This was a question that came up...and I was interested to know what ya'll did...

I call his parents by thier first names...per they insistance.

He calls my parents mr and mrs ____. My parents are WAY more formal

I call my MIL and FIL...mama and baba. My husband has yet to meet my parents. I don't really speak to them so not sure how that's gonna go.

I still call his mom Miss XXXX, I don't call his dad anything..I guess if I had to give him a name it would be "how are you" that's the first thing I say when he calls.

I don't know what he calls me parents...I don't think I 've ever heard him call them anything I guess their names are "hey how are you" too....


I guess the names will come... lol we're newlyweds

I can't remember what I called my MIL (I learned the arabic word for mom when I was there, but now I'm drawing a blank ). I'll make sure to learn it again before our next trip!

My husband calls my parents interchangeably by their first names and mom and dad. I have no idea why. My parents couldn't care less though.

It's all first names all around. Though Nani calls my parents Mama and Papa at times.

I call them Suegros (spanish), Suegra or Suegro when referring individually.. my wife calls my folks by 1st name lol

Uma or Umi?

if he calls his mama -mama.. then I call her mama.
what ever way he addresses his family i follow suit..

Ma and Ba for her parents, Mom and Dad for mine.

I address my Father in law by his Nickname

Pras' term for my dad is maamai-gaaru. My term for her mum is atthai-gaaru for her dad maamai-gaaru.

(as my mum has been deceased since 2001, no term used by Pras on that score)

First names.

We just follow how SO call the parents. It's Mom & Dad for his, Ibu & Bapak for mine (it's Indonesian for Mom & Dad).

First names all around, I couldn't ever call anyone else Mom or Dad.

n/a parents dead or don't talk to them - me
mom and dad - hubby

I call his parent either by their first names or Mum and Dad. Still working out which feels most comfortable for me. They couldn't care less.

He calls my Dad by his first name and my Mom either by her first name or Mrs. J. (Just the initial, not the full last name. Most of my friends call my Mom that as well.)

I call his parents by their first names, and he does the same thing for mine. Both sets of parents always call themselves Mom and Dad when talking, signing emails or cards etc, no matter which one of us is being addressed. If his parents asked me to call them Mom and Dad, I probably would. I call his grandma (and great-grandma) Grandma though, I think it feels less awkward since most of us grow up with two sets of grandparents anyway.

Sujeet calls my parents mom and dad, which they love.
I call Sujeet's parents Ma and Papa (which is what he calls them so I call them that). Although in Indian culture some things are formal, which is not me at all, but when I first address my inlaws I have to add a respectful greeting with it. Like Ma Pranam, and Papa Pranam. No one told me I have to, but after hearing Sujeet do it I thought I better do it too.

I call Gary's parents Mom or Dad, but usually by they're nicknames.
My parents are deceased.

my husb 2 be calls my dad "sir" and my mom "mom" , I call my future father in law "dad" or sometimes "captain" LOL! He was a captain of a cargo ship and he was so proud of that! Now my parents call my fiancee's dad 'captain" too! LOL weird but cute, i guess! I would never think of calling anyone by their first names , esp my inlaws ! wow thats too informal for me , i just wasnt brought up that way........i call my fiances's aunt ""Tita (her name is Luz), olny cause we are close.......but i wud never call her by first name!

me mom and dad
he mom and dad

I call Joel's parents by their first names. My parents have both passed away.

Hi Everyone,

Good luck on your immigration journeys.What an interesting message thread, indeed. In answer to the question on this message thread, my answer would be:

My husband and I call his parents:
Mom (the only person who really derserves this name)
Dad (deceased)

My husband and I call my disowned ex-parents:
Witchy-Poo (or some yucky variation of their first name)
Warlock (or some yucky variation of their first name)

Ant

I call them by their first names. My ex-in laws insisted I call them Mom and Dad...even though they were horrible shrews that never tried to be a family...so it was all a farce and I really hated it. Not to mention I already have a mom & dad.

Especially now that I met D's parents in my mid-20s, it was like I was more grown up and on the same level with them. So there's not really that heirarchy of having to call them Mom & Dad.

It really bothers me sometimes that I will never know Wes' parents. He adored them.

I call his mom, by her first name and I don't really call his dad anything because I don't talk to him very much..... he is kind of a quiet guy... but if I do I would call him by his first name

I can't really remember what my hubby calls my parents but I am pretty sure it is their first names...

I call Rob’s Mom by her first name. And he calls my Mom – Mami (which is what I call her) and Papi (for my Dad), I guess he got that from hearing me on the phone. They are utterly thrilled to be called something in Spanish…LOL.

we both called our parent in laws ---- mom and dad

I call him mom and dad Mother & Father (Okasan & Otosan). It's not really natural (or really polite- culturally)to call them by their first names. I do call his Grandma and Grandpa by the cute names they use for them though. Yuibi calls my parents by their first names (and you can tell he feels REALLY awkward about it Haha)

I call his parents by their first names. My husband hasn't met mine yet.

I call my in laws walid and walida (father and mother in Moroccan darija). He calls my mother walida patricia

I call my MIL her first name (shortened version) however I suspect she would prefer Mom but I will have to investigate this further

Meanwhile, my DH calls my Mum Mrs. BLANK and she really wants him to call her by her first name instead.

Crazy parents

I call them suegro and suegra as well, I'd think I should call them by their 1st names, since we're all adults, Luis keeps telling me I should say Doña Name and Don Name but I think that'd be too formal and impersonal and they don't treat me in a way that'd suggest I should be that formal, they hug me and laugh and joke and treat me like their daughter, besides, I've yet to hear anyone using Doña and Don so so far I haven't used either.

Luis calls my mom by her name but most of the time he doesn't use anything, it's the "hey" thing without actually calling the person.

He calls my mom Mrs... I call his mom "mama smith"

DH's parents have been deceased for close to twenty years so I don't call them anything... He calls my parents by their names, and I'm sure it never occurred to any of us to do any different - my family was never big on formal titles...

His parents are both deceased. But I do call all the older female family members "aunt" in his language. And "uncle" for the male members. He calls my mother Mrs. Mariam LOL. She hates it!

He calls my parents Mom and Dad. His father is deceased. I don't talk to his mom much because she doesn't speak much English and I don't speak Yoruba.

I call them by first names, though it took me forever to feel comfortable enough with them to do that.

It seems like your parents have been really nice to you and your hubby .

I call his parents by Mrs. and Mrs -------- because I don't even know them so the relationship is way to formal and he just call my parents by their first name actually he calls my mom MY SUEGRA which means mother -in -law.

Thank God they love each other I hope his parents like me someday and the relationship can be as good as the one he has with my parents.

To Karin's Mother - Mrs X (although by first/friend-name is perfectly ok)
To Otto's Mother - by first/friend-name

Me - Mama and Baba
Bassi - Mom and Dad

Which is interesting because my dad wasn't a part of my life until I had cancer a few years back. So I call him Frank, but my SO calls him Dad. Go figure!

My hubby's parent's are deceased. He calls my stepdad by his first name (since that's what I call him) and he calls my mom Mama - which she and I think is cute.



My hubby's parent's are deceased. He calls my stepdad by his first name (since that's what I call him) and he calls my mom Mama - which she and I think is cute.

he calls my mom "the ma"... and not sure what he calls my dad. we don't see him very often.

and i call his mom "muy" (moroccan arabic for mom) and his dad "baba" but i doubt i'd say it to his face. better figure out what i'd say before our next trip to morocco. haha!

I call his mom by her first name some days. Others, well, suffice to say it is unfit to print on here!

He calls my parent's mom and dad.

Jerry calls my parents Mom and Dad, I tend to call his parents by their first names or "momma and my favourite father-in-law"

I try not to call them anything. Hand gestures, nods of the head, anything to avoid actually calling them mom or dad (the Indian equivalents of those words, of course). But when backed into a corner, I will call them mom and dad.

I call them mom and dad.

Mom and Dad. We had a misunderstanding with them the day before Thanksgiving. In short, it wasn't celebrated at all for my husband and I.

Another vote for first names.
As my MIL says, Mrs xxx is my husbands grandmother, my MIL doesn't feel comfortable being called that by anyone than the UPS guy.
We don't use the names very often though, it's usually farmor (paternal grandma) and farfar (paternal grandpa) these days. I'm "mom"

I really don't know what to call my father-in-law...