Here are some things I HOPE I do:

1) Kiss often...
2) Give her space and time to assimilate into her new life...
3) Weekly massage...
4) Tell her I love her daily...
5) Be considerate of the impact this move makes on her and her family...
6) Pinch, smack or squeeze her little booty daily...
7) Take her out for a nice dinner at least once a week...
8) Leave love notes for her to wake up to...
9) Take hand-in-hand walks...
10) Make her breakfast in bed once in a while...
11) Bubblebaths from time to time...
12) Pleasure her sometimes without expecting return of favor (maybe...)...

What are yours?

Simple things like doing the "laundry"...

take this list and tape it to the bathroom mirrow remind yourself in a year

Good advice...I'll tape it right next to the list I made for her!!!

Remember the time we spent apart to help make sure I do not take the time we are together for granted!!!

I just simply love her. No list needed.

6) Pinch, smack or squeeze her little booty daily... ermmmm ok then! LOL, whatever floats your boat lol

Aren't you supposed to be getting married today or something?

I just did.

daveandlirio,

Don't forget to stop by your lawyers office and pickup your prenup!

YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Congratulations!!!

Congratulations on the marriage PlatyPius!!!

Firstly, if you did all those things to me I'd run screaming. "Smack her booty daily?" ~ I'm sorry but...wtf? Secondly, a list? If you need a list to keep your relationship alive you're already in trouble.

Dearie me.

Right on mags!

this whole list thing is just high on the ick factor, but 6 and 12 just make me wanna take a shower.

I am not understanding why some of you think that all the things he has on his list are icky... yeah, some of them might be... but not all of them

1) Kiss often...
2) Give her space and time to assimilate into her new life...
3) Weekly massage...
4) Tell her I love her daily...
5) Be considerate of the impact this move makes on her and her family...
6) Pinch, smack or squeeze her little booty daily...
7) Take her out for a nice dinner at least once a week...
8) Leave love notes for her to wake up to...
9) Take hand-in-hand walks...
10) Make her breakfast in bed once in a while...
11) Bubblebaths from time to time...
12) Pleasure her sometimes without expecting return of favor (maybe...)...

dayum..I think the ICK factor comes into play when people talk too personal about things. its good he wants to make a christmas list of things he would like to do for his lady. I think # 1 #4 is the best he has on his list.

1. kiss her often < I added the word her >
2. tell her you love her daily.

these 2 things you should never ever forget or take for granted.

This seems to fall in the 'duh' category to me.

You 'HOPE' to do them, OP?

Jen

I think what the original poster is trying to point out that we are all human and while we want our relationships to be perfect all the time, sometimes life gets turned upside down. We get busy we get involved in the lives of our children or work or parents and those we are closest to and love the most suffer a bit because they get neglected.

You can either look at this like, You need a list??? or you look at like he is going to do these things but when things get hectic and he ends up being human and not doing the these the list will help remind him.

Those who claim to have never taken a partner for granted are far better than I.

Paul misses Anna

I was wanting to say something like that but couldn't figure out how to word it....

Well, since I mentioned the 'ick' factor, I'll explain....

the non bold things just made me throw up in my mouth a little....but I said the list thing was high on ick cos 1) it's a list...like who needs a list? I am a huuuuuuuuuge list maker, but to say 'oh don't forget to kiss often!' just seems wierd and 2) why publish to the public what should be between the two of you? Does anyone here care whether the OP is gonna go down on his wife without expecting a hummer in return? Or the fact that he's going to leave her love notes, make her bubblebaths and give her a massage?

Ick.

Not taking your partner for granted - I DO think its great to remind yourself not to do that.

But as Lisa pointed out, do we really need to know that he intends on pleasuring her without expecting anything in return?

yeah, that might be TMI but I don't think we should bash the whole list because of it....

it has spoiled the list! the list is spoiled!


I feel like I'm in Seinfeld all of a sudden

Yes, we do.

is that better?

With bleach....

I'm sorry, but this whole thread just seems "off" to me. It just ain't right to post stuff like this.

Okay...I have been bashed repeatedly in numerous threads over the past couple days. My posts were taken WAY out of context and interpretations were far from my intent. I'm bored, I'm lonely, I miss my fiancee, and I felt like VJ was a bit of a brotherhood where we could share our VJ problems, assist each other with the process based on personal experiences, share our concerns, and laugh together when we really needed it.

If any of my posts ever offended anyone (or made them throw up a little in their mouth for reading it), then I'm very sorry...never EVER meant to do that!

I will make this my last VJ post and wish you all well.

Dave

Dave true we all miss someone or we wouldn't be here. Sometimes things are taken differently than intended it happens everyday. I can only speak for myself as the way i read everything, everyone has "experiences" i guess the point was its little to personal to brag about and compare, most have been there done that no need to compare or brag.

Im sure you are proud of your new picture as you should be, we all are. Again we each have someone and if someone wants to tell you wow nice looking bf/gf then we feel pride and say thank you. For me she just came across as more of a posession to you again assuming that was not the way you meant. Im sure you will try to be the perfect mate when shes here and she will be very lucky if you continue to do things on your list but again just make time to do them dont go around advertising.

Hopefully you wont leave the group there are alot of good smart people here that will help when help is needed of course as in anything there are also a few ....... they are everywhere. Good luck in the future

Oh God, not the 'I'm leaving' post?!?!?!!??!?!



Here's my list for you

1. Breathe
2. Calm down
3. Get over it.

Dave,
Please dont take everything said literally. People do like to take the piss out, you just have to be a bit thicker skinned and take it for what its worth. You just have to realize what you find appropriate to talk about, not everyone wants to know about.

I like Dave...he's a cool guy if you knew him but I have to admit, this post made me LMAO.

Dave, don't take it personal...there's a vigilante group of politically correct posters that pick apart almost everything on VJ. They travel from forum to forum, looking for comments that may not fit the PC mold and attack the OP like a group of rabid dogs. Don't let them gnaw on your legs, man. Come back and throw a few pieces of rancid meat their way and kick them when they are not looking.

If you find oral sex with your spouse appropriate talk in front of ppl you don't even know...then

No offense Mrc, but I gotta laugh that you're tellin Dave not to take it personal when it's CLEAR you are holding a grudge over what was said to you

bitter, table of one?

Amen to that.

Vigilantes?

Lisa, didn't we have a 20-page thread dedicated to oral sex?

Oh so then it's ok...sorry I forgot!

I'll let him go a week before I make cleaning the toilet part of his household chores.

So, on the one hand here you are agreeing that the post was a little "risque". Then, on the other hand you're slagging everybody off who had the audacity to post what they thought about the whole topic.

Cool.

I think you touched on most everything I've thought of..

When I went to Moldova... I post-noted her room with love notes.... Posties work great...

I think another good question is ..What surprises are waiting for her the first night in your flat...
I'm thinking Roses pedals...leading to a hot bubble bath...with candles lighting the room.. and a Bottle of Champagne chilling ... and I'm still working on the rest...

PS
Dave don't let the prudes get you down...Just think of it this way...Thank God your not marrying one..

mags, I was referring to Lisa's post...that was the one that made me

Lisa, I'm not bitter. I'm merely giving Dave some advice.