QUOTE(featherB @ Mar 30 2007, 11:37 PM)

QUOTE(mags @ Mar 31 2007, 03:50 AM)

QUOTE(featherB @ Mar 30 2007, 09:41 PM)

QUOTE(meauxna @ Mar 31 2007, 01:07 AM)

QUOTE(featherB @ Mar 30 2007, 04:58 PM)

Hmph... all I have now is crappy mousey hair the way nature intended
haha.. just have to add, I know it's a good un if I can say, "this is not a color found in nature.. "
Hah, you are soooooo right - and why is it the most flattering colours are ones that are nothing like those found in nature?!
QUOTE(flutter95 @ Mar 31 2007, 02:05 AM)

Well you see for me, my hair is REALLY dark brown, almost black and is EVIL to dye cause it doesn't accept anything.
And I don't dye my hair normal colours

I have the opposite problem... mine's not blonde, by any stretch of the imagination (fair and mousey, as I mentioned above)... but light enough that it'll take dye really well (the peroxidey-based kind, that is, no point even trying with 'temporary' ones, they do NOTHING) and will look great for about 5 days... then it all comes right out and I'm left with mousey hair with a hint of whatever colour it was. As I like dyeing it pinky-purply-reddy colours, this usually results in me spending 3 weeks out of every 4 with a lilacy-blue rinse like some octogenarian. Soooo not a good look, that. (The other option is to bleach it a bit, then use those insanely coloured 'Directions' dyes and top it up every few days, but that's far too much effort). So I'm resigned to mousiness now.
Sigh... I *miss* silly and unnatural-coloured hair.
Choose a good shampoo. I use a special one for red hair, it helps keep the colour in, even in the sun (which fades it). If I don't the colour goes pretty quickly.
I did try the John Frieda one (Radiant Red, or whatever it's called), and I think it helped a bit, but I'd still have needed to be dyeing my hair about every 10 days. Then again, at least that way I wouldn't get roots.... I'm just wondering how badly it damages your hair to dye it more than once every 4 weeks or so?! Mine always looks shinier and healthier when it's dyed, although it obviously - that'll be that incredibly rich conditioner they always give you with hair dye but never seem to sell separately! Is your hair quite dark naturally, Mags? I can't work out why I can never get the dye to last in mine, whether it's too light, not light enough, too fine, or what... the only thing that ever seemed to stick without fading too quickly was black, but I'm not doing that again!!

I think my hair is a similar colour to yours naturally. Mousey fair with a touch of red here and there in sunlight. I was white blonde as a child. Shame that changed really, nothing worse than my natural colour now as an adult. I hate it. It is also really fine, my ponytail is rather embarrassing, so I dog clip it or keep it down (where it looks normal).
I use John Freida Radient Red conditioner and shampoo. It works wonders with my hair. If I use a normal conditioner/shampoo it fades REALLY quickly. Currently I dye my hair every 4-5 weeks and it does fade...but only a little.
Maybe you should go to a hairdresser and get them to do it. Explain to them the problem you are having and see if they have better results. Or perhaps you have already...lol. Worth a try if you haven't.
The last dye I used here was a Nice N' Easy one. I normally avoid them, but I was annoyed at the lack of choice colour wise. It contained a tube of that conditioner stuff AND it has enough to use once a week for 6 weeks. In fact, it tells you to do that on the box. Still NEVER looks as shiney as it does after it is dyed though.
I think they don't recommend you dye your hair too much, I think it can lead to a gradual thinning, but I may be talking out of my backside with that one....