave your small child while you are with your husband in another country. I feel bad for your son. Of course you're not going to think there's anything wrong with it because you have convinced yourself that he is ok while you're gone. You're making excuses for choosing a man over your child- or that's what it seems like. Clearly you miss George but is it worth it for you to leave your son without his mother for months at a time in order to be with a man?

I seriously think that some people need to examine how dependant they are on men. Sometimes family/children are more important.

sarah, that thread was locked. there is no point to giving that subject mouth to mouth in this thread unless you're trying to get it locked too.

this is the internet, i will not let someones opinions of me and my life bother me. i know myself. my family knows me. you all however DO NOT. like i said before, you wont 'scare' me away, i am stronger then that, but i will be choosey about what i say because i know now that EVERYTHING gets ripped apart and only bits and pieces thrown at you during a fight.

No one is trying to "scare" you. Why else would so many people say they think it's wrong unless it really seemed wrong? Maybe you should try taking what others say into consideration even if it's not what your heart wants to hear.

Agreed. Both of the threads being mentioned are locked, and for very good reason. If there is an issue, please take it to PM's. Let's move on gals! Thanks!

Happy Thursday

because i know my life. i am living it. i dont have to argue my points about that. he is in a stable environment right now, where he is happy and understanding of what is going on around him. he is doing excellent in school. why would i pull him out of a stable environment to drag him all over the place right now when im not settled down? when we are settled it will be a totally different story. parents leave there children in divorce all the time. fathers do it and you dont see them bashed nearly as much as when a mother needs to make a life for her and her child. but like i said, defending myself here is useless, im not getting anywhere with it, nor is anyone else telling me how worthless i appear to be.

Your reasoning is heinous.

Just because most of America is divorced doesn't make it ok for you to leave your child for a man. That doesn't make any sense.

Don't drag him out of school to go to Saudi Arabia- STAY HOME WITH HIM AND DON'T LEAVE HIM WITHOUT HIS MOTHER.

How do you know your son is ok? He's so young and I doubt that he has any understanding of why you are leaving him constantly. Like I said, you're convinving yourself that everything is ok so that you can leave your son with a clear conscience. Sad.

I know that certain people don't want this rehashed but seriously this is an issue that pertains to a LOT of women and men who have spouses in distant lands. Perhaps not as big of a deal for someone who's SO is in Canada or Mexico, or some other more commutable country but definitely for MENA.

Certainly a child should not be carted around from country to country but absolutely a responsibility lies with the parent to not leave in the first place. Why do people think there have been soooooo many heartbroken women on this board who miss their SO's so badly????? We chose not to go live with our loved ones because we have a first and foremost obligation to our children. There are VERY FEW cases where the father gets sole custody and that is for a reason, which is that 99% of the time it is in the best interest for the child to be with his/her mother up until a certain age. In some religions, Islam for example, it's actually written that if the parents get divorced the child should be with the mother up until a certain age.

I normally don't get into this stuff but these types of subject cut me in my gut. I do hope that someday, God willing, you can be a family again with your little boy but I cannot condone anyone leaving their child like that just to satisfy their own emotional/physical desires. You might think he's all stable now but trust me, these things rear their heads later on in life. Hopefully not in this case but I wouldn't want to gamble with my children's emotional well being just to satisfy my own needs.

Uh oh, we agreed again!

Very well said, and I agree completely. It's nice to hear that insight from a mother.

Oh dear.

Sarah do not hijack other threads on this. PM the member if you want. You may disagree but you really have no right to tell anyone else how to live their life or what decisions to make. You may disagree with what they do and you can tell them -- but once they tell you to stop please do.

I am not the only one who has said something to Jess. Why can't it be discussed here? It's a major part of family immigration. I'm not telling anyone what to do, I am sharing my opinion on the matter, like doodle and others have done.

You hijacked another thread. If you want to talk to them talk via PM. If you want to talk in General on issues fine but using them as an example and lecturing another member on what you think are bad decisions is borderline harassing.

Then I will assume that this message applies to others who have "lectured" her as well. Thanks.

Well, it CAN be discussed here. Discussion isn't what happened in the other thread, and it is escalating here (no doubt due to the other thread). People can be inquisitive and maybe learn something from each other, but not by the way the other thread went.


sorry! I see Ewok already responded to your post.

No one should harass other members despite how strongly you disagree. They have a right to make their family decisions and once they have asked not to be attacked for their decisions it is responsible to stop. I am sure that any parent would be quite offended for someone else to lecture them and tell them how to raise their kids.

Discussion is a healthy thing. Attacking and harassing is the thing that everyone needs to remember is bad and there is a difference.

ok so i will start a thread generally speaking in ot to see what other people in similar situations do. Who knows maybe some can learn some helpful tips on how to deal with this stuff. I definitely think it's a big pink elephant that no one normally wants to discuss...not anyone in specific but you gotta admit about 50% of the people on this board have children from a prior marriage/relationship.

Just do not single out people or post things in a way as to 'elude' to a 'certain person', etc.. Educated discussion is great. Discussion with the intent to poke fun or harass others is not.

I just have noticed that they are more speedy than normal. For example, in the past...quite recently in fact, it would take approx 2 to 3 months to get an interview scheduled after the pkt 3 was submitted. Someone on here just got theirs scheduled within 2 weeks of submitting it. Could be that the embassy showed mercy since the person lives in Sudan but I tend to doubt that since there have been other cases where mercy would have been a good thing and nada. lol.

Also, and not to get people's hopes up, Deemabrouk's hubby had his interview a week and a half ago I believe and his security checks are already completed with DOS. Granted..................Cairo could still sit on this for a good month or two resulting in the checks having to be repeated, as has happened with a few, but they have also hired some new people there so hopefully things will not take too long.

Bottom line, in the past from start to finish the process for Egyptian immigrants has averaged over a year and now it seems that it could be a lot less than that. I'm hopeful for the first time ever that my husband just might make it here before Christmas. lol.