ok.. the question is
is it ok to look at other women/men ?


actually it is more to see if I managed to make this poll thing work.. (it is the fifth time that I try in 2 years )

I don't give a rat's azz if my hubby looks at other women. I'm secure enough in my relationship to not feel threatened by it.

I've never seen my husband checking someone out; he would just never do that.

How does one tell if you're just looking at a person or "checking them out" anyway? So I'm not gonna waste any effort worrying about it. If this were an issue, I could only imagine it getting ugly - "I wasn't checking him/her out!" "Yes you were, I could tell because you lingered 1 second too long on his/her boobs/package!"

I guess maybe if it were an issue for us, i would know about it!

We check out people together (both girls and guys), and rate them on a 10 point scale.

So what's your answer, Liszy?

It's not a problem for me. I think it's only natural to check out attractive people, it's human nature. Looking at other women doesn't make him love me less or be less attracted to me. I'd be very suspicious if I was with someone who didn't do such. Of course there's a limit, he won't be looking at a woman, flirting or in a way she'll notice he's checking her out.

When he looks at other women

just kidding it used to be that way. But now I usually try to blow it off, becuase I look too.

lol Nessa.. my answer is.. I don't give a rat azz He has eyes to look

It's all good.

A quick glance is ok but not staring, By respect to your partner it's not nice to check someone out while you are with her, she should get your undivided attention. Guys check out my wife at time but it doesn't bother me, my mother use to say

Guys are always going to look, If your Girlfriend is cute, pretty of course people will look, If they don't check her out something must be wrong! just keep in mind she's coming home with you.

I don't look at them. Not worth my time.

Depends on what you are looking at ... i glance when i see something good...but not stare. lol

not only does my fiance not look, he looks down when women go by... not by my doing. he just does it.

if he did look, and made it obvious, i'd be annoyed. its not that difficult to check someone out without your SO noticing!

It's human nature!

Don't ogle someone in front of me, as I wouldn't do to him....but other than that, it's human nature.

I feel the same way!

Me too. Besides, even if it did bother me, I wouldn't say anything. The more you nag, the more they will want to look-- like the forbidden fruit.

I don't mind if he checks out other women as long as he's not gawking at them. I look, too. I think it's normal to check ppl out. I check out other women if I like their hair or outfit or whatever. I check out other men but I don't stare or gawk. What's the big deal in just looking?

LOL Dan and I sometimes do that