QUOTE(sjb1221 @ Jun 12 2007, 09:41 PM)

Well last month an office management specialist job opened in Kingston. Civil service job vacancies are rare in Kingston so I was so happy. Damien was not excited at all. Although we had this talk many times, he changed his mind. It's not like he was going to struggle when he lived in JA before - being my spouse he could work for the Embassy or other US gov'ment agencies in JA with full benefits. I thought Kingston will be better because it's familiar to both of us and not far from home...3 hours away. The tour last three years with 2 paid vacations home to the US lasting a month at a time and I can use my other vacation time if we have to come home. We could have returned if we didn't like it. Advantages: free housing in a nice neighborhood in Kingston, Damien would have been closer to his family, top security, hired help, free education for my daughter to go to a private American school in Kingston, get out of debt, save lots of money and live in my favorite country…his home.
That would be my DREAM job!!
My fiance wouldn't go either though....Not that I blame him, he has a great job here and he's also doing a degree in accounting. When he's finished that he wants to be able to spend the summers in JA and freelance the rest of the year....Just have to get him to have us move to Florida

QUOTE(rhondapayter @ Jun 13 2007, 08:54 AM)

QUOTE(BelwinMills @ Jun 12 2007, 08:52 PM)

My temper in this sistution would be crazy mad. I would talk to him and try to reason with him.
Add to that my raging hormones and out of control emotions and it's no wonder we had a HUGE fight yesterday over the phone

He mentioned this whole thing about a month ago and I told him THEN that it was a very bad idea and I was not going to be ok with it. Then he tells me yesterday that he already signed the paperwork for it

Without even talking it over with me!! I'm hurt, upset, mad, scared, worried ..... I'm losing my mind. Then he has the nerve to tell me today that we'll talk about it but he's already made up his mind! What the f***????? I don't get any say in this??? I am sooooooo MAD.

All I can say is wow

I would definitely talk to his parents, that seems like your only hope of changing his mind because he's all set

Does your company have any branches where he's going to be working??
If they do, maybe you could transfer without losing your benefits?