Was wondering, are they any Canadians in this forum who are trying to get there spouses over from Nigeria. My understanding is that this site is designed for US citizens. Is that correct? I need some information on the process of getting my husband to Canada once we are married in Nigeria. If anyone has any information on this process orwhere to go for advise/info please let me know. I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks.

are you sure you want to marry this man? from your other posts, it sounds like he's no good. I don't know your whole situation, (except for what you posted on here), for my opinion though, there are more men out there, explore your options first, before settling for less. I wish you the best,

First of all I do not know you, so your opinion does not count for anything in my life. Secondly, you have no idea about the outcome of my situation and unles you know me personally and have walked with me as a friend for the time I have known this man, you will never know. I did not post my story for someone to make judgment calls on me, but for some friendly supportive advice. And you are right, you DO NOT KNOW my whole situation, therefore you are not allowed the privilege of making judgement calls on me , this man, or my life.

Here's information and forms for Canadian immigration:

http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/applications/fc.html

You'll need to request them to generate a specific form for Nigeria as well (there are region specific ones).

Good Answer !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love to Laf. You are the only one who knows the whole story. If you make a mistake let it be your mistake not a mistake that someone who does not know you coerce

good for you.

In my opinion Vaalisa has given you supportive advice, especially after your comments
in the other thread where you stated you were ready to let go. I don't feel she has been judgemental, even saying she does not know your whole situation.
She and others were just concerned and wanting the best for you. I found your response to
her a bit harsh and very defensive.
If you post everything that is wrong with your relationship on a public forum,please don't be surprised to get some honest perspectives to see things from a different angle.
We are still wishing you the very best and are fully aware that only you can make the decision to marry this man......peace....

In my opinion Vaalisa has given you supportive advice, especially after your comments
in the other thread where you stated you were ready to let go. I don't feel she has been judgemental, even saying she does not know your whole situation.
She and others were just concerned and wanting the best for you. I found your response to
her a bit harsh and very defensive.
If you post everything that is wrong with your relationship on a public forum,please don't be surprised to get some honest perspectives to see things from a different angle.
We are still wishing you the very best and are fully aware that only you can make the decision to marry this man......peace....
Well said Omoba....

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First of all I do not know you, so your opinion does not count for anything in my life. Secondly, you have no idea about the outcome of my situation and unles you know me personally and have walked with me as a friend for the time I have known this man, you will never know. I did not post my story for someone to make judgment calls on me, but for some friendly supportive advice. And you are right, you DO NOT KNOW my whole situation, therefore you are not allowed the privilege of making judgement calls on me , this man, or my life.




Relax Love2Laf, we are very supportive, laid back and helpful in this forum. When someone says something to you its not to hurt, but to help. Please don't feel attacked. Best wishes to your and your fiance.

I'm sorry yaalisa, please forgive me. I was on the defensive. I understand that there are women here who are concerned about my safety. And your intentions were for my safety and self respect, along with all the other women here. It's been a very hard and confusing time for me in this relationship and sometimes I dont know what is truth and what is not anymore. I didn't mean to take it out on you. I wanted to tell you personally that today I have ended the relationship and it is over. You were right all along yaalisa, I deserve better and I am no longer settling. I am exploring my options and God willing I will find "true" love. Thank you for you concern and your advise.

Lovetolaf,


I am sure it was a difficult decision to make but, a good one. I wish you the very best in your search to find "true love" it does exist just take your time and have fun doing it sometimes it happens when we are least expecting it. Take care.

Robin