I would suggest that you ask him what he wants to so, even tho I think they all want the same thing. And that has been covered.

Gee! No one objected to any of that! Whatchall got against dildos and vibrators, dayum it!

seems like all the postings are:

1... hubby will be tired so dont plan nothing for him but < fill in the blanks >
2.. hubby will want shower so - join him in the shower for < fill in the blanks >
3. hubby will want to sleep. but, when he wakes up < fill in the blanks >
4.. toss the B-O-B<battery operated boyfriend > in the trash coz, he is not gonna < fill in the blanks NO MORE! >

did I get that right ladies?

You know I was going refrain from posting but I think many people are wondering...

Green-Eyed...based on the advice you gave Rahma the other day on proper adab, do you think you are following the same right now when continuing to discuss your sex toys? I would say that is very high on the list of lack of adab. I realize you have stated earlier that just because you have one doesn't mean you use it, but I would like to remind you that there is only one use for such a thing. There is no alternative use for it, therefore discussing it in a public forum is a lack of adab. If you want to talk about it then please by all means continue, but don't call others out about adab when you can practice what you preach I just want to add I don't really have a problem with anyone here discussing it even though I think its too personal, my problem is with those who discuss such things and then call others out for being disrespectful.

When I call myself a dildo and porport that paper marriages are valid in Islam, then you can call me out.

One more thing. Over the last several months, I've read discussions here about what positions gets you pregnant, Muslimas calling each other fornicators, talking about "living in sin", and more of the same. What is offensive is particularly subjective here, and that can go for me too.

What Muslimas have talked about living in sin?

Who other than you has called another person a fornicator?

Has this stuff really happened?

hmmmmmm....I remember saying that earlier!!!

What Muslimas have talked about living in sin?

Who other than you has called another person a fornicator?

Has this stuff really happened?

Yes, it has. That's part of the problem. It's only noticed when done by those who are not among the favored.

I know you want to fit in with the cabal, doodle, but you don't have the grounds on which to stand.

Double standards are the norm on this board. Objections are not to what is said, but to whom is saying it. As I said before, people jump on whom they want to. Discussions of sex on this board are common, though veiled. When the "rigt" people are in the nix, nothing is said. When the "wrong" people are in the mix, that's whan it's all wrong.

I'm sorry, but some of the Muslimas here consider Islam a joke until they have someone to pick at to divert from what they thmeselves do and say. Then, they side with the pro-fornicators. They resent me for speaking out against fornication, and will use anything I say to try to deflect from themselves. That is clear to more and more too. You are losing your credibility as critics because of your own hypocrisy and failure to practice what you preach and not apply your finger pointing objectively.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...st&p=703517

And if you say, we're just joking, fine! That's what we're doing here.

I don't call people fornicators, but I don't defend them either, like you have.

Doodle, welcome to the "anyone who disagrees with Green-Eyed Girl" clique.

You know, Rebecca, I have been holding back on saying this, but I will. You used to want to be friends. You used to be very positve toward me, and I haven't changed, but you did. You know how I found out that you didn't like me anymore? It wasn't the way you prescribe for others, that they discuss their issues in private. No, it was because I saw you making fun of me and mocking my positions with people you know didn't like me.

This thread was the first give away. From there, there were other posts that clearly were aimmed at my views; I don't collect them. I said nothing because popularity here isn't important to me. That's not what I'm here for, and that's why I don't really care who likes me and who doesn't.

You folks dislike my proveniciality, and you dislike my unconventionality. You want to put me in a little box that allows you to do and say as you want, but restricts me to silence and absolute prudeness. But, if some can joke about sex, then I can too. So, get over it, y'all.

BTW, we were having fun here, like many of you do when you're mocking me. We will continue to have fun. Get over that too.

At the same time no matter how you say "anything" there will always be someone to take it wrong or differently than intended

Khadiah said:

I am sure everything said here are all true BUT you must know it is traditional to have a Moroccan wedding with the family as a celebration. It is a way to prove you are married with family and friends at Morocco. My husband and I married at Morocco, we are both very simple muslim people BUT we still had a simple traditional wedding with family and friends of family to acknowledge our marriage to many people. I am sure this is what the CO had in mind because they know it is traditional at Morocco. Even if we are simple people it should have been preformed this way to make all family and friends know the marriage was accomplished. You should have photos for proofs as well.

I spent a lot of time in Morocco before I married a Moroccan, and I know LOTS of couples who didn't have a "traditional wedding". Hecks, lots of people all over the world don't have "traditional weddings". I'm Muslim too, and I know lots of Muslims who have very simple nikahs. In fact, there are ahadith that tell us this is proper to do because to do otherwise is a waste of money that one could use to give alms.

We had a small family reception, and like someone mentioned before, we married just before I left. We registered at the adoul in Sale at 7pm and I was on a plane alone in Casa the next morning to leave at 9:30 am! We barely had time to sleep, much less to throw a fete! The rush was because the judge was trying to find any excuse to mot allow us to marry in the first place and we were down to the wire by the time our newly-hired attorney was able to convince him that if the US Embassy had validated my divorce ( a requirement), then why wouldn't he accept their word, if not my divorce decree. We did have a honeymoon in May this year.

Ok, so how many ladies here have put their SO to the "test" regarding the just-for-a-visa issue? (Be honest now.)

I never tested my husband so much as I didn't take him seriously for a long time. He was 26 when we met online, I was nearly 47. Although most of the women in my family are married to younger men, several of them Moroccan men, and although men at least 10 years younger approached me regularly, I was still looking for someone my own age. That's what I was used to. So, despite the fact that I have a house in Agadir and go there at least once a year, it didn't really occur to me early on that this young Moroccan man had a chance to ever be my husband; visas never even crossed my mind. Besides, having grown up there, I knew that, outside of western Sahara, the percentage of older women married to younger men was very low.

I had some fun with him and was attracted to him, but kept looking for older guys. After a few months talking to him, I told him that it had been fun, but it was time for me to get serious and for him to find a woman his own age. He protested that I was the one he wanted, but I was gone. For about a year, all I would give him was cursory hellos, feeling oh so guilty about the continuing attention and gifts he showered on me. When he'd catch me online, I would remind him that he was too young for me and ask if he had found someone else yet. Always the answer was no, he was waiting for me.

After a while and several older suitors later, I realized that he was the only one who remembered my birthday, my favorite movie, what color my eyes were, and all the details of my life as I had related them. I realized that he was already committed to me, and so much better than the rest. Just because he came wrapped in a smoother, not so graying package was no reason to let him get away. I had to allay my fears about growing older ahead of him, perhaps he would change his mind about not wanting children. I've never been divorced before and didn't want it to happen to me, especially at an older age. But, these are the chances you take in any relationship.
No, I didn't test him, per se, but now, after waiting four years to meet me, and now more than 2.5 years to live with me, I know for sure he could have gotten a visa easier with someone else, so, even though he gets terribly frustrated with the bureaucracy, and sometimes with me, we're still hanging in there together.

OMG, I hate it when we are fighting and he says "as you wish"! That just makes my blood boil.

I hate that too!

I hate to change the subject.. BUUUTTTTTTTTTTTTTT
but should I make javed Peanut butter cookies or Chocolate chip cookies? the pre cut frozen kind < I am too lazy to roll the dough >
I was thinking of making a welcome home goody basket. what else should I put in the basket.

I refrain from using the 'ignore' feature. I prefer to read all the crap. Seeing how ignorant some members make themselves sound amuses me on slow nights at work. Seeing how low some can take things, makes my life seem so much more normal.

Jackie
Clique of one. (obvious rip-off of 'Army of One.' )

The Hypocrites are afraid lest a Sura should be sent down about them, showing them what is really passing in their hearts. Say: "Mock you! But verily God will bring to light all that you fear should be revealed. If you do question them, they declare with emphasis: "We were only joking and playing." Say: "Was it at God, and His Signs, and His Messenger, that you were mocking?"

- The Holy Quran 9:65-66
It's so amusing that you have this in your signature.

Maybe you can explain to people here why in one thread you need a divorce decree and in another you say you were never divorced?

I hate to change the subject.. BUUUTTTTTTTTTTTTTT
but should I make javed Peanut butter cookies or Chocolate chip cookies? the pre cut frozen kind < I am too lazy to roll the dough >
I was thinking of making a welcome home goody basket. what else should I put in the basket.

The rush was because the judge was trying to find any excuse to mot allow us to marry in the first place and we were down to the wire by the time our newly-hired attorney was able to convince him that if the US Embassy had validated my divorce ( a requirement), then why wouldn't he accept their word, if not my divorce decree. We did have a honeymoon in May this year.

I've never been divorced and I didn't have a divorce decree. I had a death decree. That was a typo I didn't catch. The rest is true.

ok seems like yall all just voted for chocolate chip cookies.

sooooooo what else goes in the "welcome home " basket?

ok seems like yall all just voted for chocolate chip cookies.

sooooooo what else goes in the "welcome home " basket?

R-i-i-i-i-i-i-i-ght

R-i-i-i-i-i-i-i-ght

R-i-i-i-i-i-i-i-ght

But I would choose the chocolate chip! i made them for my husband and he LOVED them. if your SO is Muslim and you want to keep it halal, just buy vanilla powder or non-alcoholic vanilla when you make the recipe!