I know this poll showed up a long time ago, but since it's in polls, I can still respond right? Anyway, I was friends with Rey for four months, and really, really best friends who talked constantly and hung out all the time every day we could. But I was dating other guys that were physically more "my type."
Rey is the first person I ever dated who was not tall, lanky, etc. but he is now the most attractive man I've ever seen! It just had to grow.
When I first saw him, I did not say "wow what a hottie," I said "wow he needs someone to help him get dressed in the morning."
The first night I met him I spent the rest of it getting chatted up by some other guy!

Alex+R - This same quote applies to you as well... LOL! Cheers!!!

HA. That's what Rey would say too, if you asked him. "You always wanted me, you just had to figure it out."

And I'm thinking "Um noooooo, have you SEEN the clothing you are wearing? There was a LOT to see past."

Ahem.

That is true.

back to the topic.

I voted ..."must exist in my relationship." I would see that face everyday of my life when I wake up. I want to wake up smiling and let sunshine in. I am blessed I found the man that completes me. We have established a strong foundation of mutual love, respect, understanding, honesty and trust. Our meeting in person generated more sparks of mutual attraction and set the direction we are now heading to. We have 2 years of smooth long distance relationship. We love each other and I am sure we will be happy together.

Hi, Carla. I met my husband online, too, so I find this question difficult to apply to our relationship (though I suppose nobody said it had to). We had been writing and calling every day for months before The Big Day, but we both admitted that a total lack of physical chemistry could realistically be a deal-breaker. The joke is that by the time we finally met, who's to say how much of our instant attraction was about raw physical appeal ... and how much was about our hopes and feelings persuading our senses?

Also, I have known people with not-so-hot looks who were extremely magnetic because of the way they carried themselves or how they moved. That's still physical, but it's influenced by what's inside, so I'm not entirely convinced there's always much of a line between physicality and personality anyway.

Alice

Alice AKA Slithytoves - I really like what you wrote and it's the very reason why I adore VJ forums. To read peoples different perspectives on things. Thanks for the post. Cheers! - Sherif Uling

i think it is very important, however i feel i am fat and ugly so im not sure how important it was for my hubby lol. but i think my baby is the best lookin man ever

jessNgeorges - Don't write that! You have some very endearing qualities which is why your hubby adores you. Like most people have selected... Looks are only half the battle. It's the total package that counts when the dust settles. Cheers!!!

Here's an old poll of mine....

Very important!!!!!!!!!!!!

Looks matter somewhat, but true beauty comes from the heart.

The first thing my husband told me upon laying eyes on me was "Looks can only go so far..", haha! what a snob.

He just would not admit he was smitten by the physical attributes as well, but I agree with him, looks can only go so far. I like and love a person for the person that he is, not so much for the looks. But it doesn't hurt my eyes that my husband is good-looking.

my mom always reminds me that they're all going to look like sh*t after 40 anyway! lol if you asked me how important looks are a few years ago i would have said 10. now my answer is 7.

important to me..
.thankfully, obvious.. not to sanita...i got a head like a hook-worm

Beuaty fades. It all depends on your standards too.

For me, I prefer inner beauty. Have you ever noticed how people that you didn't find very attractive, seemed more so when you got to know them?

And how "beautiful people" become ugly to you once you get to know them?

Shallow Hal comes to mind.

If you're in love, that person will be beautiful to YOU which is all that matters.

I think it is important to be attracted to a partner, but that does not necessarily mean that the person is generally considered attractive, if that makes any sense (me no speak english).



Plus you are hung like a hamster LOL Awwww Dean, we all love you!! I am sure you are gorgeous!

I say that physical attraction is important - that is what initially attracted me to my husband. However, the whole package has to be there - a good heart, honesty, intelligence, etc etc.

aw sister julie., you are the sweetest of all the sisters

the attached link also addresses this issueWhat to do when you are no longer physically attracted to your partner

a quote - "I get this question often from both men and women: What should they do when their spouse has grown heavier and is no longer physically appealing?

First of all, if you are not especially attracted to your partner from the beginning, as you mentioned, this will not likely change. You should have considered from the start whether this is the right spouse for you, keeping in mind that physical attraction does matter. Over time, people rarely get thinner or better-looking.

You haven't really done your wife any favors. Put yourself in your wife’s shoes: Think how horrible it must feel to be married to someone who doesn’t find you physically attractive."

the rest of the article also has an interesting perspective.

i voted 10.......i dont think it really has to do with looks so much but there has to be a chemistry that works between the couple........i mean have u never seen couples where the man or the woman is very challenged in the attractive to the eye department and the other one of the couple is drop dead beautiful?........but they are so much in love they cant even stand to be apart for more than a few hours a day?........beauty is only skin deep and it fades with time what does not fade is what made them attractive to u such as way that the treat people.....manors...and many more things that u dont even realize u only feel pulled to them for what ever reason.........and none of the reasons make sense if u try to explain it......

Which is exactly what I get from how people have polled thus far... Kudos...