Great C2! Maybe we can go to that nice little home that Brndl mentioned...with lots of and on the walls, and reminisc about the good ol VJ days...

hi everybody. Is this still a place to gripe about stuff? May I? I was going to start a tuesday thread ...but the only things on my mind right now really belong here. yesterday was a rough day and today just needs to be better. Yesterday we woke at about 330am for him to go to work, and found that all 3 of our cars had cut tires. all 3 of our cars plus 1 car that belongs to a neighbor, in a parking lot of 24 cars.
To make things worse, its a neighbor, no doubt about who did this. he lives upstairs and thanks to fresh snow sunday night, it was clear as day whose feet walked from car to car to car to car and into the apt building. and of course the same print is tracked back and forth to one car in particular, his obviously. it was so obvious. the police agree. they say they regret not being able to do anything because he looks everyone in the face and says he could never do that to a neighbor. the police said that they would need proof that it was him and not his wife or 7-year old or a guest using that parking space... this guy actually said that someone must be trying to set him up or something because there is no way to deny how obvious the tracks are.
the really upsetting part is that very recently, this guy had some kind of problem when the lady upstairs had some guests on a sunday afternoon and you could hear them all talking russian from the common hallway. He came unglued, calling her and her guests g.d.foriegner a-h's and other really bad stuff. I felt relly bad for them, but her boyfriend seemed to have the situation under control kinda quickly, so I didn't get involved at all, just took some comfort in that it was over and their english probably wasn't good enough for them to catch all that was said anyway.
Anyway, its a 6-unit bldg, 4 units have americans, plus us, and the russian lady. only our cars (and all of our cars) were damaged. Obviously, the tire slashing is not random, can't be. But neither one of us has had any problems or even "words" with anyone here. All we can figure is that this guy is crazy, was probably drinking or whatever he does, and doesn't like non-americans. It just doesn't make sense. Neither of us has ever done anything to him (or any neighbor, ever). This guy hasn't even lived here 3 months and he has had the 2 incidents with the russian lady (only one I heard myself) at least 2 really big ugly fights with his wife that they are not even a little bit private about, plus, I learned yesterday that while intoxicated or something was wrong with him, late at night he was trying to talk his way into my next door neighbor's apt, hitting on her and getting offended at her resistance. He later came back and told her to not tell his wife and whatever else...she was like "just go away you freak, its midnight..." but now we are all comparing notes on this guy and what a mess.
So now we need 11 tires. we took care of h's car yesterday to get him back to work of course. the other cars need to wait. This is a really big setback for us, and honestly, we were broke and had kinda big problems before we woke up to all this. Yesterday we lost (easily) over 1000 in tires and of course he missed work (monday being really most of what he makes each week).
Its just a really big setback. I don't know what else to say about it.
I probably didn't write this well and its long...to anyone that read this, thanks for letting me vent. Hope today is a good day for everyone here. I know we need a good day. later everybody

I don't post much, but I have to say this gave me chills. It seems incredible that someone could do that much malicious damage and get away with it, but what worries me more is that there have already been four incidents of aggression from him, that you know of, in the three months he's been there, and it seems to be escalating. I would watch him very closely. Take good care.

This is horrible.

I'm sorry your week had to start like this.

Have you talked to the landlord? The property management firm?

Wouldn't that be a reason for setting up a security camera somewhere?


Hope things will be better soon!

I probably shouldnt even gripe about all this but I just got off the phone with him and he's so down about everything. Its just crazy that serious things come up that are hard to deal with, but you deal with them...and then some stupid guy upstairs can dish out something that you can't deal with....I dont know if that even makes sense but I am am so upset that this nobody can be like a "last straw". This guy is nobody to us. I dont know. I'm gonna just stop thinking about this for a while. The landlord knows everything and I don't know what he will do if anything. he said he feels bad, he talk to the guy too but what can you do. he says he didnt do it. I just sucks and we're on our own here.
I didn't mean to bring anyone down. just venting.

Vent away my friend. That really sux about the tires. Does crazy man know that Jordanians tend to want revenge? Thank god H didn't go jihad on him. Be careful of this guy Dawn.

Jackie
I will call you when M goes to work.

i am so sorry Dawn, I can't imagine your frustration at this point. I hope things get better very soon for you.

Mean people suck

What happened again??

I would file a police report anyway even though they said they can't do anything and then file an insurance claim. You may have like a $500 deductible but you've already shelled out $1,000 so it would be the best bet I would think, right? I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Things that suck that aren't planned just rot. If that makes sense. I mean I planned on this whole year being tough and all but then when something out of the blue happens to set your emotions (and finances) back even more....well that's just the time when you try to remember that God never gives us more than we can handle. (i think he has his expectations just a wee bit too high for me lately though )

Wow Dawn. That's horrible. And also very scary. I can't believe that the police wouldn't do anything, even when the tracks led straight to his apartment ! That's just unbelievable.

This man's behavior was already disturbing. Now he has escalated into vandalism/malicious destruction of property. It cost you a thousand bucks, and your landlord just shrugs and says "what can I do ?" The real question you need to ask is: what will this man do next ?

You don't want to be around for that. I know it's an annoyance, even a real pain, but you have to look out for yourselves. I think it's time to move. Leave your landlord to deal with this problem.



-MK

unfortunately, i think that $500 deductible will apply to each vehicle.

ditto I'm so sorry this happened to you & H, Dawn... I agree w/ MK - maybe it's time to start apt. hunting. $%&^**#@%&!!!

Wow, I should have caught up on reading. This is really not a good situation and I hate it when people mess with my car. You do not touch someones ride you know. That was the red zone and now it is time to get with him. I would either make a case about every little thing he does now or move. But sometimes moving is not an option however I would start to get to reports on this guy. Maybe get the neighbors involved if he is bothing other people I would encourage them to report him, etc.

I really hope you will be okay and I wish you best with this. I know things get hard but it will work out, inshallah.

i am wondering if it might be better to report this to the fbi as a hate crime instead of the local police department. any thoughts, mena?

Sorry to hear about your situation Dawn. . I pray everything turns out for you.

thanks you guys... you are all the best.
hate crime? I dunno. probably appropriate, but I cant say I have the energy to persue or even think about something like that. Not a bad suggestion, though.
we talk about moving now...but we'll have to see. Revenge? no, no, no. neither one of us have even mentioned anything like that, and no way. in fact, that lady's boyfriend was openly very very upset, and I really dont know what he's about, so I cant guess what will happen between him and the neighbor guy. All I know is he showed lots of anger in front of the police and the landlord (and the neighbor, of course) and we don't need any part of anything that might happen next. I'm not saying anything would happen...cuz I don't know anything except that its tense here now, so I dont want anything to do with any of them, not revenge or anything.
thanks again for all the kind words!! I do feel better than I did a few hours ago.

I was sorry to read about what happened. I was thinking about it and my only thought is that one day, this man will get his punishment. It may not be in this lifetime but he will get it all the same. That's probably not alot of consolation to you now but...
Best of luck to you both and keep safe!!

i want to moan and groan that we still do not have our greencard. And yes, I know others are still separated, please remember that I also went through the trenches of the visa process. All totalled today it has been 994 days since NOA1 of K1. Alot dayum longer than many CR1's (which in hindsight we would have DEFINATELY taken).

I would deal with DOS any day over DHS. Our ability to sue is now effectively defunct, and the DOS is waaaay more organized than this section of DHS.

For Laura!

Well if you are going to moan about that, then I am going to moan on behalf of those of us still on AP Jenn: I'd like to order up a bag with DOS please!

I am however happy for those of you who are with or soon going to be with your SO's

Here ya go, Maggie!

thanks girl! i am gonna add this as well:

I need a swing at that DOS bag. I called last week. The lady told me...4-6 weeks. Well yesterday was 6 weeks. Today they tell me 60 days-6 mos. How did I know they'd changed their story this week? JP..I think we discussed that a few days ago

LOL yeah they will probebly do the same thing to me once I hit the 4 month mark. "Oh did we say 3-4 months?? What we meant was 3-4 years dear."

omg!! 6 more months??? Thinking about how long I have to go yet makes me feel hopeless sometimes. I don't know how you all manage.
I guess the same as I've been doing so far but knowing that I probably have at least another year + is hard to think about!!

I think the immigration system owes us all a nice weekend at a spa. What ya think? Sounds like a plan to me!!

I'm going to the spa this weekend with my girlfriends! I can't wait!

Oh that sucks!!! Wish you could punch them through the phone when they do that!!!

Just a warning...it gets harder after you actually have physical contact with the person. I was good the 1.5 yrs before I went to meet Moh. The past year since we met has been HELL...with moments of normalcy...moments. God help me if it's 6 more months.




Yeah and to top it off she was rather short with me. She didn't give a chance to get a word in. Not that it would've mattered.

this is what i felt like doing a few times when dealing with emails to the brazil consulate in houston. feel free to adopt it for emails to morocco

LOL! I'll have to use it for Cairo instead of Morocco

Nope, nope, nope on the DOS thing... Mohammed called 5 different times one day and got 5 radically and completely different responses to his identical question. I would not hang much weight on them giving you timelines. You are much better off observing the way cases are moving on VJ for your specific consulate AND keep in mind each case is also unique so may differ. Calling DOS will make you insane. I'm a vet. Remember when the woman told me they were issuing Moh's visa that day... and it wasn't issued for 3 more weeks???

And Laura, I'm just giving you a great big hug because I can imagine your frustration.

Calling DOS is depressing. I call once a week but I'm thinking to not bother anymore. Moh called minutes after I got off the phone with them. I told him I called and he said, I don't care about them anymore. He's getting just as frustrated as I am.

K, I have a good moan and groan.

Got our verizon bill this month - $450!!!!!!! My own fault for never checking our minutes used anymore - we've never come even close to going over. Had I known, we would not have been making calls for 5 days that totalled over $350!!!!!!!!!

Wow and i totally thought my 325. was the pitts, i've cut back on calling Morocco ALOT. Come first of the month (payday) im going to check into some of those calling cards mentioned on here.

Oh I have gotten one of those before

me too. that really sucks. I have cingular and I go over my minutes every month so I know what you mean. I've upped it twice and still can't check my minutes before I go way over.

Eep! We have 500 shared minutes on Sprint, with free nights and weekends starting at 7. I don't think we've ever used more than 300 minutes.

Sprint is really great because even if you do go over they charge you $5.00 for every 50 minutes. So you don't get those huge overage charges.

I remember panicking the first time I checked the status of something (I'm sure it was the i130) and it said the approximate processing time was 995 days. I called someone in a panic and they assured me that nothing takes that long to process. its just a default time that goes out on all the letters like a worst case scenario... but here you are at their imaginary default date. Its crazy. I'm sorry that they put you through all this. Its for nothing, too. it cant be a security matter obviously so I dont see why they dont give it up already and move on to somebody else. I don't even want to think about who all they've let in while tying up resources on you guys. I'm frustrated for you too.

Love Sprint! Most of my friends have it so it's free Sprint to Sprint plus nights start at 7pm. When I had Verizon I always went over and paid up the wazoo.

I call my husband the most, and since we're both on sprint (family plan, shared 500 minutes for $70 with tax), we can call each other for free.

I have sprint for my parents cell phones. Its so funny, I got them 800 shared minutes. When I get the bill my dad uses a whopping 22 minutes (TOTAL) and my mom is using 700 or so. LOL



Call them and tell them that you called to switch plans and apparently they didnt make the change. I have done that before and it works.

So, in conclusion, Verizon sucks, Sprint is pretty good. Cancel Verizon (cuz $350 in overage charges is more than the cancelation fee) and see about getting Sprint

Actually, it's not. I called to check, and it's $175 cancellation fee per line. Plus, I believe I would liable for the promotional phones we got too.

What a racket!

Actually I love Verizon but I've never gone over minutes so...


* they also have free calling to other Verizon customers and free weekends, so Sprint doesn't have anything on them there.

I like T-mobile!

I am a T Mobile gal too

Jackie

my cingular bill was well over $550 or so this month.

Cingular's reception in my town sucks and I only switched to it from Sprint because my parents praised it so much.

I miss sprint!!!