QUOTE(michellek1976 @ Jun 29 2006, 10:27 PM)

Thanks Meauxna,
I guess we're kicking ourselves because we were in Sydney together in April. If only we'd known all this information then I could be on my way permanently and my daughter would be there to start the school year.
We just have a couple of concerns that are holding us back.
My fiance was over here for 2 weeks in April and his boss will not giving him anymore time off. So it would require resigning from his current job and we're worried it could impact on our Support documentation.
And my fiance has a blemish on his record which is affected by IMBRA. We're worried that quitting I-129F after receiving the RFE may look suspicious. I'm also worried that the Perth office may not be able to process the application because of this misdemeanor and will send it back to USCIS.
I do see that getting married and immediately having to apply for adjustment of status is going to be a rush and give me more stress.
We're so afraid of making the wrong decision! And we know, there are no guarantees.
michelle,
No use crying over spilt milk, as the saying goes, and regretting what could've been....
The information about work is a crucial piece--I'm old enough to be 'into' security, and employment isn't as easy to get as it used to be. You two will need to decide if staying in Australia a few more months is worth the security of keeping the job. I know you want to be reunited, but especially with a kidlet in tow, I tend to think about the whole delayed gratification thing. We're the grownups here, know what I mean?
As for your concern about his record, IMBRA and what the Consulate in Sydney will think about it, I'm with alli in the main--I think it's a non-issue. People cancel the I-129f all the time and do what you propose.
The reason I suggest you re- and re-review the DCF Guide is partly what you say here about Perth---they will adjudicate the I-130 and the I-130 only. It is to demonstrate two things: That he is a USC and that he has a qualifying relationship with you (marriage). Once that is established, Sydney deals with the visa application. In many Consulates, that process takes a matter of days, not weeks or months. You should really have a crystal clear picture of the process before you embark.
AOS in the States is what it is, or what you make of it. It does offer many opportunities for things out of your control to go badly. Which brings you back around to employment etc. I don't know what kind of work your fiance does, but it could be worth him strategizing an alternative with his employer---maybe there is a way he can take some unpaid time off and keep his job.
It stinks, but you two have to gather all this secondary info and just discuss the pros and cons. There is nothing wrong with waiting a bit and letting things run their course for a couple of weeks while you think about it. You might uncover that getting married in Australia is really important to you, or the US is more important. You can look up the AOS (I-485) timelines and experiences for your District Office in the US and see how that often goes (ie, Florida and NYC can be really long waits). Then in the mean time, you may learn more about what's happening with I-129fs and how the Consulates are handling the interviews---things for your post might not slow down significantly.
Just don't rush to any decision.