I am sure everyone had their times of doubt as they went through the VISA process, people have doubt for regular weddings in one country. Lately it seems all the stories I am seeing are bad ones about people asking divorce questions and others returning to home countries etc.

I want to hear happy endings, people that went through process and now 3 or 4 or 5 years later are still happy and think it was best decision of their lifes.

I am sure in my decision but positive stories would be nice to see, instead of all the negative ones popping up on board.

Most people that are happy usually don't need to post about it...

So I think that is why you see the "negative" posts... No need for help if it's happy, no?

Seems like there are alot of happy couples on this board, that match your criteria

I'm not happy..

im so sorry i been watching ur case for a long time they really are making ur life hard i hope that they end this soon and ur with ur s/o.

so so many prayers are with u
sara

thank you estadia haha, I guess it's just waiting for us.. even the lawyer doesn't want to take my money.. I went with a group (www.rreeves.com).. they are pretty good and have reversed some rules/laws before.. also, they are a team of about 14 so they wouldn't trick like an individual.. but the thing is they will be more expensive.. anyway, they told me to wait another 6 months from my interview (April 2009) before filing a lawsuit, otherwise the USCIS will dismiss it saying they didn't have enough time to approve it.. yeah right..

sorry for changing the topic on the thread..

join www.candleforlove.com. as for marriage, everyone's different even if from same country. good luck. Main thing is to pass the interview which is not easy for china!

It's true no one seems to post the good times, only the bad. Something you can see
quickly is many people not knowing all they should know about themselves, the man
or woman they find on the www. Sure the immagration process is hell but what one
didnt think about or in many cases just didnt even seem to care to know bites them
in the butt when it's paperwork time.

I'm sure many here will call me a not-knowing-what-am-saying-jerk. Either way it's
the truth. Thats where all the sad stories come from. All anyone has to do is take the
time to know her or him as well as yourself. Say what you will it is not hard to do.
You both just need to take the time to do so. If you don't then I guess might be problems.

My wife and I took the time to know each other in everyway as far as we could in emails
and messengers. Our story is nothing like most people. I meet her from a joke add I put
on matchdoctor, it was free then. Real bored one night so I made an add asking how to
cook a pot roast. Some chinese lady about two weeks later answered it. She said I can't
cook but I would like to be your guide in China if you wanted to come here. She didnt stop
writting even though I wouldnt reply. Maybe about two months later decided to give this
woman my email and yahoo messinger.

I still didnt even care to be honest. I made a mistake and gave her my phone number also.
Every night since that day she would sit on yahoo asking "little white guy" are you here?
Sweety were are you?? I call you but your son say you not home? Why you no talk me,
dont understand. Seven days a week at midnight here she would sit and wait trying to
talk to me and I would not. This woman would not give up. My son after many im's and
phone calls with him started to make me think I should talk with her. What got me was
this 17 year old boy saying "dad whats wrong with you". She is the one for you. I don't
know why but I know she loves you and I love her.

So many times I did all I could to push this woman away. Over a year I did my best
to do so. She would not give up. One day she told me after I gave in she was coming
to the US with her company and had already got her plane ticket to were I live. I still
dont know how a never married chinese woman in her 40's did it but she did. She
wouldnt say anything but what time to pick her up at RDU and "I want to be married
to you soon as I get there". Thats the day I found out maybe some things are meant
to be. Never belived in that until 10pm at rdu. My dad went with me to pick her up.
Truth is we both knew she wouldnt be there, but we went anyway. We sat there
looking at the stairs wondering how much longer we would wait when this chinese
lady walked down them. Dad looked up and said "look,look, thats her". I said no
its not it's about time to go home.

Guess what it was her. I have no way to put in words the emotions that came
over me or her. I have never felt this before, I could see she lost it, so did I.
You would think a first face to face would be strange. Kinda like a get to know
all over again. It was nothing like that. We knew all there was to know. She took
over our little family the next morning. It was like she has always been here.
She was at that moment my wife, my best friend, and the most important part
of our family. The next day we went to our local county courthouse with her
family and we were married.

I could write a book on our life since then, our family in china who took me
in only because I love their little girl and they ask for nothing more. Our family
here who look to her. It's been over four years since I meet her. We are still in
immagration hell but it don't matter. If there is a heaven I am living it. She has
always been my life. It just took a little while to find her. Even though I won't
looking. Long sure, not said right sure. Have no other way to say it.

Ok then, I'm happy... we're happy. September will be 3 years in the USA. We bought a house last month and lao po and daughter are in China now, hopefully getting mother's visa to come stay with us awhile. Life goes on...but it's a relationship and goes through stages. Be prepared for that... the one constant in the universe is Change.

this is a test of how strong you are in the marriage.. not talking about you, hehe.. but I'm saying if you aren't able to survive this, then don't get married.. we have been through a lot and we always support each other through this whole mess.. you can also tell a lot about the other person throughout the whole process.. how much they love you and support you and are willing to help..