I CAME IN ON A K-3 VISA FROM INDIA AND AM NOW LIVING WITH MY WIFE WHO IS PUTTING ME CONSTANTLY ON HUNGER ANYTIME WE HAD AN MISUNDERSTANDING. I CAN'T WORK NOW SINCE AM YET TO APPLY FOR MY EAD. SHE PUSH ME AWAY FROM THE BED AND MAKE ME SLEEP ON THE FLOOR, LOCKS ME OUTSIDE THE HOUSE THAT I HAD TO CALL THE FATHER FOR RESCUE. EVERYBODY TELLS HER THIS IS WRONG THE TREAT ME. I CAN'T TOUCH ANYTHING IN THE HOUSE, THE TV IS LOCKED, COMPUTER DISCONNECT AND CAN'T COMMUNICATE WITH MY FAMILY ABROAD. ISN'T THIS AN ABUSE ON ME AND WHAT SHOULD I DO?

PASTIQ

Since you have no family here, and love is lost, go home. Your family will help you.

Do you have greencard yet and permanent residence yet?

If so I would divorce her and move on, you could stay in the states, or return home if there is no family here to support you.

I wish you well in what ever you do.

I wonder why people go to all the trouble of a K1, or K3 visa only to behave this way, probably the locals avoided her because they could see her nature so she had to search elsewhere.

This is one of these situations addressed by the dreaded IMBRA law, it should prevent her from snaring some other unsuspecting person, at least for a while.

This is definately abuse my friend. You do not need to take this in any circumstance.

Sorry to hear that your wife, after waiting and spending so much time and money, married you so you could just be a human punching bag for her.

Go back to India if you're so unhappy, unless you have ulterior motives for wanting to stay in such a toxic and miserable relationship.

No motive is required. If this is a true enactment of what has been going on, he has been subjected to inhumane treatment, and it is for this very reason that VAWA was established!

dartmar, You always portray unhappy immigrants as fraudsters. Immigrants have to wait too, often spend lots of money on the process, leave behind family, friends, and jobs... Just because you got burned doesn't mean that every immigrant has ulterior motives. I wouldn't stay in the US if things didn't work out between me and my spouse, but I don't blame people who do. After all, the US is the Land of Opportunity.

What about abusive USCs? Some evidently lure in unsuspecting foreigners, knowing they'll get away with it because there's a major power imbalance and the foreign spouse is cut off from normal support systems.

I concur, and I'll go one step further. From the US citizen's viewpoint, all that he/she has to do if a change of mind occurs is to simply refuse to marry and eventually the alien will fall out of status and either choose to leave the country or try to adjust through a lengthy and uncertain VAWA process. Either way the US citizen is relieved somewhat of any responsibiloity that might promote him or her to be less than human towards an intended spouse.

On the otherhand, with a K-3 there is no immediate solution of a 90-day window in which the alien will be pressured to leave of his/her own will. It's quite possible that facing that, a US citizen spouse with less than honourable intentions and sensitivity to the alien spouse,. might have to resort to more aggressive measures to promote the alien to leave. All the same, it is unnecessary, undue many times and inhumane. I urge the OP to seek out some assistance.

then he should try to file a I485 for adjust status. Without the financial doc, might be a little rough for him.

Well, indeed, if she will co-operate then by all means he should do that so that he can prepare for self-sufficiency if it becomes essential later on. Reading this recount, it's dubious that she will simply go along with the idea. It appears she is deriving some satifaction from having ultimate control over the alien.

If I am not mistaken, if he were to file an I-360 no I-864 is required.

Go home dude! To hell with this kinda abuse!

Narg mein rehne se acha hai ghar jao.

Maybe it's just me....but does anyone else question how he was able to come online and post here when he says the computer is disconnected??? Perhaps I am just being very cautious in who I trust but something sounds wrong here. If this is all true...then go back home...I certainly wouldn't stay with someone like that!!!

LJ

Good point Laura !!!! ,

I'm sorry to sound disbelieving or uncharitable, but his English is expert in some places and overly tortured in others. Folks with English as a second language rarely master contractions (can't, don't, wouldn't) right off the bat. It sounds contrived.

The OP is from India! There's no way to tell, of course, but t's been my experience that people from India oftentimes have a better mastery of English than some USA natives.

There are places where one can get online without it being from home. Library, computer training centers, etc.
Our local hospital has free public internet access in the cafe.

I agree with you, but from what the OP is saying, his wife has him under lock and key and is very controlling. Do you honestly think she will let him off on his own...and I don't know about you, but if that were me, I wouldn't be posting here, I would be emailing my family and if I had gotten away from her, I would be trying to get into touch with my family..run to the police. Something other than posting here. Sorry, but IMO, something doesn't sound right.

LJ

Could this be a troll?

My roots (ethnicity) are from of India -- An "Indian male alpha" take this beating from his new wife is very unlikely (not saying impossible).

I think we are catering to somone's entertainment cravings

But, if this for real, then it's time to bail buddy.

KP

The OP hasn't been around here lately.

Are you serious? It's a holiday weekend in the USA. If what we've been told is true, there's a good chance he hasn't access to the Internet to respond.

Ok, ok, let's give the OP the benefit of the doubt. We'll assume he doesn't have any access to any computer this weekend, though if it was me in his place, I'd be constantly logging onto this website, looking to see what my options were. On the line here is his immigration status, something not to be taken too lightly at all.

Well, if I were in his shoes, and were so closely monitored and had limited outside access, I certainly would be spending whatever precious time and access I had looking for an immigration attorney to help me file the I-360, and not on reading VJ.

Agree 100%.

I smell troll.

I smell Bull Sh..t

That is exactly what I said!!! I wouldn't be on here if I had it as bad as he is saying he has...if it's even true at all...I guess I only have one question then...WHY OH WHY do ppl feel the need to do this sort of thing?? Honestly now..jeesh!!!

LJ

Can you smell what the rock is cooking......................................

Public libraries have free internet access...
And maybe he stumbled upon this site while researching "immigration" to try to find help for his plight?
Always possible.

If it's a troll and you don't like feeding trolls, just don't post. But there might be other people reading this forum going through the same situation... reading the answers can help the OP, if he's real, and other people too.

Sounds like abuse to me. She is suppose to be supporting you and then doesnt feed you? This is abuse and you should probably call the police or Adult protective services. If she brought you here just to abuse you, you should talk to a lawyer and see what you can do about getting half of everything she owns and getting alimony then go back to your home so you can be close to your family that loves you.

FOR THOSE OF UR THAT THINKS THIS IS NOT TRUE OF ALL THAT I WRITE LAST WEEK, WELL IT IS ALL THE TRUTH AND MAY SOUND STRANGE BUT IT IS JUST THE TRUTH. MY WIFE HAS BEEN MAKING ME GO THRU SO MUCH HELL HERE AND EVEN WORST THAN THE FEW I WROTE HERE LAST WEEK. I WAS A ENGLISH TEACHER BACK IN BOMBAY INDIA AND THAT IS WHY I SPEAK SO WELL.

I USE THE LIBRARY BUT TODAY SHE JUST WENT OUT AND DIDN'T EVEN REMEMBER TO DISCONNECT THE COMPUTER LIKE SHE NORMALLY DOES SO AM LUCKY TO USE IT AT HOME. SINCE I DON'T HAVE MONEY TP PAY FOR A LAWYER, CAN I FILE THE I-1360 MYSELF? PLS SOMEONE SHOULD ADVISE ME ON WHAT TO DO HERE. AND I THANK YOU ALL FOR CONTRIBUTING TO THIS, LIKE I SAID THIS IS ALL TRUE AND IT IS WHAT HAVE BEEN GOING THRU HERE.

JUST WEDNESDAY I WAS DOING MY LAUNDRY AND SHE CAME SAYING WHY DIDN'T I ASK BEFORE I DO IT AND ENDED UP THROWING ALL MY CLOTHS ON THE FLOOR WET. I CALLED THE COPS AND THEY SAW IT ON THE FLOOR. HOW CAN SOMEONE BE SO CRUEL?

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AAAAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!! I feel bad for him personally. Pastiq, I wish I knew what to tell as far as what foems to fill out and who to contact, what did the police say? what did your wife say when you called them.

People. lets just say that he is telling the truth and has "accidental access" to the computer, like with the last post, shouldnt those of us with a little more knowledge give him some words of wisdom so when he does get a chance to get back to the computer to "read on vj", he can have a bit of direction???

Lets just say hes lying, which I don;t think he is, what is he gaining by doing that? Those of you with those "troll" relpies and feeding in to his internet cravings or whatever the term was that was used, apparently you dont mind doing so with those types of responses. Ask yourself, what is he getting out of it? I see no benefit in posting such a fabrication. Maybe someone can enlighten me.

Pastiq, English teacher, huh? What chall think about them apples.

You dont know what people are going thru in their lives. Maybe if it were you all, you wouldnt post on VJ, but it aint. So say something to help him or don't say nothing. I think people forget what these forums are all about.

I havent even been a member that long, its been more helpful than not. I wish that could be every1z experience.

In a perfect world maybe.....

Hell.... in a perfect world there would be no VJ, my husband would have been with me 5 months ago!!!!!!!!!!

And so would your husbands/wives............

well since u called the cops i am pretty sure they have it on file or record.. a friend of mine had some problems too and when the cops came they asked her if she wants to get out of that house cuz its not save etc.. but she stood and everything worked out for them.. anyways they are alot of places where u can go and they help you here in america.. she can get ALOT of troble for doing this.. but you need to open youre mouth and tell everything to the cops.. good luck

Yes, of course you can file the I-360 without the aid of an attorney, and if funds don't permit, that's what you must do. However, if there is a chance that you can make it to a local Catholic Charities, to get some help in preparing it, you would better serve yourself, and your chances. Don't be reluctant to contact them despite the fact that the name suggests a certain orientation in faith, they provide guidance to immigrants and aliens that fall into immigration difficulties. Look that organisation up in the telephone book.

Right now you need to spend the next week or so to collect evidence. Also have a look on the http://www.uscis.gov web site for the form I-360 itself, read the instructions on the statement that is required and see what , if anything, you have in order to prepare that petition, and then return with questions, here if necessary. You will need proof of her controlling behaviour. Do you have any contact with neighbours, or her family that might be inclined to write Affidavits that you could attach to your petition? Contact the local police department for a copy of the complaint from the other day, for a start, although that might have been upsetting, in terms of abuse it appears rather a benign incident to place your entire case upon. Call a local human services centre in your area, and if nothing else, speak to someone on the help line about your emotional state and the fact that you are locked in the house without access to outside, food etc. Get the phone calls, or visits, if you can manage that, documented so that you can provide records of that with your petition.

In the meantime, try to gather whatever evidence you can and try if at all possible to have anyone that witnesses any incidents prepared to supply corroboration. Good luck and check in with us again, soon.

Some people take their entertainment from jerking other people's chains and watching how they react. Every message board has at least one poster like that. Pick any one at random and you will find threads where the troll posted something, usually a complete fabrication, designed to provoke an impassioned response and sat back and laughed as the regular members go on and on discussing it, usually descending into a flame war.

Not saying this is a case of trolling, but that is what trolling is in a nutshell.

Dude are you in a right mind to let your woman treat you like this? If a woman maltreat a man she has intent to be treated like a man and even though I wouldn't beat the sh1t out of her I would treat her the way she wants to be treated. If my woman maltreat me without valid reasons or specially if I don't deserve it, I would smack her A$$ right then. Or put some hot chilli essence on her undies

Why the block caps, and how come you can't re-connect the computer?

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Ignore 'him'.

I Agree! The more evidence the OP has, The better, I would in your position right now keep an incident log of abuse and apply for VAWA, You said that the police will have a record of an account, Keep the time, date or even the officers name, This is mental abuse, And no MAN or WOMAN should put up with this kind of torture.

Prepare all documentations and seek an attorney if you want to stay in the US, It's hard to prove abuse if NO documentation......

I'm not digging most people's replies here, troll or no troll, You have judged already without getting the real facts, A lot of people are just post happy with high opinions which they DO NOT know about, Give the lad a break.......

Try to get in touch with one of the Indian Social Organization. Every state has one. You may get their address through Google. These organizations are mainly meant for women but they may help you too. And it is you who has to decide where you have to live and work towards your goal. So good luck buddy.

I smell troll

I wonder if trolls smell anything like bagoong

Definitely. And people who genuinely want to help someone who is in a bad situation do not need to be called gullible. If it's a troll, well then the troll is the pathetic one, not those who try to help. I'd rather try to help than jump on the troll bandwagon just because his story isn't as "lovely" as other people's stories on here.

I agree!

We got smellovision for trolls? How do trolls smell? What is their scent like?

We feed trolls too? Where is the hatch on my monitor?

They smell like poop.

Hmmmmm! Very insightive and mature statement