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BelwinMills
QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jun 12 2007, 08:17 PM) *
So, can u request the visa to be delivered at a particular address or what..how do they do that..?

You can request to have it sent to your address or the post office. The post office then will call your hubby to pick it up. That is what we did and had it in 5 working days.
kkholiday2006
QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jun 12 2007, 09:27 PM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 09:16 PM) *
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 08:13 PM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:07 PM) *
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 08:05 PM) *
QUOTE(nyseness @ Jun 12 2007, 02:00 PM) *
He calls me "madam miserable" but it's all good. laughing.gif We both have flaws but our love is too strong to let it interfer.


Mine too. Pisses me off mad.gif yes.gif laughing.gif laughing.gif

Same here he says I am a misserable old lady. Whatever laughing.gif whistling.gif


Even worse, he thinks it's curable with sex. Yeah right! whatever! but I'll tak it devil.gif laughing.gif

Oh my now that is funny laughing.gif laughing.gif


Talk about sex...just want to share a story...hehehe laughing.gif . So I was in Jamaica and my husband is a total nite owl. mi always drop a sleep lef him a watch TV. Mind u mi did knock out...dreaming and all I felt him trying to get busy, so I woke up at least I thought I was up. I said to him " u pick up the sumpting from the guy wah u sey", he replies "what" all u heard was laughter, mi realise mi a chat foolishness...ahahhaaa laughing.gif laughing.gif yes.gif..dat teach him no bodda mi inna mi sleep



laughing.gif laughing.gif laughing.gif laughing.gif
brownnskinn
QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jun 12 2007, 05:33 PM) *
QUOTE(Jomo @ Jun 12 2007, 02:20 PM) *
QUOTE(waynegeraldine @ Jun 12 2007, 01:19 PM) *
Hello Ladies, we all know that long distance is rough, my fiance and I we seem to argue every day, I think there is so much things you can talk about and once it gets past that some tension tend to develop, I sometimes wonder if I deliberabely see out controversies with her just to feel like the relationship is just not a figment of my imagination.

What are you opinions on that.



Now is not the time to be doubting just cause you are frustrated on the journey. It will soon be over and all this will be something you will say "did it all really happen?". Hang in there.


I agree with Jomo, don't give up now. Everything seem so much more difficult when u cannot see emotions. I went thru the same thing mostly b/c of hormones when I was pregnant. I would find everything to argue about. Mostly b/c cause I was gonna be by myself when our daughter was born. If anyone tells u it is always joy and happy times, I doubt that for sure. Just hang in there. Maybe u can try not talking so often and see how that goes. Don't give up though.


Yes, try to hang in there, relax, try giving each other phone space, I found this to be very hard, esp in a LDR. Esp. If you talk every day, many times a day like we did, you run out of things to talk about, so you end up getting into arguments about nothing really cause your are fustrated and just want to be near the other person. At one point I forced myself to only say something brief like, "hello good morning, I love you, I'm going to have a busy day at work so I may not be able to talk much.. or what ever and not call back until late at night, only to say I love you, I hope you had a great day...keeping it very short, on a day that I didn't even have to work blink.gif wacko.gif A few days of this and we were able to have good quality conversation. I'm not sure I was playing mind games with him or myself wacko.gif laughing.gif No worries mon, I think the adjustment once in the US is harder than the wait getting them here. Relax enjoy your alone time, while you have it. wink.gif
brownnskinn
QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jun 12 2007, 08:39 PM) *
Talk about sex...just want to share a story...hehehe laughing.gif . So I was in Jamaica and my husband is a total nite owl. mi always drop a sleep lef him a watch TV. Mind u mi did knock out...dreaming and all I felt him trying to get busy, so I woke up at least I thought I was up. I said to him " u pick up the sumpting from the guy wah u sey", he replies "what" all u heard was laughter, mi realise mi a chat foolishness...ahahhaaa laughing.gif laughing.gif yes.gif..dat teach him no bodda mi inna mi sleep


laughing.gif ROTFLMAO laughing.gif laughing.gif
BelwinMills
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 08:42 PM) *
QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jun 12 2007, 05:33 PM) *
QUOTE(Jomo @ Jun 12 2007, 02:20 PM) *
QUOTE(waynegeraldine @ Jun 12 2007, 01:19 PM) *
Hello Ladies, we all know that long distance is rough, my fiance and I we seem to argue every day, I think there is so much things you can talk about and once it gets past that some tension tend to develop, I sometimes wonder if I deliberabely see out controversies with her just to feel like the relationship is just not a figment of my imagination.

What are you opinions on that.



Now is not the time to be doubting just cause you are frustrated on the journey. It will soon be over and all this will be something you will say "did it all really happen?". Hang in there.


I agree with Jomo, don't give up now. Everything seem so much more difficult when u cannot see emotions. I went thru the same thing mostly b/c of hormones when I was pregnant. I would find everything to argue about. Mostly b/c cause I was gonna be by myself when our daughter was born. If anyone tells u it is always joy and happy times, I doubt that for sure. Just hang in there. Maybe u can try not talking so often and see how that goes. Don't give up though.


Yes, try to hang in there, relax, try giving each other phone space, I found this to be very hard, esp in a LDR. Esp. If you talk every day, many times a day like we did, you run out of things to talk about, so you end up getting into arguments about nothing really cause your are fustrated and just want to be near the other person. At one point I forced myself to only say something brief like, "hello good morning, I love you, I'm going to have a busy day at work so I may not be able to talk much.. or what ever and not call back until late at night, only to say I love you, I hope you had a great day...keeping it very short, on a day that I didn't even have to work blink.gif wacko.gif A few days of this and we were able to have good quality conversation. I'm not sure I was playing mind games with him or myself wacko.gif laughing.gif No worries mon, I think the adjustment once in the US is harder than the wait getting them here. Relax enjoy your alone time, while you have it. wink.gif

Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.
brownnskinn
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:49 PM) *
Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.


You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean sad.gif helpsmilie.gif Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book whistling.gif Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink helpsmilie.gif
BelwinMills
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 08:59 PM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:49 PM) *
Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.


You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean sad.gif helpsmilie.gif Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book whistling.gif Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink helpsmilie.gif

I understand I watch his horror flicks and action movies. Sometimes I fall asleep on him but he hasnt noticed yet.

laughing.gif Bean oh my Props to you
clairern
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 11 2007, 08:10 PM) *
QUOTE(clairern @ Jun 11 2007, 05:23 PM) *
QUOTE(Captain Ewok @ Apr 5 2007, 03:23 AM) *
Hey guys I am restarting your great thread as it got too big and slowed down the server some.

Link to the old thread:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=22717


Hey guys, I am new to the site, discovered it while surfing the net researching ways to get my new found love to join me here in the US without waiting forever. I am obsessed with this site. I log on every day reading all the interesting pointers and the various journies/experiences that you all have been through. My eyes have been opened so greatly. I am amazed at the process and trying to understand the language and different steps to achieving this goal. After having lived here for over 20 years and not thinking I would need immigration at some point, I am clueless as to the proper way/steps to follow. I have no doubt that you guys will be there for me when I officially start the process.

BIG UP

Welcome Clairern!! All the best with your visa journey!

QUOTE(FutureMrs @ Jun 11 2007, 04:49 PM) *
So I got my bank verification letter today. All it has is the date my account was opened and the current amount! I'm pissed because the lady I spoke with from the bank assured me that it would include the total amount of deposits for the last year. I paid $10.00 for that piece of crap that ain't gonna help me! So, did anyone print out ALL of their bank statements for the 12 month period for the interview??? helpsmilie.gif

No only 3 and my bank is on the internet. They didn't even look at bank statements.


Thanks for the encouragement you guys/gals
NotMrs
QUOTE(clairern @ Jun 12 2007, 07:51 PM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 11 2007, 08:10 PM) *
QUOTE(clairern @ Jun 11 2007, 05:23 PM) *
QUOTE(Captain Ewok @ Apr 5 2007, 03:23 AM) *
Hey guys I am restarting your great thread as it got too big and slowed down the server some.

Link to the old thread:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=22717


Hey guys, I am new to the site, discovered it while surfing the net researching ways to get my new found love to join me here in the US without waiting forever. I am obsessed with this site. I log on every day reading all the interesting pointers and the various journies/experiences that you all have been through. My eyes have been opened so greatly. I am amazed at the process and trying to understand the language and different steps to achieving this goal. After having lived here for over 20 years and not thinking I would need immigration at some point, I am clueless as to the proper way/steps to follow. I have no doubt that you guys will be there for me when I officially start the process.

BIG UP

Welcome Clairern!! All the best with your visa journey!

QUOTE(FutureMrs @ Jun 11 2007, 04:49 PM) *
So I got my bank verification letter today. All it has is the date my account was opened and the current amount! I'm pissed because the lady I spoke with from the bank assured me that it would include the total amount of deposits for the last year. I paid $10.00 for that piece of crap that ain't gonna help me! So, did anyone print out ALL of their bank statements for the 12 month period for the interview??? helpsmilie.gif

No only 3 and my bank is on the internet. They didn't even look at bank statements.


Thanks for the encouragement you guys/gals



Not a problem! We are all (or have) going through the process!
Sonshyne
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 06:19 PM) *
QUOTE(waynegeraldine @ Jun 12 2007, 01:19 PM) *
Hello Ladies, we all know that long distance is rough, my fiance and I we seem to argue every day, I think there is so much things you can talk about and once it gets past that some tension tend to develop, I sometimes wonder if I deliberabely see out controversies with her just to feel like the relationship is just not a figment of my imagination.

What are you opinions on that.


I admit. I am guilty of starting arguments just to see what the response will be. Now I think of it as sign of insecurity on my part blush.gif


Neil won't even argue with me at all. If I start to argue or get vexed at all, his apply to me is always.... Babes, relax.
Sonshyne
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 07:23 PM) *
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 08:59 PM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:49 PM) *
Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.


You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean sad.gif helpsmilie.gif Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book whistling.gif Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink helpsmilie.gif

I understand I watch his horror flicks and action movies. Sometimes I fall asleep on him but he hasnt noticed yet.

laughing.gif Bean oh my Props to you


His favortie past time is music videos whistling.gif I have never watched BET so much in my entire life as I have in the last two months blink.gif
nyseness
QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jun 12 2007, 08:23 PM) *
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 09:19 PM) *
QUOTE(waynegeraldine @ Jun 12 2007, 01:19 PM) *
Hello Ladies, we all know that long distance is rough, my fiance and I we seem to argue every day, I think there is so much things you can talk about and once it gets past that some tension tend to develop, I sometimes wonder if I deliberabely see out controversies with her just to feel like the relationship is just not a figment of my imagination.

What are you opinions on that.


I admit. I am guilty of starting arguments just to see what the response will be. Now I think of it as sign of insecurity on my part blush.gif



Definately, b/c ur so far apart everything MUST involve you..i think we r all a little guilty of that.If Kashi answer the phone w/o saying "hi baby", argument "who r u with why u can't talk ? laughing.gif laughing.gif but in reality it's my head thats messed up...so he would say it for me to stop cussing..and when mi start mi caan stop...hehehee laughing.gif luv.gif


That's too funny!!! laughing.gif I am exactly the same way I thought it was just me.
Sonshyne
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 06:49 PM) *
Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.


I am so thankful that when we went to a reggae around the poolside party last month that Neil came across a friend from Jamaica kicking.gif kicking.gif He has been here for ten years now and lives about 10 minutes from us. It really helps with the adjustment for us, and has cut back on the phone calls home biggrin.gif
rhondapayter
QUOTE(AlienUKGirl @ Jun 12 2007, 09:11 AM) *
WOuld it be worth talking to his mom or sister maybe?
They would understand how you feel about being left alone while pregnant, even though I'd go ape even if I wasn't!!

I would be scared of being home alone, when you're pregnant ANYTHING can happen sad.gif
Again, you hardly see enough of him as it is with your crazy shifts....

Maybe sitting him down and telling him how much you love him and how much you desperately need him around now more than ever might work.

The only sister he had is deceased and his mother is really nice, but really hard for me to understand. We don't talk on the phone except to say hello, how are you. If he is still set on this crazy idea, in August when we go to Jamaica, I will talk to his mom or his dad.

I'm scared to death of him leaving while I'm pregnant crying.gif I am so upset and worried I can't stop thinking about it. He's in Indiana this week - we're supposed to talk when he gets home this weekend. But he is so stubborn and hard-headed I can't get through to him. He just see's $$$ signs.
rhondapayter
QUOTE(sjb1221 @ Jun 12 2007, 04:41 PM) *
Damien and I are in a similar situation. We had a talk recently about moving overseas...we both agreed that it would be nice to experience living somewhere else in the Caribbean or Africa but Kingston would be nice.

Sorry you missed out on that. At least Damien could have moved there WITH you. Tony knows I can't move right now. He wants to go there anyways to work - without me mad.gif I can't leave my job right now - I need my benefits and my maternity leave, not to mention I can't get time off thru FMLA if I haven't been at the same job for at least 12 months. So no way can I go down there.
rhondapayter
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:52 PM) *
My temper in this sistution would be crazy mad. I would talk to him and try to reason with him.

Add to that my raging hormones and out of control emotions and it's no wonder we had a HUGE fight yesterday over the phone crying.gif He mentioned this whole thing about a month ago and I told him THEN that it was a very bad idea and I was not going to be ok with it. Then he tells me yesterday that he already signed the paperwork for it mad.gif ranting33va.gif Without even talking it over with me!! I'm hurt, upset, mad, scared, worried ..... I'm losing my mind. Then he has the nerve to tell me today that we'll talk about it but he's already made up his mind! What the f***????? I don't get any say in this??? I am sooooooo MAD. mad.gif
JaEnglishGirl
QUOTE(sjb1221 @ Jun 12 2007, 09:41 PM) *
Well last month an office management specialist job opened in Kingston. Civil service job vacancies are rare in Kingston so I was so happy. Damien was not excited at all. Although we had this talk many times, he changed his mind. It's not like he was going to struggle when he lived in JA before - being my spouse he could work for the Embassy or other US gov'ment agencies in JA with full benefits. I thought Kingston will be better because it's familiar to both of us and not far from home...3 hours away. The tour last three years with 2 paid vacations home to the US lasting a month at a time and I can use my other vacation time if we have to come home. We could have returned if we didn't like it. Advantages: free housing in a nice neighborhood in Kingston, Damien would have been closer to his family, top security, hired help, free education for my daughter to go to a private American school in Kingston, get out of debt, save lots of money and live in my favorite country…his home.

That would be my DREAM job!!

My fiance wouldn't go either though....Not that I blame him, he has a great job here and he's also doing a degree in accounting. When he's finished that he wants to be able to spend the summers in JA and freelance the rest of the year....Just have to get him to have us move to Florida whistling.gif whistling.gif

QUOTE(rhondapayter @ Jun 13 2007, 08:54 AM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:52 PM) *
My temper in this sistution would be crazy mad. I would talk to him and try to reason with him.

Add to that my raging hormones and out of control emotions and it's no wonder we had a HUGE fight yesterday over the phone crying.gif He mentioned this whole thing about a month ago and I told him THEN that it was a very bad idea and I was not going to be ok with it. Then he tells me yesterday that he already signed the paperwork for it mad.gif ranting33va.gif Without even talking it over with me!! I'm hurt, upset, mad, scared, worried ..... I'm losing my mind. Then he has the nerve to tell me today that we'll talk about it but he's already made up his mind! What the f***????? I don't get any say in this??? I am sooooooo MAD. mad.gif

All I can say is wow sad.gif

I would definitely talk to his parents, that seems like your only hope of changing his mind because he's all set sad.gif

Does your company have any branches where he's going to be working??
If they do, maybe you could transfer without losing your benefits?
Jomo's girl
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 08:42 PM) *
QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jun 12 2007, 05:33 PM) *
QUOTE(Jomo @ Jun 12 2007, 02:20 PM) *
QUOTE(waynegeraldine @ Jun 12 2007, 01:19 PM) *
Hello Ladies, we all know that long distance is rough, my fiance and I we seem to argue every day, I think there is so much things you can talk about and once it gets past that some tension tend to develop, I sometimes wonder if I deliberabely see out controversies with her just to feel like the relationship is just not a figment of my imagination.

What are you opinions on that.



Now is not the time to be doubting just cause you are frustrated on the journey. It will soon be over and all this will be something you will say "did it all really happen?". Hang in there.


I agree with Jomo, don't give up now. Everything seem so much more difficult when u cannot see emotions. I went thru the same thing mostly b/c of hormones when I was pregnant. I would find everything to argue about. Mostly b/c cause I was gonna be by myself when our daughter was born. If anyone tells u it is always joy and happy times, I doubt that for sure. Just hang in there. Maybe u can try not talking so often and see how that goes. Don't give up though.


Yes, try to hang in there, relax, try giving each other phone space, I found this to be very hard, esp in a LDR. Esp. If you talk every day, many times a day like we did, you run out of things to talk about, so you end up getting into arguments about nothing really cause your are fustrated and just want to be near the other person. At one point I forced myself to only say something brief like, "hello good morning, I love you, I'm going to have a busy day at work so I may not be able to talk much.. or what ever and not call back until late at night, only to say I love you, I hope you had a great day...keeping it very short, on a day that I didn't even have to work blink.gif wacko.gif A few days of this and we were able to have good quality conversation. I'm not sure I was playing mind games with him or myself wacko.gif laughing.gif No worries mon, I think the adjustment once in the US is harder than the wait getting them here. Relax enjoy your alone time, while you have it. wink.gif


Andre and I talked several times a day, every day, and I think it is the only thing that got me through. Thank God we didn't run out of things to say.

I am responding cause I have to COMPLETELY agree with what was said above....."I think the adjustment once in the US is harder then the wait getting them here." If you think you are having difficulties now, just wait. Things will get much harder before they get easier. The adjustment period is long and difficult. Don't fret.....everything can be overcome or worked out and the first step to a beautiful future. It just takes lots of patience and adjusting on both your parts. I agree with the poster.....enjoy your time alone while you have it.
Jomo's girl
QUOTE(rhondapayter @ Jun 13 2007, 02:36 AM) *
QUOTE(AlienUKGirl @ Jun 12 2007, 09:11 AM) *
WOuld it be worth talking to his mom or sister maybe?
They would understand how you feel about being left alone while pregnant, even though I'd go ape even if I wasn't!!

I would be scared of being home alone, when you're pregnant ANYTHING can happen sad.gif
Again, you hardly see enough of him as it is with your crazy shifts....

Maybe sitting him down and telling him how much you love him and how much you desperately need him around now more than ever might work.

The only sister he had is deceased and his mother is really nice, but really hard for me to understand. We don't talk on the phone except to say hello, how are you. If he is still set on this crazy idea, in August when we go to Jamaica, I will talk to his mom or his dad.

I'm scared to death of him leaving while I'm pregnant crying.gif I am so upset and worried I can't stop thinking about it. He's in Indiana this week - we're supposed to talk when he gets home this weekend. But he is so stubborn and hard-headed I can't get through to him. He just see's $$$ signs.



I talked to Andre about this last night and he said your husband is crazy. He said he doesn't even want to work the night shift cause he wants to be able to sleep next to me.
kkholiday2006
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 10:23 PM) *
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 08:59 PM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:49 PM) *
Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.


You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean sad.gif helpsmilie.gif Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book whistling.gif Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink helpsmilie.gif

I understand I watch his horror flicks and action movies. Sometimes I fall asleep on him but he hasnt noticed yet.

laughing.gif Bean oh my Props to you



My SO loves the Discovery and the History channel. I mean how many documentary can you watch in one day. Then he likes to quiz me on information he learns. wacko.gif wacko.gif helpsmilie.gif
Jengles
QUOTE(Sonshyne @ Jun 13 2007, 12:28 AM) *
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 06:19 PM) *
QUOTE(waynegeraldine @ Jun 12 2007, 01:19 PM) *
Hello Ladies, we all know that long distance is rough, my fiance and I we seem to argue every day, I think there is so much things you can talk about and once it gets past that some tension tend to develop, I sometimes wonder if I deliberabely see out controversies with her just to feel like the relationship is just not a figment of my imagination.

What are you opinions on that.


I admit. I am guilty of starting arguments just to see what the response will be. Now I think of it as sign of insecurity on my part blush.gif


Neil won't even argue with me at all. If I start to argue or get vexed at all, his apply to me is always.... Babes, relax.



that sounds like my husband, when I was in Ja i got mad at him and my man went to bed and had the nerve to actually go to sleep.
MyDestinyAwaits
i don't have time to sit and watch tv during the school year, and i usually don't even subscribe to it. but now that it's summer i decided to get a cable & internet package offered by the cable company and i've become quite the couch potato. my fiance has never had cable, and when we stay together in a hotel the tv is constantly on. his addiction: sports (specifically soccer & cricket). i have a feeling that i'll need to put a tv in the bedroom in order to get him to come to bed at night! lol



rhonda, i'd also be shocked and insanely pissed off if my husband signed papers to do something as major as that without first consulting me. i can't believe that he has his mind set on it. he's actually okay with potentially (or probably) missing the baby's birth?
Jomo's girl
QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jun 13 2007, 08:13 AM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 10:23 PM) *
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 08:59 PM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:49 PM) *
Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.


You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean sad.gif helpsmilie.gif Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book whistling.gif Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink helpsmilie.gif

I understand I watch his horror flicks and action movies. Sometimes I fall asleep on him but he hasnt noticed yet.

laughing.gif Bean oh my Props to you



My SO loves the Discovery and the History channel. I mean how many documentary can you watch in one day. Then he likes to quiz me on information he learns. wacko.gif wacko.gif helpsmilie.gif


Antiques Roadshow...............Andre is enthralled with the Antiques Roadshow. We never miss an episode.
waynegeraldine
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 09:19 PM) *
QUOTE(waynegeraldine @ Jun 12 2007, 01:19 PM) *
Hello Ladies, we all know that long distance is rough, my fiance and I we seem to argue every day, I think there is so much things you can talk about and once it gets past that some tension tend to develop, I sometimes wonder if I deliberabely see out controversies with her just to feel like the relationship is just not a figment of my imagination.

What are you opinions on that.


I admit. I am guilty of starting arguments just to see what the response will be. Now I think of it as sign of insecurity on my part blush.gif

It's difficult not to be insecure from such a distance, but you just have to try and keep a positive attitude.
waynegeraldine
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 09:59 PM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:49 PM) *
Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.


You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean sad.gif helpsmilie.gif Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book whistling.gif Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink helpsmilie.gif


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Lifetime, African movies helpsmilie.gif
sjb1221
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 09:10 PM) *
QUOTE(sjb1221 @ Jun 12 2007, 03:41 PM) *
He said that he's afraid that he won't be able to find a job but they are available…I have access to the job listings. By the time he came around…the job closed. He didn't see the benefits until it was too late. But trust me, I understand his concerns…leaving JA, coming here to a life and job which he loves so much then going back.

Someone just told me that same job is available in Nairobi, Kenya….I won't waste my breathe on that one.



So, are you going? D gave me the same response. I'm thinking about going into the Navy. He's like what am "I going to do"? I seh work same way!


No, I decided to wait next year.
sjb1221
QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jun 12 2007, 05:16 PM) *
QUOTE(sjb1221 @ Jun 12 2007, 04:41 PM) *
QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jun 12 2007, 01:19 PM) *
QUOTE(rhondapayter @ Jun 12 2007, 03:13 AM) *
Ladies I have a big dilemma. Tony wants to go to Louisiana to work for 8 months! ohmy.gif The work would start in September. The baby is due in December. He says he would come home on weekends. I have a HUGE problem with this and he doesn't seem to understand or he just doesnt' care. All he sees are $$$ signs. I do not want to be a single mom. This is my first baby - I am scared to death sad.gif I do not want a weekend relationship with my husband - I want him there every day. I had enough of long distance relationship BS when he was still in Jamaica.

Not to mention, there are no direct flights from there to Detroit and the flights cost about $400 each!! That would be $1600 a month in plane fares plus he would have to rent an apartment down there for during the week. He doesn't seem to understand the insanity of his plan. The more I try to talk him out of it, the more stubborn and determined he is to make it happen. Please advise helpsmilie.gif crying.gif


Girl I can totally see what your saying..def need a serious talk. I just had to shut down my husband his job wants him to go to Trinidad, I said YOU MUST BE OUT OF UR DAMN MIND ! Where does he think he's going NOW..u have an interview in 1 1/2 mth...got to be kidding..but hang in there...do the pro/con talk


Damien and I are in a similar situation. We had a talk recently about moving overseas...we both agreed that it would be nice to experience living somewhere else in the Caribbean or Africa but Kingston would be nice. He said that was okay with him because it's only a year but no more than three years. Right now I work in personnel for 40+ European Embassies at the State Department. I hire family members of foreign service officers at each Embassy. Before the end of the summer all of the personnel regional countries will combine except for the Middle East. My workload will increase tremendously and I will be on traveling a lot…looking for a new job.

Well last month an office management specialist job opened in Kingston. Civil service job vacancies are rare in Kingston so I was so happy. Damien was not excited at all. Although we had this talk many times, he changed his mind. It's not like he was going to struggle when he lived in JA before - being my spouse he could work for the Embassy or other US gov'ment agencies in JA with full benefits. I thought Kingston will be better because it's familiar to both of us and not far from home...3 hours away. The tour last three years with 2 paid vacations home to the US lasting a month at a time and I can use my other vacation time if we have to come home. We could have returned if we didn't like it. Advantages: free housing in a nice neighborhood in Kingston, Damien would have been closer to his family, top security, hired help, free education for my daughter to go to a private American school in Kingston, get out of debt, save lots of money and live in my favorite country…his home.

He said that he's afraid that he won't be able to find a job but they are available…I have access to the job listings. By the time he came around…the job closed. He didn't see the benefits until it was too late. But trust me, I understand his concerns…leaving JA, coming here to a life and job which he loves so much then going back.

Someone just told me that same job is available in Nairobi, Kenya….I won't waste my breathe on that one.


I always had a dream of working at the Kingston US embassy. Do you have to go through extensive background check for a civil service position?


It depends on your position...most require a secret clearance while others may request a public trust clearance which is not as extensive.
sjb1221
QUOTE(Sonshyne @ Jun 13 2007, 12:36 AM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 06:49 PM) *
Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.


I am so thankful that when we went to a reggae around the poolside party last month that Neil came across a friend from Jamaica kicking.gif kicking.gif He has been here for ten years now and lives about 10 minutes from us. It really helps with the adjustment for us, and has cut back on the phone calls home biggrin.gif


Damien has lots of friends here...some childhood friends from JA, co-workers, gym buddies....and he STILL does not go anywhere helpsmilie.gif His workout buddies invited him to a Caribbean cookout last weekend...I had to fake a headache to get out of going...he had a wonderful time...I had a few hours to myself kicking.gif
Sonshyne
QUOTE(sjb1221 @ Jun 13 2007, 08:30 AM) *
I had to fake a headache to get out of going...he had a wonderful time...I had a few hours to myself kicking.gif


laughing.gif laughing.gif I've had to do this a few times myself whistling.gif
sjb1221
QUOTE(rhondapayter @ Jun 13 2007, 03:48 AM) *
QUOTE(sjb1221 @ Jun 12 2007, 04:41 PM) *
Damien and I are in a similar situation. We had a talk recently about moving overseas...we both agreed that it would be nice to experience living somewhere else in the Caribbean or Africa but Kingston would be nice.

Sorry you missed out on that. At least Damien could have moved there WITH you. Tony knows I can't move right now. He wants to go there anyways to work - without me mad.gif I can't leave my job right now - I need my benefits and my maternity leave, not to mention I can't get time off thru FMLA if I haven't been at the same job for at least 12 months. So no way can I go down there.


I was about to leave him here...it was a hard decision because I wanted that job soooooooo bad...only 3 other people applied for it mad.gif Marriage is about compromising and sacrificing.

We also decided to wait until he receives his 10 year green card...didn't want to be overseas in the middle of the process.



sjb1221
QUOTE(Jomo @ Jun 13 2007, 09:38 AM) *
QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jun 13 2007, 08:13 AM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 10:23 PM) *
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 08:59 PM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:49 PM) *
Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.


You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean sad.gif helpsmilie.gif Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book whistling.gif Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink helpsmilie.gif

I understand I watch his horror flicks and action movies. Sometimes I fall asleep on him but he hasnt noticed yet.

laughing.gif Bean oh my Props to you



My SO loves the Discovery and the History channel. I mean how many documentary can you watch in one day. Then he likes to quiz me on information he learns. wacko.gif wacko.gif helpsmilie.gif


Antiques Roadshow...............Andre is enthralled with the Antiques Roadshow. We never miss an episode.


Damien LOVES basketball....I am so sick of basketball especially now with the playoffs......but at least he keeps him busy while I watch Will & Grace every night laughing.gif

He also watches wrestling every Monday and Friday nights. Sometimes we watch soccer on the Spanish channel dead.gif
sjb1221
QUOTE(Sonshyne @ Jun 13 2007, 11:37 AM) *
QUOTE(sjb1221 @ Jun 13 2007, 08:30 AM) *
I had to fake a headache to get out of going...he had a wonderful time...I had a few hours to myself kicking.gif


laughing.gif laughing.gif I've had to do this a few times myself whistling.gif


Yeah, but almost three years later wacko.gif .
Sonshyne
QUOTE(MyDestinyAwaits @ Jun 13 2007, 06:36 AM) *
my fiance has never had cable, and when we stay together in a hotel the tv is constantly on. his addiction: sports (specifically soccer & cricket).

Neil didn't have cable either, they only got on channel in yard JTV blink.gif He didn't watch much tv. The few times we stayed in a hotel it was music vidoes, music vidoes and more music vidoes wacko.gif Oh and how did I forget to soccer and cricket blink.gif

One more thing.... Is channel surfing a man thing??? Or is it just my mans thing?
NotMrs
You ladies crack me up! I am debating on getting cable or satellite when Marlon gets here but after reading some of the horror stories here I dunno! lol I do know that Marlon is big time into horror and action films and I too have fallen asleep during them! blink.gif I am more of the romantic comedy/comedy/sci-fi type.

Rhonda: I am so sorry to hear that Tony is soooo pigheaded! You WILL talk him out of it and ALL will work out! Hang in there as you are a strong and smart woman!
Hotlegz
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 09:38 PM) *
QUOTE(kimmykashi @ Jun 12 2007, 08:17 PM) *
So, can u request the visa to be delivered at a particular address or what..how do they do that..?

You can request to have it sent to your address or the post office. The post office then will call your hubby to pick it up. That is what we did and had it in 5 working days.



KOOL THANKS
kkholiday2006
QUOTE(FutureMrs @ Jun 13 2007, 12:19 PM) *
You ladies crack me up! I am debating on getting cable or satellite when Marlon gets here but after reading some of the horror stories here I dunno! lol I do know that Marlon is big time into horror and action films and I too have fallen asleep during them! blink.gif I am more of the romantic comedy/comedy/sci-fi type.

Rhonda: I am so sorry to hear that Tony is soooo pigheaded! You WILL talk him out of it and ALL will work out! Hang in there as you are a strong and smart woman!



My fiance complained so much about my 13 inch tv that I finally updated to a flat screen 20 inch. It was a deal I could not refuse...So now he wants me to throw away a perfectly working 13 inch tv saying that it is too small and a piece of junk. That TV got me through college. Also, I got Direct TV so that I can watch shows with him....via telephone....and we crack up laughing together. I miss him.

Has anyone stayed at Rooms on the Beach in Ocho Rios/Runaway Bay? The are having a great deal $94 a night...but it seems a little suspect.

If not, what a nice place either Montego Bay or Ocho area to stay?
Jomo's girl
QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jun 13 2007, 11:32 AM) *
QUOTE(FutureMrs @ Jun 13 2007, 12:19 PM) *
You ladies crack me up! I am debating on getting cable or satellite when Marlon gets here but after reading some of the horror stories here I dunno! lol I do know that Marlon is big time into horror and action films and I too have fallen asleep during them! blink.gif I am more of the romantic comedy/comedy/sci-fi type.

Rhonda: I am so sorry to hear that Tony is soooo pigheaded! You WILL talk him out of it and ALL will work out! Hang in there as you are a strong and smart woman!



My fiance complained so much about my 13 inch tv that I finally updated to a flat screen 20 inch. It was a deal I could not refuse...So now he wants me to throw away a perfectly working 13 inch tv saying that it is too small and a piece of junk. That TV got me through college. Also, I got Direct TV so that I can watch shows with him....via telephone....and we crack up laughing together. I miss him.

Has anyone stayed at Rooms on the Beach in Ocho Rios/Runaway Bay? The are having a great deal $94 a night...but it seems a little suspect.

If not, what a nice place either Montego Bay or Ocho area to stay?


I've known a few places who stayed at Rooms on the Beach. They said they were okay. Nothing spectacular; but not nasty either. In MoBay, I've stayed at the Holiday Inn Sunspree, Royal Decameron, and some nasty hotel where we refused to sleep on the sheets provided or touch the shower curtain. Can't remember the name of that last place. I loved Sunspree and Decameron. Both were very nice.


Sarah: You better get Marlon some cable. Sometimes I think that was the only thing that saved Andre from screaming boredom while waiting to be able to get a job.
Hotlegz
QUOTE(sjb1221 @ Jun 13 2007, 11:52 AM) *
QUOTE(Jomo @ Jun 13 2007, 09:38 AM) *
QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jun 13 2007, 08:13 AM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 10:23 PM) *
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 08:59 PM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:49 PM) *
Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.


You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean sad.gif helpsmilie.gif Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book whistling.gif Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink helpsmilie.gif

I understand I watch his horror flicks and action movies. Sometimes I fall asleep on him but he hasnt noticed yet.

laughing.gif Bean oh my Props to you



My SO loves the Discovery and the History channel. I mean how many documentary can you watch in one day. Then he likes to quiz me on information he learns. wacko.gif wacko.gif helpsmilie.gif


Antiques Roadshow...............Andre is enthralled with the Antiques Roadshow. We never miss an episode.


Damien LOVES basketball....I am so sick of basketball especially now with the playoffs......but at least he keeps him busy while I watch Will & Grace every night laughing.gif

He also watches wrestling every Monday and Friday nights. Sometimes we watch soccer on the Spanish channel dead.gif


hahHaaaa... laughing.gif i SEEMY UCLE doing this..I'm like what !..do u even understand what they'r saying..they just wanna hear Jamaica and they're in

Rhonda I'm so very sorry to hear that he actually agreed w/o speaking with you. Gosh, I don't know what to say. God will work it out, remember he doesn't give more than u can handle. Hope it's not too late to take those papers back...He's out of his mind right now...
Hotlegz
QUOTE(kkholiday2006 @ Jun 13 2007, 09:13 AM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 10:23 PM) *
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 08:59 PM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:49 PM) *
Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.


You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean sad.gif helpsmilie.gif Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book whistling.gif Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink helpsmilie.gif

I understand I watch his horror flicks and action movies. Sometimes I fall asleep on him but he hasnt noticed yet.

laughing.gif Bean oh my Props to you



My SO loves the Discovery and the History channel. I mean how many documentary can you watch in one day. Then he likes to quiz me on information he learns. wacko.gif wacko.gif helpsmilie.gif


Thats me..give History, discovery, TLC, HGTV laughing.gif ..very informative..love it
NotMrs
Sarah: You better get Marlon some cable. Sometimes I think that was the only thing that saved Andre from screaming boredom while waiting to be able to get a job.
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I know, and I will. The cool thing is I have a roommate now who is willing to show Marlon around when I am at work! We were just talking about cable the other day and we are certainly planning on it!
Hotlegz
QUOTE(Sonshyne @ Jun 13 2007, 12:31 AM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 07:23 PM) *
QUOTE(Denden @ Jun 12 2007, 08:59 PM) *
QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:49 PM) *
Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.


You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean sad.gif helpsmilie.gif Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book whistling.gif Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink helpsmilie.gif

I understand I watch his horror flicks and action movies. Sometimes I fall asleep on him but he hasnt noticed yet.

laughing.gif Bean oh my Props to you


His favortie past time is music videos whistling.gif I have never watched BET so much in my entire life as I have in the last two months blink.gif


Hey sonshyne how was ur wedding ?
Hotlegz
Jlvr are u all set ur inteview ? Where did u get the medical done ?
sjb1221
QUOTE(Jomo @ Jun 13 2007, 12:36 PM) *
I've known a few places who stayed at Rooms on the Beach. They said they were okay. Nothing spectacular; but not nasty either. In MoBay, I've stayed at the Holiday Inn Sunspree, Royal Decameron, and some nasty hotel where we refused to sleep on the sheets provided or touch the shower curtain. Can't remember the name of that last place. I loved Sunspree and Decameron. Both were very nice.


I heard okay things about Rooms...nothing horrible.

I've stayed at the Royal Decameron, Holiday Inn Sunspree, El Greco, Gloriana (yuck) and the Gloustershire in MoBay. My favorite is Royal Decameron for all-inclusive and El Greco for non all-inclusive. I also stayed at Couples Swept Away in Negril....too expensive and boring.
Yaads