VisaJourney.com > Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

Jomo's girl

Jul 20 2007, 11:27 AM

QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jul 19 2007, 02:03 PM)

QUOTE(MyDestinyAwaits @ Jul 19 2007, 02:51 PM)

oh my jengles, that CO tried really hard to deny him. and i'm amazed that you pushed a baby out in 7 minutes. wow!

can someone who recently went through the medical please explain what all was done?

Hope this helps

They take blood, asked all the questions on the medical history form, ask about immunization records, if he has had chicken pox make sure he tells them. they did xrays, oral exam, check the eye ..not much at all..he got there for 7:30 and he left by 11:30..and u know most of that was waiting

Of note....I forgot Andre saw a lady doctor. He was not happy when she made him stand completely naked in front of her for some of the exam.

Hotlegz

Jul 20 2007, 11:28 AM

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 12:27 PM)

QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jul 19 2007, 02:03 PM)

QUOTE(MyDestinyAwaits @ Jul 19 2007, 02:51 PM)

oh my jengles, that CO tried really hard to deny him. and i'm amazed that you pushed a baby out in 7 minutes. wow!

can someone who recently went through the medical please explain what all was done?

Hope this helps

They take blood, asked all the questions on the medical history form, ask about immunization records, if he has had chicken pox make sure he tells them. they did xrays, oral exam, check the eye ..not much at all..he got there for 7:30 and he left by 11:30..and u know most of that was waiting

Of note....I forgot Andre saw a lady doctor. He was not happy when she made him stand completely naked in front of her for some of the exam.

HAhhaaaa...lawd she neva affi mek him strip...

Hotlegz

Jul 20 2007, 11:36 AM

QUOTE(Jengles @ Jul 20 2007, 10:12 AM)

QUOTE(rhondapayter @ Jul 20 2007, 04:41 AM)

QUOTE(Jengles @ Jul 19 2007, 01:24 PM)

The baby was 7lbs 10 ozs and 19 1/2 inches long and came out from 7 minutes of pushing, (the doctor threatned to cut me) that was great incentive to push. baby girl is very quiet not at all like her brother.

This gives me hope!! How long were you in labor? I'm terrified of the whole labor/delivery part of it.

I was in labor from Sunday, but didn't know it, all I knew was that she kept moving and every time she moved i was in pain, one of my friends told me i was in labor but I'm like yeah right, anyway I went to the hospital at 6am. and she was born at 1:52pm

That was quick..with my daughter i was in labor from wednesday night and i just kept feeling this uncomfortable pain and i blew it off. Spoke to my husband that night and went to bed..girl let me tell you that bed did not see me...couldn't sit, sleep, forget walk...called my doc..she said head to the hospital, mind u i wasn't even 35 wks yet...they put me on meds to stop the labor, yeah righ tshe was ready and thats that. they gave up and i had her Friday at 11:32 am....

Minfay

Jul 20 2007, 12:32 PM

If anyone is bored today go read this:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=79023

Yaads

Jul 20 2007, 12:48 PM

QUOTE(Minfay @ Jul 20 2007, 10:32 AM)

If anyone is bored today go read this:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=79023

I have been reading it...very interesting! VERY interesting!

Jomo's girl

Jul 20 2007, 12:56 PM

QUOTE(Minfay @ Jul 20 2007, 12:32 PM)

If anyone is bored today go read this:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=79023

I don't know if all she says is true; but I have read some books on middle eastern men and I do believe some of what she said is true.

I've heard the nearly EXACT same thing said about Jamaican men. People are people and I believe each is unique and should be treated as such. You cannot believe everything you hear, nor treat anyone in particular as such unless they do something that makes you doubt them.

Her story is truly said and I feel sorry for her.

Minfay

Jul 20 2007, 01:01 PM

I believe a lot of what she is saying is true. A lot. I love that Forum....they don't hold back one bit!!

Jomo's girl

Jul 20 2007, 01:11 PM

QUOTE(Minfay @ Jul 20 2007, 01:01 PM)

I believe a lot of what she is saying is true. A lot. I love that Forum....they don't hold back one bit!!

I love that they don't really bash each other. Seems whenever I am somewhere talking about a Jamaican, I end up getting bashed for having any sort of negative opinion. Hate that!

I don't think it ever hurts to heed other's warnings. May not happen to me; but I still listen. Complete stupidity not to.

Minfay

Jul 20 2007, 01:18 PM

Hey -- it happens. Happens everywhere.

I applaud their "openess" and willingness to discuss the issues that truly matter to them.

They air all their "dirty laundry" in that Forum and NOBODY ever gets bashed -- at least by their "own kind" -- it's when people come in from other Forums and start making judgements -- that it get's ugly....BUT....they seem to keep that to a minimum <<I have seen them stop replying on Threads when it gets heated>>

kkholiday2006

Jul 20 2007, 01:18 PM

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 01:56 PM)

QUOTE(Minfay @ Jul 20 2007, 12:32 PM)

If anyone is bored today go read this:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=79023

I don't know if all she says is true; but I have read some books on middle eastern men and I do believe some of what she said is true.

I've heard the nearly EXACT same thing said about Jamaican men. People are people and I believe each is unique and should be treated as such. You cannot believe everything you hear, nor treat anyone in particular as such unless they do something that makes you doubt them.

Her story is truly said and I feel sorry for her.

Jomo....Well said. Everyone situation is so different. And if she had such a problem with the culture why would she put herself in that situation again. I don't get it.

Jomo's girl

Jul 20 2007, 01:21 PM

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 01:18 PM)

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 01:56 PM)

QUOTE(Minfay @ Jul 20 2007, 12:32 PM)

If anyone is bored today go read this:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=79023

I don't know if all she says is true; but I have read some books on middle eastern men and I do believe some of what she said is true.

I've heard the nearly EXACT same thing said about Jamaican men. People are people and I believe each is unique and should be treated as such. You cannot believe everything you hear, nor treat anyone in particular as such unless they do something that makes you doubt them.

Her story is truly said and I feel sorry for her.

Jomo....Well said. Everyone situation is so different. And if she had such a problem with the culture why would she put herself in that situation again. I don't get it.

Cause we women are fools for love. Who doesn't want the "Pretty Woman" or "Cinderella" story? I know I do. And, there is something romantic about the foreign man. Plus, we are the ultimate optimists......we WANT to believe in the good of people. (sigh!)

Minfay

Jul 20 2007, 01:23 PM

There have been women on this Thread who got "burned" by a Jamaican in the past -- and went back for another one -- AND -- got burned again!! I guess sometimes you just can't help yourself.

Me -- I would take a Jamaican any day over an American. And if I had a bad experience I don't know that I can say that I wouldn't ever think about a Jamaican man again....

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 01:21 PM)

Cause we women are fools for love. Who doesn't want the "Pretty Woman" or "Cinderella" story? I know I do. And, there is something romantic about the foreign man. Plus, we are the ultimate optimists......we WANT to believe in the good of people. (sigh!)

Amen Sister!! I second that!!!

kkholiday2006

Jul 20 2007, 01:34 PM

QUOTE(Minfay @ Jul 20 2007, 02:23 PM)

There have been women on this Thread who got "burned" by a Jamaican in the past -- and went back for another one -- AND -- got burned again!! I guess sometimes you just can't help yourself.

Me -- I would take a Jamaican any day over an American. And if I had a bad experience I don't know that I can say that I wouldn't ever think about a Jamaican man again....

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 01:21 PM)

Cause we women are fools for love. Who doesn't want the "Pretty Woman" or "Cinderella" story? I know I do. And, there is something romantic about the foreign man. Plus, we are the ultimate optimists......we WANT to believe in the good of people. (sigh!)

Amen Sister!! I second that!!!

Is this thread from the MENA forum?

Minfay

Jul 20 2007, 01:36 PM

Yeah!

Yaads

Jul 20 2007, 01:37 PM

QUOTE(Minfay @ Jul 20 2007, 11:18 AM)

Hey -- it happens. Happens everywhere.

I applaud their "openess" and willingness to discuss the issues that truly matter to them.

They air all their "dirty laundry" in that Forum and NOBODY ever gets bashed -- at least by their "own kind" -- it's when people come in from other Forums and start making judgements -- that it get's ugly....BUT....they seem to keep that to a minimum <<I have seen them stop replying on Threads when it gets heated>>

While they are very open and all there has been TONS of MENA conflict in the past. There used to be a lot more people that posted that don't post on VJ anymore because of all the crap that used to happen in that forum. I remember a while back when a huge group of them left and started a yahoo group. You can tell because in the "Our Journey is over" thread you can see that some people came back and created new VJ names just to post to Jackie because of her situation.

I agree that it happens everywhere and in all cultures. I love how one of them said "men are men are men" and the lion analogy was spot on.

Very interesting discussion.

Jomo's girl

Jul 20 2007, 01:45 PM

QUOTE(Jme3584 @ Jul 20 2007, 01:37 PM)

QUOTE(Minfay @ Jul 20 2007, 11:18 AM)

Hey -- it happens. Happens everywhere.

I applaud their "openess" and willingness to discuss the issues that truly matter to them.

They air all their "dirty laundry" in that Forum and NOBODY ever gets bashed -- at least by their "own kind" -- it's when people come in from other Forums and start making judgements -- that it get's ugly....BUT....they seem to keep that to a minimum <<I have seen them stop replying on Threads when it gets heated>>

While they are very open and all there has been TONS of MENA conflict in the past. There used to be a lot more people that posted that don't post on VJ anymore because of all the crap that used to happen in that forum. I remember a while back when a huge group of them left and started a yahoo group. You can tell because in the "Our Journey is over" thread you can see that some people came back and created new VJ names just to post to Jackie because of her situation.

I agree that it happens everywhere and in all cultures. I love how one of them said "men are men are men" and the lion analogy was spot on.

Very interesting discussion.

The only thing I can say about these kinds of discussions is that there are lessons to be learned. I don't mind a heated discussion as long as no one really starts to bash another. Some people get all upset as soon as anything negative is said and leave the thread or even the board. Those people, I always think, are fools.

Yaads

Jul 20 2007, 01:53 PM

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 11:45 AM)

QUOTE(Jme3584 @ Jul 20 2007, 01:37 PM)

QUOTE(Minfay @ Jul 20 2007, 11:18 AM)

Hey -- it happens. Happens everywhere.

I applaud their "openess" and willingness to discuss the issues that truly matter to them.

They air all their "dirty laundry" in that Forum and NOBODY ever gets bashed -- at least by their "own kind" -- it's when people come in from other Forums and start making judgements -- that it get's ugly....BUT....they seem to keep that to a minimum <<I have seen them stop replying on Threads when it gets heated>>

While they are very open and all there has been TONS of MENA conflict in the past. There used to be a lot more people that posted that don't post on VJ anymore because of all the crap that used to happen in that forum. I remember a while back when a huge group of them left and started a yahoo group. You can tell because in the "Our Journey is over" thread you can see that some people came back and created new VJ names just to post to Jackie because of her situation.

I agree that it happens everywhere and in all cultures. I love how one of them said "men are men are men" and the lion analogy was spot on.

Very interesting discussion.

The only thing I can say about these kinds of discussions is that there are lessons to be learned. I don't mind a heated discussion as long as no one really starts to bash another. Some people get all upset as soon as anything negative is said and leave the thread or even the board. Those people, I always think, are fools.

I couldn't agree more

There is a HUGE difference between a personal attack and a difference of opinion. People just don't seem to get that.

Minfay

Jul 20 2007, 02:15 PM

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 01:45 PM)

Some people get all upset as soon as anything negative is said and leave the thread or even the board. Those people, I always think, are fools.

Hey, you talkin' about me????

:

QUOTE(Jme3584 @ Jul 20 2007, 01:53 PM)

There is a HUGE difference between a personal attack and a difference of opinion. People just don't seem to get that.

You are so right

BelwinMills

Jul 20 2007, 02:16 PM

QUOTE(Minfay @ Jul 20 2007, 02:13 PM)

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 01:45 PM)

Some people get all upset as soon as anything negative is said and leave the thread or even the board. Those people, I always think, are fools.

Hey, you talkin' about me????

:

I only left cause hubby knows anyone can read this board but I still lurk around.

I'm not a fool just have a very internet savvy husband.

kkholiday2006

Jul 20 2007, 02:22 PM

I think that's what happen on this forum at one time. I remember when I first joined people were talking about they were leaving. I never went far back to see why. But I'm still here.

Jomo's girl

Jul 20 2007, 02:26 PM

QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jul 20 2007, 02:16 PM)

QUOTE(Minfay @ Jul 20 2007, 02:13 PM)

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 01:45 PM)

Some people get all upset as soon as anything negative is said and leave the thread or even the board. Those people, I always think, are fools.

Hey, you talkin' about me????

:

I only left cause hubby knows anyone can read this board but I still lurk around.

I'm not a fool just have a very internet savvy husband.

Not bashing you, B. Nor anyone else on here. Just a general statement. I didn't really have anyone in particular in mind.

You know what I mean, though. There are people on a few forums I am on who I picture literally stomp out of the room when something negative is said. If it is taken personal by then, then they made it so. Then, they need to look hard at their own mindset and relationship(s). I read all this stuff and it just floats right on by me. Do I learn things to look for? Of course, I do. Do I see them? No. But, it never hurts to have information. It may not benefit me;but maybe one day, I can pass it on to another. I just don't see the point of burying my head in the sand.

kkholiday2006

Jul 20 2007, 02:28 PM

Question....why can't they just give the visa at the appointment? What is the purpose of sending it via courier? Any words?

Hotlegz

Jul 20 2007, 02:42 PM

i agree completely, what's the purpose if u cannot make a honest remark (w/o) bashing and it just be left at that. Instead things get personal and goes down hill from. I agree Jomo these r all lessons to be learned. Never u think that ur untouchable and things WILL always go right with u. We r all human and should be treated as such.

I also read that thread and was like wow ! I totally agree with most what was posted I had co-workers that were just like that, they flirt with every woman on earth. But, guess who they walk down the street with...their own. So, everyones experience is different and not all people are the same even if they come from the same culture. I know alot of Jamaican woman who will not date their own and visa versa. It is what it is. LIFE !

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 03:28 PM)

Question....why can't they just give the visa at the appointment? What is the purpose of sending it via courier? Any words?

same ting mi seh, they do that to earn a little more money..they gotta squeeze everything outta u...

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 03:22 PM)

I think that's what happen on this forum at one time. I remember when I first joined people were talking about they were leaving. I never went far back to see why. But I'm still here.

like Jomo say..u gotta read and if it doesn't concern you move on..I'm still here too..And have gotten alot of useful information from everyone here.

Jomo's girl

Jul 20 2007, 02:47 PM

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 02:28 PM)

Question....why can't they just give the visa at the appointment? What is the purpose of sending it via courier? Any words?

Oh, honey.......do you not know the way things work in Jamaica by now? Soon come!!!!

kkholiday2006

Jul 20 2007, 02:52 PM

So now my parents what to come visit me...after living in my house for 1.5 years....THE SAME WEEK AS THE INTERVIEW......AWHHHHH. So now I have to break it down to my mom. My fiance and I said that we didn't want to get anyones hopes up so we are keeping the process a secret as much as possible. His family and my family knows that we are filing...but don't know the particulars. It's stressful enough for us and to have them asking about each step....

Would drive us crazy. So I'll have the conversation with my mom tonight.

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 03:47 PM)

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 02:28 PM)

Question....why can't they just give the visa at the appointment? What is the purpose of sending it via courier? Any words?

Oh, honey.......do you not know the way things work in Jamaica by now? Soon come!!!!

That's so funny

Everything is me soon come.....lol.

BelwinMills

Jul 20 2007, 03:06 PM

QUOTE

Question....why can't they just give the visa at the appointment? What is the purpose of sending it via courier? Any words?

They have to put a special item in their passport. My husband has his stamp in there with his picture a big number and it says CR1 visa and how long it is good for. So this is why it takes a little while. They have to print it on your SO passport.

Yaads

Jul 20 2007, 03:13 PM

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 12:47 PM)

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 02:28 PM)

Question....why can't they just give the visa at the appointment? What is the purpose of sending it via courier? Any words?

Oh, honey.......do you not know the way things work in Jamaica by now? Soon come!!!!

Or as Andre's grandma loves to say..."now mi girl, yuh know dem tings gonna come inna da Lord's timing"

Yes grandma mi know

nyseness

Jul 20 2007, 03:51 PM

QUOTE(JA Tam @ Jul 19 2007, 06:46 PM)

QUOTE(nyseness @ Jul 19 2007, 07:16 PM)

I remember sometime ago someone mention a VOIP w/unlimited calls from to and from JA. I already looked into Vonage but I could have swore it was Cable & Wireless. Well I've been trying to search and came up w/nothing. Basically I'm looking for a service to get that plus a JA # if possible ASAP!!! Any suggestions???

It's called Netspeak (www.netspeak.com) and it's through C&W...My dad has it in Jamaica and he has a local florida number. I know that they have a local office here in Florida: http://www.netspeakflorida.com/

I was looking into that but Javon doesn't have internet service at home. He's looking into how much the internet cost down there but I personally don't think it's worth it.

nyseness

Jul 20 2007, 04:02 PM

QUOTE(AlienUKGirl @ Jul 20 2007, 08:44 AM)

QUOTE(luvtravlin @ Jul 20 2007, 08:17 AM)

NOPE because "I" am not paying for it and he won't buck up the money. I have done my part and have had the loads of paperwork filled out for forever. I'm not worried and don't care anymore, because at this point....if we do go through it and he gets denied, whatever....say la ve....if he were to get approved, we'll most likely be heading for divorce. Everyday is something different. One day great, 2 days horrible. It goes back and forth. Worse than the stock market. I have to go through most of this laughing cause if I didn't.....shoot, I would have LOST IT a looooooong time ago.

I just live my life the best way I can and know how to. My son, thankfully, hasn't been home much this summer staying at my parents and friends and then is off to the Outer Banks tonight for 8 days with another friend. So there's MUCH needed alone time.....for me, at least and "I" am absolutely loving it !!! Cause being a single parent (all of my sons life) "I" never ever ever get down and/or alone time.

I have friends coming in this weekend and I'm very much looking forward to it....hitting the Reggae Wine Festival tomorrow, Jahworks (reggae band) tomorrow night and Artscape on Sunday. The weather is going to be gorgeous !!!Craig said he's not going..........whatever, don't care. He can wallow away in his own misery, I don't let his negative crap get to me ever !!! Neither will my friends

So, so far.....that I know, we are the only ones to have waited this long on the Yardie thread. I've done a TON of research on the VJ site and since there's "no deadline"......??

Have a GREAT weekend everyone !!!

Don`t blame you!! Wonderful you are staying positive!!

I also agree. Life is too short!!

Tricia B

Jul 20 2007, 04:13 PM

In regards to phone service/netspeak, I heard about a service called mega phone (i believe it's a cell phone) and you pay a flat fee (1,200 ja?) and you can make unlimited calls to the us

QUOTE(nyseness @ Jul 20 2007, 01:51 PM)

QUOTE(JA Tam @ Jul 19 2007, 06:46 PM)

QUOTE(nyseness @ Jul 19 2007, 07:16 PM)

I remember sometime ago someone mention a VOIP w/unlimited calls from to and from JA. I already looked into Vonage but I could have swore it was Cable & Wireless. Well I've been trying to search and came up w/nothing. Basically I'm looking for a service to get that plus a JA # if possible ASAP!!! Any suggestions???

It's called Netspeak (www.netspeak.com) and it's through C&W...My dad has it in Jamaica and he has a local florida number. I know that they have a local office here in Florida: http://www.netspeakflorida.com/

I was looking into that but Javon doesn't have internet service at home. He's looking into how much the internet cost down there but I personally don't think it's worth it.

brownnskinn

Jul 20 2007, 04:58 PM

QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jul 19 2007, 12:53 PM)

Wow, that was alot....good thing he stuck to his guns...my my...they are crazy...

Wow that was a lot, she really let him have it.

We were asked maybe two or three questions. That's plum crazy.

JA Tam

Jul 20 2007, 07:24 PM

QUOTE(nyseness @ Jul 20 2007, 04:51 PM)

QUOTE(JA Tam @ Jul 19 2007, 06:46 PM)

QUOTE(nyseness @ Jul 19 2007, 07:16 PM)

I remember sometime ago someone mention a VOIP w/unlimited calls from to and from JA. I already looked into Vonage but I could have swore it was Cable & Wireless. Well I've been trying to search and came up w/nothing. Basically I'm looking for a service to get that plus a JA # if possible ASAP!!! Any suggestions???

It's called Netspeak (www.netspeak.com) and it's through C&W...My dad has it in Jamaica and he has a local florida number. I know that they have a local office here in Florida: http://www.netspeakflorida.com/

I was looking into that but Javon doesn't have internet service at home. He's looking into how much the internet cost down there but I personally don't think it's worth it.

I'll get more information about it from my dad, but I remember him telling me that you can bring the unit to the US and use it here. When I get more info, I will let you know. There was another service that I found, but they are out of Canada, but they would ship it to you. They had an ad banner on Jamaica Gleaner - it's called Foreign Phone (http://www.foreignphone.com/faq.aspx).

JA Tam

Jul 20 2007, 07:31 PM

QUOTE(Tricia B @ Jul 20 2007, 05:13 PM)

In regards to phone service/netspeak, I heard about a service called mega phone (i believe it's a cell phone) and you pay a flat fee (1,200 ja?) and you can make unlimited calls to the us

I heard about megaphone as well and asked Aaron about it. One thing that I heard about it is that it is hard to get as it is so popular. I would love for him to get it, but he is so stubborn

. We will probably get the Netspeak so he can call his parents.

Jengles

Jul 20 2007, 08:07 PM

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 12:27 PM)

QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jul 19 2007, 02:03 PM)

QUOTE(MyDestinyAwaits @ Jul 19 2007, 02:51 PM)

oh my jengles, that CO tried really hard to deny him. and i'm amazed that you pushed a baby out in 7 minutes. wow!

can someone who recently went through the medical please explain what all was done?

Hope this helps

They take blood, asked all the questions on the medical history form, ask about immunization records, if he has had chicken pox make sure he tells them. they did xrays, oral exam, check the eye ..not much at all..he got there for 7:30 and he left by 11:30..and u know most of that was waiting

Of note....I forgot Andre saw a lady doctor. He was not happy when she made him stand completely naked in front of her for some of the exam.

this happened to mr. jengles. i was cracking up when he told me, he said she pushed back his foreskin

Jengles

Jul 20 2007, 08:14 PM

QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jul 20 2007, 12:36 PM)

QUOTE(Jengles @ Jul 20 2007, 10:12 AM)

QUOTE(rhondapayter @ Jul 20 2007, 04:41 AM)

QUOTE(Jengles @ Jul 19 2007, 01:24 PM)

The baby was 7lbs 10 ozs and 19 1/2 inches long and came out from 7 minutes of pushing, (the doctor threatned to cut me) that was great incentive to push. baby girl is very quiet not at all like her brother.

This gives me hope!! How long were you in labor? I'm terrified of the whole labor/delivery part of it.

I was in labor from Sunday, but didn't know it, all I knew was that she kept moving and every time she moved i was in pain, one of my friends told me i was in labor but I'm like yeah right, anyway I went to the hospital at 6am. and she was born at 1:52pm

That was quick..with my daughter i was in labor from wednesday night and i just kept feeling this uncomfortable pain and i blew it off. Spoke to my husband that night and went to bed..girl let me tell you that bed did not see me...couldn't sit, sleep, forget walk...called my doc..she said head to the hospital, mind u i wasn't even 35 wks yet...they put me on meds to stop the labor, yeah righ tshe was ready and thats that. they gave up and i had her Friday at 11:32 am....

I thought that at 35 weeks, they would just let nature take its course.

That sounds like me, LOL I was up sunday night all night and then in the hospital monday morning, I'm like give me an epidural so I can sleep because you (meaning the doctors are going to want me to push later)

when i got to the hospital they said i was 5 centimeters and apparently my contractions weren't coming quick enough for them so they gave me some drug that starts with a P to make my contractions come quicker, I'll stop at this point with respect to all the first time mothers.

don't worry Rhonda - there is nothing to worry about

Jengles

Jul 20 2007, 08:34 PM

QUOTE(Denden @ Jul 20 2007, 05:58 PM)

QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jul 19 2007, 12:53 PM)

Wow, that was alot....good thing he stuck to his guns...my my...they are crazy...

Wow that was a lot, she really let him have it.

We were asked maybe two or three questions. That's plum crazy.

you were there at the interview?

but he was prepared lol, see my post last week about wanting to strangle him or something to that effect lol. I got scared because I didn't feel he knew everything, I had to STRESS a few points to him and then he started seeing things my way

12/11/2006

Jul 20 2007, 11:54 PM

I couldn't agree with you more Jomo. I read the comments made by about 3 women after she posted that and they were like Man I'm thinking about getting a divorce. My thought is: If you are contemplating getting a divorce based on what someone posted then you are the one who has missed it. You have to ask yourself whether or not you are really in love. LOVE is never UNSURE. For someone to seriously consider getting a divorce based on a thread, maybe there was never really LOVE at home. Marriage to me and my fiance is something that is really sacred and its going to take more than a thread to make us divorce. I believe thats why the divorce rates are so high. People's first instinct when they're married and things are going well is to DIVORCE. But marriage is about sacrafices and compromises. If you are not willing to subject yourself to that then you may want to rethink your position before you get into it. (Generally speaking, No one in particular).

If a person really believes deep down in their heart that their significant other is just using them for a green card and the love is not really there, then it may be a situation that is just not for the best. And its okay to admit that. I think we get wrapped up into the fairy tale thinking and miss the reality of it all. I personally believe that you have to see some benefits and rewards out of decision to make it most worth while and fulfilling.

12/11/2006

Jul 21 2007, 12:02 AM

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 03:52 PM)

So now my parents what to come visit me...after living in my house for 1.5 years....THE SAME WEEK AS THE INTERVIEW......AWHHHHH. So now I have to break it down to my mom. My fiance and I said that we didn't want to get anyones hopes up so we are keeping the process a secret as much as possible. His family and my family knows that we are filing...but don't know the particulars. It's stressful enough for us and to have them asking about each step....

Would drive us crazy. So I'll have the conversation with my mom tonight.

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 03:47 PM)

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 02:28 PM)

Question....why can't they just give the visa at the appointment? What is the purpose of sending it via courier? Any words?

Oh, honey.......do you not know the way things work in Jamaica by now? Soon come!!!!

That's so funny

Everything is me soon come.....lol.

Wow we are filing and trying to keep a secret as well. The only difference is NO ONE knows. I guess he is just going to show one day

I told my mom that he is filing for a visiting visa and he has a hook up down there. I think I am going tell her eventually but we didn't want the stereotypes placed on us and the big hoopla until we were able to do how we want it. In Jamaica! So we are going to do something small and then later go ahead and do our real wedding down there. I have a lot of family there and all of his family is there as well. Lets hope things work out.

kkholiday2006

Jul 21 2007, 07:04 AM

QUOTE(12/11/2006 @ Jul 21 2007, 01:02 AM)

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 03:52 PM)

So now my parents what to come visit me...after living in my house for 1.5 years....THE SAME WEEK AS THE INTERVIEW......AWHHHHH. So now I have to break it down to my mom. My fiance and I said that we didn't want to get anyones hopes up so we are keeping the process a secret as much as possible. His family and my family knows that we are filing...but don't know the particulars. It's stressful enough for us and to have them asking about each step....

Would drive us crazy. So I'll have the conversation with my mom tonight.

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 03:47 PM)

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 02:28 PM)

Question....why can't they just give the visa at the appointment? What is the purpose of sending it via courier? Any words?

Oh, honey.......do you not know the way things work in Jamaica by now? Soon come!!!!

That's so funny

Everything is me soon come.....lol.

Wow we are filing and trying to keep a secret as well. The only difference is NO ONE knows. I guess he is just going to show one day

I told my mom that he is filing for a visiting visa and he has a hook up down there. I think I am going tell her eventually but we didn't want the stereotypes placed on us and the big hoopla until we were able to do how we want it. In Jamaica! So we are going to do something small and then later go ahead and do our real wedding down there. I have a lot of family there and all of his family is there as well. Lets hope things work out.

Well when I first filed I had to tell my mom because she didn't understand why he couldn't just come here as easy as I could go to JA. A lot of my friend has said the same thing. A lot of people just don't know how HARD it is to come to the US. They believe people come and go just as easy as we do. I did however tell my mom that his interview date is August 14...I forgot to mention that I would be going to the interview.

You know I know that my mom would be 100% supportive..I just don't want the stress of her concerns on why the process is taking sooo long. I've been with my fiance for 5 1/2 years and been engaged forever.

So I know she would want us to finally be together....especially to start giving her more grandchildren.

Hotlegz

Jul 21 2007, 01:37 PM

QUOTE(Jengles @ Jul 20 2007, 08:14 PM)

QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jul 20 2007, 12:36 PM)

QUOTE(Jengles @ Jul 20 2007, 10:12 AM)

QUOTE(rhondapayter @ Jul 20 2007, 04:41 AM)

QUOTE(Jengles @ Jul 19 2007, 01:24 PM)

The baby was 7lbs 10 ozs and 19 1/2 inches long and came out from 7 minutes of pushing, (the doctor threatned to cut me) that was great incentive to push. baby girl is very quiet not at all like her brother.

This gives me hope!! How long were you in labor? I'm terrified of the whole labor/delivery part of it.

I was in labor from Sunday, but didn't know it, all I knew was that she kept moving and every time she moved i was in pain, one of my friends told me i was in labor but I'm like yeah right, anyway I went to the hospital at 6am. and she was born at 1:52pm

That was quick..with my daughter i was in labor from wednesday night and i just kept feeling this uncomfortable pain and i blew it off. Spoke to my husband that night and went to bed..girl let me tell you that bed did not see me...couldn't sit, sleep, forget walk...called my doc..she said head to the hospital, mind u i wasn't even 35 wks yet...they put me on meds to stop the labor, yeah righ tshe was ready and thats that. they gave up and i had her Friday at 11:32 am....

I thought that at 35 weeks, they would just let nature take its course.

That sounds like me, LOL I was up sunday night all night and then in the hospital monday morning, I'm like give me an epidural so I can sleep because you (meaning the doctors are going to want me to push later)

when i got to the hospital they said i was 5 centimeters and apparently my contractions weren't coming quick enough for them so they gave me some drug that starts with a P to make my contractions come quicker, I'll stop at this point with respect to all the first time mothers.

don't worry Rhonda - there is nothing to worry about

Yeah..I was 3 days away from 35 weeks so they wanted me to go as long as I could....my daughter had another plan of course

Yeah Rhonda all will be fine..I felt the same way until nature said it was time which I wasn't expecting so...don't worry too much

Tricia B

Jul 21 2007, 04:44 PM

i'm kind of in the same situation, i didn't want to tell my parents/family because i know the overall sentiment would be i'm making a mistake or being used, but i couldn't hide that he was living with me so they think he's here visiting and i've told them we plan to get married next year in ja (which we do) but of course we're already married.

QUOTE(12/11/2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 10:02 PM)

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 03:52 PM)

So now my parents what to come visit me...after living in my house for 1.5 years....THE SAME WEEK AS THE INTERVIEW......AWHHHHH. So now I have to break it down to my mom. My fiance and I said that we didn't want to get anyones hopes up so we are keeping the process a secret as much as possible. His family and my family knows that we are filing...but don't know the particulars. It's stressful enough for us and to have them asking about each step....

Would drive us crazy. So I'll have the conversation with my mom tonight.

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 03:47 PM)

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 02:28 PM)

Question....why can't they just give the visa at the appointment? What is the purpose of sending it via courier? Any words?

Oh, honey.......do you not know the way things work in Jamaica by now? Soon come!!!!

That's so funny

Everything is me soon come.....lol.

Wow we are filing and trying to keep a secret as well. The only difference is NO ONE knows. I guess he is just going to show one day

I told my mom that he is filing for a visiting visa and he has a hook up down there. I think I am going tell her eventually but we didn't want the stereotypes placed on us and the big hoopla until we were able to do how we want it. In Jamaica! So we are going to do something small and then later go ahead and do our real wedding down there. I have a lot of family there and all of his family is there as well. Lets hope things work out.

brownnskinn

Jul 21 2007, 05:29 PM

QUOTE(12/11/2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 11:54 PM)

I couldn't agree with you more Jomo. I read the comments made by about 3 women after she posted that and they were like Man I'm thinking about getting a divorce. My thought is: If you are contemplating getting a divorce based on what someone posted then you are the one who has missed it. You have to ask yourself whether or not you are really in love. LOVE is never UNSURE. For someone to seriously consider getting a divorce based on a thread, maybe there was never really LOVE at home. Marriage to me and my fiance is something that is really sacred and its going to take more than a thread to make us divorce. I believe thats why the divorce rates are so high. People's first instinct when they're married and things are going well is to DIVORCE. But marriage is about sacrafices and compromises. If you are not willing to subject yourself to that then you may want to rethink your position before you get into it. (Generally speaking, No one in particular).

If a person really believes deep down in their heart that their significant other is just using them for a green card and the love is not really there, then it may be a situation that is just not for the best. And its okay to admit that. I think we get wrapped up into the fairy tale thinking and miss the reality of it all. I personally believe that you have to see some benefits and rewards out of decision to make it most worth while and fulfilling.

I agree, that love is a gamble...to ever experience love you just have to play. I thought it was nice that there was no bashing, that everyone tried to, or it seemed that they were putting them selves in her shoes. I don't think they are really considering a divorce based on the posters post. Only realizing that the situation could possibly happen to them. The lady who posted that her husband would have a rude awaking at the airport...I couldn't stop laughing it thought it was so funny

I don't think anything about love is for sure, nothing about life is for sure for that matter, This process is full of uncertainty. This woman "loved" this man..but it didn't stop her from getting her heart broken. I'm greatfull that it sound like maybe she'll be abe to pick up her life and go on. Hopefully she will realize that love that is "certain" can only come from the man above

12/11/2006

Jul 21 2007, 05:51 PM

QUOTE(Tricia B @ Jul 21 2007, 05:44 PM)

i'm kind of in the same situation, i didn't want to tell my parents/family because i know the overall sentiment would be i'm making a mistake or being used, but i couldn't hide that he was living with me so they think he's here visiting and i've told them we plan to get married next year in ja (which we do) but of course we're already married.

QUOTE(12/11/2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 10:02 PM)

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 03:52 PM)

So now my parents what to come visit me...after living in my house for 1.5 years....THE SAME WEEK AS THE INTERVIEW......AWHHHHH. So now I have to break it down to my mom. My fiance and I said that we didn't want to get anyones hopes up so we are keeping the process a secret as much as possible. His family and my family knows that we are filing...but don't know the particulars. It's stressful enough for us and to have them asking about each step....

Would drive us crazy. So I'll have the conversation with my mom tonight.

QUOTE(Jomo @ Jul 20 2007, 03:47 PM)

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 20 2007, 02:28 PM)

Question....why can't they just give the visa at the appointment? What is the purpose of sending it via courier? Any words?

Oh, honey.......do you not know the way things work in Jamaica by now? Soon come!!!!

Wow thats are plan exactly! Eventually, we will have our big wedding but we just want to get the logistics out of the way first.
That's so funny

Everything is me soon come.....lol.

Wow we are filing and trying to keep a secret as well. The only difference is NO ONE knows. I guess he is just going to show one day

I told my mom that he is filing for a visiting visa and he has a hook up down there. I think I am going tell her eventually but we didn't want the stereotypes placed on us and the big hoopla until we were able to do how we want it. In Jamaica! So we are going to do something small and then later go ahead and do our real wedding down there. I have a lot of family there and all of his family is there as well. Lets hope things work out.

Empress

Jul 21 2007, 10:42 PM

In light of the recent interview assignments I know some of us will need it. I just cut and pasted from someone's earlier post

MoBay Hope Medical Centre
Half Moon Shopping Village
Rose Hall, Montego Bay
(876)953-3981
US$95 for adults

Andrews Memorial Hospital
27 Hope Road
Kingston 10
(876)926-7401-3
US$90 for adults

Dr. Michael Banbury
Medical Associates Hospital
18 Tangerine PI
St. James
Kingston 10
(876)908-2123
US$80 for adults

kkholiday2006

Jul 22 2007, 06:12 AM

How many passport pictures are needed for the interview? I know that it is four for the medical. Is it two for the interview?

DonnaJay

Jul 22 2007, 09:17 AM

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 22 2007, 07:12 AM)

How many passport pictures are needed for the interview? I know that it is four for the medical. Is it two for the interview?

Packet 3 states to bring 6 color, matte finish, 2 inch square, on white or off-white background photographs. For the police report I've read somewhere that 2 are required. For the medical 4 passport style photos are needed. Donna went last week and had 12 passport photos made for all this.

kkholiday2006

Jul 22 2007, 10:51 AM

QUOTE(Jay_Donna @ Jul 22 2007, 10:17 AM)

QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jul 22 2007, 07:12 AM)

How many passport pictures are needed for the interview? I know that it is four for the medical. Is it two for the interview?

Packet 3 states to bring 6 color, matte finish, 2 inch square, on white or off-white background photographs. For the police report I've read somewhere that 2 are required. For the medical 4 passport style photos are needed. Donna went last week and had 12 passport photos made for all this.

Thanks Jay...I just though 6 pictures is a little much. But if they want 100 ...at this point...we'll have to make it happen.

Jamaica to CT

Jul 22 2007, 04:29 PM

QUOTE(Jengles @ Jul 19 2007, 01:24 PM)

The baby was 7lbs 10 ozs and 19 1/2 inches long and came out from 7 minutes of pushing, (the doctor threatned to cut me) that was great incentive to push. baby girl is very quiet not at all like her brother.

Congratulations!!!

Jamaica to CT

Jul 22 2007, 04:36 PM

QUOTE(Jengles @ Jul 18 2007, 03:23 PM)

hello everyone,

I had the baby on Monday and hubby passed his interview yesterday, he said the officer told him out of 45 people so far for the morning, he was the only one who got a visa. I'm still waiting to hear all the details so I can pass it along.

Thanks to and for all the VJers, who posted info and answered questions, I'm sure without VJ and that very important binder he would not have passed.

Another congratulations on your husbands visa!! What an exciting time for your family!

Empress

Jul 22 2007, 07:17 PM

I just wanted to share that I've gotten through to the immigration dept of the embassy using (702) 6174, 6168 and 6304 in addition to the 6008

And for those who use calling cards try the western union it gives ~8 cents a minute to land lines and ~32 cents a minute for cells. You can recharge it over the phone.

but the Jus Talk from C&W gives 5 cents a minute and you can use it to call Ja from here or they can use it to call here from Ja. Your SO can recharge this card in Ja

The sprint card from CVS is good but you have to make sure to buy the international card. It gives 16 cents a min to both land lines and cells. You can rechard this over the phone too but if you do it in the store you get 10% free.

None of these cards steal your minutes. If you use 5 minutes it takes 5 minutes not 30

Good luck!

ohh I forgot my question

I know everyone can hear the question the CO is asking during the interview but does everyone hear all your responses too? Or is it more discrete?

Thanks in advance