Ma'askakee!!!!!!!

And to think, this evening I’ve been watching … “The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly” on Encore Western

shokran habeebti be careful, I might be contagious

amal

mena is better than anything on tv

Be careful not to overuse that word my habibti

Welcome to the Wild, Wild East! It's a serial drama!

I laughed my butt off at that video...Still haven't found out if I can use it in my website or not...

edited to add..... habeebti habeebti habeebti hahahahaha

wow! i go out for a few hours and my post goes from 3 pages to 18!!!!

i don't see anything wrong with discussing slightly sexual topics like what i and a few others have said. shame on me. i'm not muslim and i don't claim to be. and i'm certainly not a hypocrite. (although i am assuming most of those comments, if not all, weren't directed at me per-se)

but i must say....if light hearted topics like this offend you then maybe reading/posting on a non-muslim based or non-religious-whatever message board isn't for you!

thanks to babybunny for trying to bring it back on track!!! i wanted the same advice. little cute things to do to make my fiance's arrival more personalized, thoughtful, and comfortable. i like the idea of the basket with snacks, razor, subway pass, pamplets to local attractions, etc. i wrote that one down. also finger foods in bed was cute!

about vanilla: use vanilla powder or vanilla beans in your cooking. you can buy a cheap bottle of vanilla powder at trader joes. you can also buy a vanilla bean, scrape out the beans inside and use them for creme brulee or ice cream (best uses for beans imho), then stick your empty pod inside a jar of sugar and that becomes vanilla sugar over time. you can then use that to make your cakes, cookies, ice creams, etc.

sorry to see this post turned into a disaster.

It can go back on track, sis. The attacks were not about you. Don't worry. This subject will come by again. It's of ongoing interest to many of us.

practical thoughts:
is there a space for his clothes or other belongings. it may be difficult, but will it be possible to have empty drawers and closet space available before he arrives ?

also, is there a place where the suitcase(s) can disappear ... err ... be put away?

it may have been mentioned before, but what about a little spending $$$ or gift cards as part of the basket (placed in envelope or card). this is case he didn't exchange enough at the POE or funds are tied into an account that is not readily available. (call it ... emergency funds .... to be used at your discretion).

just thoughts ... because sometimes the small practical things thought out in advance can help too

It has nothing to do with being muslim or religious, as I am neither. I just find it to be in extremely bad taste and quite frankly, embarrassing. But that is JMHO, of course. People can certainly discuss whatever they'd like to, but as it is a public message board, they should be prepared for negative reaction.

I think the money and gift cards would be a great idea. My husband, i think, might have taken offense at that...(a pride thing) so I'd be careful if taking that route...

Definitely have a dresser and some closet space just for them. They will really appreciate the feeling of acceptance that that gives them. Save space for their shoes too.... OH OH.. and give extra "him" space in the shower. a place where he can have his own wash rag and own soaps. Some people won't use soap if it is used by another person (mine isn't like that but I know of people who are). Mine does like to have an area that he can claim in the shower for all of his "manly" stuff.

i'm not sure how my fiance would feel about me buying him subway cards, giving him spending money, etc. i think i might hold off on that. he says not to bringh him gifts to morocco when i come, but i do (i can't help it. hehe) he always seems a bit overwhelmed.

jenn... i'm not sure what to say because i just don't agree. all of us here come from different backgrounds, different beliefs, and its just not embarrassing for me to post here slightly sexual topics. and i don't feel any of us said anything beyond appropriate. i mean "fill in the blanks" or "shower with him" isn't exactly rated R. haha but my belief is sex is natural, fun, a wonderful part of marriage, and i'm not embarrassed or uptight about talking about it.

but my point is: i'm not here to change anyone's beliefs. you are obviously free to feel what you want and post what you want! .........but if you don't like a subject. you find it in bad taste, or embarrassing..... why not just not post in that topic? why is it always necessary for so many people to put negative comments instead of ignoring a post if they don't like its content?

Well, I generally don't. I was responding to your assertion that people who did not like the subject matter are likely Muslim and/or religious.

And one can believe that sex is natural, fun, and a wonderful part of marriage while also choosing to keep discussion about it behind closed doors.

I just have no interest in hearing about others' sex lives. Call me uptight, but that's just me. Maybe we'll have to implement sex-talk disclaimers in the topic titles in the future.

Your correct, it had been fun and enjoyable evening, try to help plan the first nite(s) sheets, lights, food, showers, etc then it all broke loose not once but twice, by that time its time to call it a night, got some ideas tho. All variety of SOs are coming, it doesnt have to be directed to any certain group or religion, if the suggestion doesnt fit within your lifes circle then dont use it, go to the next. Just my thoughts again.

amen, brinido!

i honestly didn't think this topic would go in the sex direction. i was asking for romantic ideas to make my home more comfortable, gifts, food, drink, music, things to do, etc for his first night. i already knew the "fill in the blank " part. but since it went in that direction its A-OKAY by me!

All adult women, there was nothing (dirty) said it was all in fun, and good spirit, lots of good ideas were coming learned a few things, and then the normal............. some just look for something to pick at, dont worry you did good. It is a very interesting subject. I learned chicken is not meat ha

i kinda skipped over the whole halal section when reading when i got home. chicken is not meat? since when? ahh i'll just go back and read.

Discussing your sex life, or lack of with strangers and mixed company is just tacky. And I would appreciate no suggestions to 'just not read' or 'go somewhere else'. I have longevity as you can see from my join date. I'm staying.

Jackie

Jen, honey, yesterday's blow up was nothing more than an excuse to go at me, specifically. I'm a round peg that won't go into the square hole. Since I've been here, there have been other sexual leaning threads with no complaints. IMO, it's just a matter of too much time on some hands, too much gossiping, and too many alpha females with need to assert their "authority" and maintain a "hierarchy". If you have any group dynamics training, you can even discern repeating roles among the players. Sadly, most of the time, they are succesfull, thus the tenacious tactics. When they're not, they have the kind of intimidation fit that happened to this thread. Last night, some of us went back and read old threads, and it's clear that this sort of thing has been going on for a while. Nothing new, no original thought, same ole, same ole. Please, don't allow it to distract you.

It is a fun thread and everyone deserves some fun, so, back to the topic!

Being imminently practical I like Natty's suggestions very much. I've already got furniture for him and a closet. I'll have a bus pass waiting, and other neccesary things to help my hubby get settled in. I plan to spoil him!

Well I'm obviously a newbie but common sense tells me if you find something offensive that is as lighthearted as this... you just don't post in this topic! My point is why do so many women here have to be so rude all the time? if you posted something I found tacky I would never go in your post and tell you it was just for the sake of having my opinion known that i find you inappropriate! I would just ignore that topic because there are tons of others to read and post in! Newbie OR old school.

... and here we go again...

Agreed, it was in no way over out of bounds. I've read more graphic stuff in ahadith. This is not a new subject, it's just new people discussing it, and that's the rub.



Some don't call chicken meat, but it is still to be prepared as meat for an observant Muslim household.

oh okay that makes sense. i knew it was still prepared as such but that whole comment of it not being meat threw me off. terminology

I don't think telling someone you think they are being inappropriate is wrong, I've done that; several have. It's how and why they do it that bothers me.

For me, it really had nothing to do with the sex talk....I think that the "fill in the blanks" was kinda cute and all that. I know you're new here but greeneyedgirl has publically stated that certain people's marriages are not valid and that they are fornicating with their men whom they call their husband. For someone to do that and devastate some individuals who take things to heart, and then to go and talk about extremely sexual toys.....well it just kind of was the straw that broke the camel's back. And for her to know that the fact that on the one hand she's destroyed a few girls emotionally telling them that their marriage was false and on the other hand she's freely talking about her sex toys bothers some, and then to insert many many many references of it in this particular thread KNOWING it would rub a few people the wrong way, was just wrong and I apologize that it distracted from the true nature of the thread.

So.............it's not really about the uptightness re: some of the bedroom talk.....it's more about the audacity of someone to tell a woman right after she got married when she's on her honeymoon that she is fornicating and not really married, and then turn around and talk about her vibrator.

That being said, I'm writing down all these good tips myself and I do HOPE that we all can use them SOON!!!!

New or old rude is rude, i maybe wrong but i dont remember anyone exactly (getting down to details) expressing (exactly) what would take place in anyones life. a detail reference is not needed. At work, school, friends, etc you put a room of girls together and its going to drift sooner or later, no one has to give details. Put a room of men together would be the same. Hopefully it can get going again, personally, i am going to check out the sheets target has on sale, and try to find new lights, maybe paint/decorate the room, make it more like his home style. I have already placed the things i brought back and he has send, some in den, some in living room, some kitchen and bedroom. Planning will take the edge away from all the waiting.

planning will definitely take the edge of waiting! thats why i'm doing this... to keep myself distracted from the fact i haven't even sent my forms in because i lost my BC and my passport expired. i'm rotting here waiting for one or the other to arrive and its just prolonging this further and further!

i just moved to ny myself so i need to buy a dresser anyway...so i'm going to look for an extra large one so there is room for us to share. anyone have ideas for online furniture ordering? i've looked at target.com, westelm.com, and a few others with no luck. i wish i could get something moroccan inspired........

The more elite furniture can come in time, starting out just something that will accomodate. Around here there usually are good sales, estate sales, or moving sales, people sometimes sell some nice things just to keep from moving it.

Mine is in Calif. just waiting each day for the ok starting the countdown now, time line has March 8 so each day come to work checking ha

Oh, the drama! I'm so powerful that I'm wreaking havoc with an opinion. Well, if there was no truth to what I said, why the consternation? This is about the long-term disagreement over couples having paper marriages that they call "Islamic", and the requirement for registered marriages as prescribed by the alim and legal authorities in the MUSLIM country they "married" in. Sorry, it's not their place to go to a MUSLIM country that has set up their rules according to their SO's understanding of Islam, then attempt to dictate what this country and the USCIS should allow. Anyone that has a problem with my view of that can suck wind. Fornication and vibrators are apples and oranges. For all you know, the dildos are being used for fencing, that's how descriptive we've been!

Frankly, if you all think I'm so horrible, just pay no attention to what I believe and blissfully go about your business. You're not my burden on the Last Day and I've done my duty by giving you my warning, as I am bound by God to do.

Anyone having any further problem with me can PM me; I'm done with you here. I will report any more interference with the enjoyment of this thread.

When I came to visit my husband (then boyfriend) for the first time in the States, I was simply overwhelmed.

I always feel it takes 2 to 3 days for (I allways call it) my soul to arrive after my body. That is on long flight trips.

He did a lot of the stuff you were all suggesting:

He had just recently moved and made sure none of the boxes were still around when I arrived, he painted the bedroom and put together a little package about Seattle.

A city guide, a guide to public transport, a map, he bought a "go Seattle Card" which included admission to a lot of attractions.

For my first night he had not planned anything, just a light salad for dinner- we spent a lot of the night trying to understand that I was finally there...

The next morning, he took me to the beach, we got a coffee from Starbucks and sat in the sand with our shoes off, and enjoyed the sunshine.

The first two days were very slow, only then I started to meet friends and family, discover the city and discover American supermarkets

Enjoy those first days, everybody. It's a once in a lifetime experience.

I know it's a pipedream but I would LOVE for him to come here when it's still summertime so that we could spend our first days together on the beach!!!

This is a suggestion that would last more than a few days, but leaving sweet, loving notes around the house for him to find is a winner! You can put them anywhere, in the medicine cabinet, at the PC, in the fruit bowl, where ever. Keep telling him how happy you are to have him with you!

YES! I was at staples a few weeks ago to buy a hole puncher for my application and saw they had heart shaped pink post it notes... so i bought them for that exact reason!:D

I had thought of the medicine cabinet also, matter of fact allllllll the cabinets in the bathroom, guess i need to clean out quiet a bit and be sure to explain some of the stuff there.

For later, when im not home and he gets a burst of energy,this product you can clean the wooden floors with, this one you cant.

But it can also be very romantic to walk on the beach in fall or winter, just cuddle up in a coat and bring a hot drink!


The going to the beach has become a tradition for us, and I hope we can keep it up when I finally come to live in Seattle for good...
No better place to talk about things than on the beach, for me at least.

awesome idea!!!!!!!

Just don't walk down Lynn beach - smelly!!!!

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Yes Green-eyed girl I will have to agree with you. When you look at the previous you see this happening. And after some of the things I read I am not "what" and they talk about me. Something else that is funny is that people try to PM and tell me to give it a break or whatever. Why should I give the board a break, you know, how are you to tell me when to comment and when not too. One thing that is off subject but gets on my nerves is the islamic questions. But anyway maybe I will start a trend with that one????

We have been doing this. Its so comforting and wonderful, especially when our schedules are quite meshing except for 2 short hours of awake time. Just a little note somewhere to say "I'm thinking of you..."

I used to live right on Beach street and 95% of the summer my windows were closed and the a/c was cranking and I STILL couldn't get the smell out of my appartment!!

I am so upset I was not on here for this trend, but I will have to say that nobody is perfect. We are not perfect muslims and will never be, if one person does something but does not do another thing than so what. I have noticed in myself that sometimes we carry around a Christian mentality. We do not have hypocritics in Islam, we are all growing as muslims. Maybe you are doing something that I am not doing. I know people that drink and i think it is wrong but I do things that some may consider incorrect behavior. I think we should stop with the judging. Some people ask questions yes I know the knowledge does that mean I apply it all the time. I try my best but I do not. There are a lot of things that we have to consider as muslims and we never stop learning and growing. So what you think is not appropriate could be just that person growing out of a phrase. I am not sure what is going on but these trends of entertaining and we learn alot. I think I have learned the most hadith from this group then anybody. Personalities are different and yes they will clash. however when you are on a public board it is a free for all. I have learned this and I have learn the PM option.


I am a Green-eyed girl FAN. I was waiting for the new album!!!

I bought some electric liquid poupouri pots and use a rose poupouri in them. It makes the whole house smell wonderful!

Another thing. Talk of showers made me think of warming a towel for him to use when he gets out. It's especially appreciated on cold winter days.