Jahan and i usually connect first thing in the morning by basic yahoo messenger. Starting the day with loads of love.Then by the end of the day he calls me at my second job. And later after i get home he calls me once more so we can say our goodnights to each other.

He calls me first thing at my am and we chat for few minutes. Then I sms him all the morning until we chat on yahoo for one hour. Then a few more sms messages to him before his bedtime. I then call him and we chat before he goes to bed. This is our daily routine. And evey morning when I get my email he has sent me a card plus sometimes he calls me at my goodnight time.

it's a big time difference to Korea...talk on the phone when I'm getting up and he's going to bed, and when I'm going to bed and he's getting up....or sometimes when it's the middle of the night here and he's at work....we don't really time for IM because we both work so much...e-mail several times a week, that's usually to explain important stuff like immigration procedures - we use his language for that so he's sure to understand. I have learned a lot of it by necessity.

Weekdays it's 3 times a day.

Call in the morning (my morning). Chat at work (since gmail has this neat chat function; before that we sent emails). Then emails in our respective evenings.

We almost always make time to talk every day, even if it's only for a few minutes. We usually talk on the phone or use AIM, particularly if we want to send songs or pictures to each other. I like to use AIM rather than e-mail for that, since you can talk while it's sending and then share the pictures/songs together. We also e-mail each other funny or useful links to websites, news articles, eBay items...whatever.

I could probably count the days on which we haven't talked at all on one hand. Usually we can get in 10 or 15 minutes of conversation, no matter how busy we are.

We're together now, but for this question I'll go back to when we were not.

Phone, once a day. Sometimes twice/thrice but that was only when there was a pressing need to.

We usually text once a day-I call him when I can(more than I should). Lately it has been all "business", getting things in order for his interview. He had to remind me to say "hello" every once in a while, instead of just talking about the immigration crap.


Can't wait to see him in a few weeks

When we were apart he called me twice a day every day - in the evening when he got home from work and it was morning for me we'd talk for an hour, and then he'd get up at 5am to give me a thirty minute call at night time when I was getting ready for bed... in between times we talked on ICQ and IRC.

We email a couple times a day....chat every evening...sometimes we talk on the phone. I'd rather it be face to face

Khallid and I talk 5-6 times a day. A total of 30 minutes all together. We also do the text messaging during the day. I can't wait till he's here....I'll save a fortune!

Wish i could click more than one option..
We start the day.. my day his evening.. first with a sms of good morning love... . Im heading online so wake up and meet me there..
we then spend about 45min to hour online.. at least I can look in his eyes.. and see how tired he is. or what he is feeling.. facial gestures tell quite abit. then I head to work.. and I call him about 930am. it is now 11pm his time.. and we talk 10-30 minutes.. .. I get to tuck him in.. .. .. my day with work.. ends.. I head home just in time to send him his wake up sms.. off to the internet cafe just before he gets to the office.. for a small 30 minute chat.. then when i am in bed cozying up to my pillow.. I give him a call to say my goodnight.. .. perfect way to end my day....

Many times we use msn for chatting and then use Yahoo for running the cam. seems the system likes to shut down if he uses the cam and chat in msn at the same time so we just run it on both. ..

Since my return home following my trip to India.. we have not done as many emails... seems just not as personal.. however.. a surprise FAX waiting for me at the office on my birthday and Valentines day was ohhh sooo specialll

Me and Keigwyn talk every evening after i get home from work and done taking care of things...sometimes in the mornin for a sec to...

Shannon, I know exactly what you mean, it is hard when your love is on the other side of the world, and when you are waking up he is going to bed and when he is going to bed you are waking up. We chat some during the day on yahoo while I am at work, but my boss doesn't seem to like that too much...lol. We get to talk on the phone on the weekends, and voice chat on the weekends more, but during the week it is very hard to communicate other than Email..but at least we have that option. What would we do without the Internet, I think we would all Die!!!!! LOL

Hello all
Iam new to this but My heart is in ethoipia and i talk to her every day.
her time is 8hr ahead of mine so i know the getting up and going to bed differnce.
It is hard when your heart is 7000 miles away. But as we all know that all of us will have our hearts close to us soon.

I know exactly what u mean. Jahan is amazed when altho he does his best while on the cam from letting me see how tired he is from a day of work or the 5 hr difference and waiting for me to come home so we can connect again.( i can see more than he realizes. )



From what ive read of everyone on here, i dont think "basic" close relationships are as deep or as intense as VJers are. We have to strive toward the goal of bringing our spouses home. Its more thought about, so much planning and effort, the agony of depression and feelings of lonliness no matter how many calls and contacts are made. The stress of waiting day after day for each process to complete.....



Even now..Jahan is so wonderful. He knows me too well also. He will be going to go see family before coming home. Im so happy for him, yet he knows i will be so sad from less contacts than the usual. Dont know how i will make it through .

we communicate at least one time per day.

We're together now, but back then we emailed each other once every few days and talked maybe twice a month. We had lives you know...and communication excluding email was expensive.

We do emails back and forth at work all day. Usually well over 3 calls a day. Some days on the weekend it is 10 calls. He calls for cooking advice a lot! lol
Our new system is he calls and rings twice then I call back, I have unlimited Canada/US calls for $30 a month.

Luz and I are in almost constant communication. I work midnights so the 13 hour time difference works out perfect. She wakes me up by buzzing me on Yahoo messenger. We chat with video/mics for 3 hours before I go to work. We sms each other all night long and usually call each other at least once each day. When I get home we Yahoo chat for another 3-4 hours before bed. I just bought her a Vonage VoIP. When she gets that we can talk on the phone unlimited!! It will be cool for her to have a local number!

I voted for 'phone' since Skype wasn't one of the options.

We always talk once a day for a few hours at night, but sometimes he'll hop online or on the phone and give me a shout before he goes to work, too.

On the days he works... morning greetings (though not morning for him, he's 6 hours ahead) with a few text messages. A phone call while he's on lunch break if I'm up, or while work is slow. If he's free at work but can't call we chat through messages on 2 online sim games that we play. A call from his cell when he leaves work. Phone and/or MSN conversations (with webcam) when he gets home off and on throughout the day depending on what we're doing. And then we fall asleep on the phone together. We use e-mail sparingly too.

I couldn't figure out how to vote because of that.

Me and Kelly used to speak a lot before i came to the US...
As i was working till 2 am of the morning we used to talk after than i was done from work...
At the week end we used to talk a lot like 2 times on the sunday... and some times more.
During the weekit was once everyday...
Weboth weren t so happy when we got phone bills.
Now that we are together we are speaking twice a day...during themorningbreakand lunch break.

He's here now so we talk all the time but before he arrived, we texted and chatted on AIM mostly, couple times a day plus phone once a week.

I usually text him when I get to work so he knows I'm safe and sound and we talk once or twice during the day and then usually on the phone from the time I'm done with dinner till the time I go to bed... Thank god for voipstunt (skype alternative)...

www.voipstunt.com if anyones interested

Cari

I talk to him all day. When i wake up i message him and when he wake up he messages me and while we are working and LOOOTS OF BILLS.. AUHAUAH
When i get home until i sleep i talk to him on msn, skype and before go to bed, i message him saying goodnight and i wait for him to message me before i sleep.

We talk a lot.

Now we are 2 hours different, im in front of him, but we were 4 hours different..
=(

It's so haard

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Talk on phone at least twice a day, sometimes 3, and e-mail everyday. Occasionally, we will chat in my am and get on web cam so we can see each other!

I wish the poll had the option of all the above, I ring Niall as soon as I wake, we also chat with Yahoo, email from work and the occasional text! There is nothing I love more than being able to say goodnight to my husband.....if only we could say it in person!

We talk over web cam and the phone when I am on my way to work.. I let her watch me sleep on the cam and she lets me watch her sleeping when I am not at work (weekend)

There are days that we talk 14 hours straight lol, like on weekends. We take naps together (watching wach other on cam) we eat together (watching each other on cam), we talk mosty on yim, sometimes on msn, when he's at work we talk throught e-mail, at home we play yahoo games, well we basically gave up on our social lives since we've been together to stay home talking to each other. And i love every minute i spend talking to him. Oh, and we also talk on the phone and using voice programs like skype and yim voice.

God you all are so lucky! Jim and I only talk once or twice a week............He never sends e mails or pm's me on the messenger...........Used to be different before I was in Oregon with him in February.Now he thinks everythings said and there's no need to talk to each other all the time.Makes me sad and we're actually having a fight about it right now.

I usually call her once in the morning and once in the afternoon. She isn't working now and gets bored!

we had huge phone bills!

i'll be glad when those are over!!!

I work a second job JUST to pay my phone bills which are-on average-$300 a month. They have been $600-$800 a month in the past. Verizon wireless has a new plan that only charges me 20 cents a minute.


we also text A LOT!!!! I try to not call him everyday-but I am weak


Can't wait for those phone bills to disappear

cari and i talk each and every day,we can spend hours on the phone and cam,it hepls us both get through the distance in our lives,without calling cards and skype it would be extremly hard to stay as connected as we are anyone who needs to call america can do so from a site called topuptotalk http://www.topuptotalk.tk/
for 1.7 pence per minute it certainly helps us they cahrge 5 pence to connect you to a usa landline number or a usa cellphone,if like me you want to use the obseen amount of free mins you get with your mobile (i get 3000 off peak mins) they charge 10 pence to conect you

we talk on the phone every working day & chat all day long on weekends, I also txt her on working days

6 hour time difference:

I sms when I wake up and check email - he sends one when he wakes up so I have one waiting...usually
Usually talk in the mornng via phone for 30 mins or so
sms during the day when we're REALLY lonely or have something to share or trying to coordinate next time to speak
Skype in the afternoon (his bedtime)
I email when I go to bed so he has something to wake up to

Sometimes our respective wireless routers cause prob with Skype, so if it's important, we use the phone.

The most basic answer to the question is "Not enough."

Contact options: ALL OF THE ABOVE...How often? More than 3x's a day!

all of the above and much more than 3x.... couldn't stand it otherwise....

2 times a day on the phone.
we dont chat and e mail like we used to.

between the phone and the internet like 3 times a day

We talk once a day for 30 - 60 minutes, depending on the calling card, but we also frequently sms each other during the day, so we're in contact with each other about 3 - 4 times a day