QUOTE(Mephibosheth @ May 16 2007, 06:32 PM)

plus I've had difficulty finding a job (still don't have one) and really wouldn't know what we'd be doing here
Mwhaha, that is what it boiled down to for us too. As soon as my husband finally finishes his BSc in September or October, he would be 93% SOL for a job in Germany. We were playing with the idea of going to other EU countries also, but just finally decided on going back to the US where at least I could work and his chances of finding work would be much improved.
I returned to the US early in the visa process because I just didn't think 'perpetually unemployed' on the I-864 was the best thing to slap down, even with a co-sponsor. Not required, blah, blah, blah, but I just feel better saying I am doing something than that I am not. We also decided that both of us would have to be making money to really afford the whole process (Not just the visa. Immigrating in general and starting your life all over again is not the cheapest thing to do.) and that just wasn't going to happen in Germany.
I had to come back to Indiana because of my family, but it is not really where I want to be my whole life and I am terrified of getting stuck here. We are giving very serious thought to moving to maybe Rochester, NY or Ithaca, NY sometime next Spring. I don't have any family there so we will have to bring enough clams to get started there on our own. It was another deciding factor in me coming back early.
It sucks now to be apart, but time is ticking away quite nicely. Besides, it really is different to be apart now compared as it was at the beginning of our relationship to be apart, easier. Hard to explain. Anyway, we're hoping to get some confirmation from the IV section soon that they have our I-130 soon so we can fax off the checklist. I am hoping to have that and the visa application out by June 1st and have the medical and interview sometime in mid to late July. He is still staying until he finishes everything for school though, so probably until early September at the earliest. We just wanted to have all of this visa crap out of the way before he graduates so he could get here as soon as he graduates.
Our tentative plan is for me to pull our daughter out of daycare when he gets here and he spends about two months getting reaquainted with her and getting used to how life here in the US works. It's hard to move to another place away from everything you took for granted. He's been here before, but vacation is not the same as actually living here day in and day out. After that, he'll start looking for work, etc.
My husband said his last name was too common and he didn't want to create more of them, so neither I or my daughter have it. He is actually playing with the idea of taking my name and occasionally does for non-official things.

Well anyway, I apologize for being nosy.