QUOTE(Lennys26 @ May 18 2007, 05:30 AM)

Thanks all for you input (some being more aggressive than others). As always in VJ, I appreciate the assistance and opinions.
In reading the replies, I have a few comments/corrections/references...
For clarity, as family members of European Citizens we do, in fact, have the right to reside in any member state - This was clearly defined/re-defined in the European Parliament and Council Directive 2004/38/EC (which updated and clarified EEC Regulation 1612/68). Also related, is the Right of Free Movement (otherwise termed by Candace as the right to
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). These directives also clearly provide for permission to work.
Nobody is doubting that. However, since your wife isn't present in the UK and you're on a tourist visa, I think you'll have a difficult time persuading someone to give you a job or allow you to use certain benefits. You don't have the proper paperwork. End of.
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Granted, as Alex+R said, any movement between countries often requires dealing with bureaucracy and its related paperwork, of which we are all familiar, however none of it is impossible nor should make us throw in the towel.
And this is paperwork you should have had on you when you entered the UK.
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I'm not sure where this information is coming from, but my wife, once she has her Green Card can leave the USA for up to, and more than a year without losing her residency (although I would not recommend it).
The green card is for US residents. She can go abroad temporarily, but if you're counting on staying in the UK for several years I would assume she will have problems re-entering the US. She may require a re-entry permit, which could be denied. Then what would you do?
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At the end of the day, for those in a similar position of being a globehopping American expat, of which, based on my support, there are few, we are left in unusual situation. My work requires my international travel. I am surprised to see so many people who attack my questions, and presumably would have me change my line of work so I could better fit in to the system, rather than try to work to resolve the obstacles.
To be fair, Lenny, you came to the UK without seeking the proper paperwork in advance, so that was a mistake. You just assumed that since you were married to an EU citizen but not a UK citizen, you could just come to the UK as a tourist but stay as long as you liked even though your wife is not present in the UK.
Then you said 'not to sound snotty', which was incredibly snotty and obviously set off more than one person, whilst making a thoroughly incorrect assumption.
Have you taken anyone's advice here and called the Border and Immigration Agency, or are you still assuming that the UK is going to be totally fine with you settling here as a tourist and her in the USA adjusting her status? I'd be interested to hear what they tell you.