Do you people have the same problem ? I can not concerntrate on work or sleep tight at night. I just want to be with my girl ASAP , eventhou I just left Vietnam last week .....

I can relate and would end up spending hours on the phone. We finally ended up doing more Yahoo Messenger each day to try and cut the $600 a month phone bill down.

I know how you feel. You have to restrain your feelings. I, too, am experiencing the same feeling. However, I know that if I don't continue my daily routine there will not be a future for my family. She's in Cambodia. So, you must stay sane and pursevere the time. Eventually, you'll get to see her. Don't let it destroy your work habits. Remember, if she comes and you're out of your job your future together will be very tough.

Last year after I met and left her (April 2006), my long distance fee was minimum 1000 $ /month . We talked for hours on the phone . It has been like that for about 8,9 months. Couple months ago we found out Skype and Yahoo , that saved me alot of money . I'm at work at keep staring her web cam . eventhough she's sleeping now . I just want to quit everything and be with her .....

I feel you! I miss my wife so much too. I had $400-$500 a month phone bills too until I set up Skype Video between us last July. We also have our webcams on most of the time. It's weird but I know that we communicate more than couples that are physically together. I'll be visiting her at the end of April for a few weeks so that keeps me going. I always have the worse case of missing her the first few weeks we part. It stabilizes after that. Hang in there. Just keep telling yourself that what you're doing now is preparing for your future together.

I know exactly how you are feeling. I just got back from Vietnam this Sunday and missing her dearly. We got the greenslip after providing everything the Consulate requested. So now I don't even know how long the wait is. I want to drop everything and be with her also, but I know better. Keep you head strong. I know it's hard but you will be re-united soon.

i miss my girl too.after a long time apart and waiting and then failing the interview has about puckered me out.she s all i ever talk about to my buddys at work and my family i think they are sick of it but always nice about it.we talk and talk about what well do together and how things will be when she comes.i have one week vacation i was saving for getting married but i tempted to just go to vietnam just to see her for a few days.sometimes i smell a smell at work and think of vietnam and wish i was there

I just got back this sunday too, company just sold, it's crazy. I'm glad that they a pushing me hard at work. Make time go by quicker even though only been back 4 days. It's feel like months when ever I'm not busy. Even worst when after I talk to her. We knows we suppose to be happy but for some reason we're both happy to be sad and missing each other company. it's a bitter sweet kinda deal.

tway22. I reading your story and got real upset at the people who get over here by paying other. Those are the one who really ruin us.

27 more days until my fiance interview... and I'm missing her every single free moment. Thai try to keep busy that's way time go by faster. Can you eat the last few days? I remember when I just got back before I submitted the application I couldn't taste any food for almost 3 weeks.

Yup...been back 4 days and still can't eat much or sleep. I've dropped over 5 pounds. Maybe I can recommend this whole procedure as a dieting program. Hope you interview goes well and she will be with you soon. I just try to keep busy that way the days goes by quicker but the nights drag on and on. I've resorted to taking sleeping pills just to sleep and not think too much.

yeah, I was back to the states on Sunday too (via Korean Air) . I can not do anything but talk to her on the phone , chat via yahoo IM, video chat on SKYPE. We have our web cam on like 24/7 . Here is the deal. When I get home from work, I turn my laptop on and cam on, she then can view it. I also have access to her PC, so I can view her wc too, even she's still sleeping. I just lay on bed and watch her until I fall asleep. when she wakes up, she starts watching me sleeping plus some chinese movie sometimes. when I wake up, talk to her for about 30 minutes or an hour. then i turn off my laptop and go to work. when I get to work, turn my laptop back on and start viewing her web cam and chatting via Yahoo IM . so spritually we are in touch 24/7 ...... I dont want to mention here about the XXX stuffs .

LOL! I do something similar as well. We have Skype video contact almost all day even when sleeping. She is 16 hours ahead so we do have some overlap since her shifts at work don't start until the afternoon. The only thing I can tell you is to try and put it into perspective. Imagine the couples many years ago that were apart and had NO visual communication. You can even take it further back and imagine when phone calls were SUPER expensive and email did not exist.

The internet and general communication today has improved to the point where we are virtually close to one another. Just imagine not having any of these and we had to resort to writing love letters again that required overseas delivery. I just keep these thoughts in my mind when I miss her physical presence.

I just quit my job and moved there. Simple, right? It was hard starting over again, but at least I was happy.

For me it lasts for a few weeks after I leave Thailand, then i settle back into my routine, and look forward to my next trip. I also work-out alot, two hours every day, keeps my anxiety in check, helps me get to sleep easily at night (from exhaustion), but helps keep me strong, my head clear and focused for the both of us. I never heard of this Skype video. Nid doesn't have a computer anyway, she usually goes to an internet cafe once a week and we video-chat for about an hour. We call each other twice a day (in morning for me, and in morning for her), my phone bill to Thailand runs about $80/month, I use an international calling service, call toll-free number, then dial her number, for 10cents/min.

Patience

Me too I can't eat and sleep today but 35 hours I will see my honey and my 7 months old son and I will stay in Vietnam for 2 weeks then bring them to Chicago.

Yes, it's soooo hard. We spend hours on the phone everyday and it helps. But we need to be together, really. I'm risking my job to visit her again. And yes, it's worth it.

I bought her a computor and web cam, saw her every morning and night. The wi fi only cost me 18 dollars a month. You can talk thru yahoo too. Worked for me and no phone bills.

I try really hard to keep busy....the more I think about her the longer the time appears. I just concentrate on work and the happy times I will have when she is here. Also, I talk to her everynight before I go to bed because it lets me sleep better.

Totally agree with you! Our generation is spoiled with the greatest and latest consumer technology advance. I could not imagine what you said how older couples went through their long distance relationship where the only mean of communication was mail carrier that took months to get there. That could explain why most folks in the old days marry people within their own village Too much effort for travelling and stuff! Not us, the broadband-hifi-wifi-hidef-decaf-late-terrabite-live-streaming-satellite-ipod-double-shots-hybrid-blackberry-typer-multitasker-instant-messenger-blogger-forum-chatter-global-cyber-sex-partner-and-lovers, we want all and get it rightway or 6-Hour-Clock-Action-News is old news! We want instant and constantly hooked up to the internet and in the know! I can't imagine! BUT thank God for the internet! What would we do with ourselves, I don't know!

For now, for the distance global lovers, who recently returned from the land of love, just take sometimes to refocus and readjust to the reality! I went through this whole thing and I was the wore of all, took me 2 months or more to realize that I was no longer in VN, get my mind of it and focus on the job. Reality check: no job - no sponsor, no sponsor - no Visa, no visa - no travel, no travel - no reunited, in the end only me who is the loser out of this deal if I don't get back in focus ASAP. I did after 2 months. Internet Phones and Yahoo daily! Then got really angry at the wait and frustrated. You will go throu the motion of ups and downs during this whole process. The one thing that helps me get through it was this VJ family! The outpour support was never forgoten. There are some crazy lovers on this forums baby! They'll feel you and teach you how to deal with your emotion and how to deal with being apart.

For example, people told me about Skype, I didn't know about it until Kim came here, wish I did know about it long before. But do like what you guys have been doing, Asking questions, there are no stupid questions, only stupid answers. I do give stupid answer sometimes... Note to self: stop it Chuck! HAHAHA

Bottomline is, what doesn't kill you, will eventually makes you want to kill it! Focus and keep yourself busy, someone mentions: the GYM. You should join the gym or you'd be sitting on your computer 24hrs over the weekend just to watch her, and stopping her from going and doing her daily chores. Helps her out too! She's going through the samething you are....

Good luck and lot of love from Chuck and Kim

Sometimes we leavd the webcam on even when we are not there, or are asleep or whatever. It's comforting to hear the other person's noises.
Bobbie