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ceresa
Ok I know theres a million and one messages like this on VJ... but....

I miss home !!!!!!!! sad.gif

I love America, I like the people, love the weather, love our soon-to-be-house, BUT i miss my mom and dad, my brothers and nieces and nephews, I miss being able to take 5 weeks vacation and go on several holidays a year. I dont like driving here....I miss being able to go out for a drink and using public transport so we BOTH can have a drink instead of a designated driver.. miss the pubs... miss being able to walk around... miss decent bread (that only has 4-5 ingredients instead of 25!)

But most of all... its just my family, it sounds bad but I resent seeing my in-laws alllll the time when I never get to see my own family, Doesnt that sound bad? And Im not evil i promise star_smile.gif

Ok ... I let it all out. Just my whine for today.
MaryandMian
Sorry to hear your having a downer day. I know it is a big adjustment when one leaves thier country to come and be with their love. All I can say is can you have the family mail you a goodie box with some of your favorites? And how about cam chats with the family overseas? Know I am not much help but I am sending you a hug.

Mary
Carola
I hear you sad.gif
ladybutterfly
I totally hear you and everything you have just said I have also thought aswell. Looking at your timeline you moved to the US a week before me so I totally know where you are coming from! I have also been getting depressed about it all as I last saw my mum in November last year for our wedding and she told me over the weekend she cant afford to come visit me until the flights get cheaper in November this year! Thats a whole year of not seeing my mum. I have just started a job here in the US two months ago and dont get any vacation for the first year, even after a year I only get ten measly days! Ten days, how is that long enough to go visit home?
And dont worry, you are not evil for despising seeing the in laws all the time! I feel that way too. I love my in laws, they are the sweetest people who have been so welcoming to me, but I cant help but feel its not fair when my husband sees his family and friends all the time and I dont. This last Sunday, mothers day was tough for me. Even though its a different day in the UK, just knowing that it was mothers day and I wont see my mum for a year really upset me!
Your post has made me cry! I am sooooo with you!
raymaga
Yep, add me to the "club"!!!

I only live 3 hours from my family and friends, but I still get homesick a lot.... and I've been here almost 2 years!!!!!

My daughter has now come to the U.S. to live, but my two grown sons are up in Canada and I don't get to see them for pot roast dinners on Sunday anymore!!!!! sad.gif

I think it's normal and we may never get over our homesickness no matter how long we've lived here. I just try to make the best of it and try to appreciate the fact that I'm with a wonderful man!!!!

Best wishes to all!!!!



Oly
I want to be added to the Club too. I got here more less 2 months ago, i know what you are feeling. I miss my family a lot too. Its weird what im going to say but i miss one of my sisters more than my mom, I lived with her and she was like my mom, my friend, everything to me and her daugthers too. We used to go everywhere together and have a lot of fun and now Im here missing everything. I love my husband a lot and he does his best to make me feel better with a lot of love and affection but i miss them a lot anyway. I cant wait to visit them next year. My in laws are really sweet to me too, but i would love to have my family here like my husband. I try to talk to my family everyday but its not the same, i would love to touch and hold them sad.gif
I think thats normal and time will help a lot.

OLY rose.gif
hockeygal
I'm not even there yet and I am already worrying about the lack of public transport and the measly vacation days.

Sorry you are all missing your families. My parents and my sisters and I have all lived in different countries/cities for a very long time already, so I have already had to adjust to that. The technological world has made it easier to stay conneted, but I know it isn't the same thing. sad.gif
rejane



I know the feeling.... It s not so easy to be far from family...
I do not know when it s next times that I will see my family and friends...
I got to see so much my in laws that i got really tired of it...
It s nearly every weekend that i see them ... I t s getting a little to much.
It s also harder to meet people...
I m with you on this one....
Indo_mommy
Awww Ceresa...
I think it is normal to feel that way. We lived far from my in laws so I didn't get jealous of the fact that they could meet us more than I could meet my parents.
I also found that yahoo messenger with cam or skype helps a lot coz I got to talk to my parents and brothers online.
Hope you'd feel better. rose.gif
ChasUK
Save a place for me in this here thread. I'm not in that boat yet but no doubt I will be.

In my daily life as a cabby, the conversation regularly goes over to the fact that I will be emigrating. Most people apply the logic that covers themselves and they, more often than not, tell me that I will miss England. Every time I correct them. I will not miss England, not at all, BUT, I will miss some elements and things. I'm anticipating missing those things now and I deal with it in preparartion by looking at the big picture. Sure, I won't be able to walk to the corner shop or pub. I can make my own bread and I can change my shopping and drinking habits. I will be closer to the love of my life and enjoying a better quality of life in general. So, that's how I deal with the butterflies of anticipation of missing some elements of UK life. Make the most out of the new elements that are presented to me with US life and consciously think about them.

Bottom line, the grass is always greener, etc, it's just a case of being satisfied with my grass the way it is, or rather, will be. None the less, I am aware that I am going to have to deal with it. I'm just preparing myself mentally, now.
Jaylen Brit
Top post there Chas smile.gif
I too will miss THINGS about my country - but having travelled extensively I can tell you that once you leave one tends to only remember the 'good things' you left - not the cr@ppy stuff that made you, and everyone else you know, moan about your own country. Its like you suddenly grow a pair of rose-tinted spectacles and they get super-glued to your eyes.
I won't miss the weather here - and having all 4 seasons in one week..when its SPOSED to be summer.
I won't miss the crowded roads, the cold seas or the price of fags laughing.gif
I WILL miss some people, the tv shows and the sense of humor and some of the foods that I wont' be able to get in the US.
I'll miss being familiar with things and KNOWING how banks and big institutions etc work. I'll miss my perfect credit score biggrin.gif
I'll miss being able to go out when I want to the shops - cos I can WALK there - I won't miss the prices that I discovered when I GOT the stores tho wink.gif
I won't miss my honey cos he'll be right there all the time.
I won't miss feeling lonely at night.
I will miss the green - there's nothing in the world that looks like 'English green' of the countryside - and tho NC is INCREDIBLY green its not quite the same.
I won't miss the overabundance of cities in a small area - I love the fact the US is SO BIG! So MANY things to see.. I've seen a lot of the US but there is still so MUCH to see and do.
If you are feeling homesick, try and remember the things you DON'T actually miss..it helps get some perspective, and its what I plan to do if it gets really bad.
rebeccajo
Chas, that sounds so the way my Wes has always put it.

I wonder if it's different for the men? And I wonder if age has anything to do with it?
Anyta Holland
So understand were you are coming from... But I have to agree with Chas... Being in the UK has always been difficult, and I have just learnt how to deal with it... But there are elements missing in my life, I don't miss the country as such, I miss my family and friends, the food and I reckon that is probably about it.... I would love to go back, as many times as I could to visit, but I would not go back and live there, because it will not offer a "stable" life for the family that I have already started.

I wish in so many ways that I could be there for this or that.... But webcams, voice conferencing and laptops have made my life easier....

Look at the nice things you have now, and think that you would probably not have them, if you were at home... Is sad, but unfortunately we can't have the best of both worlds! Literally...
Vi Mazzella
I'm a member of your club, I arrived here last year and I still homesick, I miss my family, my friends, the food, my job, everything. My husband is a wonderful man and I love him more than anyhting, he' s my love and my best friend but there are some things that I can't talk to him, I miss my friends some much...... .
I'm latina and love to make friends to dance, to go for some drinks but I find people here so unfriendly and cold. My husband is 6 years older than me (not a big difference), I'm only 24 and he doesn't want to go out,he prefers to rent a movie and stay at home, so boring.. mad.gif .
I remember when I live in Lima, I just called my friends and they came to my house inmediately or when we went out for some drinks, everything is cheaper there and there are taxis everywhere, here if you don't have the car you are death ( I don't live in Manhattan). We own one but I don't drive
I'm already counting the days to visit the for Christmas, I know that the tickets are very expensive (1300) but to be honest I don't care I just want to see them again, I'm dreaming about the day when I see them at the airport waiting for me kicking.gif . My mom is planing a big party 'cause that's my father's birthday!!!!.
My hubby is a bit afraid 'cause he thinks that I won't want to come back to the States jajajajajaj wink.gif .

OLY: Como estas??? yo tambien soy peruana, si gustas aqui te paso mi mail para poder comunicarnos, se como te sientes, los primeros meses son los peores.... vi_mazzella@hotmail.com, XOXOXOX

Gotta Go....
Vi
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munchkins
Am entirely in agreement with both Chas and Jaylen on this, and I am also speaking from experience having spent many years away from the UK and also the fact that my daughter has been in the states now for nearly 20 years and in that time has only been back to the Uk -once. Mind you we have been to the states many times and like both Chas and Jaylen, when we move over we know there are going to be many things in the UK that we will miss

You do not live in a country for 60 years and think you are not going to miss things , wink.gif but there are also many things that I will definitely not miss and that is what I will keep in my mind good.gif

Sykpe is fantastic and with a webcam (use them both now) I keep an eye on my youngest grandson who I will be leaving but I will still be able to watch him grow through those two things and talk forever 'cause it is free good.gif

It is hard but you have to stay positive and try not to reminisce about what you are missing but what the future will hold for you

Goodluck to all

Donal78
I can also recommend www.vopistunt.com. It is an apllication like skype but uses VOIP technology. Calls to landlines anywhere in the world are free, well to all the major countries in the world.

I can relate to the user, i have only been here over 2 months now and still adjusting. I think once i have a job i will be fine.

QUOTE(munchkins @ May 17 2006, 10:28 AM) *

Am entirely in agreement with both Chas and Jaylen on this, and I am also speaking from experience having spent many years away from the UK and also the fact that my daughter has been in the states now for nearly 20 years and in that time has only been back to the Uk -once. Mind you we have been to the states many times and like both Chas and Jaylen, when we move over we know there are going to be many things in the UK that we will miss

You do not live in a country for 60 years and think you are not going to miss things , wink.gif but there are also many things that I will definitely not miss and that is what I will keep in my mind good.gif

Sykpe is fantastic and with a webcam (use them both now) I keep an eye on my youngest grandson who I will be leaving but I will still be able to watch him grow through those two things and talk forever 'cause it is free good.gif

It is hard but you have to stay positive and try not to reminisce about what you are missing but what the future will hold for you

Goodluck to all

Welshcookie
I know I will miss my family like crazy, just thinking about that now makes me well up esp as I know my folks are getting on now....I worry bout that alot, but Chris has promised we will have an emergency fund always at hand for any unexpected trips I may have to take.

I am sure I will miss pretty much the same as everyone else. I am still excited to be going and I don't leave until 2008 laughing.gif

I hope you feel better about everything soon ceresa rose.gif
Euro
I felt the same way for the past 4 months, then i got to go "HOME" to England, guess what...............I missed Michigan!!......................but i do realy miss all the people i left behind in England, and they all have an open invite good.gif , infact i have 3 visitors arriving on the 26th YAY!!!
Satisfaction
Tell me about it!!! I have been the US for 10 years but I still feel like a foreigner! I only came back the day before yesterday from home where I was on vacation for a month, and I feel very depressed...... Each time it takes me some time to adjust again. I don't know why.
timelena
From time to time I also think that it's not fair that my husband has all his family here and I have noone but him. Today is one of these days crying.gif
I try to persuade him come to live to Russia, but he doesn't seem to like this idea sad.gif

What I find the worst here is lack of public transportation. I finally got the driving license, but I am still afraid to drive. I expect it will take me YEARS to learn drive on freeways!!!

Sorry, guys, but I am currently sitting here at the computer and cannot even go anywhere... May I cry here for a while? rose.gif
Collie
I think its natural for everyone to miss their family and friends. I know i do. I have a very close relationship with my brilliant parents and sisters and as soon as I get this GC through (paws crossed), I plan to go back to N.Ireland to see them before I get a job here.

To help me settle here though, before I came over I committed to knowing that I would be living in America and that it would only make it worse if i moped about missing home. I have started volunteering at the local animal shelter and have made great friends through there as well as being in my element and having fun. i highly recommend anyone who wants to pass time to volunteer for a charity or an organisation. biggrin.gif

Attitude is everything good.gif

Kat luv.gif
patricks
My wife brought numerous personal CDs from her home country to help cure her home sickness.
rob&ana
QUOTE(Collie @ May 20 2006, 10:21 PM) *


Attitude is everything good.gif

Kat luv.gif



I think this sums it all. As everyone I miss home, and I think I have started to miss it even more now that I am working and getting adjusted to everything. And like Ana said before, even though I dont miss like anyone in specific, I miss being there for certain occassions (birthdays for example, since my family is big on b'days). I also miss knowing my way around things, I hate feeling insecure about doing something because I may mess something up. I miss not knowing where everything is. I hate not knowing the name of all the vegetable or meat cuts in the supermarket. I hate the fact that is almost june, and I still have not felt any warm weather.

But when I feel all down and crushed, my husband does something that reminds me why I left my country, and I think I made the right choice. And when we are getting things for our new home, I feel I made the rigth thing.

Its kinda of a yo-yo thing, some days Im good, some others not so good. But overall, I know I am with the right man, so that makes it better. I am also looking forward to going back, and seeing everyone, and I might get to the point where I'll miss Pitts... and the shitty weather... smile.gif
javaman
hola VI
estoy aburrida aqui en KY , mi marido no quiere salir conmigo a bailar o hacer amigos para salir...te entiendo perfectamente..a mi me gusta la gente latina porque tengo un hijo de padre latino..me gusta charlar en espanol

besos y abrazos a todos,
Alma
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