QUOTE(Reba @ Nov 19 2006, 07:19 AM)

So you've basically got 1 year of out of status time here in the US. If you leave the US now, you will face a bar at re-entry, so you wouldn't be able to come back to visit your husband until you get either the K3 or CR1 visa. He'd have to go visit you in Chile.
Now if you stay and adjust status, you're stuck here in the US until you get your green card. That can take either a few months, or more than a year or longer.
The thing is, I am not sure that if you stay here to adjust, if you can get your son here any time soon. Unless your new husband were to adopt him, I don't think he can sponsor him if you stay to adjust otherwise, and if you sponsored your son after you get your green card, that could take several years to process.
If you go home and wait out a K3 then your son could get the K4. You would however be delayed at your consulate interview because of your over stay, and would likely have to file a waiver, which would take a while after that.
Is there not a lawyer on base that could assist? Your husband being in the military is not going to speed up your process at all, but sometimes the base lawyers are familiar with spousal immigration.
Good luck in whichever you decide.
I agree with you and this is why I feel like Im stuck in the middle of all this drama. However, I have sacrified way too much and for too long, I know things would be different If they got done when they were supposed to and my son would be here already.
Military / Legal Department on Base doesnt do anything for you, all they said is here is the list of the forms you will need (which I already had), they gave me the website (which I already knew all the websites where we can find help, info, forms, etc..) and said we could also get you an appointment so you can go and take the forms. I have all the info they offer and they said they dont get involved with Immigration issues, they can only advice you on what to do, where to go, etc. SO yeah nothing came out of that.
LIke I said, we have had bad luck, we trusted the wrong lawyers never thinking they would take our money and get nothing done.
I have a lawyer, but Im going to get a second opinion with another lawyer on Wednesday and take it from there. I have to decide by the end of next week what we are going to do.
I have a baby on the way and my son waiting for me back in my home country, and as a mother my biggest concern right now is to be reunited with my son and have a peaceful pregnancy. Everything else is only going to drive me up the wall and I dont need that. It was hard for me to deal with this before I was pregnant and now is only getting harder.
I appreciate all the replies and thanks to all of you for taking your time to read my post.