I've noticed a lot of people talking about their money, listing their salaries, mentioning how hard they've worked to make X, and other specific mentions of their income or assets.
My parents always said, "the more money you have the less you should talk about it." But that is a Jewish attitude, AFAIK.
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QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 09:46 AM) 
I've noticed a lot of people talking about their money, listing their salaries, mentioning how hard they've worked to make X, and other specific mentions of their income or assets.
My parents always said, "the more money you have the less you should talk about it." But that is a Jewish attitude, AFAIK.
My parents always said, "the more money you have the less you should talk about it." But that is a Jewish attitude, AFAIK.
maybe it's just a jewish attitude then
I voted it's best discussed euphemistically. I was always taught that any mention of numbers is a no no.
yea no numbers...
Why are there so many mentions of numbers on VJ lately? Seems weird.
And isn't it considered at all tacky to insinuate that you make more than a previously stated number, or to complain about having your taxes, or anything like that?
And isn't it considered at all tacky to insinuate that you make more than a previously stated number, or to complain about having your taxes, or anything like that?
QUOTE(jenn3539 @ Mar 5 2007, 09:49 AM)
I voted it's best discussed euphemistically. I was always taught that any mention of numbers is a no no.
No numbers for me either, that's TMI. I have also noticed people being very specific with numbers here lately and how much $ they make and that was a surprise for me. For me is not taboo but it's not public info either.
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The ones ive notice are some that state the numbers in getting a answer for the sponsoring part they tell all looking for some kind of a reply i think.
Oh, another thing I've seen is "money is not a problem for me" when people talk about the cost of some of the aspects of this process.Even if money is not a problem for you, just stating that it isn't seems a bit uncouth. Why not say "I think I will be able to afford it" or something a little less....abrasively boasting? :shrug:
well probly a range is not that bad for like they said, sponsorship.. i make between 15k-25k a year.. or something
I actually think that discussing money and stuff over a forum with strangers is probably better than discussing it with people you actually know, but that's just me. I voted for "I'm broke" because that's the case for me, and I really don't care who knows LOL!
My father taught me that it's nobody else's business how much money you make. He would never even let me know how much he was making, imagine talking about it with friends or worse, strange people.
I thought it was an american thing letting people know how much money you make, since everybody seems to discuss it so openly.
I thought it was an american thing letting people know how much money you make, since everybody seems to discuss it so openly.
QUOTE(nessaandcharles @ Mar 5 2007, 10:09 AM)
My father taught me that it's nobody else's business how much money you make. He would never even let me know how much he was making, imagine talking about it with friends or worse, strange people.
I thought it was an american thing letting people know how much money you make, since everybody seems to discuss it so openly.
I thought it was an american thing letting people know how much money you make, since everybody seems to discuss it so openly.
That's just how my dad was too.
One of the first questions an american will ask is what do you do? I think we mean it in a fairly innoculous way- a sincere interest in what people do for a living, but much of the world sees it as vulgar and rude. I think many here lately are using speific money issues here to promote themselves. There are people here with money who have no need to talk about it.
Im the other broke one, or today it feels so much like that and only 5 days after payday
QUOTE(brnidokiegurl @ Mar 5 2007, 11:19 AM)
Im the other broke one, or today it feels so much like that and only 5 days after paydayIt looks like you, I mean 'we', have some more company now.
I still think money/salaries are something that should be kept between family and close friends though.
Euphemistically is fine by me. I would only use actual numbers in a coversation with close friends/family unless there was a specific need to use real numbers. Its not very polite to show it off.
QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 09:46 AM)
I've noticed a lot of people talking about their money, listing their salaries, mentioning how hard they've worked to make X, and other specific mentions of their income or assets.
My parents always said, "the more money you have the less you should talk about it." But that is a Jewish attitude, AFAIK.
My parents always said, "the more money you have the less you should talk about it." But that is a Jewish attitude, AFAIK.
I agree. My parents had a similar viewpoint. But they applied it even if they didn't have much money -- they still didn't talk about it, not to family members, not to anyone. They consider salary/income/assets to be a private matter, and in exceedingly bad taste to discuss in detail, other than where absolutely necessary.
I think both attitudes (to talk about it freely, or not) can be found among many different groups, not necessarily divided by ethnicity. I know a fair number of Jewish people who are quite talkative about their money and assets, and plenty of others who keep the numbers to themselves. I think it all comes down to how you were brought up -- some consider this "boasting" or even "TMI;" others clearly do not.
Anyway, I always take extravagent claims (especially on the *internet*) with a considerable grain of salt.
I don't think it's appropriate to discuss, particularly on a message board. However, there are some examples where someone may want to know if they make enough to support, without getting a co-sponsor. But people talking about how they come from all kinds of money, etc., I think is unnecessary, and used to convey their sense of self-worth (or what they percieve their worth to be, based on money).
Just my opinion. But I never talk about money unless it's with my fiance, mom, or brother.
Just my opinion. But I never talk about money unless it's with my fiance, mom, or brother.
It's bad taste. But, in my experience, people who have money like to boast about it.
I have lots of Jewish neighbors who talk about their money. Everybody knows we have some or we wouldn't be in this neighborhood. I think there's a time and a place for it, but dodging the fact that there are social and economic classes and levels in the world is silly because it's so obvious that there are. If we talked about money more and educated people about it, maybe more would have some.
QUOTE(Green-eyed girl @ Mar 5 2007, 11:20 AM)
I have lots of Jewish neighbors who talk about their money. Everybody knows we have some or we wouldn't be in this neighborhood. I think there's a time and a place for it, but dodging the fact that there are social and economic classes and levels in the world is silly because it's so obvious that there are. If we talked about money more and educated people about it, maybe more would have some.
i've found that generally those most offended by such talk are ones who make less than the one talking about it.
Oprah talks about her money all the time, not in numbers, but, no doubt, she has lots! Forbes magazine will tell you all about her money and that of many other rich folks, even if they don't talk about it.
We notice who has money and who doesn't; we just don't like to acknowledge that we do.
We notice who has money and who doesn't; we just don't like to acknowledge that we do.
I would never talk about my money. I was raised in the same mindset of Alex...but then again, we're NY Italians, so it's practically the Jewish community's twin
At the same time, I'm not going to make excuses for my lifestyle and/or lie to cover things us. Like if I went on a shopping spree every weekend, I wouldn't be all 'I was at the library' because I'm that private about it. I dunno if that makes sense, but to me, it does. I could be flat broke, I could be rolling in money...no one knows. Despite having an 'idea'...no one knows, nor will they ever get confirmation. The only people who know about my financial picture are my family and David. And that is the way it will remain because I don't need to trot it out as a way to qualify who I am...regardless if it's a struggling re agent, or quite a successful one.
i've found that generally those most offended by such talk are ones who make less than the one talking about it.
To GEG: I find that you talking about your money...which let's face it, the 'trust fund baby' comment is probably the motivation behind this thread....anyways, I think you whipped that out as another qualifier of 'how you're so different' on here. It's very similar to the countless times you bring up your PhD, your 'social scientist' thing, how your traits are viewed as more masculine, etc...I personally find it kinda sad that you seem so insecure that you need to qualify yourself to the world constantly....cos after all, on the internet, why must there be an economic and social class heirarchy? Futhermore, you have no clue if that even makes you different at all...there could be countless trust fund babies on here
It's not always wise to judge a book by the cover...for instance, in my job, I'm meeting people all the time. I can't tell you how many cash buyers I've met that other people would judge as poor cos they dress like crap, drive ###### beat up cars, etc. It's called 'flying under the radar'. And many people do it.
To Charles: I think the majority of people offended by talk like this are simply people who were brought up to not talk about it. I don't think it's an indication of envy, just a complete foreign concept to one who was brought up having a little more discretion.
At the same time, I'm not going to make excuses for my lifestyle and/or lie to cover things us. Like if I went on a shopping spree every weekend, I wouldn't be all 'I was at the library' because I'm that private about it. I dunno if that makes sense, but to me, it does. I could be flat broke, I could be rolling in money...no one knows. Despite having an 'idea'...no one knows, nor will they ever get confirmation. The only people who know about my financial picture are my family and David. And that is the way it will remain because I don't need to trot it out as a way to qualify who I am...regardless if it's a struggling re agent, or quite a successful one.
QUOTE(charlesandnessa @ Mar 5 2007, 12:39 PM)
QUOTE(Green-eyed girl @ Mar 5 2007, 11:20 AM)
I have lots of Jewish neighbors who talk about their money. Everybody knows we have some or we wouldn't be in this neighborhood. I think there's a time and a place for it, but dodging the fact that there are social and economic classes and levels in the world is silly because it's so obvious that there are. If we talked about money more and educated people about it, maybe more would have some.
i've found that generally those most offended by such talk are ones who make less than the one talking about it.
To GEG: I find that you talking about your money...which let's face it, the 'trust fund baby' comment is probably the motivation behind this thread....anyways, I think you whipped that out as another qualifier of 'how you're so different' on here. It's very similar to the countless times you bring up your PhD, your 'social scientist' thing, how your traits are viewed as more masculine, etc...I personally find it kinda sad that you seem so insecure that you need to qualify yourself to the world constantly....cos after all, on the internet, why must there be an economic and social class heirarchy? Futhermore, you have no clue if that even makes you different at all...there could be countless trust fund babies on here
It's not always wise to judge a book by the cover...for instance, in my job, I'm meeting people all the time. I can't tell you how many cash buyers I've met that other people would judge as poor cos they dress like crap, drive ###### beat up cars, etc. It's called 'flying under the radar'. And many people do it.
To Charles: I think the majority of people offended by talk like this are simply people who were brought up to not talk about it. I don't think it's an indication of envy, just a complete foreign concept to one who was brought up having a little more discretion.
QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 10:54 AM)
Why are there so many mentions of numbers on VJ lately? Seems weird.
And isn't it considered at all tacky to insinuate that you make more than a previously stated number, or to complain about having your taxes, or anything like that?
And isn't it considered at all tacky to insinuate that you make more than a previously stated number, or to complain about having your taxes, or anything like that?
It's tacky, and judgemental. For someone to say "yeah, but you don't pay as much tax" or "you have a lower cost of living" is ridiculous because no one knows anyone else's true financial situation. We can have an economics discussion, but it certainly shouldn't resort to the individual's income level and situation. Very tacky.
QUOTE(charlesandnessa @ Mar 5 2007, 11:39 AM)
QUOTE(Green-eyed girl @ Mar 5 2007, 11:20 AM)
I have lots of Jewish neighbors who talk about their money. Everybody knows we have some or we wouldn't be in this neighborhood. I think there's a time and a place for it, but dodging the fact that there are social and economic classes and levels in the world is silly because it's so obvious that there are. If we talked about money more and educated people about it, maybe more would have some.
i've found that generally those most offended by such talk are ones who make less than the one talking about it.
That is very silly.
QUOTE(LisaD @ Mar 5 2007, 12:04 PM)
To Charles: I think the majority of people offended by talk like this are simply people who were brought up to not talk about it. I don't think it's an indication of envy, just a complete foreign concept to one who was brought up having a little more discretion.
or maybe it is, eh? maybe we need another poll
QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 12:10 PM)
QUOTE(charlesandnessa @ Mar 5 2007, 11:39 AM)
QUOTE(Green-eyed girl @ Mar 5 2007, 11:20 AM)
I have lots of Jewish neighbors who talk about their money. Everybody knows we have some or we wouldn't be in this neighborhood. I think there's a time and a place for it, but dodging the fact that there are social and economic classes and levels in the world is silly because it's so obvious that there are. If we talked about money more and educated people about it, maybe more would have some.
i've found that generally those most offended by such talk are ones who make less than the one talking about it.
That is very silly.
so you say. how's the job search going for you?
The ones screaming are the ones who need to validate themselves. The ones claiming it's a source of envy ar those who feel the need to feel a false sense of superiority towards others, which imo indicates a low self-esteem issue. 
That is very silly.
so you say. how's the job search going for you?
Even in jest, that's completely uncalled for, and a perfect example of what I was just talking about. You have absolutely no idea what Alex may or may not have. Youdon't know what her finances are like...and being jobless does not mean she's poor. Yet there you go, making your assumptions and attempting to feel superior to someone you don't even know.
Which is not only ignorant, it's socially retarded.
QUOTE(charlesandnessa @ Mar 5 2007, 01:13 PM)
QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 12:10 PM)
That is very silly.
so you say. how's the job search going for you?
Even in jest, that's completely uncalled for, and a perfect example of what I was just talking about. You have absolutely no idea what Alex may or may not have. Youdon't know what her finances are like...and being jobless does not mean she's poor. Yet there you go, making your assumptions and attempting to feel superior to someone you don't even know.
Which is not only ignorant, it's socially retarded.
QUOTE(LisaD @ Mar 5 2007, 12:04 PM)
To Charles: I think the majority of people offended by talk like this are simply people who were brought up to not talk about it. I don't think it's an indication of envy, just a complete foreign concept to one who was brought up having a little more discretion.
To Charles: Really, you have no idea what my finances are like. And thank you, I have a job. And a husband who has a much better job. Too many smileys?
And a husband who has a much better job. Too many smileys?
QUOTE(LisaD @ Mar 5 2007, 12:18 PM)
The ones screaming are the ones who need to validate themselves. The ones claiming it's a source of envy ar those who feel the need to feel a false sense of superiority towards others, which imo indicates a low self-esteem issue.
That is very silly.
so you say. how's the job search going for you?
Even in jest, that's completely uncalled for, and a perfect example of what I was just talking about. You have absolutely no idea what Alex may or may not have. Youdon't know what her finances are like...and being jobless does not mean she's poor. Yet there you go, making your assumptions and attempting to feel superior to someone you don't even know.
Which is not only ignorant, it's socially retarded.
QUOTE(charlesandnessa @ Mar 5 2007, 01:13 PM)
QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 12:10 PM)
That is very silly.
so you say. how's the job search going for you?
Even in jest, that's completely uncalled for, and a perfect example of what I was just talking about. You have absolutely no idea what Alex may or may not have. Youdon't know what her finances are like...and being jobless does not mean she's poor. Yet there you go, making your assumptions and attempting to feel superior to someone you don't even know.
Which is not only ignorant, it's socially retarded.
any more retarded than her comment about my post? i think not.
QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 12:26 PM)
To Charles: Really, you have no idea what my finances are like. And thank you, I have a job. And a husband who has a much better job. Too many smileys?
And a husband who has a much better job. Too many smileys? how exactly is rey working? his ead expired when you two got married, as i understand it.
eta: and your ead filed less than a month ago. you two know something i don't?
QUOTE(charlesandnessa @ Mar 5 2007, 12:39 PM)
QUOTE(LisaD @ Mar 5 2007, 12:18 PM)
The ones screaming are the ones who need to validate themselves. The ones claiming it's a source of envy ar those who feel the need to feel a false sense of superiority towards others, which imo indicates a low self-esteem issue.
That is very silly.
so you say. how's the job search going for you?
Even in jest, that's completely uncalled for, and a perfect example of what I was just talking about. You have absolutely no idea what Alex may or may not have. Youdon't know what her finances are like...and being jobless does not mean she's poor. Yet there you go, making your assumptions and attempting to feel superior to someone you don't even know.
Which is not only ignorant, it's socially retarded.
QUOTE(charlesandnessa @ Mar 5 2007, 01:13 PM)
QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 12:10 PM)
That is very silly.
so you say. how's the job search going for you?
Even in jest, that's completely uncalled for, and a perfect example of what I was just talking about. You have absolutely no idea what Alex may or may not have. Youdon't know what her finances are like...and being jobless does not mean she's poor. Yet there you go, making your assumptions and attempting to feel superior to someone you don't even know.
Which is not only ignorant, it's socially retarded.
any more retarded than her comment about my post? i think not.
QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 12:26 PM)
To Charles: Really, you have no idea what my finances are like. And thank you, I have a job. And a husband who has a much better job. Too many smileys?
And a husband who has a much better job. Too many smileys? how exactly is rey working? his ead expired when you two got married, as i understand it.
eta: and your ead filed less than a month ago. you two know something i don't?
No, Rey's EAD did not expire when we got married. It's valid for 3 months after he got it at JFK. He actually started work today, so that leaves 2 months left on his EAD. He is consulting at a Fortune 500 company who is well aware that there may be a period when he can't work before his other EAD gets here. The consulting company is familiar with this situation, and his contract reflects that. He filed for his EAD exactly two weeks after he got here, so the gap should be either non-existent or small if the statistics are right, but if it's bigger, the company is aware of that possibility. Thanks for your concern, but it's not really any of your business.
Alex, please tell me you and Rey know way more about your own situation than anyone else!
QUOTE(charlesandnessa @ Mar 5 2007, 01:39 PM)
QUOTE(LisaD @ Mar 5 2007, 12:18 PM)
The ones screaming are the ones who need to validate themselves. The ones claiming it's a source of envy ar those who feel the need to feel a false sense of superiority towards others, which imo indicates a low self-esteem issue.
That is very silly.
so you say. how's the job search going for you?
Even in jest, that's completely uncalled for, and a perfect example of what I was just talking about. You have absolutely no idea what Alex may or may not have. Youdon't know what her finances are like...and being jobless does not mean she's poor. Yet there you go, making your assumptions and attempting to feel superior to someone you don't even know.
Which is not only ignorant, it's socially retarded.
QUOTE(charlesandnessa @ Mar 5 2007, 01:13 PM)
QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 12:10 PM)
That is very silly.
so you say. how's the job search going for you?
Even in jest, that's completely uncalled for, and a perfect example of what I was just talking about. You have absolutely no idea what Alex may or may not have. Youdon't know what her finances are like...and being jobless does not mean she's poor. Yet there you go, making your assumptions and attempting to feel superior to someone you don't even know.
Which is not only ignorant, it's socially retarded.
any more retarded than her comment about my post? i think not.
Seriously, how old are you? That's your justification? 'her comment was just as socially retarded?' How does the way she handle herself justify your actions? Aren't we all responsible for our own?
btw, what comment was that anyways?
QUOTE(charlesandnessa @ Mar 5 2007, 01:13 PM)
QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 12:26 PM)
To Charles: Really, you have no idea what my finances are like. And thank you, I have a job. And a husband who has a much better job. Too many smileys?
And a husband who has a much better job. Too many smileys? how exactly is rey working? his ead expired when you two got married, as i understand it.
eta: and your ead filed less than a month ago. you two know something i don't?
I'd imagine they would. Go figure what with it being their lives and whatnot
QUOTE(LisaD @ Mar 5 2007, 12:49 PM)
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I'd imagine they would. Go figure what with it being their lives and whatnot
I'd imagine they would. Go figure what with it being their lives and whatnot
QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 12:45 PM)
No, Rey's EAD did not expire when we got married. It's valid for 3 months after he got it at JFK. He actually started work today, so that leaves 2 months left on his EAD. He is consulting at a Fortune 500 company who is well aware that there may be a period when he can't work before his other EAD gets here. The consulting company is familiar with this situation, and his contract reflects that. He filed for his EAD exactly two weeks after he got here, so the gap should be either non-existent or small if the statistics are right, but if it's bigger, the company is aware of that possibility. Thanks for your concern, but it's not really any of your business.
no need to be so snippy about it. it was an honest question.
QUOTE(LisaD @ Mar 5 2007, 12:49 PM)
I'd imagine they would. Go figure what with it being their lives and whatnot
i'd forgotten that he just got here recently. in mine and nessa's case she was here almost 2 months and it was not worth her gettting a job for that short a period of time. and employers around here are not so understanding.
I've worked in banking, real estate and the legal field all my life. IMHO people who have REAL money never talk about it.
I agree completely with Lisa about being unable to discern if someone has money by the way they dress and what they drive. I once worked in a bank on the 'poor' side of town. Many of the customers tracked up our lobby from the horse manure and mud on their workboots. They had just driven into town in their 20 year-old red Ford F-Series farm beater pickup trucks. Most were humble as could be. Most had bank balances many here would die for.
When I was previously married, my ex-husband and I had a wonderful house, a 36 foot fifth wheel camper, a custom Ford F350 dual wheel pickup truck, a sport utility and a third 'work' vehicle. But I didn't have 20 dollars in my wallet most of the time for trying to pay the bills.
I went to school with a true 'trust fund baby'. Her mother always looked like an unmade bed and her father looked like the mad hatter. The girl herself was unconcerned with style and fashion. They were all nice, unpretentious people. They were worth millions.
My boss is third generation old money. He drives nice vehicles but dresses like any other guy in town. In other words - no Rolex, No Hickey-Freemans - you get the picture. And everybody in town loves him because he's just a down to earth person.
I agree completely with Lisa about being unable to discern if someone has money by the way they dress and what they drive. I once worked in a bank on the 'poor' side of town. Many of the customers tracked up our lobby from the horse manure and mud on their workboots. They had just driven into town in their 20 year-old red Ford F-Series farm beater pickup trucks. Most were humble as could be. Most had bank balances many here would die for.
When I was previously married, my ex-husband and I had a wonderful house, a 36 foot fifth wheel camper, a custom Ford F350 dual wheel pickup truck, a sport utility and a third 'work' vehicle. But I didn't have 20 dollars in my wallet most of the time for trying to pay the bills.
I went to school with a true 'trust fund baby'. Her mother always looked like an unmade bed and her father looked like the mad hatter. The girl herself was unconcerned with style and fashion. They were all nice, unpretentious people. They were worth millions.
My boss is third generation old money. He drives nice vehicles but dresses like any other guy in town. In other words - no Rolex, No Hickey-Freemans - you get the picture. And everybody in town loves him because he's just a down to earth person.
To GEG: I find that you talking about your money...which let's face it, the 'trust fund baby' comment is probably the motivation behind this thread....anyways, I think you whipped that out as another qualifier of 'how you're so different' on here. It's very similar to the countless times you bring up your PhD, your 'social scientist' thing, how your traits are viewed as more masculine, etc...I personally find it kinda sad that you seem so insecure that you need to qualify yourself to the world constantly....cos after all, on the internet, why must there be an economic and social class heirarchy? Futhermore, you have no clue if that even makes you different at all...there could be countless trust fund babies on here
It's not always wise to judge a book by the cover...for instance, in my job, I'm meeting people all the time. I can't tell you how many cash buyers I've met that other people would judge as poor cos they dress like crap, drive ###### beat up cars, etc. It's called 'flying under the radar'. And many people do it.
I notice that you comment a lot about me.
On the thread where I made that comment, and it is the ONLY time I've mentioned my finances here at all, lots of other people were doing the same. You seem to make a habit of pointing me out even when I'm doing nothing different from anyone else to point out how "different" I am than anyone else. This is YOU doing this TO me, not me doing it to myself.
my thoughts to you is to chill and stop singling me out. No one else does this but you and Alex, so it's something in your heads that's going on that you're trying to impose on me because of your own insecurities. I'm telling you now, I am not insecure here or IRL, and I haev nothing to prove to you. So you choose to can stop being different yourself by paying an inordinate attention to what I say, or you can keep on with this and continue to look like shrill nags who need to elevate yourselves by constantly harping on someone else. And I don't need any lectures on "flying under the radar" either. If you can't handle me, then ignore me, but you should know you're not going to change me. Change yourself and pay less attention to me, coz I'm not all that interested in you.
Starting this poll because of me? What foolish crap that is!
It's not always wise to judge a book by the cover...for instance, in my job, I'm meeting people all the time. I can't tell you how many cash buyers I've met that other people would judge as poor cos they dress like crap, drive ###### beat up cars, etc. It's called 'flying under the radar'. And many people do it.
I notice that you comment a lot about me.
On the thread where I made that comment, and it is the ONLY time I've mentioned my finances here at all, lots of other people were doing the same. You seem to make a habit of pointing me out even when I'm doing nothing different from anyone else to point out how "different" I am than anyone else. This is YOU doing this TO me, not me doing it to myself.
my thoughts to you is to chill and stop singling me out. No one else does this but you and Alex, so it's something in your heads that's going on that you're trying to impose on me because of your own insecurities. I'm telling you now, I am not insecure here or IRL, and I haev nothing to prove to you. So you choose to can stop being different yourself by paying an inordinate attention to what I say, or you can keep on with this and continue to look like shrill nags who need to elevate yourselves by constantly harping on someone else. And I don't need any lectures on "flying under the radar" either. If you can't handle me, then ignore me, but you should know you're not going to change me. Change yourself and pay less attention to me, coz I'm not all that interested in you.
Starting this poll because of me? What foolish crap that is!
To tag on to Rebecca's sentiment....My friend is an apartment complex manager. One of the guys working in mainenance, about 50 years old, just quit because he "bought a house and now wants to spend full time remodeling it." Well, of course everyone is shocked because his job pays about $12/hr, so how can he buy a house around here? It turns out, he'd saved every penny he ever earned, retired early, took this job for something to do for a while, paid cash for the house, and has plenty left over to remodel it, and continue his early retirement.
You just never know, which is why it's retarded to assume.
You just never know, which is why it's retarded to assume.
Has anyone else noticed that the loader actually changes text? It changed two words and won't change it back even tho I've edited it 3 times. I used to think it was just my bad typing.
QUOTE(Green-eyed girl @ Mar 5 2007, 02:26 PM)
I notice that you comment a lot about me.
On the thread where I made that comment, and it is the ONLY time I've mentioned my finances here at all, lots of other people were doing the same. You seem to make a habit of pointing me out even when I'm doing nothing different from anyone else to point out how "different" I am than anyone else. This is YOU doing this TO me, not me doing it to myself.
my thoughts to you is to chill and stop singling me out. No one else does this but you and Alex, so it's something in your heads that's going on that you're trying to impose on me because of your own insecurities. I'm telling you now, I am not insecure here or IRL, and I haev nothing to prove to you. So you choose to can stop being different yourself by paying an inordinate attention to what I say, or you can keep on with this and continue to look like shrill nags who need to elevate yourselves by constantly harping on someone else. And I don't need any lectures on "flying under the radar" either. If you can't handle me, then ignore me, but you should know you're not going to change me. Change yourself and pay less attention to me, coz I'm not all that interested in you.
Starting this poll because of me? What foolish crap that is!
On the thread where I made that comment, and it is the ONLY time I've mentioned my finances here at all, lots of other people were doing the same. You seem to make a habit of pointing me out even when I'm doing nothing different from anyone else to point out how "different" I am than anyone else. This is YOU doing this TO me, not me doing it to myself.
my thoughts to you is to chill and stop singling me out. No one else does this but you and Alex, so it's something in your heads that's going on that you're trying to impose on me because of your own insecurities. I'm telling you now, I am not insecure here or IRL, and I haev nothing to prove to you. So you choose to can stop being different yourself by paying an inordinate attention to what I say, or you can keep on with this and continue to look like shrill nags who need to elevate yourselves by constantly harping on someone else. And I don't need any lectures on "flying under the radar" either. If you can't handle me, then ignore me, but you should know you're not going to change me. Change yourself and pay less attention to me, coz I'm not all that interested in you.
Starting this poll because of me? What foolish crap that is!
DING DING DING! This wins for the daily Biggest Load of Hypocrisy Award, also known as the daily Biggest Load of Hyperbolic Woe-Is-Me I Don't Do Anything But Everyone Picks on Me Award.
p.s. If it's only Alex & LisaD now, is the clique off the hook?
My dad always told me NOT to tell anyone else how much money I am making...
Not even Alex knows...
Not even Alex knows...
I responded to a bully post, peezy. I'm sure you would love for me to back down and not stand up for myself, but, unfortunately, even with your insignificant taunts, I do. Whenever you see smoke, you come to fan the flames, but that is what you enjoy doing most.
The bottom line is, this thread was started so that the insecurities of a few whiners could be allayed with some put downs. That was admitted to, so that is clear.
The bottom line is, this thread was started so that the insecurities of a few whiners could be allayed with some put downs. That was admitted to, so that is clear.
QUOTE(Green-eyed girl @ Mar 5 2007, 01:26 PM)
To GEG: I find that you talking about your money...which let's face it, the 'trust fund baby' comment is probably the motivation behind this thread....anyways, I think you whipped that out as another qualifier of 'how you're so different' on here. It's very similar to the countless times you bring up your PhD, your 'social scientist' thing, how your traits are viewed as more masculine, etc...I personally find it kinda sad that you seem so insecure that you need to qualify yourself to the world constantly....cos after all, on the internet, why must there be an economic and social class heirarchy? Futhermore, you have no clue if that even makes you different at all...there could be countless trust fund babies on here
It's not always wise to judge a book by the cover...for instance, in my job, I'm meeting people all the time. I can't tell you how many cash buyers I've met that other people would judge as poor cos they dress like crap, drive ###### beat up cars, etc. It's called 'flying under the radar'. And many people do it.
I notice that you comment a lot about me.
On the thread where I made that comment, and it is the ONLY time I've mentioned my finances here at all, lots of other people were doing the same. You seem to make a habit of pointing me out even when I'm doing nothing different from anyone else to point out how "different" I am than anyone else. This is YOU doing this TO me, not me doing it to myself.
my thoughts to you is to chill and stop singling me out. No one else does this but you and Alex, so it's something in your heads that's going on that you're trying to impose on me because of your own insecurities. I'm telling you now, I am not insecure here or IRL, and I haev nothing to prove to you. So you choose to can stop being different yourself by paying an inordinate attention to what I say, or you can keep on with this and continue to look like shrill nags who need to elevate yourselves by constantly harping on someone else. And I don't need any lectures on "flying under the radar" either. If you can't handle me, then ignore me, but you should know you're not going to change me. Change yourself and pay less attention to me, coz I'm not all that interested in you.
Starting this poll because of me? What foolish crap that is!
It's not always wise to judge a book by the cover...for instance, in my job, I'm meeting people all the time. I can't tell you how many cash buyers I've met that other people would judge as poor cos they dress like crap, drive ###### beat up cars, etc. It's called 'flying under the radar'. And many people do it.
I notice that you comment a lot about me.
On the thread where I made that comment, and it is the ONLY time I've mentioned my finances here at all, lots of other people were doing the same. You seem to make a habit of pointing me out even when I'm doing nothing different from anyone else to point out how "different" I am than anyone else. This is YOU doing this TO me, not me doing it to myself.
my thoughts to you is to chill and stop singling me out. No one else does this but you and Alex, so it's something in your heads that's going on that you're trying to impose on me because of your own insecurities. I'm telling you now, I am not insecure here or IRL, and I haev nothing to prove to you. So you choose to can stop being different yourself by paying an inordinate attention to what I say, or you can keep on with this and continue to look like shrill nags who need to elevate yourselves by constantly harping on someone else. And I don't need any lectures on "flying under the radar" either. If you can't handle me, then ignore me, but you should know you're not going to change me. Change yourself and pay less attention to me, coz I'm not all that interested in you.
Starting this poll because of me? What foolish crap that is!
Actually I did not start this poll because of you. I can list as many as 5 incidences in the last 24 hrs where people have boasted of their own financial standing. Not everything is about you!
QUOTE(Reynaldo @ Mar 5 2007, 01:41 PM)
My dad always told me NOT to tell anyone else how much money I am making...
Not even Alex knows...
Not even Alex knows...
hahaha yeah right. Get back to work
QUOTE(Green-eyed girl @ Mar 5 2007, 01:42 PM)
I responded to a bully post, peezy. I'm sure you would love for me to back down and not stand up for myself, but, unfortunately, even with your insignificant taunts, I do. Whenever you see smoke, you come to fan the flames, but that is what you enjoy doing most.
The bottom line is, this thread was started so that the insecurities of a few whiners could be allayed with some put downs. That was admitted to, so that is clear.
The bottom line is, this thread was started so that the insecurities of a few whiners could be allayed with some put downs. That was admitted to, so that is clear.
What on earth was admitted to? I didn't start this thread because of anything but the fact that I've noticed an increased amount of talking about money. Jeez!
Actually I did not start this poll because of you. I can list as many as 5 incidences in the last 24 hrs where people have boasted of their own financial standing. Not everything is about you!
Read what your friend Lisa said. She seems to think everything is about me.
BTW, Lisa, I'm straight and married. Stop stalking me.
Read what your friend Lisa said. She seems to think everything is about me.
BTW, Lisa, I'm straight and married. Stop stalking me.
Lisa: To GEG: I find that you talking about your money...which let's face it, the 'trust fund baby' comment is probably the motivation behind this thread
I apologise to you, Alex, but Lisa's skewing your responses with her mental problems.
I apologise to you, Alex, but Lisa's skewing your responses with her mental problems.
QUOTE(Green-eyed girl @ Mar 5 2007, 02:42 PM)
I responded to a bully post, peezy. I'm sure you would love for me to back down and not stand up for myself, but, unfortunately, even with your insignificant taunts, I do. Whenever you see smoke, you come to fan the flames, but that is what you enjoy doing most.
The bottom line is, this thread was started so that the insecurities of a few whiners could be allayed with some put downs. That was admitted to, so that is clear.
The bottom line is, this thread was started so that the insecurities of a few whiners could be allayed with some put downs. That was admitted to, so that is clear.
Ahhh yes, and you mentioning me in a thread I didn't even post in wasn't unusual fixation on me? But of course not, only you can claim martyr status.
You can defend yourself til you're blue in the face, although I'm not sure how that jives with your "I'm not responsible for how my words make you feel" ideology (assuming of course it goes both ways). Your hypocrisy knows no bounds, but then it would be just lazy were you to contain your hypocrisy to just one realm.
QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 01:50 PM)
Actually I did not start this poll because of you. I can list as many as 5 incidences in the last 24 hrs where people have boasted of their own financial standing. Not everything is about you!
so even if someone does, that's their choice, isn't it? or did you create this thread to castigate them for such?
QUOTE(Alex+R @ Mar 5 2007, 01:50 PM)
QUOTE(Reynaldo @ Mar 5 2007, 01:41 PM)
My dad always told me NOT to tell anyone else how much money I am making...
Not even Alex knows...
Not even Alex knows...
hahaha yeah right. Get back to work
lol crack that whip alex
rey don't be a stranger, be nice if you'd be on vj more often
QUOTE(peezey @ Mar 5 2007, 12:54 PM)
QUOTE(Green-eyed girl @ Mar 5 2007, 02:42 PM)
I responded to a bully post, peezy. I'm sure you would love for me to back down and not stand up for myself, but, unfortunately, even with your insignificant taunts, I do. Whenever you see smoke, you come to fan the flames, but that is what you enjoy doing most.
The bottom line is, this thread was started so that the insecurities of a few whiners could be allayed with some put downs. That was admitted to, so that is clear.
The bottom line is, this thread was started so that the insecurities of a few whiners could be allayed with some put downs. That was admitted to, so that is clear.
Ahhh yes, and you mentioning me in a thread I didn't even post in wasn't unusual fixation on me? But of course not, only you can claim martyr status.
You can defend yourself til you're blue in the face, although I'm not sure how that jives with your "I'm not responsible for how my words make you feel" ideology (assuming of course it goes both ways). Your hypocrisy knows no bounds, but then it would be just lazy were you to contain your hypocrisy to just one realm.
You follow me around from thread to thread. The post I made about you was in response to you chastizing me for having a lugh on HOPE's "deportation" thread. As far as I'm concerned, you can do this
Anyways, I saw some people bragging about money more than once in VJ and I kinda think that is how it is in the land of the free...
QUOTE(Reynaldo @ Mar 5 2007, 01:02 PM)
Anyways, I saw some people bragging about money more than once in VJ and I kinda think that is how it is in the land of the free...
Welcome back, Rey! Been wondering where you've been.
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