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PlatyPius

Mar 18 2007, 07:21 AM

QUOTE(jenn3539 @ Mar 17 2007, 09:35 AM)

QUOTE(sparkofcreation @ Mar 17 2007, 01:16 AM)

I don't particularly want one, because that's a heck of a lot of dog to be responsible for, but if you have the time to devote to training them well, they're supposed to be utterly fantastic. I mean, you have to want a dog that's protective, but properly trained, they're not dangerous unless you threaten their people. And, as I said, incredibly intelligent and want to please their people.

I've heard the same and this is why he wants a rottweiler. My fear is that dogs can "flip" even if properly trained. Isn't that true?

Sorry, Lisa, not trying to hijack....

I've been around a few Rotties, and they were wonderful dogs. Like people, each one has a different personality. Normally I'd say that a shelter animal is going to have traits that you don't want; which is one reason people take their dogs/cats to shelters. In the case of a Rottie this is also true, but not as widespread. A lot of people who get Rotties will get rid of a NON-aggresive dog by abandoning it (or killing it). Ergo, your odds of finding a Rottie with a good temperament in a shelter is actually pretty decent. (Not that Rotties show up in shelters all that often anyway, though.)

Here's a bit from the American Rottweiler Club:

QUOTE

TEMPERAMENT: Rottweiler temperaments vary from natural clowns, who are affectionate to almost anyone, to the very reserved, one-person dog. Ideally they should be calm but alert companions. These dogs often follow their masters from place to place in the home, keeping a constant but unobtrusive watch over their loved one. Nervous, shy, excitable or hyperactive individuals are exhibiting traits which are undesirable in an animal the size and nature of the Rottweiler and should be avoided.

AGGRESSIVENESS: This trait varies with the individual dog to some degree, although all have a strong territorial instinct and will defend their master's home, car and property from intruders. Rottweilers have also been known to bully or bluff their owners or other people, a trait that is most disconcerting. This problem is easily prevented through early obedience training and the development of a mutually rewarding working relationship.

(bolding is by me. The two Rotties I "knew" were the clown sort.)

http://www.amrottclub.org/introduc.htm

Nessa

Mar 18 2007, 09:54 AM

Don't cheat on each other, don't drink and drive, don't play with wasps nest (Yeah I'm exagerating but this was similar the example Charles gave me when I asked which rules are you refering about

), respect each other, those are common sense, part of life, I don't see them as rules imposed by someone.

sparkofcreation

Mar 18 2007, 10:40 AM

QUOTE(PlatyPius @ Mar 18 2007, 06:21 AM)

I've been around a few Rotties, and they were wonderful dogs. Like people, each one has a different personality. Normally I'd say that a shelter animal is going to have traits that you don't want; which is one reason people take their dogs/cats to shelters. In the case of a Rottie this is also true, but not as widespread. A lot of people who get Rotties will get rid of a NON-aggresive dog by abandoning it (or killing it). Ergo, your odds of finding a Rottie with a good temperament in a shelter is actually pretty decent. (Not that Rotties show up in shelters all that often anyway, though.)

Actually I'd say rotties are easily in the top five in shelters around here. I have always wondered why; then again, the dogs people have here are not the dogs they had in NJ. In NJ people usually had labs, goldens, that sort of thing--big, goofy, and what you'd think of as the ideal with kids. Here they usually either have some sort of guard dog (like rotties and pit bulls) or some sort of herding dog (German shepherds, Australian shepherds, Australian cattle dogs, border collies) or else ... whatever you call dogs like huskies, malamutes, etc. (this one makes sense; the same characteristics that keep them warm in extreme cold also keep them cool in extreme heat).

Our primary requirement is that the dog be good with cats and not hurt them. Our cats like dogs, so I figure we're more than halfway there, but I think our biggest issue is going to be preferably something that can chase them without hurting them (i.e. without having a prey drive kick in and trying to eat them at the end). Second choice would be something that won't chase them at all, but since they love to be chased (by each other and by us), if we can manage something that will chase but not hurt them at the end, that would be ideal.

Alex+R

Mar 18 2007, 12:25 PM

I just read Min Pins are good with cats. Don't know if it's true though. I've had a cat for 2 weeks and I'm already trying to find out which dog I can get in ten years, hehehe

Happy Bunny

Mar 18 2007, 01:08 PM

QUOTE(nessaandcharles @ Mar 18 2007, 10:54 AM)

Don't cheat on each other, don't drink and drive, don't play with wasps nest (Yeah I'm exagerating but this was similar the example Charles gave me when I asked which rules are you refering about

), respect each other, those are common sense, part of life, I don't see them as rules imposed by someone.

I agree. That's just common sense respect for each other.

babybunny

Mar 22 2007, 04:13 AM

QUOTE(Nagishkaw @ Mar 16 2007, 07:36 PM)

We are only prisoners of love. We don't follow rules because there isn't any, and no way would I want to be shackled to a ball and chain, and neither does he. He don't sign my paycheques and I sure don't sign his. It just works for us that way.

what does him and you signing paychecks have to do with it? would it be diffrent if he paid you? I dont see the relation between a RULE and a paycheck.

Bobbie

Apr 14 2007, 12:28 AM

QUOTE(jenn3539 @ Mar 16 2007, 08:12 PM)

I'm not sure how to answer yet.

There's one issue that we've been round and round over. He wants a rottweiler. I hate big scary dogs. Luckily, we can't possibly have a rottweiler in our apartment. But when we do have a house, I'm afraid the issue will come up again. Now, I'm pretty confident that when it comes down to it, he won't go out and buy a rottweiler when I've expressed how much I dislike them. But at the same time, he also doesn't understand what my problem is. This might be an issue that will come to me "disallowing" a rottweiler in the house.

So, I guess as of right now, those words aren't in our marital vocab, but I can't say that they won't be added in the future...

Im in mortgages and real estate investing. Let me tell you, call a home owners insurance agency and ask, do you cover homes wiht rottweiler dogs? Most likely they will say NO. I believe they are one of the 7 or 10 dogs on the list of non insurable for home owners insurance. ....if so, problem solved.

de_sjiem

Apr 23 2007, 01:26 AM

I just dont get the whole rottie thing.. I had 2 growing up and they were both wonderful dogs.. one had obedience training and the other didn't.. they are very protective of their people, but that isn't a totally bad thing.. also our old boss had a rottie too and she was the sweetest dog ever.. (also my grandmother and uncles in the netherlands had rotties too) it really really depends on how they are raised, but they certainly are great great dogs..

Happy Bunny

Apr 23 2007, 07:53 AM

This is an old thread, but since it's bumped...

QUOTE(babybunny @ Mar 22 2007, 05:13 AM)

QUOTE(Nagishkaw @ Mar 16 2007, 07:36 PM)

We are only prisoners of love. We don't follow rules because there isn't any, and no way would I want to be shackled to a ball and chain, and neither does he. He don't sign my paycheques and I sure don't sign his. It just works for us that way.

what does him and you signing paychecks have to do with it? would it be diffrent if he paid you? I dont see the relation between a RULE and a paycheck.

Shonnie, it's an expression...meaning he's not her boss

CarolineM

Apr 23 2007, 10:07 AM

Stewart had a cleaning job once in Whistler...and he picked up some suits that someone left behind. They are HORRIBLE...three piece suits - one grey, and one brown courderoy...I mean HORRIBLE, hideous...and he adores them.

So. We were going somewhere one night - some nice restuarant or a party or something like that...he comes out ready to go...dressed in one of the suits...

I said..."I forbid you to wear the suit..."

We stared at eachother for about 15 seconds and then it sunk in how Stupid that sounded...we laughed...

but he didn't go out in that damn suit

that's for sure.

so I said "no" but usually i get my way before it gets to "forbidding"

babybunny

Apr 23 2007, 10:14 AM

since this thread was started. I was thinking does my SO impose rules and restrictions. I have to say yes he does.
they stem from cultural perspective and religious influence.

babybunny

Apr 23 2007, 10:17 AM

QUOTE(Bobbie @ Apr 14 2007, 12:28 AM)

QUOTE(jenn3539 @ Mar 16 2007, 08:12 PM)

I'm not sure how to answer yet.

There's one issue that we've been round and round over. He wants a rottweiler. I hate big scary dogs. Luckily, we can't possibly have a rottweiler in our apartment. But when we do have a house, I'm afraid the issue will come up again. Now, I'm pretty confident that when it comes down to it, he won't go out and buy a rottweiler when I've expressed how much I dislike them. But at the same time, he also doesn't understand what my problem is. This might be an issue that will come to me "disallowing" a rottweiler in the house.

So, I guess as of right now, those words aren't in our marital vocab, but I can't say that they won't be added in the future...

Im in mortgages and real estate investing. Let me tell you, call a home owners insurance agency and ask, do you cover homes wiht rottweiler dogs? Most likely they will say NO. I believe they are one of the 7 or 10 dogs on the list of non insurable for home owners insurance. ....if so, problem solved.

Rottweilers are gorgous dogs! I saw some wonderful puppies sleeping in this cage at the pet store. so cute. so are german shepards! the dogs I think are the worst are 2 kinds
any dog that yipps constantly and pit bulls.!

kisschick1976

Apr 23 2007, 10:04 PM

In day to day life, no. We are both grown people.

But when we play our 'games' ... forbid and allow are words that come up a lot!

and no I won't post pics!

so I didn't vote

babybunny

Apr 24 2007, 12:37 AM

QUOTE(kisschick1976 @ Apr 23 2007, 10:04 PM)

In day to day life, no. We are both grown people.

But when we play our 'games' ... forbid and allow are words that come up a lot!

and no I won't post pics!

so I didn't vote

hahahahahah FREAK!

lirachadsbaby

Apr 24 2007, 01:45 AM

cheating and physical abuse for a big NO.

kisschick1976

Apr 24 2007, 08:11 AM

QUOTE(babybunny @ Apr 24 2007, 12:37 AM)

QUOTE(kisschick1976 @ Apr 23 2007, 10:04 PM)

In day to day life, no. We are both grown people.

But when we play our 'games' ... forbid and allow are words that come up a lot!

and no I won't post pics!

so I didn't vote

hahahahahah FREAK!

heheheh Thank You!

Niels Bohr

Apr 24 2007, 08:30 PM

Geezes. Freaky people.

Nagishkaw

Apr 24 2007, 08:36 PM

WELCOME TO VJ !!!

BJZags

Apr 26 2007, 04:27 PM

QUOTE(pink_roses @ Mar 16 2007, 08:29 PM)

QUOTE(RaspberrySwirl @ Mar 16 2007, 07:26 PM)

QUOTE(jenn3539 @ Mar 16 2007, 07:12 PM)

I'm not sure how to answer yet.

There's one issue that we've been round and round over. He wants a rottweiler. I hate big scary dogs. Luckily, we can't possibly have a rottweiler in our apartment. But when we do have a house, I'm afraid the issue will come up again. Now, I'm pretty confident that when it comes down to it, he won't go out and buy a rottweiler when I've expressed how much I dislike them. But at the same time, he also doesn't understand what my problem is. This might be an issue that will come to me "disallowing" a rottweiler in the house.

So, I guess as of right now, those words aren't in our marital vocab, but I can't say that they won't be added in the future...

Ugh, we have a new neighbour in the apt building with a rottweiler. You never know how it's going to react to you getting out of your car with groceries or going to check the mail. Sometimes it'll come towards you all excited wanting to be petted and other times it leaps at you, stopping half way barking and growling.
They're scary and she's driving my cat nuts whenever they let her run around the building.
I almost cried this morning when I was heading outside to put bills in the mail. Stupid thing was running at me and hiding between parked cars growling and barking and doing the whole ready for attack thing.

Aren't dogs suppose to be tied up? I dont like big dogs either

Common misconceptions about the rotty. My little pug was twice as aggresive as my rott max. The only danger was that he'd want to snuggle on the couch and his 135-pound body would crush you!