Kiny,
It's a personal choice. Always.
Unfortunately, I have met young people who romanticized the entire immigration process, failing to fully understand the responsibilities that come with it. The financial responsibilities are especially important as the Consulate will turn you away if you do not meet the poverty guidelines and have not secured a co-sponsor who meets the guidelines. I just like to give young people some food for thought so that they are able to see the entirety of the matter. All too often, regretfully, they don't.
I'm twenty-three years old. I got married young, by most people's standards. I'm glad I got married; I found the man that I loved. But I also wanted to ensure that we wouldn't be financially constrained when we moved to America because I didn't have a job and he, as a new immigrant, could likely struggle to find one. I just wanted to be prepared so we waited nearly two years before we married and immigrated. Our preparedness helped us tremendously so I was able to sponsor him myself (and he also self-sponsored, to some extent, since we live together abroad.) But I'm not trying to be negative. I was a college student, too, and had no income or taxes; however, my "job" is to be a student, a graduate student. We never get an income worth much anyway. I just knew I couldn't support my husband financially on the stipend of a graduate student, so we saved up money in the process. (But because I've been abroad in a graduate program, I needed a co-sponsor or so I thought. Thankfully, I didn't.) I do have a job now (at my university) and, coincidentally, his current job will follow him to America. So we're ready for this next step!
Really, that's all I'm advocating: preparation. I know it's hard to support a two-person household on one income if that income is unsteady and doesn't meet the poverty guidelines. I would never tell anyone not to get married, though. I just think it's more of a challenge for which you have to be prepared. My opinion is just that--an opinion. But, still, I offer what I think might be helpful, maybe not to you in your situation, but to somebody else with slightly different circumstances.
Anyway, just be prepared. Immigration makes it all that much more of a challenge, for the young and the old!
--Z
QUOTE(kiny @ Aug 14 2006, 05:52 PM)

that's exactly my point...it might not be the ideal of circumstances and I do admit that immigration makes you go through a lot of hassle but then again this is life sometimes you can't find your other half in the best of circumstances these are all matters of fate and i am sure since you are going through it yourself you should know...I don't agree with you when you say that young ppl should wait to sponsor or wait to get married etc. maybe u got married late but a young person can be just as responsible and even more smarter than lets say a person going through mid-life crisis it really depends on what you are capable of... I've complate faith in my husband and myself for making it work and in the end that's all that matters...why is it that 18 is too old for you to be staying with your parents but if a recenet college grad or a person in his/her 20's gets married and sponsors their spouse they are too immature to do that? i think i smell double standards here...
QUOTE(zauberblume @ Aug 14 2006, 03:33 AM)

Kiny,
No permanent employment yet + Just finished college + Living with parents who support you = Not exactly the best circumstances to marry.
I stand by that comment. A lot of young people are going through this immigration process without understanding what a huge responsibility it is. Instead of just waiting patiently until a job comes by, some younger petitioners want to start petitioning now when, realistically, they don't have the necessary financial support to take care of their spouse, themselves, and maybe any other dependents. I'm posting it here mostly because I know other young people read the forums and I'm just trying to help them see the situation from all perspectives. Ultimately, it's a personal choice.
Alien and foreigner are terms used to refer to immigrants. Depending on usage, these terms are not meant to be negative. I'm currently a foreigner in another country. There's really nothing wrong with that.
So your husband supports you financially instead of your parents? I see. Fine.
You don't have a permanent job? Okay. Fine.
There are, in my opinion, ideal circumstances to be married. Namely, at the very least, both parties should have permanent employment or some kind of income. Yours is not an ideal situation, in my opinion, to be married and there isn't really a reason to act like it is. Immigration forces us into some circumstances that we wouldn't have to endure normally if we weren't married to foreigners.
I wish you and your husband the best.
--Z