Wes just phoned and said his ride would be leaving soon. That's he'd be home in about a half hour.

When he hung up, he said 'love you - bye, bye baby bye'....and then the line went quiet.

And for some reason I remembered that it used to be when he hung up, using that same phrase - that I would be holding the receiver in my hand and feel the dull numbness of his distance from me.

And I was immediately ever so grateful that even though his greencard isn't here, and that we both need better jobs, and that our house still hasn't sold....well at least in about a half hour, we'd be having some tea and toast in our kitchen.

Kettle's on baby.

becca, he's a lucky guy to have found you and no doubt you will say you are lucky to have found him, love to both of you, that is lovely

That was so sweet...it just really made me miss my hunny

We were discussing this very thing last night. Tim and I have found this little Mexican restaurant, and we visit there typically 2 times a week. So last night we went to celebrate the anniversary of our first meeting, we were treated like the regulars we are on 99 cent Margarita night lmao.



One of those long conversations started about life, love, happiness, the future, the past, well basically a convo about us. I told him I thought it would be a great thing on VJ for those waiting to hear from those of us finally together and what it feels like.



All of the pain and frustration you have during the visa process quickly melt away once you are together. So unlike many couples who have never been through something like this, I think we have these wow moment. Luckily we get to work together in the same office, so we are and have been together 24/7 since his return. Still every day there are times when it hits me like a ton of bricks that there he is, in the same room, on the same continent and he isn't going anywhere! It is an awesome feeling.



Our dinner was a lovely celebration of us, the food, drink and atmosphere set the perfect mood to get home and...............catch up the laundry!

Rebeccajo how sweet your story and I know after our long separation we still have these thoughts about is he really home? You and Wes are a perfect match and a blessing to each other.

visa form's and fee's, expenses..............thousands of dollars

phone calls and cards, spending countless hours on messenger......thousands of dollars

plane tickets and shipping belongings................ thousands of dollars.


Being home in 1/2 hour for tea and toast.........PRICELESS.



Vicky

Such a great post! My husband has been here for one week and somewhere in my mind, I still feel like he's going home. I suppose it's because you have to mentally toughen up during the whole process of paperwork and return flights. But, it's nice to hear things like this because it's so true.

rebeccajo.........

Baileyj96.......... I hear you !!!

Somehow I got caught up reading posts about divorce and the unfortunate outcomes that sometimes occur. I had become somewhat discouraged, but it was nice to come across this thread and realize that there are definitely successful, true love stories. It gives me hope as I continue this journey... Congratulations on your love story.

becca the greencard will come in due course but your right the main thing is that you and wes are together. Thanks for sharing and hope you have a great weekend.

I know sometimes I get those feelings too, of remembering when Sujeet was so far away. And then I feel very thankful that we are together. No matter what stressful things we face here, at least it's together and not thousands of miles apart.



Also just wanted to add that Sujeet and I like a certain little Mexican restaurant too, and it was the first American restaurant I took him out to eat at when he arrived to the US. It holds memories for us.

When I'm feeling down that things are not and will not happen as fast as I wish they would, I also remember that at least I get to sleep next to the man I love.

Sigh
Seems we've all been pondering the same thoughts lately. There are times I look over at Joel, sitting next to me on the sofa and think to myself "omg, he really IS here!" I remember those long lonely months, that emptiness inside when he would log off, or we ended the phone conversation, and those god awful airport partings.

Believe me, it puts things into perspective when you remember those times. Makes you appreciate those moments when you're just at home, doing nothing in particular...because you could be at home doing nothing in particular...alone.

Joel and I desperately need to move...he needs a very good job...I need to get well...but y'know, it's ok. We have each other and I get to sleep with my most wonderful husband every night.

You mentioned the most sad event in a LDR, which is the airport parting. OMG, those moments were HORRIBLE!

I'm just wondering when that feeling goes away, ya know the one where you have that worry that they have to leave in x amount of days. No less than once a week I say "you are home for good, no leaving"! I hate airports now!!!!



Two years apart really did a financial number on us, and we are slowly playing catch up. There isn't extra left to do much of anything but we enjoy our time together. Through out the day we have a coffee together, we come home and have a sit down lunch and play ball with the dog. Tonight we cooked dinner together and I have encouraged him to play his latest x box game, so there he sits just across the room and that makes me so very happy. It's the little every day things that are so overwhelmingly special, and that maybe in a prior relationship or even if one was single that you used to take for granted. So much time apart makes being together an eye opener to how important just living life is.

Indeed, it's the fact you can just be in the same house, each to it's own, without that urge or need of clinging to each other every second of the day 'cus we only have a few weeks or something. It's comforting, and then, when you want or need, he's right there to hold you.

Sometimes I like to watch Tony sleeping on the loveseat and think....he's really here. Thinking how incredibly blessed we are to have found each other! I never want to take a moment together for granted.

Karen

sad and beautiful at the same time
i look foward to being with david

Our first kiss is the best memory that I will never forget.

I think about that all the time when I am feeling down, and how much I love him.


When we seen each other for the first time, I was blown away. It was in Atlanta, and that airport is busy. But it just seemed like everything stood still around us. I will never forget that kiss. Wow is all I can say. Then he took my hand and we went to his truck. I love him so much becasue he is just a true gentleman.


Special memories are forever in my heart with Roger.


Airport good byes suck

Reading all your posting made me tearful...because I cherish so much the time we spent together and often had these moments when I looked at him and fell in love with him all over again.

Yesterday he finally set up his Skype connection and I could see him thru the webcam while we were talking. We haven't seen each other in over a month and I felt so close to him....and yet so far...

I love him so much and can't wait to be able to finally be together... Love is such a beautiful thing and it's so wonderful to see all these couples here who are so in love and going thru so much to be able to live with the ones they love!

And yes, airport goodbyes suck!!!

Everytime we are hugging goodbye in the airport I say "I cannot wait for the day that you walk through that security point WITH me"!!! Some day . . .

awwwww. That was beautiful Becca (and others) I "made" Craig read it with me too. Brought to mind a lot of good things to remember... the airport goodbyes will always be my worst memories of our relationship...and yet I'm glad I have someone that I love so much that loves me too that made it SO hard to leave...know what I mean? The endless nights chatting, on the phone, losing sleep. It's just all so worth it. Even when things have been difficult, I just remember *every* marriage has those times. It is still always more than worth it. Thanks for reminding me. M.

......missing my Baby.