Hi Em,
Like you, I am ashamed of Asian society. Regardless of the poor examples out there, I think that Asian soceity as a whole needs to make some major changes. But then again, one can't change a society/culture, in a day. Nevertheless, changes should still be made towards a more postive outlook for this society/culture...
I agree too, balance is the key to everything in life. If that is the case, then I say this of Asian culture, based on your comments:
1) While strong family ties are good, there is a thing as too strong of a family tie, meaning that one is too dependent on family and not being allowed to grow independently earlier than expected (For example, many Asians stay with their parents until age 30 (or any other higher age), even though they are working and can afford to be on their own. Does that teach them responsibility and give them the tools to survive on their own in the world without their parents' help? No.)
2) Respect is both ways. So regardless of one's age, or anything else in life, one should be respected no matter what. While one should respect their elders, the elders should respect the young people too (Now tell me, how many Asian elders respect the young, other than in taking advantage of them for their own selfish intentions?).
3) It is good to work, yes. But when one works too hard, they become a "workholic". This results in neglecting family, friends, and other more important life obligations. Then there is this thing about being too competitive in the workplace (In Asian society, that would be "keeping up with the Lees, Wongs, Chans, Hos, and any other Asian surnames"). The competition in the workplace is unhealthy and makes for problems in other life areas that are more important, such as spending time with family and having time to relax for oneself.
4) Although some discipline is good, too much discipline and strict parenting is downright abusive. The abused kids end up with more problems down the road, becoming withdrawn, scared, having low self esteem, being physically harmed, and abusing other kids. (Sorry, this "Asian abuse" to children doesn't make sense). I agree, with the open communication and postive reinforcement that North American society has more to offer in terms of parenting. After all, parenting is important, and children should be treated equally, with respect, and feel good about themselves in the family and in soceity.
Ant (Balanced...In a postive North American way....)
QUOTE(echomyst @ Feb 9 2007, 11:50 PM)

Balance's the key

Sometimes I am ashamed of my Asian roots (because of the poor representatives out there), but there are loads of good in the Chinese culture too. You know, values like strong family ties, respect for your elders, crazy work ethics, etc.
Oh, and you know that strict parenting Chinese parents do (e.g. beat their kids, negative reinforcement)? In some ways, I think that works better than the N. American tradition of lax parenting... BUT at the same time, I envy the open communication Jason has with *his* family, because my parents and I just don't talk about personal things... you know, things like relationships, sex, or even how I'm doing at work (uhhh, trying to stay on the topic of employment here!

) So, yeah, a happy medium needs to be found.