OK, so you are say, from the U.S. and have been around. Your fiance is from Asia or maybe the Middle East and traditional, from a good family and sex is a NO-NO!!!! Fun, ain't it?

Of course, some of you might be lucky and got to be with your fiance before the big day.

No judging here. Either way is fine by me. But I am curious about how many here have had to wait.

My reason for this poll? I'm a writer and it's just a bit of curious research on a screenplay I am writing. Not scientific, obviously.

REMEMBER, you can answer honestly as no one here will know how you clicked.

ok, I admit, I was a virgin before Karen. Religion and tradition had no part in this. It was 100% love.

I had made up my mind I would not have sex with anyone again unless I knew he was THE ONE ( no religious reasons) . THE ONE's plane landed and 6 hrs later we were in bed lol.

We both had been married before (each of us for 20+ years), and we turned back into virgins during those marriages...... so technically, yes, we were virgins again when we met!!!!!!!!!

Considering my ex was my first...and I had not been with anyone before Joel...I felt like a virgin all over again.

Yes I was a virgin and waiting for the man I was going to marry, with the emphasis being on the word GOING - we didn't wait for the official piece of paper, just for each other.
My fiance was NOT a virgin but it had been so many years since he'd been with anyone else that he might as well have been one... I guess you could say he was 'revirginised'.

I answered on behalf of my USC hubby!

We were both virgins and we had plans to wait until marriage but those plans kind of fell through rather quickly

Then I had told hubby that I wanted to wait until after the wedding to have sex ..... which was the day after he was planning to arrive but those plans fell through too ..... twice

I wanted to wait until after marriage to have sex becuase that was how I was brought up ... "you didn't have sex until after the wedding" ..... he wanted to wait because I wanted to wait

there wasn't a doubt in my mind that I was going to marry him... and it wasn't like I slept with every guy I saw, hubby was my first and only

cristy, I'm with you on that one.... LOL

Cute.

My best friend now calls me Mr. Blue Balls.

Patience, young Skywalker!

Does waiting long enough to get out of the airport count?

virgins and we were halfway good until the wedding

We were not virgins

Both have been married before and have kids, so the virgin thing just dont fit our profile.

haha good poll.

we had to wait til after the wedding - my husband is the virgin in this relation.
and we still have to freaking wait. we did not get the opportunity to do the deed bacause, too much tension in the home. too many interouptions

is sex like doing the laundry ?

The terminal or the parking lot? I think if you can see asphalt you're safe... I hope

I was the virgin in our relationship and I knew I wanted to wait until I was married. BUT, I knew I would marry Patrick and I just went for it. I practically forced him

Damn. That's what those burns were from..........

Neither of us were virgins, we both had fun with others before we met. And no we did not wait until the engagement, let alone the wedding. We did however wait slightly longer than rebeccajo.....we managed to get home from the airport and close the door behind us first. Though I damn near crashed the car in eagerness to get there

My usc hubby was divorced once and I am virgin.He waited till i got here and after one month we got married and then finally lost my virginity! It's the upbringing bec. we are family oriented plus it's a choice!

If your husband can wait means he truly respect you and love u and do everything to make you happy!!

We, er, actually didn't wait for there to be a relationship, let alone marriage ...

We met in 2002 and kept in touch, and then he was out in the US again interviewing for a job in 2003 and, er, we got in touch more literally ... the relationship started later that year after he had already accepted the job, and then while he was here working was when we got engaged and married.

we did wait for the hotel room...
He said, in an e-mail before I went there: "Questions in you...stays with you together?"
Anyway, we are not that young...he was married for 13 years and we both have kids.

"halfway good"? Dare I ask what that means?

hehe... no we didn't wait. At least we didn't sleep together the same night we met at the bar!

neither of us were virgins (compared to him I was though )........but we wish we were now Now I finally met my soulmate I do realise how important it actually is to wait for your husband/wife

Oh my goodness....I bearly made it off the plane from the US before we were going at it, like we were newly weds already. I can give the experience a thumbs up

Dean .. there were 9 persons in the bedroom with us. only a curtain seperated the room.I dont know
about YOU but for me - not even in the mood! I did not think it was a good idea for my husbands
first experiance to be like that. soo un cool.

a year later I wait..

Dam Shon, you have waited a long time girl.

I thought I read a post saying that he received a call to come get his visa?

I hope that your man gets here soon

Oh man, before we met in person neither of us had had sex for a whiel (both because we'd been too put off by others). Doesn't mean we didn't have quite a bit of experience though - he was a single Marine at one point...do I need to elaborate?

And I, had had a few long term bf's as well. But put it this way: my previous ex had heated on me so often that before I met Ben I'd become a born again virgin simply because I couldn't be bothered with the bullsh*t that guys always seemed to chuck at me...

He hadn't had a bonk in about 18 months - for exactly the same reason. Mind you, the calibre of girls he had chased in the first place kind of led to him going "meh - women are nasty!" - and I do occasionally remind him of that when he's havign a moan

I walked into his apartment upon the first meeting...we sat on opposite ends of the sofa, drank coffee and watch basketball in silence, and then all of a sudden he kind of just flopped over and put his head on my lap...and we kind of snuggled for a while, the first kiss came and heck....umm..we woke up in the same bed together the next morning!

And we're married now - the whole sex thing was rather emotional an issue for both of us, actually, come to think of it. We'd both been messed with a lot. Had I been able to meet him much earlier, I would rather have just slept with him because really, I never meant to sleep with more than one person in the first place, ya know?

BUT...he is the only one who got into my soul - and there's a huge difference between that, and just sex

yeah I am waiting for the dayum visa " call ".
and some Cronk...

7 people answered that both in the couple were virgins when they met.

Who would have guessed that the last 7 innocent couples in the world would be connected to VisaJourney in any way?

No waiting for us, we aren´t bound by any rules but our own. I find it good to know each other well before plunging into marriage, be him from overseas or from my hometown.

Whats a Virgin??

waited for love, not marriage or even real engagement

same happened with me and my guy

Both my fiance and I are virgins and have chosen to wait until marriage (not the civil one but the religious wedding we'll get after it) because that's what we want. Not because that's what religion "dictates" but because we understand and agree with why our religion says that and we choose to agree with it.

I was Virgin and we didn't make love till we married But he wasn't because he was married before..I waited till I met my husband because I always believed theer 's one man I will love and he is my soulmate and then only I will be his woman and no one else ,My husband like the idea that no one ever touched me but him ..I love this idea too and I ma very happy that I just waited for him because I love him more than anything..My hubby sees that the bond of me being virgin with him is unbreakable bond ..and we waited till we married but it was REALLY HARD ..we loved each other so the waiting was horrible...

Wow, wayyy tmi!

we didn't get married yet but i can answer since we've already done it and we were not virgins

ummmm.... i believe it is brother dean... so if you did laundry before getting married to sister sanita, neither of you were virgins!!!


something they use for sacrifice!!!

oh yeah, just remembered... they also use them for rolling cigars on their thighs!!!

I love the results of this poll:

My foreign fiancé was not a virgin and we did not wait until marriage to have sex [ 106 ] ** [69.74%]

You guys are just a bunch of horn-dogs!

Neither my fiance or I were virgins. I have 4 kids and she has 2. But she is a religious person and when I visited her we lasted for 5 days before neither one of us could stand it and we had sex. Man was it great!
But after I left she said she felt guilty and went to her chuch confesional. I have started the I129f and also plan to visit again in November so we will see what happens.

On his first visit, we had so much fun smooching it took us an hour to get out of the airport (step step smooch...) We got back to my place, closed the door and... erm...got down to some dirty laundry. *cough*

Oh, neither of us were virgins, not by a long shot. As for religion...he's a devout atheist.

Egyptian rooftops provide loads of privacy for sneaky behavior

Someone actually waited

We went without sex for 2 1/2 years. We were talking about the possibility of marriage, but weren't engaged. When we started having sex, he knew it was bad to have sex when you have the intention of marriage, so he asked me to marry him and we went to the mosque to get married in the eyes of Allah. We didn't get married in the eyes of the State until 4 months later.