I have my AOS marriage interview coming up and I have some questions.

The marriage has not been good (we don't get along anymore) and I worry that I may be denied (not enough documentation, bad feeling, etc.).

If we go through with the interview and I am not approved, what happens next? Another interview? Denial? Fraud?

If they want another interview/more info and we don't show go through with it, what can happen? Denial? Fraud? Would I ever be able to reapply again whether it is with my current husband (if we work things out, etc.) or if I leave him and maybe one day marry another USC? Would I be banned/barred because I didn't go to the second interview?



Please any advice would help...it has been so hard for me lately,
Thank you very much

Do you think you should be continuing with the AOS process if your marriage is not good???? How can you show at interview that you are living as a real married couple if you are no longer getting along and there is bad feeling....

If you are not approved at interview you will have to return to your home country....

Kezzie

If your partner is willing to support your AOS still, then go to the interview, give them as much evidence as you have and keep quiet about the problems. You can then remove the conditions alone in 2 years and explain then the marriage ended, but you entered into it in good faith.

I am not here to judge you, what you do is up to you, but I wish you luck either way

Wow! I can't believe you actually had the guts to come here and support fraudulent marriages.

Way to go!

d, I don't mind your devil's advocacy, but a marriage breaking down is not the same as a fraudulent marriage.

Your point will be stronger if you stay on it.

It is a fraudualnt marrige if they go threw with the aos, period. They are going to lie about the marriage working. I dont wanna sound mean but this is why it's so hard for people like us with good intentions to be with our loved ones. There are other means to enter the US legally. Don't ruin it for the rest of us.

No one's really answered the OP's question here and I'm afraid I don't know the answer.

The marriage is on the rocks, but it is not over. Why would they NOT want to go through with AOS? If they don't go to the interview because their marriage is not stable at this moment, what happens down the road if the marriage improves and now they've missed their AOS interview?

This is difficult. My wife and stepson and I have constant fights but we do love each other. I attribute most of it to culture shock and expectations that were unfulfilled. I was very honest but the fact that I do not own my home makes her think I have absolutely nothing.

Many people live in apartments but to a foreign woman owning a house is a sign of success.

I see success as having my health, a decent job, a close knit family and good friends. Some immigrsnts are materialistic until they see the reality. I think it will take 2 or 3 years until they are fully comfortable here.

I agree with the above. Just because they are having a rocky marriage, why does that mean they shouldn't be going through with the AOS? Just because it's rocky doesn't mean it's ending. If they both entered it with the right intentions and good will, not as fraud, then well then lol .... i don't know. But amancd, if you believe that your marriage is rocky enough that it's not going to last then maybe you want to reconsider but if this is just a rough spot you've both hit, there is no need for you both not to finish and go through with your interview. I guess the decision is essentially up to the both of you but if your really that worried about it maybe you need to sit down with your husband and have an honest conversation about where you both sit with one another and the relationship. Best of luck to you.

I agree

Laaaawd Agreed....

OK, I'll play devil's advocate for a minute...

Marriages/relationships go in phases. Have you ever heard of reconcilliation? There was a breakup post on here not long ago that was resolved inside of two hours.
Marriages/relationships also come in lot of different flavors. Your idea of a 'real marriage' may be different from mine & both of them might be different than what the law defines as 'real'.

None of 'this' makes it harder for you or anyone else here, immigration-wise.


I don't see where this OP suggests anything fraudulent.

Oops: in my delay to post I see others said the same thing. Good to know I'm not crazy!

Ditto

I would say, just speak the truth and go to the interview, and see what they will conclude, that is your best option.

Agreed

From the many interviews described on VJ, I don't recall USCIS asking you -- is your marriage working? Is it falling apart? Adjudicators are not marriage consellors, they just need to establish the validity of the marriage (through supporting documents), not what you may do next. However, if the USC spouse does not cooperate at the interview, then it will be clear to the officer that there are problems. And what they may do, I don't know.

Amancd:
You do not have a fraudulent marriage no matter what someone on this forum may say. Here is the example of a fraudulent marriage - a Canadian friend of mine from work told me about how he got his green card - he asked a girl in his school to marry him and help him get the Green card for $500 (this was in the late 70's/early 80's.) She did and he got his green card.
You have a marriage that may be on shaky ground - you do not have a fraudulent marriage nor have you committed immigration fraud by any stretch of imagination. I would suggest you try to work it out and do your AOS and we hope and pray that everything works out for you. I mean everything not just the AOS but the marriage also.
Good Luck
By the way for those of you that are curious - those two liked each other enough to stay married even after 10 years (that's when I met them!) and I assume they are still married. They had fraudulent intent and they carried it out but their marriage worked in the end!

The whole point is to be with your husband or wife. The reason the process is so long is to avoid people faking marriages and yes if they think it's not gonna work then I say it's fake. IF it's culture shock or the marriage isnt working then this process is probly not for you. That's just my opnion. Marriage as of late is taken way too lightly.

I would like to hear from the OP. This is a very hot topic, but it's just a lot of opinions.

My opinion....
It has been 7 months since I have tied the knot with Anton, We have our ups and downs, I have wanted to leave him, but we have worked it out after a good night's sleep it looks better in the morning. There are things I don't agree with him on, but a marriage needs to be worked on and it isn't an easy thing. You never did say how long you have been married, what you basically think is wrong with the marriage.
Do you still love him? Does he love you? Do you visualize yourself growing old with this person or would you rather search the personals or internet for someone else.
If you can answer yes to the above questions continue with the interview. If you think this is not mister right, you do not feel committed to the relationship, you feel like you want to search elsewhere. Get out, go home , clear your mind and start over again.

Life is a rollercoaster its either going up waiting for the plunge or screaming and holding on for dear life.

moondancer

The regulations call for the intent upon entering a marriage to be bona fide and that the marriage is subsisting at the point of AOS. If there is no legal separation, if the couple is residing together, it doesn't matter if the marriage is on shaky ground, that is, as long as the petitioner is still willing to provide the I-864. Without it the regulations will not permit an approval. If you are denied adjustment on the basis of failure to demonstrate the bona fides of marriage, there is an option to appeal, so long as you did not enter the country on VWP (doing so you waive any right to an appeal). In the event that while you are in the appeal process your marriage terminates, and you lose the appeal, then if you came to the country on a K-1 you'd be required to find another means to adjust than through marriage. By the way, to the nay-sayers, a denial of AOS is not the same as a finding of fraud.

Amancd,
You mention is this and other post that you have not established and maintained much documentation substantiating your marriage. This may be a concern come interview time.

Here is more info. We will be married 2 years in July. I came on a tourist visa and was an overstay.

For those of you who already passed judgment on me...the marriage was entered in love, nothing fraudulent.

Thanks for the marriage advice but I would really appreciate it you guys can help me with some of my questions that I had in my original post (fraud, denial, removal, etc)

Thanks again for reading/helping.

The problem is that even though they haven't made it to the interview yet, nor divorced, she's already asking how things would look to the 'CIS if she remarries another USC and tries to adjust, this time through him.



And then, here she is, more worried about her immigration questions than the marriage advice some gave.

Seems kind of shady to me.

I have my AOS marriage interview coming up and I have some questions.

The marriage has not been good (we don't get along anymore) and I worry that I may be denied (not enough documentation, bad feeling, etc.).

If we go through with the interview and I am not approved, what happens next? Another interview? Denial? Fraud?

If they want another interview/more info and we don't show go through with it, what can happen? Denial? Fraud? Would I ever be able to reapply again whether it is with my current husband (if we work things out, etc.) or if I leave him and maybe one day marry another USC? Would I be banned/barred because I didn't go to the second interview?



Please any advice would help...it has been so hard for me lately,
Thank you very much

ALREADY ASKING ABOUT ANOTHER MARRIAGE? THAT IS LOVE!!!(SARCASM INCLUDED)

Let me give you an advice. Think about what you feel about this marriage. If you feel that you wouldn't last for 2 years anyway, don't go thru with it. This is not the old times anymore that once you get your green card, you are off the hook. It is only a conditional green card. Once the two years is up, you have to prove that you are still together and lived together during those times. If not, it will be revoked and you will go back to your country. I sure hope you are not using this situation only to get a green card because your posts are just focusing on that. And don't think of marrying another US citizen right away to save you from that. If this forum detected something fishy already about the situation, what more of the immigration. Just my opinion. Think about this.



question, if you are already married for two years, how come you are only applying for a change in status now? An also, you said in your original post that you don't have enough documents to support your application? How come? I have only been married for 8 mos and we already have all the documentations that they need. Were you not living together those two years?

dmartmar always has to put his stupid ideas over here. Damn I hate you!!
Anyways, she HAS problems with her marriage not a damn fraud like your wife did. I'm sorry if you were a "victim" of a marriage fraud and I'm sorry to inform you thta not everybody is like your ex wife my dear. Nobody cares about your problems. Go bring your problems somewhere else. This is a web site about IMMIGRATION not about your stupid marriage advice. People suffer and you always have to be here. Im wondering what the people in charge of this web site are waiting to kick u out of here. I am tired of you insulting ppl. Keep you damn mouth shut u damn bastard.

Now to the OP. Just go to the interview, dont u worry about. They can see the proof but they cant reda your mind remember that.
Good Luck all my best to you guys

Maria

Is the OP (amancd) and the poster Lorenzo (a bit further down in the thread) the couple in question here? Or am i just over-reading?




Tuneses, as you said, it's just your opinion. But in my opinion, culture shock IS an unfortunate part of this process and doesn't mean that the marriage isn't valid or that the love isn't there. I think you meant well though. It's just a difference of opinion.



dmartmar, I hope someday things get better for you. I really do. It's a shame that all we hear from you is negativity.



maria, you've got one hell of a temper and a mouth on you, girlie.

I pray everything works out ok for u

Your not getting Divorced right, you didnt mention it if you are!!
Fraud , no, you just said you married for LOVE!!
2 years its a shame to throw that away, any chance things can work out for you 2??
if it were me i would be more worried about the overstay!!


dmartmar...you are a very bitter man, I hope one day you will chill the heck out not everyone is like your wife

Again, had the OP not mentioned what would happen if she re-married and tried to adjust again through her second husband, I would've not said anything at all.

Thinking about a second marriage while still being married, would tell me there's no love involved.

And Jesus said: "if you get slapped in one cheek, turn the other."

Maria, I love you, even though I don't know you.

Dmartmar - to begin with I felt sympathy for you - I do not think anyone deserves to be taken advantage of just because of their citizenship and the country they live in. However, every single post I have ever read has one comment or another from you which is completely overstepping the mark. Have you considered councelling?! You obviously have a problem with your cynicism and the fact that you are always so eager to look for the negative in every single situation. I just can't imagine what it is like to live life in your shoes. You sound like a very unhappy and miserable person.

While your ex-wife may or may not have only been interested in a marriage with you for immigration reasons, there are other people out there with much more genuine reasons for wanting to be with someone. I just think its a total shame that with the attitude you so clearly display daily on these forums, it is unlikely you will ever allow yourself to get close enough to someone to realise this.

The irony for me is that after everything, after all the times you have said that you got the upper hand over your ex-wife by getting her deported, she HAS won in the end. She's now able to move on and build herself a new life in her original country. You, on the other hand, seem determined to live in bitterness and misery, constantly stuck in the past.

I have bitten my tongue for months over your attitude, but this time I've just had enough. I wish the best for you, I really do - but you're not helping anyone with your sceptical comments on this forum, least of all yourself.

Look I dont know what u r talking about....love me???? R u drunk or something?

U can shout it loud rebeccajo...I'm proud of my temper. There's nothing better. Plus most of the member seem to agree with me about the fact that dmartmar is a little bit too suspicious. Alot of ppl have problems with their marriage? And so?? What about that?? It doesn't mean its a fraud come on. Suppose it was a "normal" couple, and by normal I mean 2 american citizens. In that case nobody would think its a "fraud" but instead everybody would think "ah they are having problems. They should work on them and try to get better. lets help them if we can". But no...when its a foreign marriage, such as an american citizen and another non us citizen, then everybody goes crazy on them...ah that's a fraud that's a fraud. It almost seems like that American Citizens are so special that they cannot be touched. They are untouchable. Come on, take it easy. A marriage between an American Citizen and another Citizen is just like any other marriage. I'm tired of hearing that those kinds of marriages are "special". Just because the other one is a US Citizen. And just like every other marriage, its subject to problems. Open your mind. Pls!!!!! It seems that this web site is soooo worried about frauds. As soon as u say "we have problems" because u need someone to actually help u out and not go against u, u receive tons of PM from ppl trying to know if u r doing a fraud or not. Some ppl here just need help and I thought this web site was made just for this. Not to go against every person that talks. Lets try to hear before running our mouth on things we dont even know. Some ppl just need help and all they r doing here is searching for help. Lets try to listen to them.

Maria

The whole point of the long immigration process is to allow immigrant spouses to adjust to the society, the norms and to their citizen spouse. Maybe that is why it is called adjustment of status. If the marriage is having problems, then the simple answer is work things out. However if you just want to work things out to go to your AOS interview, that means the marriage is a not real. Even if you get past this, will you stay on for another 2 yrs to get your permanent green card ? Any marriage that is used to recieve immigration benefits only is a fraudulent according to the USCIS law. From the posts of the author, it seems as though the US citizen spouse basically wants to end the marriage. The author of the post appears only interested in maintaining her status in US. They is classified as fraud. I think the author should not go to the interview as she is committing fraud. A few bad apples spoil the whole pond.

A lot of times oversees spouses just marry US citizens to come to the US. Ofcourse because of what has happened in the past, foreign marriages cannot be seen with the same eye as the marriage between US citizens.

If you entered your marriage in good faith and you have not yet decided to divorce, then there's no problem with fraud. However, if in the interview they ask how your marriage is going, and they probably will ask this in some form, then you have a problem. Stating that things are good, I would think is unlawful. If somehow things improve before the interview, this could be your salvation.

Sorry, I have no idea about your other questions.

Well said Jen!!!

To the original poster, if your marriage was entered into in good faith, then I'm sorry that it isn't working out. The interviewer will likely be able to pick up on your relationship at the interview. Our Interviewer said we were a lovely couple and when Shannon relayed how he visited me in hospital on my death bed when we first met, she said it was obvious that we were very much in love.

Good luck to you

As for your satirical comment Dmartmar, you need to stop taking your bitterness out on other people or you may just find that a unanimous vote will be cast to throw you off these boards.

Kat

Well said Kat!!! If theres a vote, let me know. I'll be the first one casting a vote against him

Maria