I understand how it feels mrsemcee. I can't control my emotion when I sent my hubby in Manila Airport back to US. I miss him so much and he cannot really visit me cause of his 2 jobs, :-( Hoping to be with him soon.

Yeah it's soo hard. We tried to be positive but I looked at him and burst into tears....

I will miss him but it will be ok....

Oh well, this is our life. I just hope I could have a 10 yr tourist visa so i could visit him. I really miss him a lot and want to be with him. He always say "it will be alright soon" and " we will be together soon"...

*big hugs to Donna*

We'll be here with you.

i feel for you mrsemcee.. i remember when i accompanied my husband at the airport.. it was real heart wrenching.. i cried for days.. .. it's been almost two months now and i am greatly missing him.. as i have read from another thread, this sort of virtual living sucks.. i can't live like this for long.. and soon, hopefully very soon, we'll received our NOA2's.. then we'll be with our husbands again..
and as my husband says when the time comes that we'll be together again, there will be no more goodbyes only sweet i love you's.. and it's all in God's time..
let's hang on and keep cheering each other here on vj as we patiently wait for our time..

God bless all!!!

Thank you everyone....

I feel really flat today but it'll be ok. I find myself worrying over possible rfes and other silly things, but I guess if I get an rfe they're looking at it at least huh? I'm just a worry wart and my hubby usually settles me down.

I know it's gonna be ok because we have everything, well cept my immunization records, which I'm sorting next week!

Ahhhhhh hurry up noa2

Donna,

I'm sorry. I know how horrible it feels - my husband was coming here for 3 months at a time. The pain of the impending separation always looms like a black cloud throughout the visit. You try to shove it to the back of your mind, but it is always there, nagging. It's like the moment they arrive, you start counting the days until they are gone.

Since we have filed the I-130, my husband can't come and visit anymore. And since he bounced back & forth so much, he can't find steady work (he's a tradesman, and jobs were sparse anyhow) in Ireland. Nobody wants to hire somebody who's there one minute & gone the next. It's put him (and us) in a real financial bind. I'm lucky to have a full-time job, but it doesn't pay enough - just barely enough to meet my bills.

I understand why there are rules. I've always abided by them - not even a parking ticket. But now that the "rules" are wedged between me and the man I love, I suddenly feel less "free" than I've been led to believe.

I'm now 42 years old. Childless with fertility issues. Having a husband who lives an ocean away certainly doesn't improve our odds of conceiving. And spending all of our money on just staying alive doesn't leave anything for starting a family via modern means.

In the meantime, we wait, eh? I have no motivation for anything. At one time, I was vibrant, had lots of friends, and was optimistic. These days, it feels like I'm stuck in a tar pit. I managed to run the sweeper in the living room today and had to laugh because my winter boots are still sitting there! It's 90 degrees outside. Time just stands still....until my husband is with me, I feel like I have no life. I feel like there's no reason for getting up and improving my home, or my world. It's a fight I have to fight everyday - to find the meaning in my life, when it seems like my "meaning" is an ocean away.

Like you, I just want to be together and start building a life.

We all just have to have faith and support each other.

Julie I cried reading this as I feel the same.... Andy does too.

He said to me last night he feels like he should be the strong one but he just can't bear to be apart from me....

I feel it too.

I'm trying do hard though to make myself busy. Luckily I start a new job on Monday... Though I feel bad for not telling them i'll be leaving for the USA as soon as i can go!

We all need to support each other here because honestly you guys are all I have besides hubby.

It's sad but I'm here with a family who thinks I'm being erratic and abandoning my family, and why?? Because they constantly put me down and I have never felt so at home with Andy...

So I just wait, and hope, for my noa2!!!!!

Donna,

I completely understand. When you know, you KNOW. It's like you've searched for "home" your entire life --that place where you belong - that sense that you have found the one thing that completes you. I've come to realize that "home" isn't a place.....I'm sure you have too.

So you got yourself a Kentucky wild man, eh? LOL. I must say, the two of you make a wonderful couple in the pictures. I think you'll love it here.

I live in Pennsylvania - settled by the Irish (my own ancestors). People here can't understand why it takes so long for my husband to immigrate. I always respond that I think the US met its Irish quota back in the 1800s. Humor (or a sad attempt) is all that keeps me going. Which is precisely why I love my husband - his sense of humor is beyond measure.

Try to keep busy. I know that's hard, and truly, I should take my own advice!

Julie! My hubby is of Irish blood too! He was adopted and is certainly a wild Kentuckian hehe but his real birth parents were Irish Americans, hence the orange beard hehe

Umm he lives closer to the border of TN and I was lucky enough to stay in the USA for 3 months last year.

I loooove it there but you're so tight about home being with him rather than our global location.... Though I do love America so much! And it seems they love me too thankfully!

It seems you and I have things in common

Hehe I meant to say right not "tight" haha but I'm on an iPhone with annoying predictive text and I have fat fingers it seems

oops!

I hope this brightens everyone's day

Helly mrsemcee...

Chin up, girly... i know that feeling well, that horrible lump in your chest when you stand at the airport watching them walk away -- it's puke-tastic, to say the least. I know we can all relate to that one, right?

Just so you know, I'm all squared away with my immunizations -- got the damn titer antibody test but still took every single shot they had to offer. i just had the MMR today because I have not had nor was innoculated against the mumps. geezus. but, it's done, I have my little immunization card and I am a pincushion. Good luck with all that. FYI, the MMR shot hurt like a little b*tch!

OuchYyy!!!!

I told hubby he better get me a good present when I arrive for having my arms shot with hundreds of holes like that hehe and my butt no doubt

At least you're all done now! I'm booked in for my blood test this coming week so I'll be jabbed next!

In other news my hubby is stuck at LAX for 48 hours, plane problems!!!!

He said he's got a massive big bed to himself at the Hilton. Lucky thing!

hello june friends! i miss my husband soooo much and he only went home a few days ago!

i got into working again today... i started a new job. and turns out there is a free gym there, and since i need to lose some weight, i joined and i am about 3 hours back from my first spin (cycle) class and feeling it!!!



feeling good! but sore!

i got bored before... and i made this collage of hubby and i... SOME of the many millions of photos i have taken since last october.. hope you guys enjoy

donna

xx

Very nice, you look very happy together Congrats on your job and fitness center! Wish mine paid for my membership.

thanks so much. i am photo mad.. haha.

lack of evidence? pfft! hehe take THAT immigration dudes!



yeah its lucky i get the free gym as i wasnt about to get a new membership before leaving australia in hopefully a few months or so hehe.


how are you today missy?

I am good. Was up late last night talking with the husband. I hate to get off the phone with him no matter how tired I am I pay for it at work the next day, believe me. But thank God I work at home, so I just get out of bed and come to my computer. But the hard part is wanting to work when I know my bed is just around the corner, hehehe.

Oh I get it!!!

We have a 15 hour time difference!!

How big is yours??!!

I talk to hubby on the phone every day, thinking about getting webcam and skype.

webcam does help my husband just recently moved, and has not been able to get the internet set up. not surprising in india. he has called several times. our time difference is 10.5 hours until time changes. my phone has up to 2 time zone settings. so i have one for here, then my traveling time zone is india since that seems to be where i spend all of my vacationing hours these days i am going to beg my boss to let me go into the hole again with pto hours so i can be with him for his interview. as of now, i will only have 32 hours by december 31. i am praying his interview will be before then since we want to spend christmas together. my boss does know the fiasco we went through last year. i was such a mess that she offered psycho therapy for me.

Hi all,
Just wanted to send some love out to everyone! Hang in there!
And yeah, I couldn't live without my webcam and skype! It is a disaster if the internet or my computer is down for a couple of days! haha... Hang in there to those who have difficult time differences!! That has to be hard....
Going to see my wife in two days!!!!! Yay!!!

Congrats and have fun!!!

Aw, is there anything better than that feeling of counting down until the day you're reunited for a planned visit???? So happy for you.

I'm grateful for Yahoo Messenger. Saves a bundle on phone costs. We only have a 5-hour time difference, but the chatting time cuts into a lot of things. I have a 45 minute commute to my job. Then I sit at a computer for 8 hours. Then, the 45 minutes home. Some nights, the very last thing I want to do is sit back up to a computer, but because of the time difference, my only opportunity to chat with my husband is from 5:30-8:30 my time.

When we close down the chat box, it's nearly time for me to go to bed and start all over again. Nothing gets done in the house, in the garden. No shopping, no socializing, no reading, no watching tv.... after a while, you start thinking that you are married to a little square box that sits on your desktop. It's really been driving me nuts lately. I've missed yet another Spring, and much of the Summer. Life has gone on without me as we wait. Soon, it'll be getting cold, and I've no firewood cut or stacked.

It is truly hard to stay upbeat. At best, some days, I can stay non-suicidal. LOL. Sometimes, the lack of progress and hopelessness is just too much to bear. You start to wonder if it's worth it. Then you look at a photo, or you remember something said, or a touch, and you know that it IS worth it.

When you think back how time has flown to get us to this point.....the next 6 months will be a drop in a bucket.

We all just have to hang in here, lean on each other, try to stay happy and healthy for our loved ones, and pray, pray, pray.



Out of sheer curiosity, how many times do you check the status at the USCIS site? I'm guilty of 2 times per day.

JJ, you are a great story teller. Are you a writer? Your posts on this forum draw me in If not, you should consider it, I would buy your books

I have cut my uscis log ons to one a day. My goal is to be at one a week, but the first round, I was never able to achieve that goal. Lets see

woo hoo! congrats! have a great time




i check it once a day, but sometimes twice...




i agree!!!!


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in other news, guys, wish me luck, because i am actually going to call USCIS today. why, you ask? well i put in that i-129f form with my i-130 application (because i am silly and got the k3 and the cr1 confused among other stuff) and i want to tell them to ignore the i-129f, and i figure its a good excuse to call, right? it cant hurt, i say.... and if it does, well so be it. its been on my mind for a few weeks so i am just going to bite the bullet and call them.... it will be about midnight here in australia when i call them so i will check in with you all after im done

there is a vj member on here that is well-versed on how to "abandon" the K3 and go for the CR1 instead. I will look for the link... I don't think you have to call.

oh really? i guess why i wanted to call is because im REALLY worried deep down that i am going to get an RFE after all my hard work.

you see, i followed all the instructions on this website to lodge the i-130 with all the appropriate forms etc, and then i saw the i-129f details somewhere else and thought, oh i have to send that too, not knowing it was totally seperate and it was for the k3.

my letter basically says i want to do the cr1 route, but then i have put a table of contents and at the end of it i have added form i-129f.

there are no other errors on any of my paperwork.. as far as i am aware anyway.

someone on here told me i would be ok and they would probably just send the i-129f form back saying that i cannot lodge it with the i-130 forms and have to lodge seperately....

BUT im still stressing out... you know.... aaahhhh..

i feel so selfish wanting an NOA2 when so many other people dont have them yet.. but i do, you know?

i want to be one of the ones who is lucky and gets it early.

Anything is possible

The flip isn't always easy, but it is possible. I don't think you will get an RFE. Some people believe that phone calls slow the process down. I am posting a link where the flip to CR1 was successful, and one where it wasn't successful. If all else fails, you can call the consulate when your case is complete at the NVC level.

Well, I read the last page of the forum for the "unsuccessful" and the consulate simply canceled the K3 interview, and kept the CR1 interview:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...172861&st=0

Here is the link where they were successful in switching the interview "to have the CR1 before the K3"

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=180499

So, I said all of that, to say this (strictly my opinion, of course). Don't slow your process down by contacting the already slow USCIS. Wait until your I130 is approved, NVC case complete, and contact the embassy in Australia Because by then you will know when your interview is.
When I have called USCIS in the past, they just read verbatim what is online because they are outsourced, and see what we see.

Thank you soooo much miss K!!

You're a doll!

Do by sending the i129f have I started the k3 process? I was under the impression that A. The 129f form should not have gone yo USCIS anyway and B. If I ignore any possible replies to the 129f then go down the cr1 path that nothing will happen with the k3 route.

I guess youre sort of saying that, right? I mean just ignore it til after interview and then cancel the k3??

Sooooo confused.

oooh I just noticed that those who get an noa1 for 130 get the noa1 for 129f too and I didn't, soooo maybe they're ignoring that form? Ooooh I hope so!!!!!!

That would be awesome if they just ignore the K3. It should be an obsolete visa anyway. It was originally put in place because in "the olden days" CR1 would take years. So they thought with the K3 it would be faster, and it was. But now, I130s are at a max of 5 months. We chose the CR1 because we want him to work ASAP. And in the long run, it is cheaper.

The I129f is for the K1 and K3 visas. I am not sure if it is good to ignore anything at USCIS level, because I am not sure if they would realize that you would want to pursue the CR1, and that could just hold up your I-130. Prayerfully, the only response we will receive from USCIS is our NOA2s Oh what joy! What rapture!

NO RFEs FOR ANY JUNE FILERS

It just dawned on me that you said you sent it with your packet. So you may be in luck since you are not supposed to send it until after you get the I130 NOA1. So, by sending it with the file, then they probably haven't even seen it, and won't see it until they actually review your I130. So, in essence, the I129F hasn't been "accepted" hence no NOA1 for your I129F. I hope that makes sense.

I just don't get it still though, I mean I know we want cr1 as I need to work on arrival but I only accidentally put in that firm relating to k3 so I thought that's why I should call them and let them know....

But from what everyone says it's not good to do so, therefore meaning I can't even have a chance to rectify that mistake.

I don't see why I can't say hey I don't want that form lodged I just want to follow the cr1 path.

Heck I don't even know what the k3 path entails, let alone having to do both.

This sucks.... I'm going to be sick constantly til I find out I have noa2

I'm such an idiot for sending that form

yeah but when they see it to approve my noa2 will they send me the whole thing including my 130 back koz I'm so stupid?!??

sad face!



yeah but when they see it to approve my noa2 will they send me the whole thing including my 130 back koz I'm so stupid?!??

sad face!

Well, I'm trying to be a writer....working full-time as a secretary right now to pay the bills (including immigration costs). By the time I leave my office, any/all creativity is sucked right out of me. By Sunday afternoon, I start feeling like I could write again, but then Monday happens.

Donna, I think I read someplace that you don't send the I-130 and the I-129f together, but I'm not sure what happens if you DO. Maybe you'll get lucky and they'll ignore your I-129f? Surely, you're not the first person to ever do it, so might be worth searching the forums. I'll help you look over my lunch hour. Try not to panic, even though I know you're panicking. Breathe...... we'll figure it out.

Don't beat yourself down over it. My thinking is, if it bothers me so much to not call, then I would call. If nothing else, do it to ease the stress of it all. Like I read through the titles of the forum, and someone asked as their title, should their SO bring their identification? My thought? Why not? if they need it, then you have it. If they don't need it, then it is ok too. No harm no foul. Then if they need it and you don't have it, then a mess

They won't pull the file unless, by some miracle, you get to talk to an officer, and not only a customer service rep. The reps just read off screen. While you are on the phone, you can also check to see if someone has been assigned to your case or not

I'm freaking out so much I want to vomit!

I know I'm not suppposed to send them together NOW but at the time I didn't really post on here yet!

Also, I totally DO NOT want to do k3

oh my goodness I'm so stressed, thanks gor helping... I've tried asking this question before but no one gets it, they all just say "you're not supposed to..,,blah blah" yeah I know!!!!!!

Right, and if all else fails, then just post a new topic, and someone is bound to answer.

I've posted topics about this in the past and no one gets it...

I know what I did wrong, but all I get is the response of you shouldn't have sent them together.

I shouldn't have sent it ever.

I should have just sent i130.

I'm usually so organized and now I feel hopeless I made this error.

My husband is back in the US now, I'm having a meltdown and I haven't slept a night since he's been gone.

I'm trying so hard to be positive but I just feel like **** (enter bad word here)

This is awful of me to rant as I know you're all going through the same thing and many have been waiting longer... I just don't know how strong I can be anymore...

I think I'm going to try and sleep, it's midnight here so I better go to bed.

Thanks for the advice all.

hi, Donna, I started a forum for you: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...=208706&hl=

This link is also a good one. You have already posted on here, and they seem to know what they are talking about:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=208696

Good luck, Donna, and please relax

hi Donna dont worry i asure they have not considered or accepted your 129F no noa means no application requested and i read about some ppl telling to cancel the inetrview etc u dont have to go that far to cancel 129f just dont reply the nvc when they send u noa2 of 129F if u dont pay the fee of aos how they can process your case to embasay and noramally now days 129 and 130 are approving at the same time. Good luck and i wish u happy journey

Thank you is beyond words guys, I felt so sick and horrible about this and if nothing else, you've made me realise i'm not alone here. I feel better today and all the links, threads and pms helped so much, K you're a gem...

Thanks to all who replied I really appreciate it

I called hubby last night too and he calmed me down a bit!

I'm so glad you're calmed down.

You should have seen me when I realized that our attorney filed directly to the VT Service Center instead of to the Chicago Lockbox!!!! I had just forked over $3500 to the guy and thought we were under way. I was inconsolable! I emailed him to ask why he had done it, when the instructions clearly say not to file to the service centers. As luck would have it, our NOA1 arrived the next day, and he simply responded with, "I received your NOA1 today." I still think he screwed up and avoided admitting it, which really worries me about future representation (we'll need a waiver). Maybe he'll be more careful now??? Still, I'd feel better if he had answered my question as to why he filed it at the service center, even if the answer is that he made a mistake. I could respect that....

Don't ask me how, but despite the fact that he filed directly at the VT Service Center, I got an NOA1 on time from the CA Service Center. Go figure...

Donna, i am glad to see you are better I got good news on my side today. The I-129F that I was so worried that they would re-affirm it, has now been officially expired. They said we are free to file again. Little do they know, they have an 11 pounder waiting for them on our I-130 But nonetheless, it made me so happy, that i burned extra calories at the gym

Yay!!!

wow Kaushalia u heard something from them u should share some sweet with us ,its horrible how they are working i mean csc no one the june filers have their Noa2 my noa1 was of 1st june when i got that i thought it will be ok but now i can feel the pain it will not be easy but we have to remain positive we dont any other choice they are not our uncles they will listen to us they will do whatever they want to do i wish i can meet any officer form the uscis and i ll present him a Lolly Pop bcoz how they work its seem like they are still wearing Diapers:)

Yeah, thanks guys! Now to get them working on our CR1s. I am still holding out for September. Some good news is bound to come to all of us

Good news K!!!

I'm hoping for November to be there but who knows huh??

I'm off to gym tonight to work off some anxiety too hehe

ohh good news, my passport with my married name was approved at it arrives next week!!! Yaay!

Didn't take long at all really....

Very cool