A discussion in another thread prompted my curiousity.... seems like many of us found the loves of our lives when we were not looking...

Jen

Still in another relationship, and not looking.

You always find true love when you're least trying to look for it

That's the way it would seem based on what I've witnessed so far on VJ, so I thought I'd ask the question and see whether the stats support it!

Ours was sheer chance... So I owe it to destiny and the fact that I believe that we were born to be with each other!

...waiting for my prince charming- found him....

I had been alone for 10 years... made a request on an internet radio show and ended up married to the DJ....

Kezzie

single and not looking...pure change on a poetry site. M.

not looking..just writing and exploring other cultures...thought kazakhstan sounded i nteresting..met via pen pal site

Wasn't looking either but I guess love just tap you on your shoulder the moment you least expect it.

I was on again/off again with a guy for 5 1/2 years when I met Daniel. So I was definately not looking but glad I opened my eyes when he came around. We met at work (I work in a machine shop....traditionally mostly men) and even though I was covered in dust, dirt, grease and grime, he still thought I was attractive...just goes to show you...true love can be blind

I had broken off my last relationship about 4 months previous. I had my daughter living with me so I was just killing time chatting on yahoo. I ended up in a Canadian sight (not even sure how LOL) but she messaged me. And the rest is HISTORY.

He wasn't looking and I wasn't looking. I was on yahoo and was visiting a friend in a chat room when he msged me. Became chat friends and got to know each other and the rest is history! Glad he messaged me though

I had been trying online dating off and on for almost 2 years, and had just gone on a really nice trip with a grilfriend during which I had decided I enjoyed being on my own surrounded by good friends and didn't want to date. I decided to pull my ad. Lo and behold, when I got home and went to pull it, there was this email from someone who seemed interesting....

was actually seeing 2 guys and was about to choose one of them for a long termer....met sofyan, kicked both guys to the curb 2 days later...they both couldnt figure out what was goin on in my head...lol

OT: I love your Monster's Inc icon...did you make that yourself?

I was in a relationship I kind of wanted out of cause my ex was a heavy binge drinker and he was on the bottle , then he didn't want to get married either after 7 years of dating, so when I met Anton it was a quick escape and no looking back..

Moondancer

When I met Andreas I was seeing someone in New York. Was not looking. He found me and made me look at him. DESTINY brought us together!

I was a single working mom of three, 42 years old at the time and had been on my own with my kids for about 7 1/2 years. I had never dated during that time and even at 42 was still trying to figure what I wanted to do with the rest of my life....lol.

When I met my now-husband I was engaged to someone else.

Single and not looking... we were friends for 2 years then tho...and we kinda liked each other secretly

I was single and not looking

Both of us were in 15+ year relationships, unhappy but not looking. We provided for one another what no marriage counselor in the world could have, the rest is history.

I was definitely not looking. To say he took me by suprise would be putting it mildly, but what a suprise!

hah! sooooooooooo wasn't looking!

I was single for 2 months before thna i met him...
I didn t thought that i will meet someone and I wasn t looking at all....

WOW could have been me. lol..

also was 42 at the time.. been a single momma since my daughter was born.. divorced even before she was born.. kicked him to the curb then found out i was pregnant... so it was 11 years that i was alone...
Definaetly not looking...
I had just a year earlier graduated Med School.. started my practice.. got my oldest daughter graduated from College as well... and focus was now for the remaining daughter.. definaetly not a man..
Was off talking to some friends at the ICQ 40's + site.. Janak sent me a little HI and ASL request..
the rest was history... almost 3 years ... whooooooo wow... hard to believe.. .. and .. it still amazes me ..
Never ever thought I would ever wait this long for any MAN.... FOR HIM I KNOW I WILL WAIT A LIFETIME...

When I met Sujeet I definitely was ready to start a long term relationship that would head towards marriage, and was wondering when that person would come into my life. But even when I first met Sujeet on aol, I had no clue at all that he'd be the one. I wasn't expecting it to be someone I met online. Before that, I wasn't in a relationship except for a 3 months gf/bf thing 3 years earlier, that didn't mean much. We were just basically 2 friends who had a crush on eachother(didn't even kiss the guy! saved it for Sujeet, yep!!). I never dated anyone else.

both of us single, not looking and just bumped into each other in a music chatroom.

I thought I was destined to grow old, the lady with the cats.... now I'm the lady with the cats AND the hubster!

I had all four lines in the water and trauling!!!

Caught me a good one though!!!

I was definately Not Looking. I'd been single for a year after finishing a 4 year relationship, finished my degree and training to be a teacher. I was busy with work and night classes and certainly wasnt expecting or really wanting to be with someone right then. But, it happened and now the rest is history

I was looking - I'm interested in Korea so I was on Korean dating website - looked around there for several years but never got beyond correspondence/phone calls with anyone.... he went on there at the suggestion of a friend .. I think he was not really expecting to meet anyone, and certainly not an American. Just happened that way.

I wasn't looking. We met a year before we started ''online dating'', we were both out of a relationship when we started being together and we were friends and we were talking and then we found out we had a lot in common and here we are

I was totally looking! Previous relationship had ended four years earlier and it had taken three years to dust myself off and get on my dating feet again. I had decided that 2004 was going to be the year I met someone and ... lo and behold, I met my soulmate. He on the other hand wanted a relationship and was on match.com but had decided to let the right person come to him. He wasn't really expecting to be contacted by someone in the UK...

hurt and not looking

post boosting

He was a friar and I was a volunteer waiting to become a sister - can't get much more "single and not looking" than that!

Freshly out of the relationship and not looking. We met just an hour after i broke up with my ex!

When I met my love, I was.... totally not 'into' going out that night and meeting some stranger

Just out of a relationship with my high school sweetheart and wasn't looking and wasn't even interested in my husband when we first talked. It took two months (when we met in person) for me to even give him a chance.

... was about to give up internet dating. Went on the site to get my profile removed. Then I met a guy who kept me at my computer for 8 hours straight. We didn't even agree on meeting next time and there he was again at the same time next night. I was supposed to 'let him go' as I did to others who were younger then me after 20 minutes of chatting. But he was something else.... He still is!

Pretty much identical story here. Was in the ending stages of a 2 year relationship with my high school sweetheart, met my now future husband and wasn't interested until we actually talked about him flying here for his summer vacation, even then I thought it was going to be a just-friends thing at that time. Things started to change and changed for the best when we actually met.

I had just broken up with my then boyfriend. I thought I'd contact people around the world just to keep my mind busy. After a few weeks, he was the only one who kept e-mailing. From there to daily chats, daily e-mails, and we finally realized there was something else to it than just friendship. And then he came visit me...

I was just out of a crappy relationship, he was single and we'd been online friends for 5 years. I said I needed a break, he said come here, I said OK and voila!

I had actually been friends with Harry for a few years. During a down-time (ie. I was dumped) in my other relationship, I had considered saying something to him, but at the time he was 17 and thus not legal in this country for the naughty bits of relationships. Anyways... my ex was still living with me but we hadn't been together as a couple in over a year. I was just helpnig him get on his feet. I had no interest in relationships when Harry came back from being absent on the game we played for a long time. And... well we just sort of fell together all over again.

I was going through a divorce and just wasting time one night on Yahoo chat.

I was seriously looking. It was 2 years after my previous girlfriend died.

fresh off a string of dysfunctional relationships and was definitely not looking for anyone.
fortunately i was done with all the frogs and finally found my prince.

When I met my love, I was... petrified.

Kept thinking I could never live without you by my side.

I was in the process of getting a divoce... and was dating casually. I wasn't looking for a relationship at all and neither was he. When I met Marky playing a game online we became friends quickly. I used to tell him about my dates in graphic detail. Our friendship grew and our feelings for each other deepened.... then we met in person and confirmed that the feelings are real. You can guess the rest.