Having a fiance(e) from ME/NA is hard. I understand you. I know our limited experience from people we know is not much, but this knowledge is all we have. Thanks for replying.

I am one such case you asked about MDSMIF. Read my story on my profile. One of the biggest things that I now see should have made me put a halt to the relationship was when I received various excuses for not being able to meet his family or even learn the language in order to talk to them on the phone. Thankfully I did not petition for him to come from Morocco. He was already here in the states.

While looking for someone to help me find my former husband in Morocco, I was offerd help by 5 guys in one week if I helped them or their brother/cousin with a green card!! My current fiance was the only one who asked for nothing in return. He made sure I met all of the family he had living locally (in Morocco) and I have contact with 3 of his friends and 2 brothers via email/phone/IM. It feels a lot better being able to converse with the family.

There's a lot of good relationships and some that go south. Just be careful, and don't be afraid to check things out, if you feel you need to.

AS you get more in the process you begin to learn about the intentions of the SO. And you begin to hear about the stories of other people. I will tell that I have been contacted before for a visa marriage and at first they seem very nice but there intentions come out. I had a guy from Iran find me and I talked to him he was cute and nice but his intentions came out soon. I feel when the SO knows more about the process than you then something is not right. I was told that the K-1 was easier and quick to get and that some people that I know here in the states used it to get here quickly.

Well, if you think about it when one person comes it seems like a flow starts. I heard of an Indian guy who had helped about 150 people get to the states. He go some of his family and his children and new wife and the children brought people and the family that came brought people, etc. He came married to an American divorced about 4 years later and then he went home and got married. This behavior is more common than I thought, but to me it is so sick.

I heard of several Moroccans using people and it seems like the men get more of this than the women. I talked to a lawyer and he told me that with the MENA group a lot of the men come to the states on the K-1 or marriage visa and when it is time to do the AOS a lot of them are filing without the woman. They break up and they claim that there was type of abuse. This was amazinag to me, I also heard of some stories but you do not see these things until you get more in the "game" I will say. They talk to each other and share information and I feel like they find a certain person. I have to say that this is not the case in every relationship, but I did heard about some people helping folks get papers. I meet someone that told me that there sisters friend offered to help him come to the states. My nouth just dropped to the floor and now he is getting married to a Moroccan women and bring her here. It makes me so anger because it seems like if you do the wrong thing then you get it. I meet someone that came illegal are a citizen now and they flew through Casa.

I hate this very much becuase it is so sad to see that people are really that desparate. I have heard of people from Canada, Great Britian and other developed countries doing the same thing. I would love to know where they get there findings also, but I think it comes from complaints that are filed. I have seen on the interenet a lot of people complaining about being used, etc and I am sure that when the relationship goes south, most US citizens will feel like they got used and if they are anger report. From my understand there are 100 of cases that we do not hear of on Vj and that on average about 70% of them denied. My fiance told me only two people where placed on the good AR and one lady got the visa.

The "dons" are not only on the internet. Its also well known that they hang around the resorts too hoping to "catch" a vacationing foreign female who may increase their chances of getting out of their country. High fraud consulates look very closely at relationships that begin this way. A man's intentions are not necessarily bad if he is looking to marry outside of his culture or country. He may be seeking true relationship and many do. Its the incidents where the beneficiary is out and out lied to/scammed or under the table arrangements made to look like a relationship they are trying to catch.