Couples really need to talk and determine what is acceptable and fair for their relationships. Be true to yourself, fair to your mate, and work it out together. My fiancée and I talked about this up front so down the line there would not be any confusion concerning our expectations. Everyone has different tolerance levels and preference concerning their relationships. I have some friends who are fine with whatever, and some that just are not having it. Cheers!!!

I completely trust my husband, but do not trust other people, so it would be an issue for me. (I've had wayyyy to many teenage girls, etc. say how much they just loveeeeeee his accent and how they think he's cute,etc....we live in a tiny town! )However, if he ever suspected they were feeling that way toward him, I'm confident that he wouldn't want to continue the friendship anyway. Neither of us are like that. It goes both ways that way. On the other hand, it can stink sometimes, because this was an issue for us at one point. I have an ex that I used to work with (worked there nearly 8 years..in the same dpmt with this guy for 3 1/2 years or so of that time) and on top of it, he (still) lives on the same road as us, kittycorner from our house! We had about a 3 year relationship, but it ended quite a long time before Craig and I even met. We had remained very good friends...talking each other through other relationships and general life stresses. Craig wasn't too comfortable with that after we started getting serious (he would come by, come in the house and just sit down and have a chat,etc.) so I stopped hanging out with him, or inviting him in,etc. Craig doesn't think a thing of it now, and the guy will talk to us outside, etc. I have to admit, in the very beginning of our relationship, I would have felt the very same if Craig was still good friends with one of his exs that just happened to live over the road!! I didn't doubt his fidelity, even when he lived in England, but I still wouldn't have liked it. Can't explain that one! so, anyway,can totally see where he was coming from there. I do regret now that the friendship had to end (at least in the capacity it was) but my relationship is more important than that, and I'm glad it hasn't been an issue for some time now. Could make it quite uncomfortable as we're not planning to move anytime soon! M.

I think I am much more jealous than my husband is- I would have a problem with him developing a friendship with a woman. I don't think he'd be overly impressed with me developing a friendship with a man but I doubt he'd verbalize it. I think my husband is fantastic and can imagine that most women who meet him would try it on (call me delusional or just madly in love with my husband!) but I would not be happy if he was chatting with or going out with another woman. I find a bit of jealousy is not only normal, but healthy. It's not a matter of trust for me, rather a matter of me protecting what's mine. And like Michelle in the above post- I've had TOO many women here in the US flirt with him and/or tell me and him outright how much they just ADORE his accent.

I don't think he has female friends - cultural thing. I voted no issue - but maybe it would be - since it would very unusual if he started having female friends.