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Leyla
So I told Tarik to book his ticket for August 7th (a Thursday) so that he could be here on Friday so we could get our marriage license and get married at the mosque. The hurry is mostly religious. All my Muslimas in the house know what I'm talking about.

Last night, on expedia.com I found a flight from Casablanca to Paris to Newark to Columbus. 16 hours all together and he would arrive here in Columbus at 6:30pm (PERFECT) plus a one way flight was only $1,328.90. I begged him to let us get that trip because there were no better deals online at all. He said he was going to go to the agency and book a cheaper and better ticket. Well he booked a ticket for Friday and it was closer to $2,000 sad.gif but ALHAMDULILLAH! Everything will be ok. I need to breathe. All of my frustrations in life are coming to a head right now with the excitement I feel for seeing Tarik again and it sucks that I am crying everyday because of other things and not jumping for joy because of Tarik.

GRRRR!!!!!! I wish I could be free to enjoy my happiness but people keep ruining it. Now I am at work and my face is splotchy and red because I've been crying. Now I need to find some makeup.

WOOOOSSSAAAHHHHHH
TYMOORE
Congratulations on his arrival! According to your timeline I see its been almost a year. The crying is normal. Probably just much anxiety and anticipation.. Just revel in the thought of soon being able to enjoy his presence.
AlHayatZween
Yaaaaaaayyy!
But he's coming! That's all that matters now!
And August 8th is just around the corner!
Congratulations on the visa and his upcoming arrival. kicking.gif kicking.gif
Inchallah, he'll be here in no time flat!
JeanneVictoria
Take a deep breath...hold it for 4 seconds....exhale deeply for 4 seconds....it's magic!!

Luv everything will be just fine!!! All that matters is he has his flight and will be coming...

Have a great Friday!!

Maggie724
Hope everything goes according to plan. I agree with the grr on the price. My husband was going to try and find his own ticket too, thinking the agency would be cheaper than online. It was almost double so I won kicking.gif . But like the others said, he'll be here in a week and you can be married and start your happily ever after. Hope the other things subside so you can enjoy your reunion and wedding.
Nawal
Congrats!! One step closer...ticket and now just waiting the week out! Yippee!!

kicking.gif kicking.gif Relax, breath and SMILE! Ignore other people and think about all the plans you will have once he arrives! Plus think about things to help him with his transition into life in the US...its truly the hardest part for them when they arrive. Good luck!!! kicking.gif kicking.gif

rclouse
QUOTE(babyeshell @ Aug 1 2008, 09:28 AM) *
Last night, on expedia.com I found a flight from Casablanca to Paris to Newark to Columbus. 16 hours all together and he would arrive here in Columbus at 6:30pm (PERFECT) plus a one way flight was only $1,328.90.


Yeesh! I hope that's mainly due to it being summer and last minute rather than fuel costs.
browneyez40
QUOTE(babyeshell @ Aug 1 2008, 10:28 AM) *
So I told Tarik to book his ticket for August 7th (a Thursday) so that he could be here on Friday so we could get our marriage license and get married at the mosque. The hurry is mostly religious. All my Muslimas in the house know what I'm talking about.

Last night, on expedia.com I found a flight from Casablanca to Paris to Newark to Columbus. 16 hours all together and he would arrive here in Columbus at 6:30pm (PERFECT) plus a one way flight was only $1,328.90. I begged him to let us get that trip because there were no better deals online at all. He said he was going to go to the agency and book a cheaper and better ticket. Well he booked a ticket for Friday and it was closer to $2,000 sad.gif but ALHAMDULILLAH! Everything will be ok. I need to breathe. All of my frustrations in life are coming to a head right now with the excitement I feel for seeing Tarik again and it sucks that I am crying everyday because of other things and not jumping for joy because of Tarik.

GRRRR!!!!!! I wish I could be free to enjoy my happiness but people keep ruining it. Now I am at work and my face is splotchy and red because I've been crying. Now I need to find some makeup.

WOOOOSSSAAAHHHHHH


Not Muslims - just curious, why is there a hurry?

And congrats on your husband coming here! smile.gif
Jomo's girl
QUOTE(babyeshell @ Aug 1 2008, 09:28 AM) *
So I told Tarik to book his ticket for August 7th (a Thursday) so that he could be here on Friday so we could get our marriage license and get married at the mosque. The hurry is mostly religious. All my Muslimas in the house know what I'm talking about.

Last night, on expedia.com I found a flight from Casablanca to Paris to Newark to Columbus. 16 hours all together and he would arrive here in Columbus at 6:30pm (PERFECT) plus a one way flight was only $1,328.90. I begged him to let us get that trip because there were no better deals online at all. He said he was going to go to the agency and book a cheaper and better ticket. Well he booked a ticket for Friday and it was closer to $2,000 sad.gif but ALHAMDULILLAH! Everything will be ok. I need to breathe. All of my frustrations in life are coming to a head right now with the excitement I feel for seeing Tarik again and it sucks that I am crying everyday because of other things and not jumping for joy because of Tarik.

GRRRR!!!!!! I wish I could be free to enjoy my happiness but people keep ruining it. Now I am at work and my face is splotchy and red because I've been crying. Now I need to find some makeup.

WOOOOSSSAAAHHHHHH



Someone always thinks they know better then you do. Sorry it was a costly lesson this time.

It's just all the time waiting, the paperwork, the fears.......coming out. Ignore any fools who try and bring you down. Hang in there.

Congrats.
zawjatsaid
Congrats on him comming, Said and I are planning him comming the 28th, and he went to the travel agent in El Jadida and said it was too expensive, so hes going to send me the money so I can get the ticket from here, the problem is that i dont know how long its going to take or how much hes going to be able to get from his dad and I found a ticket for 1,098.20 but they wont last long. Im going crazy waiting to be able to buy the ticket.
Turia
Congrats on him coming home finally!!!! You have to remember its high season there now and even coming here ticket prices are going to be very expensive. Be happy he is coming and plan for your special day!!! The day he gets here and wedding day!!!! Take a deep breath and all will be fine.
just_Jackie
Most mosques will NOT marry you in America until you are already married legally. We ran into this in both Florida and Illinois. Check ahead with your mosque and ask their requirements.

jJ
Rajaa_Reda
QUOTE(just_Jackie @ Aug 1 2008, 06:31 PM) *
Most mosques will NOT marry you in America until you are already married legally. We ran into this in both Florida and Illinois. Check ahead with your mosque and ask their requirements.

jJ

It's true... but good luck.. you can do it good.gif
Leyla
QUOTE(browneyez40 @ Aug 1 2008, 12:38 PM) *
QUOTE(babyeshell @ Aug 1 2008, 10:28 AM) *
So I told Tarik to book his ticket for August 7th (a Thursday) so that he could be here on Friday so we could get our marriage license and get married at the mosque. The hurry is mostly religious. All my Muslimas in the house know what I'm talking about.

Last night, on expedia.com I found a flight from Casablanca to Paris to Newark to Columbus. 16 hours all together and he would arrive here in Columbus at 6:30pm (PERFECT) plus a one way flight was only $1,328.90. I begged him to let us get that trip because there were no better deals online at all. He said he was going to go to the agency and book a cheaper and better ticket. Well he booked a ticket for Friday and it was closer to $2,000 sad.gif but ALHAMDULILLAH! Everything will be ok. I need to breathe. All of my frustrations in life are coming to a head right now with the excitement I feel for seeing Tarik again and it sucks that I am crying everyday because of other things and not jumping for joy because of Tarik.

GRRRR!!!!!! I wish I could be free to enjoy my happiness but people keep ruining it. Now I am at work and my face is splotchy and red because I've been crying. Now I need to find some makeup.

WOOOOSSSAAAHHHHHH


Not Muslims - just curious, why is there a hurry?

And congrats on your husband coming here! smile.gif




The hurry is that living together while unmarried is Haram (a sin). So basically he'll be here, but I can't really ................ enjoy him wink.gif until we get married. SO, since the courthouse is closed on the weekends, I have to wait until monday to obtain the license from the court and then go to the mosque to get married. Make sense?
Staashi
QUOTE(babyeshell @ Aug 1 2008, 10:06 PM) *
QUOTE(browneyez40 @ Aug 1 2008, 12:38 PM) *
QUOTE(babyeshell @ Aug 1 2008, 10:28 AM) *
So I told Tarik to book his ticket for August 7th (a Thursday) so that he could be here on Friday so we could get our marriage license and get married at the mosque. The hurry is mostly religious. All my Muslimas in the house know what I'm talking about.

Last night, on expedia.com I found a flight from Casablanca to Paris to Newark to Columbus. 16 hours all together and he would arrive here in Columbus at 6:30pm (PERFECT) plus a one way flight was only $1,328.90. I begged him to let us get that trip because there were no better deals online at all. He said he was going to go to the agency and book a cheaper and better ticket. Well he booked a ticket for Friday and it was closer to $2,000 sad.gif but ALHAMDULILLAH! Everything will be ok. I need to breathe. All of my frustrations in life are coming to a head right now with the excitement I feel for seeing Tarik again and it sucks that I am crying everyday because of other things and not jumping for joy because of Tarik.

GRRRR!!!!!! I wish I could be free to enjoy my happiness but people keep ruining it. Now I am at work and my face is splotchy and red because I've been crying. Now I need to find some makeup.

WOOOOSSSAAAHHHHHH


Not Muslims - just curious, why is there a hurry?

And congrats on your husband coming here! smile.gif




The hurry is that living together while unmarried is Haram (a sin). So basically he'll be here, but I can't really ................ enjoy him wink.gif until we get married. SO, since the courthouse is closed on the weekends, I have to wait until monday to obtain the license from the court and then go to the mosque to get married. Make sense?


Won't God forgive you for a few days? I think he will. innocent.gif good.gif
morocco4ever
I have to admit I laughed when I read that he was going to get a better price at an agency. All I can say is get used to saying "I told you so" because for some odd reason they don't think we know anything. lol....and the funny thing is that it will go on for a long time to come.
Leyla
QUOTE(Staashi @ Aug 1 2008, 10:21 PM) *
QUOTE(babyeshell @ Aug 1 2008, 10:06 PM) *
QUOTE(browneyez40 @ Aug 1 2008, 12:38 PM) *
QUOTE(babyeshell @ Aug 1 2008, 10:28 AM) *
So I told Tarik to book his ticket for August 7th (a Thursday) so that he could be here on Friday so we could get our marriage license and get married at the mosque. The hurry is mostly religious. All my Muslimas in the house know what I'm talking about.

Last night, on expedia.com I found a flight from Casablanca to Paris to Newark to Columbus. 16 hours all together and he would arrive here in Columbus at 6:30pm (PERFECT) plus a one way flight was only $1,328.90. I begged him to let us get that trip because there were no better deals online at all. He said he was going to go to the agency and book a cheaper and better ticket. Well he booked a ticket for Friday and it was closer to $2,000 sad.gif but ALHAMDULILLAH! Everything will be ok. I need to breathe. All of my frustrations in life are coming to a head right now with the excitement I feel for seeing Tarik again and it sucks that I am crying everyday because of other things and not jumping for joy because of Tarik.

GRRRR!!!!!! I wish I could be free to enjoy my happiness but people keep ruining it. Now I am at work and my face is splotchy and red because I've been crying. Now I need to find some makeup.

WOOOOSSSAAAHHHHHH


Not Muslims - just curious, why is there a hurry?

And congrats on your husband coming here! smile.gif




The hurry is that living together while unmarried is Haram (a sin). So basically he'll be here, but I can't really ................ enjoy him wink.gif until we get married. SO, since the courthouse is closed on the weekends, I have to wait until monday to obtain the license from the court and then go to the mosque to get married. Make sense?


Won't God forgive you for a few days? I think he will. innocent.gif good.gif


God will (hopefully) but the community around here will be less forgiving. Also, since I work at a mosque, a bad reputation is the last thing I need right now. so... yeah.
polarbear
QUOTE(babyeshell @ Aug 2 2008, 07:03 AM) *
QUOTE(Staashi @ Aug 1 2008, 10:21 PM) *
QUOTE(babyeshell @ Aug 1 2008, 10:06 PM) *
QUOTE(browneyez40 @ Aug 1 2008, 12:38 PM) *
QUOTE(babyeshell @ Aug 1 2008, 10:28 AM) *
So I told Tarik to book his ticket for August 7th (a Thursday) so that he could be here on Friday so we could get our marriage license and get married at the mosque. The hurry is mostly religious. All my Muslimas in the house know what I'm talking about.

Last night, on expedia.com I found a flight from Casablanca to Paris to Newark to Columbus. 16 hours all together and he would arrive here in Columbus at 6:30pm (PERFECT) plus a one way flight was only $1,328.90. I begged him to let us get that trip because there were no better deals online at all. He said he was going to go to the agency and book a cheaper and better ticket. Well he booked a ticket for Friday and it was closer to $2,000 sad.gif but ALHAMDULILLAH! Everything will be ok. I need to breathe. All of my frustrations in life are coming to a head right now with the excitement I feel for seeing Tarik again and it sucks that I am crying everyday because of other things and not jumping for joy because of Tarik.

GRRRR!!!!!! I wish I could be free to enjoy my happiness but people keep ruining it. Now I am at work and my face is splotchy and red because I've been crying. Now I need to find some makeup.

WOOOOSSSAAAHHHHHH


Not Muslims - just curious, why is there a hurry?

And congrats on your husband coming here! smile.gif




The hurry is that living together while unmarried is Haram (a sin). So basically he'll be here, but I can't really ................ enjoy him wink.gif until we get married. SO, since the courthouse is closed on the weekends, I have to wait until monday to obtain the license from the court and then go to the mosque to get married. Make sense?


Won't God forgive you for a few days? I think he will. innocent.gif good.gif


God will (hopefully) but the community around here will be less forgiving. Also, since I work at a mosque, a bad reputation is the last thing I need right now. so... yeah.


They should marry you with the certificate, even if there is a waiting period.

I remember I made sure we went and got the certificate but bc of the waiting period we got that waived at the courthouse and married there. Then they didn't want to marry us at the mosque until that night when there was a dinner and lots of people I know. I was like, well... we are legally married, but not islamically married yet - so can I be alone with him until tonight or do I still need to be careful? laughing.gif It was friday and we were at Juma prayer, so one of my friends asked the Imam - he figured it was okay since we had let our intention be known at Juma and we were legally married which shows good faith intentions towards marriage (or something like that tongue.gif ) We ended up going out to eat with friends anyway, but I thought it was funny that it was the big topic of discussion after prayer that day wether or not we should be left alone together until our religious wedding that night laughing.gif
Rajaa_Reda
awwww mashallah I am sorry to say but this is such a beautiful thing we are discussing..... I remember how that felt lol...
Staashi
QUOTE(Rajaa_Reda @ Aug 2 2008, 12:59 PM) *
awwww mashallah I am sorry to say but this is such a beautiful thing we are discussing..... I remember how that felt lol...


It really is so sweet. My husband and I lived in sin for 13 days until we could get married in the courthouse - which only my family and his family knew about. whistling.gif We then had a 7 week wait until our Catholic ceremony. At first I was nervous and embarrassed, but then I got over it. Nobody else had to go through our whole K1 ordeal, so I figured I could live with the shame for 2 months. I will say that no one thought twice about it.

I pray that however it works out for you guys that it is wonderful to be reunited - you two will work it out on Allah's terms and on no one elses. good.gif

May you be blessed abundantly! kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif
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