Tell me what causes you to think someone is sexy. Is it the way a person looks or acts (attitudes). Elaborate on your answers please.

confidence!

I said combination of the two.

Everything has limits, and while I've known many "plain" or "appearance-challenged" women who were sexy, I think I would have a hard time finding a 500 pound woman with one arm, a mono-brow, a full mustache, and crossed eyes to be in any way sexy.

Likewise, I've known some very good-looking women who couldn't be sexy if they bought a box of it at Wal-Mart.

Sexy is a subjective assesment made by the observer, so any exceptions related to appearance will vary according to the individuals' taste.

Jeans and a button-down shirt? Sexy. Hiking boots? Sexy. (Timberlands, if you must know. lol) Hair in a ponytail? Sexy. Firey and confident? Sexy.

Teddies and stockings? Not sexy. Cocktail dresses and pearls? Not sexy. high heels (of any sort)? Not at all sexy. Hair in a bun? Not sexy. Demure and quiet? Not sexy.

There's my "created-while-sleep-deprived" list.

My BINGO

The ability to have an intelligent conversation with me while at the same time locking me into a gaze that says you want to ravish me.

A confident walk.

Clean clothes worn comfortably with just a touch of NOW. Like slim jeans, a 't' with the right neckline, and a slim dark blazer.

Brains.

Are you trying to say I am ugly?

For me, it's 90% attitude/actions and only about 10% looks. Imo, a person is sexy when he/she finds a way to be and act that suits them and allows them to be themselves; when the personality inside can be radiated outward by a person's manner and actions; THAT is sexy. People need to be truer to who they really are, instead of conforming to some homogenized MTV-promoted extremely narrow vision of "sexy/beautiful" which most people can't pull off anyway and which is so dime-a-dozen and UNINTERESTING that, to me, it's boring and not sexy at all. People who try and emulate that "style" (if you want to call it that), aren't sexy (to me); they're boring followers who don't even realize how boring they are. This kind of narrow vision promotes the idea that there is only one way to be beautiful (for men and women, but mostly for women) and anyone who doesn't (or can't) fit into those strict criteria isn't worthwhile. It's also an EXTREMELY sexist vision, imo, since female beauty is judged on the most horribly superficial basis -- 95% airbrushed looks, 5% the ability to follow some choreographer's instructions -- the only way a woman can be sexy is if she's extremely thin, extremely tanned, slathered with cosmetics, half-naked and rubbing herself against some guy's car

My prefered list of "sexy" traits includes: HUMOR/silliness, humility, curiosity about many different topics (i.e. science, religion, history, art), independent thinking/opinions, thoughfulness, intelligence without arrogance, simplicity, dressing onesself in a way that suits your natual looks/body shape/coloring... etc.

PS -- sorry for the rant. THIS is why I should never watch MTV; and I NEVER do, but my fiance' is here now and he likes to watch it, so I sit there making comments (both subtle and not-so-subtle ) about how sexist and disgusting and TALENTLESS I find 9/10 of these people to be and how interesting it is that there isn't a single overweight or plain-looking girl who can sing well these days, hmm....

Definately combination of both..... I had b-friends who were absolutely georgeous but the IQ of a Q-Tip.... Definately combination of both

David is pure sex on legs *drool*

T&A.

there are plenty of them around here....ooh! you meant the body parts...riiiight!

Combo baby! For me, it's also very important what's between the ears. Sometimes it's a look, a word, a breath and I'm gone, but this effect seems to only work for me when it comes from Cristina

Combination:

Why? Having good looks is always a plus, but sometimes you end up falling in love with someone who is totally the opposite of what your ideal of the perfect man/woman is. It really has a lot less to do with their appearance in the long run, afterall, we all get old and wrinkly some day.

In my case, I never imagined falling in love with a tall, lanky red-head from halfway across the world. I find voices very sexy. If I don't like someone's voice, it really is an automatic turn-off. Attitude and actions come second. Someone who will love me, support me, hug me when I need it, that's important... looks are a distant third. I think my boy is adorable.

Her looks while we are in Action Yummy!

My wife is Beautiful! But I love her character most of all!
She is smart, patient, & confident with just enough humility.

politeness and shy

when my hubby lays on the couch reading a book, that's sexy!

Men chewing gum. Is that weird?

Oh, and some hot abs with pelvic bones stickin' out all sexy-like...

Dang woman, it's as if you read my mind!

The fact that I can actually have an intelligent conversation with my husband...that's sexy.

And yes, he has a very confident walk...makes me take a deep breath to watch him walk.

Clothes? He has a pair of jeans that just...mmmmmm...they fit him so well...not too tight, not too loose. A button up shirt (just enough to see chest hair) and his smell....ooooh la la!!!!

Brains....oh yeah...my man has 'em. And he's not afraid to use 'em.