QUOTE(bonsai @ May 17 2007, 10:21 PM)

Looks like the K-3 visa is the best option personnally. Going straight through on a visa waiver seems too risky although I still keep seeing lawyers claiming it as a way of staying in the US after marrige. Am trying to get as much information with regards to processing times, but how did everyone else manage the weeks or months apart? If I go back and forth to the US under the visa waiver program does anyone know if the allowed 90 days covers the entire year or just that one entry i.e. can I stay in the US for up to 90 days, leave and then come back for a further 90 days? assuming I could afford to stay unemployed for that length of time.
I agree that going through the VWP in your case and then adjusting is too risky. For me personally, I wouldn't do it even if I knew I wouldn't get caught because I'm a stickler for doing things right.
You can enter under the VWP repeatedly without a certain time period in between, but each time you enter it's up to the discretion of the immigration official. I would think that as long as you're traveling all the way back home each time and continually providing proof of your ties to your home country and proof you don't need to work, you should be okay. A mortage/lease agreement, return ticket dated less than 90 days out, and for extra padding maybe even a letter from someone in your family who depends on you for some type of support (if that's the case).
In case you didn't know, it's okay to travel under the VWP, get married in the US, and then return home again. Bring all your proof of ties to your home country and make the return ticket for way less than the full 90 days and you'll be good to go.