okey thats my situation, am arab guy, i came here on a dream to be with my life time wife, find out he is deffrent person, sleeping with her ex husband and saying she is american free woman, i give her every pay check and tell her do what ever u want with it, but all i get is yelling and screaming and threating me, she go make her done and eat in expensive restreunt, and i go buy one sandwitch with 1$, ibe threated to go back my country, asking her to take care of our life for filling AOS papers, is like asking her to sleep with my friends subject that never be opened ever,i clean her house i take her kids to school, and what i finanly found that she sleeping with EX husband, FOR MONEY, cuz he is fucken millioner shitt, she is hidding everything about us, only her mum knows, and she dont want to tell anybody, SHE JUST USEING ME! as slave, and am sick of it, and i dont know what to do, but what ever happeningg here, I LOVE being in this country and am looking to serve this country in the military, this country gave me every good thing, so i dont want to leave here, is anything i can do to help me, and stay away from the Gold Degger? or i have to go back to my home country?

i came on k-1 visa, am hardley filling the AOS, after her accept every couple of weeks i get one extra paper, my 90 days finshed, but she going to help me throw the AOS, but she want me leave her, she was looking that i live in any friends house out here, but in other times, she just want throw me to my home country, just for stupid shitt, like toilet seats up, and stupid shitt like that, the sex life is countable on hands 10 fingers since about 4 or 5 months ago since i came USA, she want me fucken mastrubute and dont want me touch her, and everything is same ###### like that, am in deep shitt, but i liked to know, if i have to go home, or i can stay, and file something else ,,,, plus i dont have anything to proof she got problems for me, but she throw me out of home and made me sleep on snow for 3 nights in the streets with 3 fehrnihit degree, am facing deep shitt, AND I NEED HEELP

There are certain situations that new posters present here on visa journey that are complicated and even the bravest or most experienced members may choose not comment on. Your situation may in fact be one of those. You should seek competent legal advice.

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she dont even give me money and if she known that am starting attack, she will attack fast and drop me hard, all my money goes to her pocket, if i used fucken 1$ she will be threating me, imagine am going to lawyer, she will call police in moment, and she did threated me about that before alot fo times!

if really anybody got into this situation plz give me help
sometimes i really cant even enter the house, cheating wife, Gold digger, pluss she is think she is alright cuz she is the american free woman

seems no body could help or even advice!
thanx anyway

OK, I will bite:

Well you can only stay here legally IF you adjust througha valid marriage to your wife.

And as that seems shall we say unlikely, I would be making plans to return.

If you want to subsequently Immigrate to the US, then you need to consider what other options are available to you.

Seems like if this was a woman asking for help everyone would jump on it, but since it's a guy, well maybe not?

Not necessarily true Gary. There have been posts by MEN in this situation who received a lot of help. Where is YOUR advice to the OP?

To the OP: I am assuming AOS has not been filed. IF your wife doesn't file AOS and the I-864 (affidavit of support) then you will be out of status and need to return to your home. IF you want to adjust status on your own, the best advice I can give you is to hire an attorney. I know you haven't any money (according to what I've read in your posts) but there are charitable organizations that can help with this, I would think if you have access to a phone and a phone book you might find such. I wish I had more information for you...and I am truly sorry for the position your wife has left you in.

I'm usually not too too eager to offer sugestions in these situations.....but if you are actually considering this, you should call any recruitment office of any branch of the armed forces and explain this desire. I think theres a good chance they would help you AOS without her if you enlist...I've heard of expedited citizenship this way too.
Of course there's a catch....but check it out. It might be what you want.

a K-1 visa holder cant join the military


The military will expedite citizenship for permanent residents, but in no way would it help a K-1 visa holder Adjust status.

My guts telling me he isn't here for the military, so this doesnt matter anyway... but there is too often noise on the tv debating allowing illegals to enlist, helping them get legal so they can join...he's not even here illegally so an aggressive recruiter just may get him assisance in aos-ing...and if she has filed anything, an aggressive recruiter might find him help keeping her submitted aos stuff alive and dont forget, they can help him get civilian work if they want to, possibly getting his ead lined up or maybe he recieved ead on arrival or maybe even help him get a more appropriate visa (so what if he had to go home to get it)...so you know what? If this is his ambition, I think he should fly it by a recruiter and see what happens. If he is down with working in iraq, I tend to think the military can make it happen if he really really doesn't want to go home or back to his wife- thats all I'm saying.

You have to be a Permanent Resident to join the Military.

Or a USC.

i think that is good solution, cuz if i go back my country i will go military too, so joining the military here is better

Maybe try these sites?

http://www.batteredmen.com/bathelp.htm

http://www.safe4all.org/

They may know something immigration wise, they may not, but you should be able to find some support which you will need if this is your true situation.

It would be nice if we could have a ready resource of information such as this, so whenever someone posts about their abusive situation we can help them better.

I created a general "How to" guide for aliens that are victims of abuse in this thread and am working on updating the links right now.
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=39447

I have been through and I still am going through this. If you need any help or support, please PM me.



Shona

Excellent

I have just read it and it's really useful and informative. Good stuff DM


Shona

since your arab, i assume you speak arabic, so
if and when you become a permanent resident..... and join the military, you should consider becoming a linguist. Arabic linguists are in high demand. It definetely beats mopping ship decks, or cooking eggs in a chow hall!