Hey everyone,

I know I haven't written on here in a while... but, I had a major annoyance yesterday that I just felt I needed to get off my chest and share with everyone. So, yesterday I was in my Business law class... and we were talking about contracts. The teacher decides to share that marriage is a type of contract, but not by today's standards, like the standards back in the day when dowrys were around. Well then some girl got on her high horse not knowing anything about immigrations and started talking about Mail order brides, asking what rights they had, if that was a contract, etc.

I suppose I wasn't really upset until about 1/2 the class joined in talking about things that they are so shaded as to know nothing about. (By the way where I live its a bunch of hicks that have never been out of the county let alone the country to know anything about the rest of the world). I know someone else on here wrote recently about mail order brides, and I wrote back saying we are all humans it doesn't really matter how you find the person you love... but these people, in this class, just went on and on about how bad they feel for the average American Joe who goes on these websites. How he has no hope of finding love and the girls (who are all from the phillipines in their words) are only coming over to get visas and pop out children so they can stay here. For one, i'd like to know how an average Joe could even afford it! Plane tickets to the phillipines are exxxpensive, I have an aunt from the phillipines... They go back every so often to see family. Oh yeah and of course she didn't marry my uncle just to pop out kids and get a green card.

I know my situation is different from some others, but it really upset me to hear people talk about this the way they did. For one, they have no idea what they are talking about when it comes to immigrations laws... Imbra now makes you write if you found your fiance/fiancee through a type of agency like a mail order bride. And of course they further scrutizine those people to see if it's a legit relationship. I will agree that sometimes there are unfortunate events where people get through that are marrying for the wrong reasons, but not everyone is like that! These people made it seem like all immigrants were only out to get US citizenship by popping out babies in the US after they get here so they can stay. The whole ordeal from these totally oblivious people really rubbed me the wrong way!

If you got this far in the reading, thanks for listening to me rant!

I think there may be several people from your class that are VJ members. I've seen thier posts.

I suppose they don't even realize it's the other way around too, Women petitioning for MEN from foreign countries. I'd like to see a MAN pop out a baby I suppose they don't understand the fact that you can truly LOVE someone who you can't see and touch day in and day out. Which is why I feel the people on this website are far stronger than any other individuals i've met before .

Midicat,

Can I just say that I found your post very interesting. It is so true what you are saying. It's such a shame that so many people over can't open their minds up to the world around them. They think it's just them in their own little town. I was surprised when I first started coming to the USA on vacation(long before moving here)to know that there are so many Americans that have never been out of their own town(like you said)and don't even own a passport!

Don't want to discuss this topic too much, as I saw what happened in the other thread somewhere else on VJ and it got into a very heated discussion. However, I think you were right to be annoyed about it, I would be too.

Everyone looks at the car wreck, remember that.

Did you join in the discussion to re-educate them? Or let them just ramble on?

Personally I wouldn't have been able to keep my mouth shut.

I think I was too much in shock to say anything!! It was right at the end of class too, so I didn't really get the chance to say anything, although if the discussion comes back up again tomorrow, I defiantely will have a few things on my mind to say after gathering my thoughts about the situation. And the funny thing is, my teacher is Norweigan! You would think she would have been heated about it too!

People can be so narrow minded here! My extended family who all have met my fiance and know how perfect we are together keep telling me they dont know how we do it, they wouldnt. My niece even said I was marrying him just to get him a greencard!!! THis is my family, I can;t imagine how ignorant the people in your class were! People just hear "imigrant" and automatically think of the "mail order bride" which is probably something crazy small like 0.1% of all apps!!! See your from cinnci, I;m from Toledo!

Would have annoyed me too...clueless, some. Rant away..hope it made you feel better! M.

Why yes, I believe it did help me by ranting a bit !

Anyway, I am very thankful that no one in my family treats my fiance that way. They all think its quite interesting and like to hear his stories about British culture etc. My family is pretty open minded about such things. My background is a bit of a mix of everything . I do have a few family members who can't seem to keep straight where he is from though, I had someone ask me if he was from INDIA!... How can you mistake a Brit for an Indian? That's a bit beyond me.

Unfortunately, you're preaching to the choir here, and missed a good oppty to enlighten several 'in the dark' types