Exactly. It is the contradiction that is the issue.

Neither my husband nor I smoke, drink, or eat pork for that matter.

As an aside, we don't go around passing judgements on those who do. However, if I read someone on here calling someone out for drinking or smoking and then go on to talk about what they do that is out of line with their religion (by definitions they themselves have given), I would probably speak up. My speaking up would be about their hypocrisy and not whatever behavior they are engaging in. I probably do several things I feel are not what I should be doing in a single day, so I try not to be critical of how others are are handling their faith; however, when someone calls others out saying it clear, easy, the behavior is indulgent etc, and then goes on to make an exception for themself, it proves it isn't always so clear or easy and nearly everyone indulges in something or other.

Just so we're all clear here, who exactly are the prudes?

They know better than I do. I and others have listed the subjects that have been discussed here that involve sex and tmi, and no one was a prude then, Apparently, one of them, the conservative Muslima, has broken some secret pledge on this thread and it's causing a big commotion. I'm waiting for that shoe to drop.

Who is this conservative muslima with a conservative MENA husband living a modest lifestyle? Have we met her? Is she on this thread? Names, please!




I see a contradiction in saying "I don't judge others who do what I don't do, then judging people who talk about dildos when you wouldn't.

There is plenty of hypocrisy coming from those who are pointing fingers.

Religious people like sex too. God talks about sex in the Quran, and the Sunnah of the Prophet has never been shy about it. If it's good enough for them, it's good enough for me.

Prude patrol, please continue haranging. Your need for drama is never ending.

I love to read anything you write. I can't find a smiley that nods its head strongly enough.

Now, if only any of it were true!

Hehehehe!!!!!! Mine is silver, btw

Mine looks almost real and glows in the dark. Wouldn't it be cool if the real ones glowed in the dark?

Noura, you were laughing too.

Interesting Thred...............

you really think things are THAT behind?? From what I noticed I thought it was Right on schedule I talked to the immigration people and they the I 130 is average 6 months.. and my I 129f seems to be moving along. From most of my friends.. and then people here at VJ .. Immigration can go as slow OR quick as they( the gov) want. My girlfriend (egyptian) married a man from America - from her marriage date it took her 5 MONTHS!! to come into the country.. And then I know another guy(egyptian) who married a american.. it took him almost 2 years from when they were married to come to the states.

I am trying to stay positive.. atleast for my husbands sake.. even thought it is easy to sink into the deepest depression over all of this. The first year of your marriage is suppposed to be your "honeymoon" period.. filled with romance, love, excitment and all the gushy things of newly weds.. And with the Visa process.. It is pushing me to my Edge of Patience, depression, sadness, overeating, being stressed out-of-my-mind. We fight with eachother out of frustration.. and in the end make up.. telling eachother that we are sorry and that we are completely overwhelmed with our situation We tell ourselves that this is just a Test for us to get through.. What doesnt kill you will make you stronger right???

Actually I was looking at your I130timeline and assumed that you filed the I129F at the same time without paying attention. It seems as though they are holding the I130's up until the I129F's get processed and even then the new trend is to retain the I130. The I129 seems to be going well. I've seen many from Vermont have their NOA2 within anywhere from 30 to 60 days, though there are the exceptions so keep your hopes up!!!

And I can totally relate to the fact that this should be the honeymoon lovey dovey time. Hang in there kiddo...this too shall pass. Surah 94 was suggested to me last night and I have vowed to read it everyday until this whole nightmare is over.