Hello peeps !!

My story is really sad: My wife and I got married in March, we both are student. She is 6 month pregnant also. Since we do not make good money being students, we tried our best to ask her family for the Afidative of Support i864. Her Aunty asked me to fly to her place, I paid 800 $ in flight tickets in May. Since then she giving all sort of stories, I have an f1 visa, and I can not leave the country, I love my wife but I can't hurt myself being blocked in here, not being able to go back home whenever something bad happens. After 4 months, she just siad that she didn't do her taxes this year... I don't know what to do anymore.

Her aunty really hurt me, I paid 800 for the flight ticket, paid almost 400 for medicals, 4 months of anxiety. I'm confused, I just wanna give on everything.

The 2 solutions I have is:

Either do a divorce: don't get me wrong, I love my wifey but I would like to be able to go home and be free again. By doing a divorce I will be able to go home and renew my Student Visa and come back.

Either Asking her mom for the Affidative of Support: She only made 19000 $ last year because she was disabled.

Please let me know what do you think please. Thank you

Is there a friend you can ask or someone that's close to you? It doesn't have to be a family member. I think the divorce idea isn't a good option. It showed that at some point you had immigrant intent on your F1, they might not renew it.

Remember, even if your student visa expires you're still in valid/legal F1 status with an I-20 and as long as you take a full time course load.

What good would it do to return home to renew your student visa? Do you intend to be a student all your life?

At some point, if you wish to live in the US, you will have to adjust your status. This includes sponsorship by someone with the means to do so.

If you want to be 'free again' maybe you shouldn't have married at all.

I know the divorce is not good, we didn't know that I had to change my status to Green card. I do not have any immigration intent because I'm on status, and I'm taking full time course load every semester even during summer. Therefore I'm legal in the US til 2011 but I can not leave the country anytime, but I need to visit my family and I have the right to do so. I don't even know why I go myself into this, American women really fool people.
I could stay in the here and not doing any AOS and be fine til 2011 but no one know what can be happen back home, and being the first son, I will need to go...

We are 21 and we don't know anybody that makes money because all of our friend are college student like us, the only person that can do it now is her mother but like I said she made only 19000 $ and we don't think that she can do it.

Hey rebeccajo don't sit over there and judge me.How can you say that if wanted to be free that maybe I shouldn't get married at all. Like I said we got married cuz we love and we are having a boy in September.

If I go home, right now and try to renew my student visa, I would not get it at all, but if we do a divorce or an annulment I can go home renew my visa whenever I want and be fine.

No I will not be a student for all my life, I'm a junior right now. But why are you asking this question??

I'm asking because as I said, if you wish to live in the US, at some point you will have to adjust your status and this includes sponsorship. I don't see how going home divorced, refiling for a student visa, and returning to the US changes your situation at all. It only delays your predicament.

You are the one who said you wanted to be free. I only made my comments based upon your statement. Perhaps there is some miscommunication here due to your level of english skills. At any rate, I fail to see how divorcing changes your situation.

PS - I'm an American woman you can't fool.

Whatever ! you are an AMerican woman I can't fool?? My ### ! and sayign that my level of English is not good, I'm proud of that cuz I speak more language and you do, so chill out, and please don't respond to my thread cuz you don't know $hit.

Whatever !

If the mom made 19,000 for the year that's enough for you. (2 people) Your wife is a US Citizen so she doesn't have to be a dependent for the mom. Have the mom fill out the form for you.

Thank you, that's what I need not people judging me. Thanks again

Your welcome. Some people on this sight have no sensitivity.

Please show some respect and stop the personal attacks otherwise this thread will be locked.

I'm not disrespecting anybody, but I don't want anybody to judge me or whatever negative to me.

Thank you

Actually, Rebecca Jo is right on and most certainly knows what she is talking about.

Going home and divorcing and coming back on a student visa is not the answer here, it's just delaying the inevitable.

Bottom line: If you want to stay in the U.S. you will have to adjust status and to do so, you will need someone to sponsor you, either your wife, her mother or someone else.

She must be making 125% over the poverty guidelines. Click here for the Guidelines of what needs to be made per year based on the number of people she will be supporting.

Best of luck to you.

I don't understand why he can't travel if he's legal with a studant visa.

Divorce? If you really love her, don't do this. As said already it will just make things worse.

And... being upset with a bad situation is quite normal but saying something like "all American women fool people" is including your wife who you should LOVE. And more, by saying this it won't help at all.

Because when he re-enters the next time he knows he will likely be turned around if they question him about US family ties.

I don't know many CBP officers who, when interviewed for their position, were asked about their 'sensitivity' skills.

Blowing smoke up the OP's butt isn't sensitivity. It's irresponsible.

Thanks everybody for the answers and understanding where im coming from.

Ok, so yall are suggesting that I should stay in the US and find someone to sponsor us. She tried all her best, she called her mom, auties, uncles, cousins, .... even her adviser because she feels like me marrying her messed up my life.

We both 21 and not really mature thats why we are flipping up.

I cannot travel with my student visa because it is expired, where I'm from, students just get 3 months of student Visa, after the 3 months you visa expires but you are legal to stay in the US until you I20 expires and I should be taking a minimum of 12 credits. that's why I cannot go home

Thanks again

Right, as the husband of a USC, he's a foreigner with immigrant intent, student visa or not. Even if he's not turned around at the border, his passport will show he entered the USA after the marriage date on the marriage certificate he submits with his AOS application. As such the visa fraud would be exposed and consequences paid.

It's pretty easy to conclude that a sentence that includes "divorce" and "I can be free" indicates a lack of commitment to the spouse. At this point, I take it the "freedom" sought is the freedom to travel in case of an emergency.

I think the wise course is to risk that during the time from now until status is adjusted or at least advance parole is granted, the loss of travel without consequence. In hindsight, these issues are best thought through before decisions are made and actions taken with regard to marriage.

Really, some people can just be really nasty for no reason.

You have a wife, a baby on the way, and your main concern is going home & being "free"? I think you should have thought about that some 6 months ago.

Don't understand why you are attacking people here that are stating the obvious, divorcing is not solving any of your problems. Seems your main concern is a status in the country, not your wife or the baby on the way. Boy do you have some growing up to do... stuff college can't teach you.

Why you call American women fools is beyond me... didn't you marry one?

That says it all.

I hope that your wife gets her degree.

Again, I do not need you lecture ! mind your own business if you just want to lecture me and judge me. I do not need your advice at all cuz you don't know where what im saying. so chill out. Yes I wanna be free, and you do not know what Free means ! cuz let's say you go to Iraq, and not having any of your family around you, no friend... and that they say that you are stuck in there that you will not be able to comeback in the USA, what would you feel??? do you wanna be in a prison??

Who are you to tell me that I don't care about my wife and my future baby?? if I didn't mind I wouldn't try to find a solution. but again I love my wifey but I'm not ready to be locked in a country without any possibilities to visit my FAMILY whevever something happens or whenever I want! I'

thanks again

With all due respect.... chill, man.

People here are trying to give you advice that will help you. Even if someone's words are a bit more harsh than they could be, they still have good intentions and want to show you your ideas are wrong.

You live in a country you compared to a prison, you chose to come here, you married a citizen of that country and your son will also be a citizen of that "prison". The way it seems now, you'll probably spend your life here, or one significant part of it anyway. You're saying American women "fool people", you're saying you want to divorce your wife and be free.. Yeah, you didn't explain how exactly you meant it, but if someone concludes what they did, can you really blame them? Don't be rude and say "you don't need advice at all" because that's simply a lie. You're here because you need advice. You have no idea what to do now and how complicated it is to marry a foreigner.. and you need all advice you can get.

Luckily, you came to the right place. This forum is full of people who have learned a lot about how USCIS works and listening to them and following the guides you can save a lot of time, money and effort.


The way I see it, you should be totally ok. You married a US citizen and you have the right to adjust your status from an alien into a legal resident. What you have to do is prove that the last time you entered USA on a non-immigrant visa (like your student visa) you didn't intend to become an immigrant. With your wifes pregnancy you can prove easily you were... well... caught by surprise with the pregnancy (my guess anyway) and you got married because of her pregnancy (pregnancy not being the only reason obviously but let's just say it sped up things).

The best to start is reading reading the FAQ's and Guides. You need to adjust your status and ask for a Green Card. Before you get a Green Card, you can't travel in and out of country freely unless you have AP (Advanced Parole).



Whatever you do, good luck to you. And congratulations on the wedding and the pregnancy.

You'll need to decide whether living in the USA with your wife and child is of more or less importance than a few months of inability to travel internationally. The best time to make this decision was more than six months ago.

If you leave the USA, you should expect a long drawn out process to return, if ever. A divorce will not change the difficulties you would face.

If you're man enough to say you don't need lectures from people trying to help you then you're man enough to make your decision and live with the result.

Sad Sad... i think that says it all........sorry, but when u have a child it's not all about your wants and needs anymore. talk about jail!! the baby is the one without any choices. you need to change your thinking pattern and start thinking about whats best for your family... slow down, take a deep breath and choose your move's wisely

Perhaps you two should think seriously about adoption for this child. If you are not ready for a commitment, and your wife is not in a financial situation to support a child by herself, there are many people out there that can give the baby a really good life until you and your wife can achieve maturity and settle your immigration situation.

If his visa expires in 2011, that is 3 years. Many things can change in 3 years, the wife could have a job by then, and be able to do the affidavit herself. Can't they wait a few years until their economic situation is better and then adjust? they have until the expiration of his visa to do so, right?
(I'm thinking out loud, corrections/ additional advice appreciated)

OP, I understand that it's really tough for you to be away from home for years, but I think if you wait it out and do things right, it will be worth it in the end. What if you are unable to renew your visa, and get caught in an inmigration tangle? you could be separated from your wife and son for years too.

Saludos,
Caro

I'm no expert (far from it) but from what I understand he could do that if he stays in the US. If he leaves and wants to come back on a student visa, he'll have problems.

That is correct because unless any future US entry will be with intent to immigrate. Your freedom to enter and re-enter goes away once you marry a US Citizen. You are then deemed to have immigrant intent (because you do) and that's not allowed when entering with a student visa.

The OP already understands that. It's why he started the thread and feels like he's being jailed inside the borders of the US until he completes AOS and has a green card.

Like I said ! don't lecture me, and stop BS me !!! cuz I can't sit here and listen to people that do not have nothing to do except bashing people.

pushbrk Yes I'm man enough to not want to be lectured and judged, and if you don't like that close the window or do not click on my thread ! it's too simple !

FOr real ! hahahhaha yall need to get a life !!!! LMAO , cuz you don't understand at all ! Yes I chose to come here...... but that's not the problem ! the problem comes from being stuck in the US and not being able to go back home or travel internationally with my family like we used to. hahhaha I don't have time reading self centered people anymore cuz yall make me gag.

Again if you have a solution or suggestion or something to say DO NOT JUDGE OR TRY TO BE A SMART A$$.

Thanks again ! Gros Bisous a vous tous !! Mwaaaaahhhhhhhhhh

I don't think anyone is attacking or lecturing you, babushka. People are trying to give you information based on what you have said, and based on experience and age. You have stated that you and your wife aren't very "mature" and you are actually asking for advice. If you can't take the reality that is presented to you, then you should not ask for advice.

Also, you are now married with a child on the way. They are your FAMILY now. They should come first.



No one is bashing you. People are asking you to look at the situation in the way you've presented it. Of course it's difficult to not see your family for long periods of time, but how on earth will divorcing your wife be a better situation?

Really? I mean...really? Seriously? People are giving you advice and offering a point of view, but you don't want to hear it because it's not what you like? There are solutions, suggestions, and opinions in this thread. Unfortunately you don't like any of them.

You say people here are self centered? You've attacked a poster who is offering advice and suggestions, and made a ridiculous comment about "I speak more languages than you" and then you say you want to be "free" and "see your family" when your wife and unborn child are here. You call us selfish?


Wow.

Just. Wow.

Pushbrk, I think you hit the nail right on the head. Anyway though.....

I don't really have any input for you other than good luck with the child on the way and I do hope (for the sake of the kid) that everything works out okay in the end.

hahaha, mais les gens n'ont rien a faire dans ce pays la ! pff anyways again, do not judge, but Thanks for the advice !!

Bisous

I'm not going to even bother.

hahhaha, you just bothered yourself honey ! LMFAO

Cassie

Honey?

Why did you want to come here to go to school if you have such disdain for this country? Wouldn't it be easier to return to your own country with your wife and child, finish school in freedom in your country, and thus have all that you want?

I ain't your "honey" -- only one person gets away with that.

And my sympathy for your situation is quickly waning.

A wise man takes advantage of the resources at his disposal rather than denigrates and wastes them. Since you are obviously not interested in hearing any information that differs from what you want to hear as you consistently reject it (an observation, not a judgment) there really isn't anyone on this forum who is able to help you. You have already been given the answer to your question. I am sorry you didn't like it.

Good luck to you and your family. It looks like you are experiencing one of life's more useful lessons: that choices have consequences, and even though we don't like the consequences of our choices, eventually we have to deal with them.

tu etes comme un enfant...ne pas demander le conseil. personne ne peuvent tu aider parce que tu etes ignorant. tu ne lisez pas ce que tu voulez lire. peut etre tu devriez demander a tus amis qui parlent francais. tu le comprendrez mieux.
no one is judging, they are attempting to help you out... doofe kuh.

How 'bout them Dodgers?

hahah, parles bien Francais !! pfff if can't speak French, shush then ! hhahahaha yall make me gag ! j'ai pas le temps pour ecouter des conneries, hehe je vous emmerde !!

I will not say Honey anymore, now it's BooBoo Cassie

You right ! I will go back to France ASAP booboo !!! it's not I do not like the USA but I want my right !! hehe get a life and don't be hatin

mwahhhhh

I have nothing against French people, mister. Be careful with your words. I said you would possibly understand what people are saying if you read it in French seeing as though you think people are attacking you and we [Americans] "have nothing better to do" After all, I could bash your English, but that wouldn't be nice considering as you are making an attempt to communicate with us. Anyway, if you don't like what you're reading, perhaps you should seek advice from somewhere else?


Arschloch.

hahah, you see the red X in right top corner??? just click there, lol and leave me alone! get a life

hehe

haha okay. hehe. i will. haha. hehe.

in any case, i hope everything works out well for your baby on the way.

thank you but we don't need your wishes anyways

Go PRZY...this thread is hilarious.

Now..wait...who's WE??? I thought this was about YOU???

Wait...was that...THREE LANGUAGES?!?!?



*pssst* Guess what? Neither immigration, nor student visas to this country are a RIGHT of yours. You may most certainly leave the country, you just might not be allowed back in. And that, my friend, is the right of the US Government.



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