I am soo ready for kids I can't stand it...but hubby wants to wait and with good reason. He only just got here and we need to share eachother selfishly for at least two years....but darn it..I am READY

Have fun making them babies!!!

me and Javed want to have 2 kids now. We both are ready and anxious. but,
we are on the " wait for the dayum visa " birth control.

We also want to maybe try soon...not sure exactly when though!

We're too old..... both 50 and we have 4 kids between us, so we're "done"!!!!!

Good luck to all those who are trying and best wishes to those who are pregnant.

And... to the OP..... enjoy each other for as long as you can.... once the kids come, they become the main focus of your lives. Sad sometimes, but very true, so enjoy your "alone time" now.

someone's broody!! hehe

I already have kids they are a total joy. I think you know when your ready. My first pregnancy was a 'surprise' and shock. The shock of being pregnant soon disappeared and was overridden by the total change in my body If your ready for that your ready for anything!! Get ready to throw those skinny clothes out for a good while. By the way get ready to be embarrased like never before at any opportunity kids will say whatever is on their mind whenver they want

I already have two kids from my previous marriage. I think that's enough. My finace doesn't want kids. He accepts my kids, becuase they are a part of my life, and if he wants to be with me, he'll end up being around them as well.
Part of the reason I'm making plans to move there with him is becuase it'll give us some "us" time to just be a couple together before we move back and add kids into the mix.

I say, enjoy your time with just him, becuase after the kids it'll be pretty rare.

I'd love kids, but I can't have any... so the decision was taken out of my hands.

hell no!!!!!!!!

We both want kids but not right now! Maybe in about 2 years time. I'm so enjoying just being married.

We want kids

We both want kids so much....i find myself playing with other people's babies(in the store, mall, at work,etc). I am 32 now and hubby will be 30 soon so no time like the present, besides the inlaws are stuck on this topic of " When"?, "Any good news yet?", Will I have grandkids/great grandkids before I die?" Shesssh the pressure. So here's hoping.

Besides all I hear lately is you two are going to make beautiful babies. People on the street see us together and they are like awwww you two make a beautiful couple and you are going to have beautiful babies, these people don't even know us and they come up to us and say that.

I already have 4 and Dan has 2. All adults now so we are just going to enjoy each other.

Poll is a bit flawed. We aren't a yes or no, but a maybe.

Between the two of us we have six boys . We discussed early on in our relationship that we DID not need anymore children. In the last six months my darling husband has mentioned, that it might be nice to have one together. I agree to an extent, which is more in past terms it WOULD have been nice. We swing back and forth now on this topic, and have decided it can wait another year or two until we have had time together and are financially set. I am going on 36 this year, my time is drawing to an end, so it has to happen soon if it happens at all. The thought of having one of our own is lovely, but diapers, bottles, childbirth, and no less than 18 years of raising another is not so appealing. The decision is probably easier than we think, especially considering my mother stated she would kill us both! Hey though having a girl for a change might be interesting, but with our luck it would be another boy and we would officially have a baseball team.

Kajikat - you could always adopt Both my brother and I are adopted...different mothers...and I like to think we both turned out pretty well. If Ic ouldn't have children I would DEFINITELY adopt. My parents gave me a life better than my birth parents could have and Ia m so thankful that I was given a second chance!!!

Neither Sian nor I particularly like children. Actually, we can't stand them. Lucky really, since we both are concerned about over-population. Also, we both feel that it is incredibly selfish for anyone to have more than 2 children - one to replace each parent. It's greedy and hurts the planet. Not to mention what it does to property taxes. (More kids = more kids in school = higher taxes) Personally, I'm tired of paying triple what my property taxes were 4 years ago just so I can underwrite the families with 3, 4, 5 or more children.

I have a son from a previous relationship (he'll be 18 this month - he lives with his mother.... I've never even met him. Her choice, not mine - she bailed just before the wedding.) and Sian has a son from a previous relationship - Jordan, who will be moving here with her. In the end, it works out. One couple - two kids.

Anyway, Sian works in genetics (Specifically, she works for the NHS analyzing fetal DNA). For every year over 30 the mother is, the greater the chance that a baby would have some sort of "problem", such as Down's Syndrome. Even if we wanted more kids - which we DON'T - she would be hesitant based on that.

Ok, everyone can start the replies now about how horrible we are because we can't stand kids. Believe me, I'm used to it.

I don't think your views on children is horrible at all. This is a choice, and you have every right to feel the way you do. Just because there is a couple (male and female) doesn't mean that they should have children. I had a girlfriend who absolutely hated children, people worried the sh*t out of her as to why she would not want one, that she was a woman and all women want babies! Knowing her for so long, I never felt a reason to judge her she didn't like children so why have any?

me too!
me and my twin both are adopted. my mother had problems conceiving babies.
she lost like 5 of them. then she decided to at least be open to adoption. when she saw us
she thought " they are some cute, well behaved twins, that can bring me good joy in the world"
so she quickly - Ran out of the adopton center before the twins followed her home.
when she finally arrived home quess what! "twins". those 2 bad azz twins were at her door!.
just kidding..

she agreed to adopt the cute little twins. I agreed to adopt cute little parents. My life with them
have been really beautiful. I know I made my parents life really beautiful too. here is a picture
of me and my twin. BEFORE me and my twin were adopted.

I was adopted also.

Dave Thomas (Wendy's guy) is/was my hero.

I'm in the same boat as you! I want kids NOW, he wants to wait. And I suppose we will, since I would like to have been in my job long enough for the big chunks of maternity leave my company provides.

That's really cool. I'd also adopt if I can't have kids. My close friends just adopted a 4 yr old little boy and he is so cute!!! They weren't sure if they'd be able to get pregnant, as my friend had a miscarriage 2 years ago and hadn't gotten pregnant since. So they wanted to adopt. They went through the state as they couldn't afford the outrageous costs of adopting through private co's or overseas. After they met the little boy who would become part of their family, my friend found out she was pregnant!! She is now 7 months pregnant with a baby girl, and they feel like God postponed her getting pregnant just so they could adopt their little boy who was meant to be with them(otherwise they could have missed this opportunity completely). He feels like he's always been part of their family now.


hehe, cute picture!

we have two cats.... that's enough for us....

We have 5 between us and 2 grandkids....we are concentrating on bringing up my 10 yr old....more children are not happening for us as we are old and knackered!!

I couldn't answer the poll, not enough options so I'll answer it here:

Do you have children already? no, I don't
Are you planning on having kids...or more kids? Yes
If you are having more kids, why not now? First because we're not married yet, second it's impossible for me to get pregnant being in Brazil and Charles being in the States
But we both want kids.

I have two girls from a previous marriage. We are not having any more because I am fixed! LOL! Actually we made that decision together because he has a disorder that can be passed on and we didn't want to take the chance that a child may have to go through what he has gone through. We are content with my two little angels.

This baby factory is closed!
We had toyed with the idea before I got here. How wonderful it would be to have our own child and all that. Once we experienced a house with four children in it from the age of 2 to 11 we knew we were so done. We love each others children as our own, we had concerns whether a new baby between us may cause resentment from the others also, not that we could not of got through that.. it was just another reason not to. That and we are already counting down till they are grown and out of the house

We're going to seriously consider that... but you have to have been married for 2-3 years before they'll even let you express an interest, and then it takes a couple of years after that to arrange an adoption. By which time DH might well be too old for them to let us do it. (he's 42 and not in the best of health)...

You might want to check into the adoption of a foreign child through Holt International. There are loads of kids in other countries who need good homes - and you don't get into the business where mama comes back three or four years from now and tries to reclaim the infant she once gave up. Depending on the country, there may also be fewer restrictions on the parents such as weight, age and health. You still have to jump through many of the hoops you do with American agencies as far as having your background and home checked out, but a lot of the archaic restrictions regarding parental health and age are more 'loose' with some international adoptions.

My fiancé and I do not have kids. We both want kids, but want to wait until we have been married a couple years. I can't wait, but right now it's not what we need and we don't want them in the first year of marriage.

And now for my smartass post.....

Little babies ARE cute. Toddlers are cute. Children are adorable when they first start to formulate a personality, when they learn to read and write. You just can't imagine your life without them and just THINKING about them leaving home brings tears to your eyes.

But God had a plan. He soon turns them into teenagers. They become surly and sullen. They look at you like you are stupid. They get expensive....formula and diapers is PURTY CHEAP compared to car insurance and college.

Pretty soon you can't wait for them to leave home......

Oh my god! You guy don't look near old enough to have adult children! I have to start living the pirate life!

Joel

and you are thrown right back into immigration game again!!

We both don't want kids.

Boy, do I hear ya' Rebecca!!!!!! I agree with you that the teenage years are made that way on purpose so that when they move out, it's a lot easier on us!!!!!

Now, call me stupid, but my 18-year old daughter arrives here tomorrow (she's been in Oregon working) to attend college for 4 years!!!!!!!!!! YIKES!!!!!! I guess her living with her Dad since she was 10 made me oblivious to teenage girls ways. Her two older brothers were a piece of cake in comparison. Oh well, we'll make the best of it, I guess.

I spoke to a young woman of about 20 something the other day, she kept insisting how kids were great, so I asked her when was the last time you went out and partied til the next day? She said she couldn't because of kids.
I asked when was the last time you woke up and then spent the entire day fooling around with her boyfreind? She said the kids usually got her up in the morning.
I asked have you ever thought about just jetting off for the weekend to another part of the country or another country? She said if she travels the kids come with her and it all needs to be planned.

At this point I asked her why kids were so great, she told me because they're my kids, I told her well you enjoy your kids, I'll enjoy my time, money and freedom. She just sat there looking very much like she'd been 0wned and knew it.

they also pay about as much attention to you as a teenager, but they don't need a car or college or....

My fiance' and I both want to have children, but in the future, when we are more established economically and we both feel ready. Neither of us have caught "Baby Fever" yet lol

What if you never did those things before you had kids in the first place?

-I don't "party". Hang out with friends? yes. Some of them already have babies/kids.

-I'm married and don't fool around with a boyfriend all day, or my husband...as there is this thing called work that he has to do...

- We're never able to just jet off somewhere for the weekend...only those with a lot of extra money can! For us it always takes planning anyway.

So, I still look forward to having kids.

Between the two of us.. = 4. my girls.. 26 and 14, and Janank's son 19 and dtr 14.
We both giggle at the idea of being a Grandma/Grandpa.. someday.but with my eldests wedding soon.. it may be soon enough for us all . ha ha.. we have no intentions on more.. ourselves.. we are both 45.

I can sympathize with your dislike of children, actually. Or rather... the way people are with their children. I think American kids are overly coddled and catered to (in general). You have no idea how many times I've seen kids throwing tantrums in the street, refusing to listen to the parents, and the parents saying "Well, okay honey, if you don't want to go to [Grandma's/the supermarket/Anne Taylor/any other boring place] we won't!" Or... the kid is FLYING down the sidewalk on skates and if YOU don't get out of his way, you will hear it from the mother for getting in the kid's way instead of the mother teaching the kid to be respectful of the fact that other people will use the sidewalk and to be careful of others. It gets on my nerves.

I *do* want children and so does my fiance', but I hope that when I am a mother I won't be so wishy-washy with them and let them dictate to me and their father what we will do and when and how, etc.

I know exactly what it is, I heard so much horrible things for not wanting children and getting rid of my fertility. Some people even wish death on me
Well it has to be difficult representing only 3% of the adult female population that choose to be sterilized by choice

We're having our first baby in about 18 weeks!!! Soooo excited

Then you're obviously just boring and a life devoted to wiping your child(rens) arse would be ideal for you.

No. Yes. As soon as it happens.

There are ppl who don't actually think that life is all about party this, party that, ....maybe she wasn't looking '0wned' but the look was 'what a dick' .... ppl are different no??

Is this where you start calling everyone with children "breeders" and "moos"? Yawwwwn.

No kids. We plan to, but not until the wife is done med school, so plenty of time to rethink.

I work for a company that is really family oriented. this little girl just came by my office. so precious, she came over she likes to play with my dog when I bring him. she draws cute pics and place on my walls.
you know its the little things in life such as kids- sometimes they are just to amazing.