Beauty and outter appreanance has been a major factor (for some) in picking our mates for centuries. First impressions are said to be important .... WHat are your thoughts?

Eyes are the mirror to the soul, it is said... that's what caught ahold of me!

His hair of course! This is the back of his head:

hmmm.... you can't totally see how red his hair is there. But believe me, it's really really red.

For me was the smile, he is always smiling, then the eyes

He's 6'4" or 6'5", so I have to say his height was the first thing I noticed. And yes, looks were definitely a factor.

eyes, oh I love his eyes, and his nose, so cute, and other parts

Henia,

No "goodies" for men?

Yodrak

His eyes def. He has gorgeous eyes.

Do you mean in person or when we first saw them in a picture/online (for those of us that met online..) For me it was his smile/mouth, but in person it was his eyes.. (he's got gorgeous brown eyes..)

Either or... how eever you *saw* them first...in person, in a picture, on cam...

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Henia,

No "goodies" for men?

Yodrak

Welll ummmmmmmm I guess I forgot to add that... just check OTHER if that applys to you

Wow your husband is tall too... I always thought MENA men were kinda on the short side, until I met my husband. Now I have neck aches

his beautiful smile... it radiates warmth... and then his eyes, which were also smiling

i voted that it sweetened the package for me... i was already smitten with him before i ever saw a pic...

im so lucky

We met while my fiance was a friar (like a monk) and I was a missionary waiting to become a sister (like a nun), we were friends and co-workers like that for 2 years. He left and went back to France in 2004, I left and returned home a few months later (we were both unhappy in that way of life)... we kept in touch as friends... 8 months later, we fell in love. So, looks had nothing to do with it - it was more a surprise than anything else!

For those who chose that looks are not a factor, how does that work? I'm not saying anything other than that I can't imagine not being attracted to my SO, and looks are a big part of that. Were you not interested in their looks and then later were?

Or do you just mean that you liked their looks but would have chosen them if they were hideous but had the same personality?

Of course looks have something to do with initial attraction, but without the strong soul connection that we have and the inner intimacy his good looks would not sustain our relationship, which is the same from his side of things. And of course I am completely attracted to his beauty and find him to be the most handsome man on this earth.

When I first met my husband two years before we really got to know each other, I already though he was very handsome.

The day we noticed there was more, he explained some feature on my cellphone and that's when I noticed his hands- he has really really beautiful hands.

So I guess, before I noticed his eyes, I noticed the hands.

My fiancee is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen, bar none. However, we first got to know each other (and fall for each other) before we even saw what one another looked like. So while looks did "sweeten the package," they most definitely were not a determining factor. Our personalities meshed perfectly.

I first noticed his face but his eyes really hypnotized me, they are such a beautiful blue. And it sweetened the package but I love his personality more than anything

Yeah, I think the high proportion of "No, but it sweetened the deal" responses must be due to the fact that most people here met online and probably developed feelings before knowing what the other looked like.

a lot of us met our SO online... you get to know a person's insides first without really knowing what they look like, besides pics etc....

I know with me, I basically knew I loved him but I wanted to meet him in person to find out for sure..... The first thing I saw of him was his back and at that moment before I even saw his face I knew I loved him....

Don't get me wrong though, I am very attracted to my hubby... but a lot of that is because of who he is on the inside...

Ahhh... the online thing makes sense.

We are a "met online" couple, and I didn't see what he actually looked like for a couple of weeks. (cuz he thought he was ugly and I wouldn't talk to him anymore) So thats why I ticked that it made it much sweeter.

I am not commenting on the whole do looks matter bit, because I got reemed once for my opinion lol.

I first noticed his smile.......It was soo pretty he doesn't really smile that much anymore( cause he's a grouch) ..but when he does it steals my all over again.

By the way he also has a nice muscular build...YOW!!!!!

I'm like Jenn. Stewart is 6'7". so I really did notice his height first. I have to see that looks did matter to me. I met him in person, so I was attracted to him before I knew him.

Me personally, I'm saying that looks had nothing to do with our inital attraction/falling in love. At the moment, a year and a half into the romantic relationship, yes I'm physically attracted to him as well. The height is the first thing we noticed on his first visit after we fell in love. I looked up at him and he looked down at me and we were like dayum, we never noticed this height difference while he was a friar! He's 5'11" and I'm 5'6" - not a big difference but enough to surprise us that we never noticed it during our two year friendship!

Oh.....his eyes

I met my fiance in person, at a crowded party, and I was immediately attracted to him! I noticed him from across the room.
Once we approached each other, I saw what a great muscular build he has. I will never forget the way I felt the night I met my fiance

Inside he is even more beautiful than outside - he is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

Hmm, his sweet smile and his beautiful dark eyes...*melting*

Actually the first thing I noticed about him was a Gauri Shankar rudraksha bead he had around his neck - they are pretty rare so I complimented him on it and we started talking about rudrakshas - since I am short and K is quite tall for a Nepali it was at my eye level, then I looked up and saw his sweet face . When I came back to the US I did some research on rudrakshas and the Gauri Shankar represents Shiva and Shakti united and wearing it will help you to 'recognize your life partner'. It was certainly true in our case.

Eyes

As a determining factor-No, but it sweetened the package.

When we first started talking online, I didn't see a picture of him for over a month and I already was liking who I was talking to, though I wasn't in love yet...I think I was first drawn to his personality and so while I do think he is handsome, how handsome he was/wasn't didn't determine how I had already started feeling for him.

I think people can be attracted to someone without that person fitting the stereotype of what is good-looking. It's very subjective. I haven't been one to base things so much on looks, because I don't think it's fair. There are so many great people in this world being overlooked because they aren't "hot" enough.

I met my husband in person, and the thing that really drew my to him was his personality. He was so sweet, gentle and kind that it didn't matter what he looked like. However, he is very cute in a kind of baby-faced way, and he has the most gorgeous eyes. These things always help....

For me, there would have to be a physical attraction, as well as all the other kinds of attractions.

same for me

It is Joel's face. He has a gentle look about him, which was one of the first things I noticed once we decided to webcam. His words, before I ever saw his face were what attracted me...it felt as if we had known each other forever. Once I saw his face though...WOW!

Let's see ..
I first noticed his humor and how he types and typoes like me.
So I could think of somehting and he would say what I was thinking in Chat .. not that common for me

The first thing I liked was the fact that he makes me laugh so much my stomach muscles actually hurt. On the outside it was his eyes.

I love blue eyes.

One can be the most gorgeous thing on earth and be the nastiest person on the inside. Joel and I have a very strong inner connection that is beyond words. I agree...a relationship that starts simply because of looks alone doesn't seem to me as one that would stand up to what a relationship is all about. Remember Shallow Hal?


OH YES!!!!!!!! My beloved Joel has THE most gorgeous BLUE eyes. Sometimes I think I could lose myself in them.

His hair, because it's red. Although he has beautiful eyes, too. And no, it wasn't a determing factor, but it is certainly nice.

I first saw Ben on a webcam (awww...how romantic ). I'd been talking to this sweet guy for ages, and then I saw him on cam and I just KNEW KNEW KNEW he would be in my life. My jaw dropped - it was as though I'd known him for my entire life - he just fitted into my heart.

You know ehn you see a film and you think "Oh my God, that's exactly what I imagined when I read the book!" (Lord of the Rings was like that for me...) - well, seeing him for the first time conjured up roughly the same feeling.

Am I making any sense?

Hmmm...the first thing I noticed was his gait. He has this strange sorta skip in his step- it's weird and charming at the same time.

Wes is very shy. I think it would have been difficult to meet him in person rather than online. In person he retreats and tends to try and obscure himself somewhere in the room. I'm sure had we been on the same geographical plane, we would have never met because I would not have noticed him.

EXCEPT....that the only thing 'higher-up' in the room would probably have been the ceiling fan. So yeah, I might have seen him. But he would have looked away.

Had I not know his beautiful spirit first, I doubt we would have clicked.

Her voice was the first thing I truly began to love when I heard it. I love her voice. But when I finally met her, her hazel eyes and nice hair also sweetened things up. And then her smell, she smells nice. (nods sagely)
But they all are things I consider after her personality. In the past, we were faceless for a while, only getting text-based contact, and mainly through characters that somewhat resembled us. Always it was her personality that stood out above everything else.

I'm 6'2" and 200lbs. The first thing i noticed in china was height and weight, oh yeah and everybody was looking at me! I saw only three other whites in the week i was there.

Luis had on really nice jeans and shoes...I'm a sucker for a well-dressed man!!

D was rockin the bad boy look back in the day...multiple piercings, shaved head, huge sideburns....it was not my normal 'type' but I found him sexy as fcuk!!! He had beautiufl eyes, a mischeivous grin, and gorgeous lips. And his teeth weren't all jacked up, lol.

If he was a minger I would have never found out what a sh!t hot person he is inside....them's the breaks....appearances matter!

I think my s/o sent pictures of himself looking kinda ugly on purpose???? I actually didnt think he was cute, until we met and i almost fainted ! He was so adorable ! I first noticed his complexion, the color of like a cappucino or something! LOL ! and a beautiful smile.........................

The first think I noticed about my sweetie was his smile. He has the most gorgeous smile that puts the stars to shame. After that his height and build. The man is 6'4" and got it going on as far as his build. I almost past out when he put on his swimming trunks at the pool.

i loved Geo's butt! lol and no it didnt really make a difference i was in love with his personality!

His butt chin!! hahaha.....it makes him look so cute..the second thing would be his eyes They are what i called the "kind eyes".

His hands, smooth, soft, supple hands like he has never worked a day in his life! Then it's a tie between his eyes and smile.

His bright orange-y red choir robe. Followed by his profoundly ugly glasses.

I guess you could definitively say it wasn't love at first sight. But by the time we were dating, he had new glasses. And I never saw him wear the robe again.

The first time I saw my SO, he was only wearing a pair of shorts, so I noticed his lovely brown and sculpted torso first.

Back when he was all muscular, my stepmother saw a picture of him wearing a bathing suit, and even from far away you could see how cut he was and she sighed, "Oh to be 23 again!."

I was most attracted to him because we were physically such polar opposites...we look like a bee next to each other, with my very light complexion and light hair, and his jet black hair and brown skin.

Sometimes I'm shocked to see how white I am when I look in the mirror now.