Don't remove your signature if you don't want to. I completely understand what you're saying. I too dont' talk to Javon often not b/c I don't want to but because I refuse to pay that kind of money on phone bills. I work to hard to spend my paychecks on phone and create debt that I can't managed. I'm very frugal and may seem cheap to others but some things I just won't do b/c at the end of the day you can only do what you can handle. I love talking to my husband but what's the point if I can't afford it? Don't make anyone tell you otherwise.

She mussi sick inna har head, if she did wah collect a di airport, she should sen fi him HARSELF!!!

I would firmly but politely just say to her that you haven't seen your HUSBAND for some time now and you've made plans for that evening, why doesn't she come and visit the NEXT day.....

Oh, show him likkle mercy!!

Maybe thats what I'm thinking of..adults...

Him reach yet??!!!!

No..u tink mi woulda deh on he gets in about 8

Don't know why I thought he was coming in at 3 . I was wondering why you were online because I didn't think we would see you on here for a while

I'll be on..but not tongight and tomorrow....affi do some ketching up

That is wonderful news....please keep us posted.

Thanks again for the school info. When Damien questioned my "daughter" about school in JA and they got disconnected, again. Now she's not answering the phone. It's too bad because my family wants to help her finish her education.

Congrats Kimmy!! Have fun tonight

Rhonda all the best with finding a house. At least your house is sold in this slow market. When I sold my first house I was on the other side. I bought my second house before mine was sold. It all worked out though and was only homeless for a day. It will all work out. All the best

One is fine. They didn't even look at that stuff for us.

Hate to be the bearer of bad news....

Hello everyone, i need your help and suggestions-

I never thought this could be happening to me, I filed for my husband and our relationship was declining but we continued to "work on it" now when it was time to go about everything, my husband became hesitant to come to america. I couldn't understand why, he didn't have any money or job and his living wasn't so great so i thought it would be a good idea for him to come and atleast visit for a few months.

That was 2.5 months ago, my husband during his visit was lazy, quiet and mean. He was nice at times but our relationship was mostly strained by his constant complaints. He didn't really like it here.. He used my phone to call his girlfriend down in jamaica constantly, i could tell it was a woman by the way he reacted to my questions and the way the person responded when i called the numbers. He has ran up all my bills to the point where i cannot pay them. Anyway, it was a nightmare, i talked to his family and they told me to leave him. So anyway, he has left and gone back a yard, leaving me with no money or anything, he told me he was coming back. He called me once to tell me he landed and never after that. I called him and I told him i felt that he didn't care about me and that i didn't want him to return after leaving me this way and he was so detached and he said "didn't i try to make u see that?" so he asked me what did i want to do because he didn't feel the same way about me anymore and i said nothing and then he said "move on, cam" and he said he would call me back later (i guess he was so happy to be back with his girlfriend) i said "why bother" and hung up.

I feel relieved that he is gone from my life, i should have gotten rid of him a long time ago but i was trying to honor the sanctity of marriage. I tried to do anything to keep my husband but he wasn't giving anything in return. Now he has recieved his conditional green card, but he's not in the country and i dont want him to be able to come back, naturally. I know this time next year i will be alright but right now i feel bad.. I'm 23 years old, divorced used and abandoned. I was just acting on my my youth and now i'm thrown away.

I would like to have his visa revoked so that he cannot come back, but i was told this was not possible until 2 years from now. I know that he will regret what he has done because it's not really in his nature to be so cold (or so it seems), I know he doesnt like atlanta but i believe he will try to come back later. He has a job in jamaica and he worke a small job here off the books, I know he can lose his gc if he does not pay taxes, so maybe that's one way.

I need your help.
thanks
cam.....johnson

So sorry to hear that Cam

I don't think there is anything you can do about keeping him from coming to the country. You can file for divorce (I am assuming you haven't) if that is what you want to do and then notify USCIS/NVC that you are no longer together. They can't revoke a visa (unless maybe you think it was fraudulent) so he could come and go til his visa expires. If he stayed in the US and his visa expired he would be here illegally but even then I doubt you could enforce anything to make him go back.

I am sorry that you have to go through this. From experience I know it sucks...big time but with time it shall pass. The hurt will hurt less and less each day. I am also 23 so I can understand what you feel about "acting on your youth"...I did the same.

Stay strong and if you ever need anything don't hesitate to PM me

Jamie

Ditto. ((((((Hugs to you))))))). Take care of yourself.

Cam,

Please be aware that you're still liable to support him per the I-864 for 10 years or 40 quarters of work even if you divorce. So if he chooses to come back to the US or stay here and can't support himself, you're liable. When you get a chance please read up on the rules of the I-864 just so you are aware of all the conditions and rules associated with it...as well as what is and isn't covered. I haven't heard of too many cases where they have made the USC pay for debt incurred by the beneficiary but it is better to be informed...cause you never know.

Jamie

I agree w/Jax. If the major decision break is the speed then I would go for the K1 but if you're looking into the better visa then the CR-1 would be the one. I looked into both options and eventually changed my mind to the CR-1. I do miss Javon and wish everyday he was here but I actually looked into the added benefits and cost for the CR-1, I figured it was the best way for us. I wanted him to be able to arrive and not worry about any other ppwrk for a while. It would be to hard for him to adj to the changes plus more immigration ppwrk. Javon is a VERY proud man (Virgo) and for him to just sit for months waiting on a work permit wouldn't be nice, TRUST ME!!!! This way when he arrives we can spend more time on your us w/o the extra red tape. Just my opinion.

Anna

((((Hugs))))
So sorry to hear about that. You are in my thoughts and prayers!

Sorry to hear about your experience Cam. But based on what you told me I doubt he is smart enough to know he has to file to remove conditions in two years. So I wouldn't worry about trying to get his visa taken away. Plus karma is ab!tch he with get what is coming to him without you directly doing it.

The faster you file for divorce and forget about him the faster you can move on and find the real Mr. Right. Hang in there.

True...and even if he does remember that he needs to file to remove conditions, he will have to prove that he had a bonafide marriage. His chances of coming up with enough proof are slim at best. He has barely been in the country 2 months so I highly doubt he could convince a CO to remove the conditions of his GC. Don't sweat that part.


Take care of yourself and don't worry about him right now

Hey everyone!! It certainly has been a while since I have been up here so it seems like I have ALOT of catching up 2 do...Anyway, I just wanted to let everyone know that my time in Jamaica was WONDERFUL (except for the heat rash that I managed to get during my stay down there! ) As most of you know I was down there for a little over a month...I just want to tell you that my fiance and I really needed that time...it really reinforced our belief that this marriage and relationship was truly what we both wanted...and that we would work hard despite the obstacles that have been beset before us, to encourage one another through the next couple of years until we r able to file again...I'm happy to report that we only had 1 major fight that occured right at the end of my stay which resulted in me locking him out of his house for 10 minutes, and then him pouting on the floor (he refused to get in the bed right off) for about 20 minutes later! We got the tuxedos picked out for the wedding and pretty much have everything else in order...When I got back I literally moved the next day from Maryland back down to NC...I originally thought I had a job lined up, but when I got here and tried contacting the director that I spoke to, I couldn't get in contact with him...so for the last 2 weeks I have been sending out resumes and out on interviews...also when I got back to NC I found out that my mother has breast cancer. She had a lumpectomy?, and right now we're just waiting on what they're going to do next...so needless to say, the last couple of weeks have been really hectic...but I must say that I am glad to be back up here...I haven't really read up much on what's been going on here, but I will...Until then, good luck for everyone trying, and I'm sorry for those of you that have run into issues...Talk to you later.

I agree. I don't know what you can do but make you report it. He won't be able to lift conditions. Do you feel like he used you? If you I would report that as well just to cover yourself esp since you sign the I-864 (which holds you responsible for him for 10 yrs).

Sorry this is happening to you.

Good to you see you. Sorry to hear about your mother...I'll keep her in my prayers When is your wedding again?

I couldn't agree with you anymore. Don't focus so much on revenge but more on how you will rebuild and become a stronger woman. God will take care of both you and him. Therefore he will get his. This is why awareness about this topic is essential in this forum. It is important that we continue to communicate, give advice, and help each other out.

oh girl....i didn't have a child while going through this process....but i so understand what you are going through.....you have the right idea....don't take his calls unless like what empress said...he is at the airport and needs to be picked up....

So sorry to hear about your mom. When my stepmom was diagnosed with breast cancer all the information that we found on treatment and the support group that we joined helped us to handle her illness. We were all very active in her treatment and I think it helped us a lot. You will be in my prayers and know that it's important that not only your mom has the support, but your entire family as it affects you all.

Sorry to hear about this. Take care of yourself. Like others said there is nothing you can really do to take his visa away. The support thing is also true for 10 years unless you had some form of a prenuptial agreement used. Hug and remember that you still have a lot of life ahead of yourself.

Thank you all... all these things is true, i really do think he will be too lazy to do anything to help himself in anyway.. I have learned a valuable lesson, beyond anything i could imagine. I told my mother, from this experience i have learned what i would've learned in a atleast 5 different relationships.. I've realized i didn't really love him anymore, i just grew comfortable with him after the years of waiting and things. and i understand that there's nothing to do but move on as he has. I can't afford a divorce right now because of my predicament, so i'm just spending the time getting myself back to myself and remembering to always love myself more than a man, which i didn't at times in my relationship. I know i didn't do anything wrong to him, only to myself and that's the truth and i think that's the only reason why my stomach hurts so much." My friends are taking me out for a "coming out" party and i'm getting back in shape, cuz I'm Back on the Market Baby! I am a jamaican american woman and i'm praying that he doesn' t taint me from men of my culture, but i know the next time i'm back a yard, a guy comes over mi granny's house, i'll just low him... lol..

as for the other woman who is having trouble getting her man on the plane, i'd be wary, cuz Rahan was the same way before too. cuz ain't no seafood festival that important.

I think u misunderstood, he's not getting on the plane because he wants to go to a seafood festival. he wants to put a taxi on the road before he leaves JA. so he has an independent income when he comes up and he can support his kids in JA and help out up here and help us save money for a bigger house. I don't fault him for wanting to do this, its the timing i'm upset about. I feel that this should have been done earlier this year so when he got the visa he would be all set to come up.

Hey Marie, nice to see you on here. I too haven't been around much, but I've been checkin in lately. There are way too many pages for me to catch up on so I just said skip it.

I too am applying for the CR1 visa like Anna and Bel. I pretty much have the same thinking as they did regarding it being a better visa overall, and cheaper. In the beginning we contemplated which visa to do, and the K1 sounded like it would give us more of a headache in the long run. My fiance is adamant about being able to provide for me, so he wanted a visa where he wouldnt have to wait for work too long. He also didnt want to uproot himself and all that he knows if we were'nt fully committed yet.

One suggestion I would say is, if you are planning on getting married, do it in Jamaica as soon as you can in a civil ceremony with a JOP and then you can begin the paperwork right after. We made the mistake of waiting 5 months to plan a wedding in Jamaica before applying. Had we thought this out a bit more we would have had a civil ceremony and not tell anyone, then apply for the CR1 and have the wedding for the family later. So I could've been 5 months into the visa process right now instead of not even started.

When I bought my house it was one of the most stressful things if not THE MOST stressful ordeals I had to undergo. I do love it now though. Although I have never been known to stay in one place for too long, so now my house is annoying me cause its not as interchangeable as an apartment. Plus I probably would be living in Jamaica right now if I didnt have this mortgage payment every month.

Well said. He needs to be here - NO excuses.

I think the point of the initial post was that some of the rest of us are crazed and felt the need to call their S/O's more. No one was "telling" her anything at all about her relationship.

Maybe he wouldn't be able to come up with the $$$ to fly back to the US anyhow. If that is the case, just wait out the 2 years.

So, sorry.

Ok spoke to hubby this morning, he took a mechanic to look at a car yesterday and is on his way to the bank now. He says by the end of next week he will be here. I feel better now that he has found something.

thanks for the advice and support ladies

I am going nuts waiting to hear something from Mydestinyawaits! Anyone heard from her?

On another note: thanks JG and everyone, for validating the comments made regarding my earlier post about my siggy etc.

Ok, I am off to call Marlon!

Yes I know. Wasn't she supposed to text you to let you know wzup. I guess its still early though I'm waiting for her response as well. I hope everything went well.

Relax and take a deep breath. Trust me its hard to do but don't stress out and make yourseld sick. You will be okay and if you are part of the yardie group you guys will pass for sure! Marlon will soon be here and then your life will dramatically change. Take Care, Sarah!!

It would be nice to hear the good news from MyDestineyAwaits.

I spoke to Marlon today and found out the Registrar General's office in Spanish Town has been hassling him about his no impediment form. He ordered and paid for it on June 18! I guess he was arguing with them last week as he paid the extra fee for expedited service and is yet to receive it! He is going back today. I have emailed and emailed to no avail!

I don't understand why it takes so long. It's not like everyone is even requesting that certificate.

I know

wow, I'm so sorry to hear this:( . the interview is a week from today. I'll definitely pray he gets it before Friday ((hug))

sometimes Jamaica can be so slow. I ordered my husbands birth certificate in August of last year and I didnt bother to pay for the express service because I know we didn't need it asap. He didn't get it until november

but your situation is more serious don't know if he can call and speak to a supervisor or manager because expedited service mean expedite!

not to mention I emailed them every two weeks. I NEVER got a response!

She is probably like me. I wasn't around internet for a few days. They are probably celebrating

I miss those singing ladies to. My professor and I would always go and dance and sing with them to get us in the mood to teach music. It was so much fun. How I really miss those days young and foolish and full of adventure. The new wing is great better selection to get some grub before you board the plane now.


In the Kingston airport I don't remember them asking for anything but our ID's in May. I just remember Kingston airport is small and no waiting lines.

Check the wait time for POE:


http://www.cbp.gov/xp/cgov/travel/wait_times/

That's interesting. Thank you!

Yes, very useful wish I had that link BEFORE I came lol!

Wonder why Phoenix Sky Harbor is not on that website?

On another note, Marlon tried to go the the RGO but it was closed early today due to being nomination day?!?!

He said he will try again tomorrow. He told me that of he does not get it by tomorrow that I should email the embassy and let them know?

I say he should go to the interview and show them his reciept and let them know that the situation is OUT OF OUR HANDS! WTF? What should we do??????

I hope all is well with MyDestiny.

Very neat !!


Sorry to hear that Sarah I will keep routing for you guys and praying !!